I married the wrong sister

[Chica Yeyé 41]

omg get real you dont know-- how would you feel if people started trashing your relationships you dont know shznit about the real deal so dont make assumptions just give advice in the nicest way possible no need for all this bs - we dont know her true intentions and if he is willing to find that out then let him.. its his own probs RIGHT?

Exactly, well said.

[katiemanny 64]

FOOL ME ONCE, SHAME ON YOU. FOOL ME TWICE, SHAME ON ME.

[Zayd 0]

Her statement was unconditional and general. Whether she intended it or not, she insulted all women who fall into this category. It is incumbent for the Muslim to defend all other Muslims who are slandered, so what about the daughters of our beloved Messenger?

Congratulations, Zayd. I've been trying to tell people how wildly unreasonable some Muslims are, but you've done a much better job than I ever could!

Now

This is such a bigotted comment that you would single out Muslims like that. Someone could just as easily say how wildly unreasonable Christians are and point to ####### Cheney and George Bush or how wildly unreasonable Jews are and point to Ariel Sharon and Benjamin Netyanahu. Thanks for exposing your true prejudices. If someone had defend Jesus the way I defended the family of Prophet Muhammad, you would have been silent. But you clearly wanted to read into it what you did.

[John&Juvy 36]

Agree. Better be careful at this time and good luck !

[Niel&Femi 0]

I don't know how many people have run into this situation before but here it goes anyway. So a couple of years ago I got married to this girl from the Philippines. I thought we were in love but found out that she was just really good at manipulating people. Eventually I was able to file a K1, get her to the US, marry her then find out she had someone back home. I had that marriage annulled for marriage fraud. So I go about my business dating other girls. But now, I end up with her sister. Eventually I do want to bring her over. My question is will their relationship be a burden to my petition? Also, will I have to send a copy of my annulment papers with the K1 petition? Has anyone run into this before?

My thoughts on this are that any girl who is willing to get with her sister's ex-husband has questionable morals, no matter how "in love" she may seem with you. This kind of relationship is asking for trouble, and is bound to create even more family drama--resentment, jealousy, fights. I personally wouldn't want to get myself involved in a mess like that or be a catalyst for the break-up of family relationships. It's just not worth it. No matter how hard it may seem, end the relationship and move on to find someone else that isn't willing to risk destroying her relationship with family. Family, after all, is first and foremost. Another way to look at it is, would you marry a girl that your own brother or sister had been in a relationship with, whether married or boyfriend/girlfriend? Would you be willing to ruin your relationship with him/her for a so-called love with their ex? Or on the other side, how would you feel if your own brother/sister told you they were going to marry your own ex?

Hello man, i really agree with you friend, my question to this poster is that, dont you think those sister are taking you a ride to USA, please open your eyes and thinking with you heart not with your head...

[chavelle 6]

Her statement was unconditional and general. Whether she intended it or not, she insulted all women who fall into this category. It is incumbent for the Muslim to defend all other Muslims who are slandered, so what about the daughters of our beloved Messenger?

Congratulations, Zayd. I've been trying to tell people how wildly unreasonable some Muslims are, but you've done a much better job than I ever could!

Now

This is such a bigotted comment that you would single out Muslims like that. Someone could just as easily say how wildly unreasonable Christians are and point to ####### Cheney and George Bush or how wildly unreasonable Jews are and point to Ariel Sharon and Benjamin Netyanahu. Thanks for exposing your true prejudices. If someone had defend Jesus the way I defended the family of Prophet Muhammad, you would have been silent. But you clearly wanted to read into it what you did.

you are threading on serious grounds here!! No one has singled out muslims! As aforementioned;get over yourself.This isn't about religion so I am very confused as to why "Jesus, George Bush,####### Cheney and Ariel Sharon" got into this conversation.If you wanna debate about religion why don't you go by the sidewalks and shout it out to those who are interested? You are so quick to cause chaos and confusion in a forum of mixed religion.You need to seriously stop this because you are just showing up yourself,on the other hand,you need to remember that you are on the INTERNET!!!

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Her statement was unconditional and general. Whether she intended it or not, she insulted all women who fall into this category. It is incumbent for the Muslim to defend all other Muslims who are slandered, so what about the daughters of our beloved Messenger?

Congratulations, Zayd. I've been trying to tell people how wildly unreasonable some Muslims are, but you've done a much better job than I ever could!

Now

This is such a bigotted comment that you would single out Muslims like that. Someone could just as easily say how wildly unreasonable Christians are and point to ####### Cheney and George Bush or how wildly unreasonable Jews are and point to Ariel Sharon and Benjamin Netyanahu. Thanks for exposing your true prejudices. If someone had defend Jesus the way I defended the family of Prophet Muhammad, you would have been silent. But you clearly wanted to read into it what you did.

you are threading on serious grounds here!! No one has singled out muslims!

see bolded above, THAT guy did

Edited January 13, 2009 by Y_habibitk

[tom&tata 2]

To the OP:

- Your 2nd filing might be subject to IMBRA. There is a whole forum related to the subject.

- I am not sure how common this situation is. Your application might get approved by the service centers but you need to get through the CO who will make the call before issuing a visa. You might get better answer if you post in Philippines forum or if you contact a lawyer that has extensive experience dealing with Manila consulate.

[shaggy_mutt 0]

Thanks for exposing your true prejudices.

You're the one who took somebody's odd question about marrying his ex's sister and decided to use it as a soapbox to play the offended Muslim. Until your comment, nobody had brought up religion of any sort.

If someone had actually made a comment about my religion, yeah, I'd have defended it. But that's different from launching into how-dare-you-say-stuff-about-Muslims diatribes when nobody had even brought up religion.

[Zayd 0]

Thanks for exposing your true prejudices.

