Embassy wants MORE proof of Relationship. What Now??

[Leedah 22]

Hi All,

I am trying to find out what you all did to prove evidence of relationship.

The embassy in Dakar is now asking my husband (through an email to me) to come to an interview (that they set) and bring proof of relationship.

"Please be advised that the consular officer has scheduled Mr. xxxxx for another interview on March 25 at 2:00 PM. Please have him bring all evidence of your relationship to the petitioner ( photos, letters, correspondence---)

Best regards,

Eligibility Review Unit. (MS) "

He brought photo's of us together, greeting cards, a bank card I gave for him to withdraw money on, and a few letters.

All this was given (and not returned) to them on the first interview in November.

I was then told by my husband that everything was fine, but that we needed a better I-864.

Now that we have that taken care of (I got a cosponsor who is his 1st cousin living here in the U.S.), they now want MORE proof of relationship.

This is crazy because that part of the interview was already covered and we were led to believe that it was only the cosponsor that was needed.

I email them on a regular basis to get info.

The last time I called, I heard them say in the background "is that the american?" This was heard when they were passing the phone to the CO.

I plan on going to the interview this time with my husband, but does anyone know how we may "document a relationship" when we don't even live together??

By the way, it is expensive for my husband to go online everyday and when we try to send letters.....it either comes in a month or not at all.

I foolishly sent my husband some money (their currency) once and another time a ring. Though they were not worth very much, they never got to him.

Any suggestions?

P.S. I travel to see my husband every 3 to 4 months, so my passport is FULL of stamps from his country, so what about using this as evidence also?

[Otto 83]

P.S. I travel to see my husband every 3 to 4 months, so my passport is FULL of stamps from his country, so what about using this as evidence also?

This (evidence of trips, boarding passes, passport stamps, etc) would be pretty strong evidence to add - plus you're being at the (next) interview is probably not a bad idea.

[Zee Bee 61]

I agree with Karin. In addition I would gather all the evidence from the first interview and since to take along as well.

[Leedah 22]

Yes, I'm planning on going to see my husband at the end of january and trying to just stay their until the interview (if possible).

But, as far as evidence, I'm bringing the following:

1. copies of passport pages,

2. boarding passes,

3. receipts for hotel,

4. receipt of laptops purchased,

5. Cellphone bill with our names on the bill,

6. photo's

7. letters from previous months (we will be writing some more to each other also. (even though I will be living with him there. hahahah)

Any other suggestions?

Edited January 3, 2009 by Leedah

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

As you are married are you covered by life insurance or medical. Adding him to the policy would be a "married" act. How about a will ?

[ForeverAmen 0]

I agree with all of the previous suggestions. When my SO and I were going through the process of a K-1 Fiance visa, we were also told to provide additional evidence of a relationship.

Upon looking at what you have, all of your evidence do not necessarily prove a relationship with your husband. Now, from looking at what you've listed, it makes perfect sense to both you and me. But when I too was going through the process of getting my SO here, I learned from the CO that my evidence did not prove a relationship with my husband. For example - purchase of a laptop does not prove to them that you'll have a relationship. I personally sent hundreds of dollars worth of calling cards, and was told that used calling cards does not prove that those calls were made to my SO. <bummer> As expensive as it may be, try sending more emails to each other.

[Perseverance 1]

We also were told to provide more evidence even though I had put together tons for the interview. I printed out every chat and email we ever sent. I also sent additional pictures. We had phone records from using pingo, I printed those out and for good measure I highlighted the numbers. I produced a huge amount of paper for them to go through and from what my Husband said they took it and never gave it a second look (in front of him). After all of the evidence we still had to go for another interview at the Fraud Unit. They interviewed us individually with out the other present, for about an hour each. We both had to write statements about our relationship. Which I am sure they later compared to see if our stories match. Sometimes I think they just ask for more evidence to see if you can produce it. I would use your travel info and passport stamps for sure keep your head up don't let them get to you.

[Leedah 22]

wow, this is daunting.

