Dont want to go to USA

[Cocojumbo 0]

This would be strange: i was married to a man living in USA two years ago. Arranged family marriage couldnt workout well. I dont want to live with him, at the same time i cant divorce him due to FAMILY CONSTRAINTS. Cant even let it known that i dont want to live with him. Can anyone suggest me how to get a visa denied in interview without having a blame on me that i did it purposefully? Your help would be an act of charity please.

[mrsartis 10]

This would be strange: i was married to a man living in USA two years ago. Arranged family marriage couldnt workout well. I dont want to live with him, at the same time i cant divorce him due to FAMILY CONSTRAINTS. Cant even let it known that i dont want to live with him. Can anyone suggest me how to get a visa denied in interview without having a blame on me that i did it purposefully? Your help would be an act of charity please.

ohh my.. this is new.. i would just be honest with the consul..then tell your husband about it.. come clean,.. good luck!

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Im so sorry that you are in this situation. Be honest at the interview, that should get the result you want

Good Luck

I just wanted to add... will your family persue another avenue if it is denied? Will they fight a denial or request for further proof ect or just say..oh well, it didnt work?

Edited January 16, 2009 by Y_habibitk

[Habibi 0]

Just be honest at the interview, tell them that you don't want to live with him anymore. He will will never know why they denied you. I am sure you can make up something for your fiance.

[Nagishkaw 510]

This would be strange: i was married to a man living in USA two years ago. Arranged family marriage couldnt workout well. I dont want to live with him, at the same time i cant divorce him due to FAMILY CONSTRAINTS. Cant even let it known that i dont want to live with him. Can anyone suggest me how to get a visa denied in interview without having a blame on me that i did it purposefully? Your help would be an act of charity please.

[jhcruz18 3]

Be honest. I will pray for you.

[misr 0]

I am very sorry to hear this. Don't run around the bushes as you might find yourself in deeper problems. If your marriage with this person has not deepen further; then makes sense to convince your family members for a better alternative.

I am sure they dont want to spend too much money into getting you in USA and then suffer the consequences of a bad marriage which might land up worse. At the same time, initiate the talk with your spouse and get it out on the table.

In terms of advise; I agree with others. Just inform the interviewer. However he might have to file for cancellation and definitely get the (divorce - null marriage) papers to keep everything clean. You dont want to loose your next chance if any with any US citizen.

Best of luck.

[payxibka 10,047]

will your family persue another avenue if it is denied? Will they fight a denial or request for further proof ect or just say..oh well, it didnt work?

A fight or protest of denial to the consulate is not possible... they cannot force someone to accept a visa, all the OP needs do is go to the interview and tell the CO, "I don't want it. "

Local family ramifications need be considered

[bhajishah 4]

This is always a hard one. Best thing would be go to him, beg him to let you go back to your family, or you both be miserable in foreign land alone together. Or come here and seek total reedom and choice. this means sticking int out awhile. and learning to suffice on your own. Staying there make alot of anger between families there. Did your family deny you the Islamic right to refuse the other families marriage offer.??? You also can still do your duty , forget the boyfriend that you think you love and go on with your adult life. All marriage ends in duty and commitment. wether love marriage or arrange marriage. ALL SHOULD BE YOUR CHOICE THOUGH!!

[bhajishah 4]

Your interview is held with americans at our consulate in Pakistan. Talk to the american male, i forget his name tellhim about your dilemma @ interview.YOu plan a some sort of seperation and fearful to be in america with lie in husbands hand. k

[Popcorn Henry 0]

Your interview is held with americans at our consulate in Pakistan. Talk to the american male, i forget his name tellhim about your dilemma @ interview.YOu plan a some sort of seperation and fearful to be in america with lie in husbands hand. k

To the original poster:

Sorry to hear this! In your case maybe you'll get lucky and if you tell the truth they will just cancel the process for you. It is ashame you can't work it out with your spouse. If I were you I would just be honest because from my experience dealing with families and arranged marriages-things can get pretty sticky if you do not come clean. For instance the spouse may try to come live over there with you. Did you ever think of that? Also, processing visas is costly why put anyone through the financial stress for nothing!?!? Good luck and you'll be in my prayers!

Mahitab

[Y's_habibitk 2]

will your family persue another avenue if it is denied? Will they fight a denial or request for further proof ect or just say..oh well, it didnt work?

A fight or protest of denial to the consulate is not possible... they cannot force someone to accept a visa, all the OP needs do is go to the interview and tell the CO, "I don't want it. "

Local family ramifications need be considered

I hope you know that i dont mean "fight" the consulate.

The family ramifications are what i was thinking of. Ie-if they persue it, they will find out she said in the interview "i dont want this"

This is definately a delicate situation.

[ybutt20 0]

Well its strange, very strange atleast for me, cocojumbo i saw your profile and tried to find out if you had ever posted in any thread just to know some kinda background of your situation,i just found what you posted at the top, that is strange. btu whatever try to let us know something about your yourself and your husband, why you think its not working/workout b/w you too ( if you don't mind ) ...you know things like that

and the best solutions are already posted above. talk it out with your husband i hope he will understand that, that will make things easy for you.

May God Help you makin your dicision, and i hope you won't regert it later and Think positive about this whole thing.

[rajemr2119 0]

This would be strange: i was married to a man living in USA two years ago. Arranged family marriage couldnt workout well. I dont want to live with him, at the same time i cant divorce him due to FAMILY CONSTRAINTS. Cant even let it known that i dont want to live with him. Can anyone suggest me how to get a visa denied in interview without having a blame on me that i did it purposefully? Your help would be an act of charity please.

well, am sorry to hear your situation! well yeah, i will agree to all the comment replies earlier talk it out with you husband or just be honest with the consulate and then you will see what awaits you?

I regret that I go here and live my husband!!

[Cocojumbo 0]

I have gone through all the posts and am virtually confused. confused about the solution not my husband as i would try to put what a man he is in few words and i guess that would suffice. He is a man who can say any time and about anything that he has said a 100 times : i never said this, i never did this or i dont even know what you are talking about. Now u can immagine the cunnigness i guess. The problem is that he is bent upon getting me to US. His idea of revenge for knowing his personality may be dangerous for me because his father has been beating his mother brutally. I desperately want to get out of it without being blamed for anything. Families and talking wont change him as far his personality is concerned, not that i havent tried. The only way for me to remain safe is that i stay in Pakistan and live my life without getting into the riddles of divorce. Please suggest me any concrete solution. its an SOS please.