Married to a Nigerian and still together?

[NigerLA 1]

My wife and I have been married now for almost four years and it has been like any marriage. We've had great moments, terrible moments and trying times. Looking at everything in comprehensively, I still love my wife and would not trade her for any other woman.

The truth is that we are all different in our own way; Americans, Nigerians or wherever you are from. Nationality does in no way determine success in marriage. At the end of the day, we put all things in God's hands.

Happy New Year to everyone and may 2009 be a blessed, healthy and prosperous one for you and your families.

[chispas 0]

My wife and I have been married now for almost four years and it has been like any marriage. We've had great moments, terrible moments and trying times. Looking at everything in comprehensively, I still love my wife and would not trade her for any other woman.

The truth is that we are all different in our own way; Americans, Nigerians or wherever you are from. Nationality does in no way determine success in marriage. At the end of the day, we put all things in God's hands.

Happy New Year to everyone and may 2009 be a blessed, healthy and prosperous one for you and your families.

Always great to hear from the guys in the forum. Thanks and Happy New Year

[babynursetobe 0]

My wife and I have been married now for almost four years and it has been like any marriage. We've had great moments, terrible moments and trying times. Looking at everything in comprehensively, I still love my wife and would not trade her for any other woman.

The truth is that we are all different in our own way; Americans, Nigerians or wherever you are from. Nationality does in no way determine success in marriage. At the end of the day, we put all things in God's hands.

Happy New Year to everyone and may 2009 be a blessed, healthy and prosperous one for you and your families.

Always great to hear from the guys in the forum. Thanks and Happy New Year

I totally agree...........nice to have a male perspective on things once in awhile.

[umelo2b 0]

Hello,

It is sad that some people are trying to use this forum to sample the view of people about those united states citizens that marry to Nigerians. pls i am using this meduim to inform my hononorable member that this site have been of great help to many people in all worth of life. so please let anybody decided whatever he or she want to do about there marital decision. Nigeria is a very good country with alot of potenciality so we are not only know for scammed and many other fraudlent act. pls people should be mindful of whatever they will be saying about fatherland,i am a Nigerian and i am proud of my country so member should be mindful of using a bad word for my country and i will implore my fellow Nigerians to let us stand up and correct the bad impression about my country. We have the bad,good and ugly citizen everywhere in the world.

Wow, I meant no disrespect to your country or the people from it. I am married to a Nigeria myself and love him and his family very much. I think you totally misunderstood what the meaning of the orignal post was so I am sorry if I offended you or anyone else for the matter that was NEVER my intention. I am trying to learn as much as I can.

I am an old member to VJ. Married 3 years. Yep! Best to avoid conflict until you really get use to each other. My husband too is in school so I eventuall made an extra bedroom into an office. He is stil as loving as ever though, sweet and humble 99 percent of the time. But does demand respect at all times.

[valentine 0]

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I agree, were gonna pray that in years to come you'll still be happily married and
with kids. (wink)

I am in full support of Galaxy sayings.Fatherland Nigeria, is a great nation and everyone who has decicded to marry a Ngerian should be matured enough
to make their decisions.I plead with everyone in this forum to be mindful of the negative things they say about Fatherland Nigeria.Your countries are not better
nor every one a saint in there.
This forum has blessed me and many others who can attest.We are here to learn and help eachother.
Please I implore everyone not to speak only negative about Nigeria.
If you choose to marry a Nigeria is a personal thing.
Thanx fro your audience.
valentine

[Perseverance 1]

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I agree, were gonna pray that in years to come you'll still be happily married and

with kids. (wink)

I am in full support of Galaxy sayings.Fatherland Nigeria, is a great nation and everyone who has decicded to marry a Ngerian should be matured enough

to make their decisions.I plead with everyone in this forum to be mindful of the negative things they say about Fatherland Nigeria.Your countries are not better

nor every one a saint in there.