I wonder if me living there for a few months will even count for anything.

lol

[Enlighten one :) 5]

Hello,

Wow, I have to say to your evidence. To be honest, I only spoke with my husband 1 every 3-4 days for no more then 10 minutes. We emailed each other on an average of 1-2 times a week often skipping weeks. I only visited him 1 time.

I think our age and his verifiable back round was what solidify our relationship. They had a hard time believing that at his age he had never been married. He has had a relationship that was not solidified. His travel with the ministry prevented him from settling down.

I collected all our email in a folder. Then I prented the page that showed the contents of the folder which stated the dates , replies, and forward. Then I printed about two emails within each month that had a long back and forth correspondence. I had sent him money orders for special occasions. He sent me items on a couple of occasions. Until I found out just how much it cost him to do this. I never once mailed him anything until the interview.

I think they are looking for emails that show some sort of typical behavioral communication. I think it is great that you will be there. Your love, commitment,and devotion will shine through with every answer!

Mrs.J

[Leedah 22]

Honestly, I think these people are just retentive.

If I could document all the stuff that married folks go through as a couple, there offices would be overflowing. hahahah

[Kanyiri 0]

I feel like such an old timer with everyone talking about sending emails and using phone cards. We eventually had emails, and eventually did call, but I didn't use any phone card stuff as evidence. We did have a ton of letters. Real letters. The kind that need stamps. If letters aren't getting to him, then send duplicates and let him get a new post office box. Don't send any packages or any money. Only send hand written letters and have him send you hand written letters. Bring the original letters and the original envelopes to the interview.

[Bluehill 1]

Hi All,

I am trying to find out what you all did to prove evidence of relationship.

The embassy in Dakar is now asking my husband (through an email to me) to come to an interview (that they set) and bring proof of relationship.

"Please be advised that the consular officer has scheduled Mr. xxxxx for another interview on March 25 at 2:00 PM. Please have him bring all evidence of your relationship to the petitioner ( photos, letters, correspondence---)

Best regards,

Eligibility Review Unit. (MS) "

He brought photo's of us together, greeting cards, a bank card I gave for him to withdraw money on, and a few letters.

All this was given (and not returned) to them on the first interview in November.

I was then told by my husband that everything was fine, but that we needed a better I-864.

Now that we have that taken care of (I got a cosponsor who is his 1st cousin living here in the U.S.), they now want MORE proof of relationship.

This is crazy because that part of the interview was already covered and we were led to believe that it was only the cosponsor that was needed.

I email them on a regular basis to get info.

The last time I called, I heard them say in the background "is that the american?" This was heard when they were passing the phone to the CO.

I plan on going to the interview this time with my husband, but does anyone know how we may "document a relationship" when we don't even live together??

By the way, it is expensive for my husband to go online everyday and when we try to send letters.....it either comes in a month or not at all.

I foolishly sent my husband some money (their currency) once and another time a ring. Though they were not worth very much, they never got to him.

Any suggestions?

P.S. I travel to see my husband every 3 to 4 months, so my passport is FULL of stamps from his country, so what about using this as evidence also?

It sounds familiar. My fiancee was told on her first interview in November that the consulate is short on staff (it doesn't sound American to me). On her second interview they want more letter mails and pictures of us together, although we have provided a ton of IMs, 2 letter mails, 5 pictures of us together and family members, emails, phone calls,..etc. But the CO wants more photos and letter mails. As you all know it takes weeks sometimes months for a snail mail to be received if ever. So I have decided to be with her at her third interview. It is frustrating.

[Niel&Femi 0]

please i have a similar question too

me and my fiancee mostly communicate through chat we hadly send each other e-mail can this be a problem for us when we are gathering proof of ongoing relationship?

[Kanyiri 0]

It could. Be proactive and start sending letters and emails now.

[reeses16 8]

Niel&Femi, you should start gathering proof of on going relationship now. It is reasonable to expect proof from the time you filed the K1 until the interview (and you should continue to collect after that in preparation for AOS).