Sub-Saharan Cyber Cafe #3

[Zee Bee 61]

Yeah, this forum used to be pretty active. I think people come in waves and once AOS is done people take a break for a couple of years and then come back (I am guilty of that ). I mainly read through the ROC forum now. I'll start being more active when we are in that waiting game again.

How do you keep sane? Keep busy! Its so hard to not think about the process but its hard when you do think about the process and how long it is. Just keep yourself busy. When we were going through the process I kept myself occupied with 2 jobs, not because I needed the money but because I needed something to while away the time.

[patient2010 93]

It seems like this forum use to be really booming with folks! I was reading through some of the past post and was thinking that it must of been really comforting to have someone to talk to on a constant basis. I'm feeling pretty stressed and discourage these days... What are some ways you guys have been able to stay sane through this whole thing??? I feel like I'm loosing my mind every other day!

I stayed sane by painting my house, arranging the house preparing for his arrival....I went to the gym to workout which always made me go miles away from the process. I also prayed.....Good luck to you

Edited November 1, 2010 by patient2010

[Ban Hammer 13,469]

It seems like this forum use to be really booming with folks! I was reading through some of the past post and was thinking that it must of been really comforting to have someone to talk to on a constant basis. I'm feeling pretty stressed and discourage these days... What are some ways you guys have been able to stay sane through this whole thing??? I feel like I'm loosing my mind every other day!

it hasn't been the same since uno stopped coming by.

[Linguere 0]

Thank you for your lovely reply :-) I am just trying to survive and take care of the basics in a hellish economy doing it all on my own. Thank you for your prayers! I am just focused on loving my little princess. I know that God is with us. Thank you again for such an encouraging reply. This is why this is a great place!

Aisha,

Wow! I am really greatful that you were willing to share your story! You sound like one of the strongest and most amazing VJ members I have ever read of. I think it is simply beautiful that strong women like you come back to tell your story. You never know how many people you might be actually helping! I'm very sorry that the situation turned out like that.. but I like to believe that there are blessings in every situation we encounter in this life. And I am a firm believer in Kharma. I will keep you in my heart and prayers. I know that God will protect and provide for you and your little one. Stay encouraged and never give up on love! You deserve it, every woman does...

Peace and Blessings,

GH

[Linguere 0]

Thank you Chispas! How are you?? I remember your own bravery, so I am just a reflection of you and so many others here on VJ. Right now, I am struggling like I could never have imagined, but I have never been more proud of myself and I could have never believed that I could do all of this on my own. I am so thankful for my daughter and I continue to learn about myself and also other people. I learned that you are never too old to be swindled or to learn something about life. I thought it couldn't happen to me. I never thought I would be a single mom. That was arrogant, but now I know better. I understand now how strong women really are. I understand better the daily struggles of so many women. Becoming a parent completely changed my life and my perspective. Doing it alone has opened my eyes. I am growing every day and more than anything, so blessed to have my beautiful child. I wish everyone the best of happiness and much strength through their journeys. AIsha

Helloooooo

I remember you very well and I'm sorry to know that you've had challenges despite the tough journey you went through to sponsor your husband. Yes, it's a tough pill to swallow when a marriage doesn't turn out to be what we expected but as long as we are able to breath and live, we will come out victorious. Thanks for the bravery in sharing your story and double thanks for actually returning to post it. It's always great to hear from those who used to post a long long time ago. I often wonder how every one is doing so it was great to know that you came back and updated us. Lots of hugs

Chispas

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

It seems like a lot of the old regulars where also victims of visa fraud and had their sub saharan loves dumps them so the rest stoppped posting for fear of being jinked.

[BESANGIN 0]