This forum has blessed me and many others who can attest.We are here to learn and help eachother.

Please I implore everyone not to speak only negative about Nigeria.

If you choose to marry a Nigeria is a personal thing.

Thanx fro your audience.

valentine

VALENTINE!!!! Where the heck have you been?? What are you up too?? Long time we have not heard from you!!!

[LovinLiberia 0]

Yeah, Valentine...long time no see for real. Where have you been?!?

[sassyfemale 0]

Well a few people that are marrying Nigerian men nowadays are staying together. The American lady is taking huge risk in sponsoring a Nigerian or lets say any foreign man that comes from a developing country. How can a Nigerian man be in love with his wife in his heart AND to love money the same time? Is not possible! A Nigerian man wants to come to America to make dollars, his primary goal. That is either going to school to make dollars. The woman is just HELPING him so he can succeed. The green card gives him permanant residence.

A real marriage within a Nigerian man and an American woman, where the Nigerian man can love with his heart and not for ulterior motives, will be in Nigeria without helping him to get visa. That takes a huge adjustment on the American woman, depending on his income. That also means the American woman not to bring him dollars and to adjust third-world country lifestyle. Tell him you have no money, and will not take him to America and lets see how far this relationship will last. Perhaps, most of these men want to use a woman to cross over.

Almost all the guys occupying cyber cafes are scammers. Is what we call here in Nigeria-yahoo boys.

I also noticed most of these women are meeting these guys online. Is more better if these women can come to Nigeria to pick their men other than getting a desperate soul.

There are many good men in Nigeria that are not going to the internet. Find him around your age or older, same place of worship as you and SAME goals in life. Ask yourself why is this man is interested in me. Most men in the past married for sex and companionship and to make family.

Best wishes for all!

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

I am not sure if this post is an insult to the Nigerian man or the American woman. The idea that a man from a third world country can't love an woman here is absurd. It would be like saying that Nigerian woman open their legs to any American male just to come here. A real marriage is about love and MUTUAL goals and doesn't have to be all in your country or his. It isn't about age or religion or who makes how much. Joseph and I were together for years and there was no mention of money. In fact he didn't know what I made until I sent him the I-134 just before the interview. We didn't' meet online , in fact when I went there with a laptop he had no clue how to turn it on or how to access programs. As to leaving my money in the US , why would I do that , I have worked years to get what I have and I will take my money and use it however I see fit. If you don't like seeing nigerian men in nice houses and with nice cars look the other way

Well a few people that are marrying Nigerian men nowadays are staying together. The American lady is taking huge risk in sponsoring a Nigerian or lets say any foreign man that comes from a developing country. How can a Nigerian man be in love with his wife in his heart AND to love money the same time? Is not possible! A Nigerian man wants to come to America to make dollars, his primary goal. That is either going to school to make dollars. The woman is just HELPING him so he can succeed. The green card gives him permanant residence.

A real marriage within a Nigerian man and an American woman, where the Nigerian man can love with his heart and not for ulterior motives, will be in Nigeria without helping him to get visa. That takes a huge adjustment on the American woman, depending on his income. That also means the American woman not to bring him dollars and to adjust third-world country lifestyle. Tell him you have no money, and will not take him to America and lets see how far this relationship will last. Perhaps, most of these men want to use a woman to cross over.

Almost all the guys occupying cyber cafes are scammers. Is what we call here in Nigeria-yahoo boys.

I also noticed most of these women are meeting these guys online. Is more better if these women can come to Nigeria to pick their men other than getting a desperate soul.

There are many good men in Nigeria that are not going to the internet. Find him around your age or older, same place of worship as you and SAME goals in life. Ask yourself why is this man is interested in me. Most men in the past married for sex and companionship and to make family.

Best wishes for all!

