45 and been divorced 3 times already....could this be a problem filing a 1-129F for my Fiance?

[Girona40 0]

'eclowjpd' post

And you will probably be denied the visa. You are so off the point of the fellow original question.

I have no idea what thread you are reading, but the OP asked:-

"do u think this might have a negative impact on filing the 1-129f for my fiance"

The answer to that is "No" - it should have no negative impact at all, so long as you have the divorce decrees and haven't made a habit of filing I-129F's for a variety of fiance's".

I was married three times before I married my husband and have NEVER been asked anything as to the reasons why. It is not any Immigration Officer's business and you are not bound to answer such a question. He only needs to know that the divorces were legal.

I was granted my visa, my AOS and my naturalisation - not being asked once about my three divorces.

So my advice to the OP is not to worry about being divorced more than once - you will be fine.

Rebecca, we may have to agree to disagree on this one.

This is my opinion of what the bottom line is here....

The man with the gold makes the rules.

The Federal Government makes the rules.

It doesn't matter if you feel outraged, humiliated, embarrassed or whatever. The CO is the one asking the questions and making the decision.

The CO can make his decision and it can be referred to his supervisor or appealed if you feel it was not based on material fact, but rather his personal opinion.

Their job description doesn't contain do's and don'ts for polite societal niceties and boundaries about the propriety of questions.

Yes it does. They are required to be courteous and have due regard for the rights of the person being interviewed. They are not to cause duress to an interviewee.

I'm sure some are more tactful than others. Some probably have better ways of getting the information they are seeking rather than ask a flat-out rude question.

If an interviewer asked a "flat-out" rude question - you would be quite within your rights to ask them to re-phrase that question.

But....they aren't paid to be nice. They're paid to be thorough. And that's the bottom-line cold hard fact.

They are required to be courteous, polite and it is not their job to determine the "viability" of any marriage only the validity.

Take a look at The Adjudicator's Field Manual on correct and acceptable interviewing procedures. http://www.uscis.gov/lpbin/lpext.dll/inser...pter-32-21-46-3

Finally!!!!!!!!! someone gets it! We are all humans here and should be treated with respect and not like a criminal. Really, my fiance was made to feel so low, so much so that he wasnt even able to talk about some of the things that were said to him. All because im older than he is, and divorced, and thats just not the "norm " in India. It had nothing to do with the "rules" but what this evil female interviewer thought about our relationship!

Good job!

vicki/bala

Edited June 11, 2006 by Girona40

[eclowjpd 0]

I said the same thing to the original poster. I was previously married and explained that my petition was approved, however I added that the consulate asked questions about the previous marriages. and suggested that he be prepared for this possiblity. This is when other posters got away from his concerns and started talking about what CO should and should not ask. These posts don't help the original poster.

I think by now that the fellow is aware, that this could come up during his interview and he and his fiance should be prepared to answer these questions. Rather than expecting a warm and fuzzy CO, it's best to be prepared and get your visa.

'eclowjpd' post

And you will probably be denied the visa. You are so off the point of the fellow original question.

I have no idea what thread you are reading, but the OP asked:-

"do u think this might have a negative impact on filing the 1-129f for my fiance"

The answer to that is "No" - it should have no negative impact at all, so long as you have the divorce decrees and haven't made a habit of filing I-129F's for a variety of fiance's".

I was married three times before I married my husband and have NEVER been asked anything as to the reasons why. It is not any Immigration Officer's business and you are not bound to answer such a question. He only needs to know that the divorces were legal.

I was granted my visa, my AOS and my naturalisation - not being asked once about my three divorces.

So my advice to the OP is not to worry about being divorced more than once - you will be fine.

Rebecca, we may have to agree to disagree on this one.

This is my opinion of what the bottom line is here....

The man with the gold makes the rules.

The Federal Government makes the rules.

It doesn't matter if you feel outraged, humiliated, embarrassed or whatever. The CO is the one asking the questions and making the decision.

The CO can make his decision and it can be referred to his supervisor or appealed if you feel it was not based on material fact, but rather his personal opinion.

Their job description doesn't contain do's and don'ts for polite societal niceties and boundaries about the propriety of questions.

Yes it does. They are required to be courteous and have due regard for the rights of the person being interviewed. They are not to cause duress to an interviewee.

I'm sure some are more tactful than others. Some probably have better ways of getting the information they are seeking rather than ask a flat-out rude question.

If an interviewer asked a "flat-out" rude question - you would be quite within your rights to ask them to re-phrase that question.

But....they aren't paid to be nice. They're paid to be thorough. And that's the bottom-line cold hard fact.

They are required to be courteous, polite and it is not their job to determine the "viability" of any marriage only the validity.

Take a look at The Adjudicator's Field Manual on correct and acceptable interviewing procedures. http://www.uscis.gov/lpbin/lpext.dll/inser...pter-32-21-46-3

Finally!!!!!!!!! someone gets it! We are all humans here and should be treated with respect and not like a criminal. Really, my fiance was made to feel so low, so much so that he wasnt even able to talk about some of the things that were said to him. All because im older than he is, and divorced, and thats just not the "norm " in India. It had nothing to do with the "rules" but what this evil female interviewer thought about our relationship!

Good job!

vicki/bala

[perfect 39]

Shouldn't as long as you can satisfactorily prove the relationship is genuine - same rules as for everyone else who applies. My husband had been married twice before and was 45 when we sent in our I-129F and we were approved with no difficulties.

[Jaci 0]

just a little note to those who are considering filing or recently filed...

If you don't know you ought to that all embassies are a little different and some are much more strict about financial requirements or proof of relationship requirements. It's your job to make it easy for the Consular Officer conducting the interview to approve you. In some places (especially visa waiver countries) this is not a big deal at all, but in others (especially former communist countries) applicants are scrutinized quite thoroughly.

In some embassies it might be best to prepare for a bit of light interrogation, especially if you have circumstances in your particular case that might be considered "red flags" in your embassy.

Be sure you do a little research on your fiance(e)/spouses embassy where they will interview and be well prepared.

This headache was brought to you by unscrupulous applicants.

Good Luck Everyone!

Jaci

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[Princess_Damnit 0]

Maybe you should just get dog and quit while you can.