Waz up PEEPS?! It has been a hell of a long time. How are you all doin' My life has been busy as hell, but never has it been more complete than now. I have two kids now. A son who will be 3 in January and a 6.5 month old daughter. They keep me busy, loved, needed, and on the edge of insanity! I also am finishing up my MBA which I will be graduating in May 2011, HOLLA!!!!!! And yes this time I will have my big graduation bash. I am also back in the recording studio working on a Christmas CD after a 5 year hiatus. It feels FANFREAKINTASTIC!!!! I was hoping to release it this season but it will probably be released next season. As my marriage progressed from the gates of heaven to the DEPTHS OF HELL, my passion and fire for music died. Then one day I listened to my old CD and I immediately found that passion again, and have been back in the studio for nearly 2 months now. Still no love, DAMN, DAMN, DAMN!!!! I have gone through such an emotional and physical transformation that my confidence is through the roof, and men can't come through me the way my EX did. If yo' SH!^ ain't on point, you gotta go right on past this DIVA!!!! My house and heart are drama and LOSER free. Having kids now, you just can't let a man experiment with trying to be a man, you already gotta be or won't be! I have a son who already have little girls all on his jock, 'cause the boy is beautiful, so I need a good man who can teach my son how to be a strong, good, godfearing, respectful man. Also to be an example for my daughter to pick a good man for herself. Even though either of their asses are dating 'til they're 40, and IIIIII will be picking their spouses! I saw my EX in August at a party after nearly 3 years, and it was something. He undoubtedly noticed the change in me, and I undoubtedly questioned myself, "What the HELL WAS YOUR DUMB A$$ thinking? Damn! We were cordial, but definitely no sparks, no what ifs. It felt like an EX boyfirend than Ex husband if that makes sense. Anyway, just wanted to let you know that BESANGIN still BE SANGIN' and loving my life right now. Oh, I took a break from my book to let my soul heal, so I will actually be returning to writing too over the holidays. Peace out people. If you got the number and know me like that, CALL SOMEBODY!!!!!!

[Linguere 0]

Your strength (and energy) is amazing. You are raising two children alone and still have time to sing and be happy....amazing! Your strength is inspirational! May your joy be everlasting!

Waz up PEEPS?! It has been a hell of a long time. How are you all doin' My life has been busy as hell, but never has it been more complete than now. I have two kids now. A son who will be 3 in January and a 6.5 month old daughter. They keep me busy, loved, needed, and on the edge of insanity! I also am finishing up my MBA which I will be graduating in May 2011, HOLLA!!!!!! And yes this time I will have my big graduation bash. I am also back in the recording studio working on a Christmas CD after a 5 year hiatus. It feels FANFREAKINTASTIC!!!! I was hoping to release it this season but it will probably be released next season. As my marriage progressed from the gates of heaven to the DEPTHS OF HELL, my passion and fire for music died. Then one day I listened to my old CD and I immediately found that passion again, and have been back in the studio for nearly 2 months now. Still no love, DAMN, DAMN, DAMN!!!! I have gone through such an emotional and physical transformation that my confidence is through the roof, and men can't come through me the way my EX did. If yo' SH!^ ain't on point, you gotta go right on past this DIVA!!!! My house and heart are drama and LOSER free. Having kids now, you just can't let a man experiment with trying to be a man, you already gotta be or won't be! I have a son who already have little girls all on his jock, 'cause the boy is beautiful, so I need a good man who can teach my son how to be a strong, good, godfearing, respectful man. Also to be an example for my daughter to pick a good man for herself. Even though either of their asses are dating 'til they're 40, and IIIIII will be picking their spouses! I saw my EX in August at a party after nearly 3 years, and it was something. He undoubtedly noticed the change in me, and I undoubtedly questioned myself, "What the HELL WAS YOUR DUMB A$$ thinking? Damn! We were cordial, but definitely no sparks, no what ifs. It felt like an EX boyfirend than Ex husband if that makes sense. Anyway, just wanted to let you know that BESANGIN still BE SANGIN' and loving my life right now. Oh, I took a break from my book to let my soul heal, so I will actually be returning to writing too over the holidays. Peace out people. If you got the number and know me like that, CALL SOMEBODY!!!!!!

[BESANGIN 0]

Your strength (and energy) is amazing. You are raising two children alone and still have time to sing and be happy....amazing! Your strength is inspirational! May your joy be everlasting!

Kids that love and need you give you the strength to do things that were once only reserved for Superman, Wonder Woman, and Spiderman! Can't be a superhero for them unless you believe you are one for yourself. Every day that you survive, and your child is healthy and happy, then you too my sister are a member of the Justice League! LOL!!! Able to kick life's A$$ in a single bound, while keeping your heart open for the real thing since the dress rehearsal was indeed that....a rehearsal. I hope you feel what I'm sayin'. You're there!!

[Linguere 0]

You are truly blessed...and you are so right. Thank you for your positive energy!