[peters 0]

I'm married to a man from Nigeria......I'm just curious who of you are still together (those of you who are married to a Nigerian that is) and how long has it been? I'm specifically wanting to know how its all worked out after your SO has come to the states?? I have seen several case where Nigerian males have come to live in the US with a spouse and they left as soon as they were able. Not wanting to judge just want a poll to see how many are successfully still married to a Nigerian. You only hear of the bad cases. Thanks for your help with this.

I think it a good thing to be cautious when it comes to marriage but u are supposed to know the man you are getting married to better than listening to what people say about Nigerians. I am a Nigerian woman and i can tell you categorically that if your man do not live up to expectation it is not because he is Nigerian but because of his own character. I think you should search your conscience very well as regards the reason why you are asking this question. A man can leave a woman and vice versa at any time irrespective of their country of origin. If you are marrying this guy and you are already paranoid of his intentions to marry you I can bet that he will not like to find out. Nigerian men, just like any men, can be loving and caring as well as deceitful. In fact, some Nigerian men do not give a damn about coming to the U.S and leave their family. i was engaged to a nigerian guy for 3 years and he severed our relationship after his case was approved by the NVC b'cuz he did not want to come to the U.S against his parent wish. If he is still waiting for you when he has a choice to marry a woman at home i think you should ask yourself why you think he may leave you. if u want a successful marriage with any foreigner that you will be bringing to the U.S it comes with a risk which does not necessarily mean deceit but cultural differences. If u are of the opinion that he may be a fake i beg you to let it go because it will be degrading for him to find this out. Besides, the law in the U.S can protect you if deceit happened to be his aim, you can always withdraw your application within 2 years, i think 1 year will be enough for u to figure him out if he is a fake. In all, follow your heart and not hearsay or the media portray of Nigerians as scam artists, we are smart and honest people otherwise the U.S wouldn't have given us opportunity to become her citizens

[JJWashington 0]

Married 15 months and going strong. We are 10000 times closer and happier than we were one year ago. We have our obstacles, but all marriages do. My husband loves American food - Hot Dogs and Pizza are his favorites. I do have to say he eats a lot of rice...

[sassyfemale 0]

I agree with Peters theory

Taking any foreign man is a huge risk. The American woman is usually marrying because of love/companionship and sex while the foreign man is marrying for money with benefits. If you don't trust the man, withdraw the petition ASAP. Never let the foreign man pressure to continue the petition. He is using the woman.

In Nigerian the society the male is the head of the household. In fact, there is no law stating that a man must not beat his wife unlike America. I am not saying there is no Nigerian male/American female relationships that do not work, but many of them fail. At the end of the day the Nigerian male gets a huge gain when it comes to immigration. I know some such marriages where it worked and many failed. My best advice is to be careful and ask yourself why is this man marrying me. And ask yourself what can you offer that these Nigerian women cannot offer them. Be realistic.

I'm married to a man from Nigeria......I'm just curious who of you are still together (those of you who are married to a Nigerian that is) and how long has it been? I'm specifically wanting to know how its all worked out after your SO has come to the states?? I have seen several case where Nigerian males have come to live in the US with a spouse and they left as soon as they were able. Not wanting to judge just want a poll to see how many are successfully still married to a Nigerian. You only hear of the bad cases. Thanks for your help with this.

I think it a good thing to be cautious when it comes to marriage but u are supposed to know the man you are getting married to better than listening to what people say about Nigerians. I am a Nigerian woman and i can tell you categorically that if your man do not live up to expectation it is not because he is Nigerian but because of his own character. I think you should search your conscience very well as regards the reason why you are asking this question. A man can leave a woman and vice versa at any time irrespective of their country of origin. If you are marrying this guy and you are already paranoid of his intentions to marry you I can bet that he will not like to find out. Nigerian men, just like any men, can be loving and caring as well as deceitful. In fact, some Nigerian men do not give a damn about coming to the U.S and leave their family. i was engaged to a nigerian guy for 3 years and he severed our relationship after his case was approved by the NVC b'cuz he did not want to come to the U.S against his parent wish. If he is still waiting for you when he has a choice to marry a woman at home i think you should ask yourself why you think he may leave you. if u want a successful marriage with any foreigner that you will be bringing to the U.S it comes with a risk which does not necessarily mean deceit but cultural differences. If u are of the opinion that he may be a fake i beg you to let it go because it will be degrading for him to find this out. Besides, the law in the U.S can protect you if deceit happened to be his aim, you can always withdraw your application within 2 years, i think 1 year will be enough for u to figure him out if he is a fake. In all, follow your heart and not hearsay or the media portray of Nigerians as scam artists, we are smart and honest people otherwise the U.S wouldn't have given us opportunity to become her citizens

