My Experience in the States

[LovinLiberia 0]

I answer to posts as I see fit and that is my choice and really nobody else's business but the one I am in a discussion with.

That's all fine and dandy, but is it really worth it to argue back and forth (over and over and over) with a stranger over the internet? I know you disagree, but what's wrong with putting that particular person on ignore if you know that they always irritate you? Yes, you get the chance to defend your position and state your opinions, but if the person is never going to stop, then what are you gaining from it in the end? All it ever leads to is divisiveness and hurt/offended feelings. Nothing is accomplished and you both have your original viewpoints by the time it's all over. You're right when you say it's your business, but you can't constantly argue in an open forum and not expect the other readers to have feelings, words, or opinions about it.

[Ta Ta 1]

Thank you for your opinion. Some day it may be you whose button gets pushed and you can be the shining example of how you would chose to handle it.

I chose not to run from bullies but stand my ground.

Some day maybe God will allow me to turn the other cheek and turn my cheek for another slap. I have not reached that point yet.

I mean no offense to anyone but as I said I would like to voice my opinion just as much as the next person. People may have all the feelings, words and opinions they would like to have about the OP but does it have to turn into such accusations ? Does he have to become the latest laughing stock ? The assumption and insult to the OP about his abuse is typical here and I am voicing my disappointment over beating down an already hurt immigrant.

Until valid facts are given, the harsh speculation is bullying. I chose to defend that perspective even if I stand alone to do so.

[LovinLiberia 0]

Thank you for your opinion. Some day it may be you whose button gets pushed and you can be the shining example of how you would chose to handle it.

I chose not to run from bullies but stand my ground.

Some day maybe God will allow me to turn the other cheek and turn my cheek for another slap. I have not reached that point yet.

I mean no offense to anyone but as I said I would like to voice my opinion just as much as the next person. People may have all the feelings, words and opinions they would like to have about the OP but does it have to turn into such accusations ? Does he have to become the latest laughing stock ? The assumption and insult to the OP about his abuse is typical here and I am voicing my disappointment over beating down an already hurt immigrant.

Until valid facts are given, the harsh speculation is bullying. I chose to defend that perspective even if I stand alone to do so.

You don't have to thank me for my entitled opinion. Some days people have pushed my buttons and I chose to handle it in the way that I saw fit. Call it "choosing not to run from bullies"...again, that's your business. You said "I answer to posts as I see fit and that is my choice and really nobody else's business but the one I am in a discussion with" and with that said, I think you and I are done discussing this. My original post in this thread was between "Seasons" and I and according to you, you and I shouldn't be having this discussion since my opinion was MY BUSINESS. Have a wonderful night.

Edited December 30, 2008 by LovinLiberia

[Ta Ta 1]

I answer to posts as I see fit and that is my choice and really nobody else's business but the one I am in a discussion with.

That's all fine and dandy, but is it really worth it to argue back and forth (over and over and over) with a stranger over the internet? I know you disagree, but what's wrong with putting that particular person on ignore if you know that they always irritate you? Yes, you get the chance to defend your position and state your opinions, but if the person is never going to stop, then what are you gaining from it in the end? All it ever leads to is divisiveness and hurt/offended feelings. Nothing is accomplished and you both have your original viewpoints by the time it's all over. You're right when you say it's your business, but you can't constantly argue in an open forum and not expect the other readers to have feelings, words, or opinions about it.

Thank you for your opinion. Some day it may be you whose button gets pushed and you can be the shining example of how you would chose to handle it.

I chose not to run from bullies but stand my ground.

Some day maybe God will allow me to turn the other cheek and turn my cheek for another slap. I have not reached that point yet.

I mean no offense to anyone but as I said I would like to voice my opinion just as much as the next person. People may have all the feelings, words and opinions they would like to have about the OP but does it have to turn into such accusations ? Does he have to become the latest laughing stock ? The assumption and insult to the OP about his abuse is typical here and I am voicing my disappointment over beating down an already hurt immigrant.

Until valid facts are given, the harsh speculation is bullying. I chose to defend that perspective even if I stand alone to do so.

You don't have to thank me for my entitled opinion. Some days people have pushed my buttons and I chose to handle it in the way that I saw fit. Call it "choosing not to run from bullies"...again, that's your business. You said "I answer to posts as I see fit and that is my choice and really nobody else's business but the one I am in a discussion with" and with that said, I think you and I are done discussing this. My original post in this thread was between "Seasons" and I and according to you, you and I shouldn't be having this discussion since my opinion was MY BUSINESS. Have a wonderful night.

You called me out and asked me a question and I answered it. If you did not want my response then maybe you should not have asked me.

You have a good night as well.

[LovinLiberia 0]

I answer to posts as I see fit and that is my choice and really nobody else's business but the one I am in a discussion with. Just as it is your choice not to respond when your buttons are pushed. It's really a dead issue by now.

I was referring to this post where which is where you decided to jump in without being called out by anyone. Again, I'm done.

[forchika 4]

Hope you all are able to resolve your issues(Omoba and LovinLiberia).

[LovinLiberia 0]

Thanks Forchika. I think this particular issue has been resolved.

[chispas 0]

Hello All,

As the days go by, I ask where has Boye gone? Boye, if you still have an account here on VJ, It'll help to post your timeline.

Thanks,

Chispas

[Enlighten one :) 5]

MrsJibowu, I'm glad you opened your eyes and decided to take another look at the story. I was about to PM you because I was concerned when I saw you invite him (a stranger) to your home for dinner. It's okay to offer help to someone in need, but you gotta be careful with how much help you offer, woman.

Thank you for your concern. I typed my first post from my heart with out any thought to consequences or what anyone might find wrong with my post. I get carried away on this site at time and forget that there is someone out there that is just waiting for you to write something they can find so sad and pathetic yet said nothing about my initial generosity.

My husband was rubbing of on me. How welcoming everyone is in his country, which makes me also understand what a predicament this poster could possibly be in if his post were true or with good intention. My husband is my true inspiration!

[seasons 0]

....Some people spend way too much time on this site. It's one thing to come here to get information and post a kind word of encouragement, respond to an OP's question, or tell of a personal experience...But to be accusing and/or defending people you don't even know in a friendly public forum is perpetuating drama. If someone wants help, they will ask..if you don't believe them...don't respond. If you want to offer help..PM them. If you can't take the heat..get out of the kitchen!