Married 2 years separate/visa denial strange circumstances

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

I'm new to this site, mostly came on to find some sort of hope or similar experience with Embassy in Lagos Nigeria. I don't know where our case is going and the situation is such that visiting my Husband is going to take some miracles.

The long and short of it, we're married for about 2 years now, last summer was denied our I129 much to the surprise of our lawyer as well. "no evidence of bona fied relationship." - As I have read all over this website everyone too explained their surprise due to the poundage of evidence supplied that somehow their relationship was not bona fied.

Trying to sort through all these feelings of shock and anger at being separated for really no seemingly plausible reason but keeping faith that at some point something has to happen.

There was the strange events prior to our denial...Before our packet left the service center in US it was MIA for months then in Nigeria the loss of the interview letter and package by the Embassy and waiting months to get any info about it - no offer to replace the MIA packet and no responce either.

8 months later we have a interview notice in 2 weeks - after lawyer directly contacts them to find out when our date is! Not allowing my spouse in for his interiview on the day claiming he wasn't my husband...

Senator gets involved just to get him in the door for his interview. We've been together years before - plenty of evidence - not much interest in it. Denial. That was about 8 or 9 months ago. Senator office still supporting our situation. No word from the Service Center. It's near impossible due to so many circumstances to visit my Husband. Not sleeping, wondering when we'll finally be together and what more stress to prepare oneself for.

People in my circle said they had no idea a spouse could be denied a visa. Due to the previous events I wasn't entirely shocked but we really felt that they would see obviously that there was no reason for us to be denied. He is upstanding citizen, no threat and it's not difficult to see our relationship is bona fied. I wonder what is coming next. Any comments would be more appreciated. It's like being on a island with "other" people who have no idea what this is like. - Thanks for reading.

[Old Dominion 26]

Am not sure what the question is. Seems like the folks at Lagos will have the answer, though. Obviously, if you haven't provided sufficient evidence of a bona fide marriage, as per the advice of your lawyer, then it will be hard to overcome that. Can you at least be present for the interview, so they will know you are sincere? Even though no embassy interviews the petitioning spouse, some DO take interest in the spouse's presence.

By the way, we have not Embassy in Lagos. It is a Consulate.

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

Thanks for your response. I suppose I didn't have a question. Just trying to find a way to cope with the long wait and the denial. I do plan to go for any future interview because I do believe that I would like to meet the people there and be there with my Husband through the rather nervewrecking process. We had to do so much apart it makes no sense, so we're looking for a way our circumstances make it very difficult for me to stay with him there for very long. I sort of get the feeling that in countries where there is much fraud and dishonesty that this is a way of weeding out the genuine from the frauds.

Cheers! Have a good day.

[Old Dominion 26]

Yes, fraud is real. I have an old friend who is now trying to get out of a fraudulent marriage to a Nigerian after he got here with his K-1. Outside the home, he behaves as if he were single and is on the prowl. At home, he sleeps or chats on Yahoo.

Anyway, what reasons for declaring your marriage not to be bona fide? Age difference? Asked another way, what evidence do you have to show a bona fide marriage other than marriage certificate & photos? Would you be willing to live in Nigeria?

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

That's terrible what happened to that friend of yours. Thanks so much for sharing, I think I may have gotten the answer to my question on another board.

[pushbrk 13,213]

People in my circle said they had no idea a spouse could be denied a visa. Due to the previous events I wasn't entirely shocked but we really felt that they would see obviously that there was no reason for us to be denied. He is upstanding citizen, no threat and it's not difficult to see our relationship is bona fied. I wonder what is coming next. Any comments would be more appreciated. It's like being on a island with "other" people who have no idea what this is like. - Thanks for reading.

If denial wasn't a real possibility, it wouldn't be petition and interview process. It would be called "registration". Sounds like you're doing all you can already but time together is the most convincing evidence of a bona fide relationship.

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

Thank You for your thoughts, interesting that people don't notice the wording of petition etc.. I had read your profile and I have to say your situation has really been heart breaking. It sounds cruel to say this but I'm glad to be in company with many others. I really am hoping and praying I can go be with my husband for as long as possible - you're right that is bona fied. Thank you so much for your thoughts and post.

[TBoneTX 46,327]

Even though no embassy interviews the petitioning spouse...

Perhaps not formally, but when some U.S. spouses/fiance(e)s are present, they end up being interviewed.

...some DO take interest in the spouse's presence.

MANY consulates & embassies appear to take interest, and some require it, whether they'll admit to this or not. In fact, if you are the petitioner and are not present at the first interview at the consulate in Guayaquil, Ecuador, you can bet your life's savings on a refusal of the visa -- or, at "best," a 221(g) and an order that you appear at a second interview.