[Perseverance 1]

Thanks for the advice....now I have some of my own.

Your words are going to fall on deaf ears in this forum. NO one will ever think that "thier man" would do the unspeakable to them. These same words that you are preaching have been said many times before in here and most times they are not met with a kind reception if you know what I mean. I am sure that you only gave us your opinions out of concern for us poor unsuspecting American Women, however, We are all adults here going through this process and are responsible for our adult decisions that will effect our lives.

P

I agree with Peters theory

Taking any foreign man is a huge risk. The American woman is usually marrying because of love/companionship and sex while the foreign man is marrying for money with benefits. If you don't trust the man, withdraw the petition ASAP. Never let the foreign man pressure to continue the petition. He is using the woman.

In Nigerian the society the male is the head of the household. In fact, there is no law stating that a man must not beat his wife unlike America. I am not saying there is no Nigerian male/American female relationships that do not work, but many of them fail. At the end of the day the Nigerian male gets a huge gain when it comes to immigration. I know some such marriages where it worked and many failed. My best advice is to be careful and ask yourself why is this man marrying me. And ask yourself what can you offer that these Nigerian women cannot offer them. Be realistic.

I'm married to a man from Nigeria......I'm just curious who of you are still together (those of you who are married to a Nigerian that is) and how long has it been? I'm specifically wanting to know how its all worked out after your SO has come to the states?? I have seen several case where Nigerian males have come to live in the US with a spouse and they left as soon as they were able. Not wanting to judge just want a poll to see how many are successfully still married to a Nigerian. You only hear of the bad cases. Thanks for your help with this.

I think it a good thing to be cautious when it comes to marriage but u are supposed to know the man you are getting married to better than listening to what people say about Nigerians. I am a Nigerian woman and i can tell you categorically that if your man do not live up to expectation it is not because he is Nigerian but because of his own character. I think you should search your conscience very well as regards the reason why you are asking this question. A man can leave a woman and vice versa at any time irrespective of their country of origin. If you are marrying this guy and you are already paranoid of his intentions to marry you I can bet that he will not like to find out. Nigerian men, just like any men, can be loving and caring as well as deceitful. In fact, some Nigerian men do not give a damn about coming to the U.S and leave their family. i was engaged to a nigerian guy for 3 years and he severed our relationship after his case was approved by the NVC b'cuz he did not want to come to the U.S against his parent wish. If he is still waiting for you when he has a choice to marry a woman at home i think you should ask yourself why you think he may leave you. if u want a successful marriage with any foreigner that you will be bringing to the U.S it comes with a risk which does not necessarily mean deceit but cultural differences. If u are of the opinion that he may be a fake i beg you to let it go because it will be degrading for him to find this out. Besides, the law in the U.S can protect you if deceit happened to be his aim, you can always withdraw your application within 2 years, i think 1 year will be enough for u to figure him out if he is a fake. In all, follow your heart and not hearsay or the media portray of Nigerians as scam artists, we are smart and honest people otherwise the U.S wouldn't have given us opportunity to become her citizens

[Simply_Uno 1]

very interesting...

[Perseverance 1]

Oh whats with you and your friggin popcorn ....we are simply exchanging friendly advice

very interesting...

Edited January 16, 2009 by Perseverance