interview coming...marriage probs.

[amancd 0]

I have my AOS marriage interview coming up and I have some questions.

The marriage has not been good (we don't get along anymore) and I worry that I may be denied (not enough documentation, bad feeling, etc.).

If we go through with the interview and I am not approved, what happens next? Another interview? Denial? Fraud?

If they want another interview/more info and we don't show go through with it, what can happen? Denial? Fraud? Would I ever be able to reapply again whether it is with my current husband (if we work things out, etc.) or if I leave him and maybe one day marry another USC? Would I be banned/barred because I didn't go to the second interview?

Please any advice would help...it has been so hard for me lately,

Thank you very much

[Kez/JWolf 6]

Do you think you should be continuing with the AOS process if your marriage is not good???? How can you show at interview that you are living as a real married couple if you are no longer getting along and there is bad feeling....

If you are not approved at interview you will have to return to your home country....

Kezzie

[sukie175 0]

If your partner is willing to support your AOS still, then go to the interview, give them as much evidence as you have and keep quiet about the problems. You can then remove the conditions alone in 2 years and explain then the marriage ended, but you entered into it in good faith.

I am not here to judge you, what you do is up to you, but I wish you luck either way

[dmartmar 1]

If your partner is still willing to support your AOS interview anyway, by all means go. Give them as much evidence as possible and just keep quiet about the problems. Then you can remove conditions alone in 2 years, by explaining the marriage ended back then, but you entered into it in good faith.

I am not here to judge you. What you do is up to you, but I wish you the best of luck either way.

Wow! I can't believe you actually had the guts to come here and support fraudulent marriages.

Way to go!

Edited June 8, 2006 by dmartmar

[meauxna 15]

If your partner is still willing to support your AOS interview anyway, by all means go. Give them as much evidence as possible and just keep quiet about the problems. Then you can remove conditions alone in 2 years, by explaining the marriage ended back then, but you entered into it in good faith.

I am not here to judge you. What you do is up to you, but I wish you the best of luck either way.

Wow! I can't believe you actually had the guts to come here and support fraudulent marriages.

Way to go!

d, I don't mind your devil's advocacy, but a marriage breaking down is not the same as a fraudulent marriage.

Your point will be stronger if you stay on it.

[Tuneses 0]

It is a fraudualnt marrige if they go threw with the aos, period. They are going to lie about the marriage working. I dont wanna sound mean but this is why it's so hard for people like us with good intentions to be with our loved ones. There are other means to enter the US legally. Don't ruin it for the rest of us.

[Jenn! 918]

No one's really answered the OP's question here and I'm afraid I don't know the answer.

The marriage is on the rocks, but it is not over. Why would they NOT want to go through with AOS? If they don't go to the interview because their marriage is not stable at this moment, what happens down the road if the marriage improves and now they've missed their AOS interview?

[Lorenzo 0]

This is difficult. My wife and stepson and I have constant fights but we do love each other. I attribute most of it to culture shock and expectations that were unfulfilled. I was very honest but the fact that I do not own my home makes her think I have absolutely nothing.

Many people live in apartments but to a foreign woman owning a house is a sign of success.

I see success as having my health, a decent job, a close knit family and good friends. Some immigrsnts are materialistic until they see the reality. I think it will take 2 or 3 years until they are fully comfortable here.

Edited June 8, 2006 by Lorenzo

[CanGal 1]

The marriage is on the rocks, but it is not over. Why would they NOT want to go through with AOS? If they don't go to the interview because their marriage is not stable at this moment, what happens down the road if the marriage improves and now they've missed their AOS interview?

I agree with the above. Just because they are having a rocky marriage, why does that mean they shouldn't be going through with the AOS? Just because it's rocky doesn't mean it's ending. If they both entered it with the right intentions and good will, not as fraud, then well then lol .... i don't know. But amancd, if you believe that your marriage is rocky enough that it's not going to last then maybe you want to reconsider but if this is just a rough spot you've both hit, there is no need for you both not to finish and go through with your interview. I guess the decision is essentially up to the both of you but if your really that worried about it maybe you need to sit down with your husband and have an honest conversation about where you both sit with one another and the relationship. Best of luck to you.

