interview coming...marriage probs.

[dmartmar 1]

You're not getting Divorced; right? You didn't mention if you were!

Fraud? No! You just said you married for LOVE!

2 years? It's a shame to throw that away. Any chance that things can work out for you 2?

If it were me, I would be more worried about the overstay!

Dmartmar...you are a very bitter man. I hope that one day you will chill the heck out. Not everyone is like your wife.

Again, had the OP not mentioned what would happen if she re-married and tried to adjust again through her second husband, I would've not said anything at all.

Thinking about a second marriage while still being married, would tell me there's no love involved.

Edited June 19, 2006 by dmartmar

[dmartmar 1]

Dmartmar always has to put his stupid ideas over here. Damn, I hate you!

Anyways, she HAS problems with her marriage, not a damn fraudster like your wife. I'm sorry if you were a "victim" of marriage fraud and I'm sorry to inform you that not everybody is like your ex-wife, my dear.

Nobody cares about your problems. Go take your problems somewhere else. This is a website about IMMIGRATION, not about your stupid marriage advice. People suffer and you always have to be here. I'm wondering why the people in charge of this website keep waiting to kick u out. I'm tired of you insulting ppl.

Keep your damned mouth shut, u damned #######.

And Jesus said: "if you get slapped in one cheek, turn the other."

Maria, I love you, even though I don't know you.

[mrs.jenjen 0]

Dmartmar - to begin with I felt sympathy for you - I do not think anyone deserves to be taken advantage of just because of their citizenship and the country they live in. However, every single post I have ever read has one comment or another from you which is completely overstepping the mark. Have you considered councelling?! You obviously have a problem with your cynicism and the fact that you are always so eager to look for the negative in every single situation. I just can't imagine what it is like to live life in your shoes. You sound like a very unhappy and miserable person.

While your ex-wife may or may not have only been interested in a marriage with you for immigration reasons, there are other people out there with much more genuine reasons for wanting to be with someone. I just think its a total shame that with the attitude you so clearly display daily on these forums, it is unlikely you will ever allow yourself to get close enough to someone to realise this.

The irony for me is that after everything, after all the times you have said that you got the upper hand over your ex-wife by getting her deported, she HAS won in the end. She's now able to move on and build herself a new life in her original country. You, on the other hand, seem determined to live in bitterness and misery, constantly stuck in the past.

I have bitten my tongue for months over your attitude, but this time I've just had enough. I wish the best for you, I really do - but you're not helping anyone with your sceptical comments on this forum, least of all yourself.

Edited June 19, 2006 by mrs.jenjen

[maria_b84 0]

Dmartmar always has to put his stupid ideas over here. Damn, I hate you!

Anyways, she HAS problems with her marriage, not a damn fraudster like your wife. I'm sorry if you were a "victim" of marriage fraud and I'm sorry to inform you that not everybody is like your ex-wife, my dear.

Nobody cares about your problems. Go take your problems somewhere else. This is a website about IMMIGRATION, not about your stupid marriage advice. People suffer and you always have to be here. I'm wondering why the people in charge of this website keep waiting to kick u out. I'm tired of you insulting ppl.

Keep your damned mouth shut, u damned #######.

And Jesus said: "if you get slapped in one cheek, turn the other."

Maria, I love you, even though I don't know you.

Look I dont know what u r talking about....love me???? R u drunk or something?

U can shout it loud rebeccajo...I'm proud of my temper. There's nothing better. Plus most of the member seem to agree with me about the fact that dmartmar is a little bit too suspicious. Alot of ppl have problems with their marriage? And so?? What about that?? It doesn't mean its a fraud come on. Suppose it was a "normal" couple, and by normal I mean 2 american citizens. In that case nobody would think its a "fraud" but instead everybody would think "ah they are having problems. They should work on them and try to get better. lets help them if we can". But no...when its a foreign marriage, such as an american citizen and another non us citizen, then everybody goes crazy on them...ah that's a fraud that's a fraud. It almost seems like that American Citizens are so special that they cannot be touched. They are untouchable. Come on, take it easy. A marriage between an American Citizen and another Citizen is just like any other marriage. I'm tired of hearing that those kinds of marriages are "special". Just because the other one is a US Citizen. And just like every other marriage, its subject to problems. Open your mind. Pls!!!!! It seems that this web site is soooo worried about frauds. As soon as u say "we have problems" because u need someone to actually help u out and not go against u, u receive tons of PM from ppl trying to know if u r doing a fraud or not. Some ppl here just need help and I thought this web site was made just for this. Not to go against every person that talks. Lets try to hear before running our mouth on things we dont even know. Some ppl just need help and all they r doing here is searching for help. Lets try to listen to them.