Kids that love and need you give you the strength to do things that were once only reserved for Superman, Wonder Woman, and Spiderman! Can't be a superhero for them unless you believe you are one for yourself. Every day that you survive, and your child is healthy and happy, then you too my sister are a member of the Justice League! LOL!!! Able to kick life's A$$ in a single bound, while keeping your heart open for the real thing since the dress rehearsal was indeed that....a rehearsal. I hope you feel what I'm sayin'. You're there!!

[Simply_Uno 1]

Hey Y'all!!!

What has been up in here???

Heyyy Charles!!!!! I still lurk from time to time

Besangin, girl I read your post and fell out laughing. I am so over joyed for you! Reading your story brought tears to my eyes and made me smile! As for me, I am writing more poetry. I took a break from it because life has a habit of getting in the way. Now that I have moved to the PacNW and I am surrounded by nothing but beauty, I am reinspired by all of Gods handy dandy crafty work. I can breathe again. No longer am I waiting to exhale. And it feels soo good to be free! I have truly taken the shackles off my feet, so yall better watch me dance.

Well a bit of an update, as I stated I have relocated. I had to...needed to. Most of the old hats know my marriage was a flop, but its cool. I met another man. An american this time around. He turned out to be severely abusive, almost fatally; so I left him. After my granny gave up the ghost in 2008, my family fell apart and the worst of the worst took them over. All of that being said, I packed my most prized possessions and did it moving like a thief in the night. Very few know of my whereabouts and I love it like that. If you wont do right by me in life, then I will exit out of your life. So far, its all good. I'm also working on copy writing my work.

I wish all of you well. And just know that what God has for you, is for YOU!

Uno

Waz up PEEPS?! It has been a hell of a long time. How are you all doin' My life has been busy as hell, but never has it been more complete than now. I have two kids now. A son who will be 3 in January and a 6.5 month old daughter. They keep me busy, loved, needed, and on the edge of insanity! I also am finishing up my MBA which I will be graduating in May 2011, HOLLA!!!!!! And yes this time I will have my big graduation bash. I am also back in the recording studio working on a Christmas CD after a 5 year hiatus. It feels FANFREAKINTASTIC!!!! I was hoping to release it this season but it will probably be released next season. As my marriage progressed from the gates of heaven to the DEPTHS OF HELL, my passion and fire for music died. Then one day I listened to my old CD and I immediately found that passion again, and have been back in the studio for nearly 2 months now. Still no love, DAMN, DAMN, DAMN!!!! I have gone through such an emotional and physical transformation that my confidence is through the roof, and men can't come through me the way my EX did. If yo' SH!^ ain't on point, you gotta go right on past this DIVA!!!! My house and heart are drama and LOSER free. Having kids now, you just can't let a man experiment with trying to be a man, you already gotta be or won't be! I have a son who already have little girls all on his jock, 'cause the boy is beautiful, so I need a good man who can teach my son how to be a strong, good, godfearing, respectful man. Also to be an example for my daughter to pick a good man for herself. Even though either of their asses are dating 'til they're 40, and IIIIII will be picking their spouses! I saw my EX in August at a party after nearly 3 years, and it was something. He undoubtedly noticed the change in me, and I undoubtedly questioned myself, "What the HELL WAS YOUR DUMB A$ thinking? Damn! We were cordial, but definitely no sparks, no what ifs. It felt like an EX boyfirend than Ex husband if that makes sense. Anyway, just wanted to let you know that BESANGIN still BE SANGIN' and loving my life right now. Oh, I took a break from my book to let my soul heal, so I will actually be returning to writing too over the holidays. Peace out people. If you got the number and know me like that, CALL SOMEBODY!!!!!!

[Ban Hammer 13,469]

Hey Y'all!!!

What has been up in here???

Heyyy Charles!!!!! I still lurk from time to time

someone remind me how this works - if we see uno, do we have 2 more weeks of summer or winter?

[Ban Hammer 13,469]

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[Simply_Uno 1]

someone remind me how this works - if we see uno, do we have 2 more weeks of summer or winter?

ROFL!!!

You are blessed with a more abundant life if you "see" me!!! Silly goose

smooches Charles!

Uno

[Ban Hammer 13,469]

ROFL!!!

You are blessed with a more abundant life if you "see" me!!! Silly goose

smooches Charles!

Uno

a more abundant life goes without saying when you stop by