[Cygnet 0]

The marriage is on the rocks, but it is not over. Why would they NOT want to go through with AOS? If they don't go to the interview because their marriage is not stable at this moment, what happens down the road if the marriage improves and now they've missed their AOS interview?

I agree with the above. Just because they are having a rocky marriage, why does that mean they shouldn't be going through with the AOS? Just because it's rocky doesn't mean it's ending. If they both entered it with the right intentions and good will, not as fraud, then well then lol .... i don't know. But amancd, if you believe that your marriage is rocky enough that it's not going to last then maybe you want to reconsider but if this is just a rough spot you've both hit, there is no need for you both not to finish and go through with your interview. I guess the decision is essentially up to the both of you but if your really that worried about it maybe you need to sit down with your husband and have an honest conversation about where you both sit with one another and the relationship. Best of luck to you.

I agree

[brownnskinn 0]

If your partner is still willing to support your AOS interview anyway, by all means go. Give them as much evidence as possible and just keep quiet about the problems. Then you can remove conditions alone in 2 years, by explaining the marriage ended back then, but you entered into it in good faith.

I am not here to judge you. What you do is up to you, but I wish you the best of luck either way.

Wow! I can't believe you actually had the guts to come here and support fraudulent marriages.

Way to go!

d, I don't mind your devil's advocacy, but a marriage breaking down is not the same as a fraudulent marriage.

Your point will be stronger if you stay on it.

Laaaawd Agreed....

[meauxna 15]

It is a fraudualnt marrige if they go threw with the aos, period. They are going to lie about the marriage working. I dont wanna sound mean but this is why it's so hard for people like us with good intentions to be with our loved ones. There are other means to enter the US legally. Don't ruin it for the rest of us.

OK, I'll play devil's advocate for a minute...

Marriages/relationships go in phases. Have you ever heard of reconcilliation? There was a breakup post on here not long ago that was resolved inside of two hours.

Marriages/relationships also come in lot of different flavors. Your idea of a 'real marriage' may be different from mine & both of them might be different than what the law defines as 'real'.

None of 'this' makes it harder for you or anyone else here, immigration-wise.

I don't see where this OP suggests anything fraudulent.

Oops: in my delay to post I see others said the same thing. Good to know I'm not crazy!

Edited June 8, 2006 by meauxna

[brownnskinn 0]

The marriage is on the rocks, but it is not over. Why would they NOT want to go through with AOS? If they don't go to the interview because their marriage is not stable at this moment, what happens down the road if the marriage improves and now they've missed their AOS interview?

I agree with the above. Just because they are having a rocky marriage, why does that mean they shouldn't be going through with the AOS? Just because it's rocky doesn't mean it's ending. If they both entered it with the right intentions and good will, not as fraud, then well then lol .... i don't know. But amancd, if you believe that your marriage is rocky enough that it's not going to last then maybe you want to reconsider but if this is just a rough spot you've both hit, there is no need for you both not to finish and go through with your interview. I guess the decision is essentially up to the both of you but if your really that worried about it maybe you need to sit down with your husband and have an honest conversation about where you both sit with one another and the relationship. Best of luck to you.

Ditto

[selfie 0]

I would say, just speak the truth and go to the interview, and see what they will conclude, that is your best option.

[Not Available 0]

The marriage is on the rocks, but it is not over. Why would they NOT want to go through with AOS? If they don't go to the interview because their marriage is not stable at this moment, what happens down the road if the marriage improves and now they've missed their AOS interview?

I agree with the above. Just because they are having a rocky marriage, why does that mean they shouldn't be going through with the AOS? Just because it's rocky doesn't mean it's ending. If they both entered it with the right intentions and good will, not as fraud, then well then lol .... i don't know. But amancd, if you believe that your marriage is rocky enough that it's not going to last then maybe you want to reconsider but if this is just a rough spot you've both hit, there is no need for you both not to finish and go through with your interview. I guess the decision is essentially up to the both of you but if your really that worried about it maybe you need to sit down with your husband and have an honest conversation about where you both sit with one another and the relationship. Best of luck to you.

Agreed