Maria

Edited June 19, 2006 by maria_b84

[sheraz 0]

The whole point of the long immigration process is to allow immigrant spouses to adjust to the society, the norms and to their citizen spouse. Maybe that is why it is called adjustment of status. If the marriage is having problems, then the simple answer is work things out. However if you just want to work things out to go to your AOS interview, that means the marriage is a not real. Even if you get past this, will you stay on for another 2 yrs to get your permanent green card ? Any marriage that is used to recieve immigration benefits only is a fraudulent according to the USCIS law. From the posts of the author, it seems as though the US citizen spouse basically wants to end the marriage. The author of the post appears only interested in maintaining her status in US. They is classified as fraud. I think the author should not go to the interview as she is committing fraud. A few bad apples spoil the whole pond.

A lot of times oversees spouses just marry US citizens to come to the US. Ofcourse because of what has happened in the past, foreign marriages cannot be seen with the same eye as the marriage between US citizens.

Dmartmar always has to put his stupid ideas over here. Damn, I hate you!

Anyways, she HAS problems with her marriage, not a damn fraudster like your wife. I'm sorry if you were a "victim" of marriage fraud and I'm sorry to inform you that not everybody is like your ex-wife, my dear.

Nobody cares about your problems. Go take your problems somewhere else. This is a website about IMMIGRATION, not about your stupid marriage advice. People suffer and you always have to be here. I'm wondering why the people in charge of this website keep waiting to kick u out. I'm tired of you insulting ppl.

Keep your damned mouth shut, u damned #######.

And Jesus said: "if you get slapped in one cheek, turn the other."

Maria, I love you, even though I don't know you.

Look I dont know what u r talking about....love me???? R u drunk or something?

U can shout it loud rebeccajo...I'm proud of my temper. There's nothing better. Plus most of the member seem to agree with me about the fact that dmartmar is a little bit too suspicious. Alot of ppl have problems with their marriage? And so?? What about that?? It doesn't mean its a fraud come on. Suppose it was a "normal" couple, and by normal I mean 2 american citizens. In that case nobody would think its a "fraud" but instead everybody would think "ah they are having problems. They should work on them and try to get better. lets help them if we can". But no...when its a foreign marriage, such as an american citizen and another non us citizen, then everybody goes crazy on them...ah that's a fraud that's a fraud. It almost seems like that American Citizens are so special that they cannot be touched. They are untouchable. Come on, take it easy. A marriage between an American Citizen and another Citizen is just like any other marriage. I'm tired of hearing that those kinds of marriages are "special". Just because the other one is a US Citizen. And just like every other marriage, its subject to problems. Open your mind. Pls!!!!! It seems that this web site is soooo worried about frauds. As soon as u say "we have problems" because u need someone to actually help u out and not go against u, u receive tons of PM from ppl trying to know if u r doing a fraud or not. Some ppl here just need help and I thought this web site was made just for this. Not to go against every person that talks. Lets try to hear before running our mouth on things we dont even know. Some ppl just need help and all they r doing here is searching for help. Lets try to listen to them.

Maria

[eclowjpd 0]

If you entered your marriage in good faith and you have not yet decided to divorce, then there's no problem with fraud. However, if in the interview they ask how your marriage is going, and they probably will ask this in some form, then you have a problem. Stating that things are good, I would think is unlawful. If somehow things improve before the interview, this could be your salvation.

Sorry, I have no idea about your other questions.

I have my AOS marriage interview coming up and I have some questions.

The marriage has not been good (we don't get along anymore) and I worry that I may be denied (not enough documentation, bad feeling, etc.).

If we go through with the interview and I am not approved, what happens next? Another interview? Denial? Fraud?

If they want another interview/more info and we don't show go through with it, what can happen? Denial? Fraud? Would I ever be able to reapply again whether it is with my current husband (if we work things out, etc.) or if I leave him and maybe one day marry another USC? Would I be banned/barred because I didn't go to the second interview?

Please any advice would help...it has been so hard for me lately,

Thank you very much

[Collie 122]

Well said Jen!!!

To the original poster, if your marriage was entered into in good faith, then I'm sorry that it isn't working out. The interviewer will likely be able to pick up on your relationship at the interview. Our Interviewer said we were a lovely couple and when Shannon relayed how he visited me in hospital on my death bed when we first met, she said it was obvious that we were very much in love.

Good luck to you

As for your satirical comment Dmartmar, you need to stop taking your bitterness out on other people or you may just find that a unanimous vote will be cast to throw you off these boards.

Kat

[maria_b84 0]

Well said Jen!!!

To the original poster, if your marriage was entered into in good faith, then I'm sorry that it isn't working out. The interviewer will likely be able to pick up on your relationship at the interview. Our Interviewer said we were a lovely couple and when Shannon relayed how he visited me in hospital on my death bed when we first met, she said it was obvious that we were very much in love.

Good luck to you

As for your satirical comment Dmartmar, you need to stop taking your bitterness out on other people or you may just find that a unanimous vote will be cast to throw you off these boards.

Kat

Well said Kat!!! If theres a vote, let me know. I'll be the first one casting a vote against him

Maria