You're the one who took somebody's odd question about marrying his ex's sister and decided to use it as a soapbox to play the offended Muslim. Until your comment, nobody had brought up religion of any sort.

If someone had actually made a comment about my religion, yeah, I'd have defended it. But that's different from launching into how-dare-you-say-stuff-about-Muslims diatribes when nobody had even brought up religion.

Shaggy, if you read my post, it was not directed at just any individual who made a comment. It was made to someone who is either Muslim or married to a Muslim. If it is the first case, they should know their own religion. If it is the second case, then they should be more conscious of their own spouse's religion. It is not like John Q. Public made a comment, and I responded. I even pointed that out in my post. It seems you and chavelle both need to read the entire post and the preceding ones before interjecting.

[chavelle 6]

Thanks for exposing your true prejudices.

You're the one who took somebody's odd question about marrying his ex's sister and decided to use it as a soapbox to play the offended Muslim. Until your comment, nobody had brought up religion of any sort.

If someone had actually made a comment about my religion, yeah, I'd have defended it. But that's different from launching into how-dare-you-say-stuff-about-Muslims diatribes when nobody had even brought up religion.

Exactly!!

[morocco4ever 63]

Thanks for exposing your true prejudices.

You're the one who took somebody's odd question about marrying his ex's sister and decided to use it as a soapbox to play the offended Muslim. Until your comment, nobody had brought up religion of any sort.

If someone had actually made a comment about my religion, yeah, I'd have defended it. But that's different from launching into how-dare-you-say-stuff-about-Muslims diatribes when nobody had even brought up religion.

So let me get this straight, once religion is brought up it gives you the right to generalize all of them, is that correct? Is that your justification? Whether you believe in a religion or not, this is not the place to stereotype them.

[Mags 112]

Her statement was unconditional and general. Whether she intended it or not, she insulted all women who fall into this category. It is incumbent for the Muslim to defend all other Muslims who are slandered, so what about the daughters of our beloved Messenger?

Congratulations, Zayd. I've been trying to tell people how wildly unreasonable some Muslims are, but you've done a much better job than I ever could!

Now

Erm, there are unreasonable people all over the world, it isn't a trait only associated with Muslims. I'm sure there are plenty of unreasonable Catholic, Hindus, Protestants etc out there. So, really, it isn't a religion that makes people unreasonable, it's just humanity.

Unreasonable + Muslim = Wrong.

Some Humans + unreasonable = Correct

So, less stereotyping please, and keep things on topic without resorting to insults.

Thanks.

Edited January 13, 2009 by Magenta

[desert_fox 32]

Thanks for exposing your true prejudices.

You're the one who took somebody's odd question about marrying his ex's sister and decided to use it as a soapbox to play the offended Muslim. Until your comment, nobody had brought up religion of any sort.

If someone had actually made a comment about my religion, yeah, I'd have defended it. But that's different from launching into how-dare-you-say-stuff-about-Muslims diatribes when nobody had even brought up religion.

Shaggy, if you read my post, it was not directed at just any individual who made a comment. It was made to someone who is either Muslim or married to a Muslim. If it is the first case, they should know their own religion. If it is the second case, then they should be more conscious of their own spouse's religion. It is not like John Q. Public made a comment, and I responded. I even pointed that out in my post. It seems you and chavelle both need to read the entire post and the preceding ones before interjecting.

Isn't ther some kind of forum for bible thumpers and other religious crazies that you can take this to???

[lynn_iris 0]

I don't know how many people have run into this situation before but here it goes anyway. So a couple of years ago I got married to this girl from the Philippines. I thought we were in love but found out that she was just really good at manipulating people. Eventually I was able to file a K1, get her to the US, marry her then find out she had someone back home. I had that marriage annulled for marriage fraud. So I go about my business dating other girls. But now, I end up with her sister. Eventually I do want to bring her over. My question is will their relationship be a burden to my petition? Also, will I have to send a copy of my annulment papers with the K1 petition? Has anyone run into this before?

HI...IT SEEMS UR SITUATION IS VERY COMPLICATED. I JUST HAVE ONE QUESTION FOR YOU. DO YOU THINK THIS SISTER OF YOUR EX-WIFE REALLY LOVES YOU AND WILLING TO MARRY YOU FOR REAL? ITS NOT NORMAL FOR A SISTER TO MARRY OR BE WITH HER SISTER'S EX-HUSBAND OR EX-BF...NOT UNLESS IF THEY ARE KIND OF GAME OR LIBERATED, AS WHAT WE CALL IT. AND DON'T YOU HAVE ANY DOUBTS WHY THIS SISTER COMMIT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU WHEN SHE KNOW'S U WERE THE EX-HUSBAND OF HER SISTER?....SOMETHINGS NOT REALLY RIGHT.... IM NOT SAYING U BREAK HER UP...I JUST HOPE THAT WHEN YOU MARRY AGAIN, U WILL FIND THE RIGHT ONE AND NOT JUST SOMEONE WHO WILL MARRY YOU FOR SOME PERSONAL INTEREST OTHER THAN LOVE...COZ IF THATS THE CASE...YOU BOTH WILL NEVER BE HAPPY. GOODLUCK...

What the???? The OP asked for immigration advise not your take on his ways....

oh, and please DO NOT TYPE IN CAPS. Bad netiquette.

Bad netiquette???....

Hmmmmmmmmmm.....etiquette u mean...i dont care. What i said was just my opinion... M.Y.O.B

It is called Netiquette online, noob. FYI: "I" is capitalized, and "don't" has an apostrophe. Grow up and learn how to behave in online forums little one.

... i feel sorry for you...lower down your ego pls... And you're no better than me or anyone else...so hush...i didn't ask you to correct my words here. Go back to the topic or should i say...Get lost!...