Help I am in dilemma!!

[Island1902 0]

Hi,

I am new to this group, I am actually in dilemma whether this is the right time for me to move to the states looking at the economy condition. We have just got approved last week for I130 as per our time line here.

Now my worry is my husband who is USC has been laid off last June and has been working part time at the management office at the apartment complex that he is staying. Right now I have been helping him every month on supporting him giving about 2K a month. My husband does not has a degree but has been in security industry for a while and the highest payment e got was 19 per hour which was not included overtime.

I am currently making good money here in Bermuda, with less tax . I am working in financial services. Right now I am living very frugal on helping to supporting both of us.

My husband is trying to get into x ray tech school in Community College but the waiting list is very long.

I have 3 years working international and I think if the economy is good I should have any problem getting job but right now infact early this year I was offere for a job by co in states but they said that once I have the paperwork I can proceed however I think its the best to stay with my current company at least if I get laid off I can still get the compensation package.

One good thing alternatively I can try to ask for transfer to NY my office branch but we both really don’t like staying there, but I have some connection that can help me to contact the HR there.

We do not have any saving much and luckily we do not have any debt as we try to pay our bill as much as we can.

Now my question is,

Should I move to states as I am afraid if I will not get a job.

If we decided to proceed with NVC I know that we need co sponsor for us, he filed his Tax for 2007 and since we have not file 2008 tax we don’t have to worry about that.

We both always fight, sometimes its hard because of the academic background that we have. Everytime we brought this issue we will end up fighting. All I am trying to do is to think and deal with this but he seems trying to think that I am moving here is still the best withought giving and support reason on why.

I would appreciate for any comment as we always fight about this as he is always think all I think is about money but the truth is I am afraid if I cant handle being unemployed and I will be depress.

[YuAndDan 153]

This is not a citizenship discussion, moving it to IR-1/CR-1 forum.

[Island1902 0]

This is not a citizenship discussion, moving it to IR-1/CR-1 forum.

Here is my time line

3/17/08- send I130 to VSC

11/13/08 case transferred to CSC

12/11/08 case approved

[Waldo 0]

My wife and I were considering me moving to Peru as well because of the economy. I think both should consider the option of moving. If you move here will one income be enough? if he moves there will one income be enough. The other thing to consider is the economy is not doing well right now but if you follow the trend it will go back... eventually. How long it takes is up in the air. Gas prices have come down from $4 to $1.40/ gallon if that's a precursor to what has driven the economy up then maybe it's just enough to help it out.

My wife and I decided that my job with the airlines was stable enough (yes I know) for her to come up here. Our expendable money will go a lot further in other countries where we plan to make investments buying property.

[Jonah VD 0]

I feel for you. I am also worried about my husband. I currently have a job and i am petitioning my husband but i am scared that he will not be able to find a job right away with this economy. He has a very nice job back in the Philippines, a job that he really loves. He had earned a lot of experiences in his field and yet he is willing to sacrifice it for me and our son. I know that he will be so depress if he wont be able to find a job here and I know that it is something that he can not handle because he's responsible and a real provider.

But eventhough i have this fears, i also believe that we should be together. We will find a way to cope-up with this economy.

I told him that he can look for a job in any state, and i am willing to sacrifice my current job for him. Since i've been here in the US before him, i'll adjust.

Have faith ms. island1902, men just wanted to be men. They wanted to be the provider and they wanted to be trusted. He may be intimidated with your status and the laid-off is depressing for him too. Just go for the best option.

Me and my husband always argue about those stuff too (economy, job, etc. ) but come on like they always say to married couples "for better or for worst". He's only reason maybe is he wanted to be with you.

In a lighter note...you had good education, job experience and some job offers, so why fear of not finding a job? You will be fine, i mean we will be fine. There's a solutions to every problem. I dont have it though but just so you know we can get through this. Let's stay positive.

SMILE

[Waldo 0]

Sorry I just wanted to say I know a lot of "Professions" don't transfer well. A Dr in the Philippines will not be able to just be a Dr here. Many jobs like that aren't. Just a thing to consider but I think Jonah has a very good point and it's what I tell my wife. No matter how bad of a mistake in this, it's better then being apart!

I feel for you. I am also worried about my husband. I currently have a job and i am petitioning my husband but i am scared that he will not be able to find a job right away with this economy. He has a very nice job back in the Philippines, a job that he really loves. He had earned a lot of experiences in his field and yet he is willing to sacrifice it for me and our son. I know that he will be so depress if he wont be able to find a job here and I know that it is something that he can not handle because he's responsible and a real provider.

But eventhough i have this fears, i also believe that we should be together. We will find a way to cope-up with this economy.

I told him that he can look for a job in any state, and i am willing to sacrifice my current job for him. Since i've been here in the US before him, i'll adjust.

Have faith ms. island1902, men just wanted to be men. They wanted to be the provider and they wanted to be trusted. He may be intimidated with your status and the laid-off is depressing for him too. Just go for the best option.

Me and my husband always argue about those stuff too (economy, job, etc. ) but come on like they always say to married couples "for better or for worst". He's only reason maybe is he wanted to be with you.

In a lighter note...you had good education, job experience and some job offers, so why fear of not finding a job? You will be fine, i mean we will be fine. There's a solutions to every problem. I dont have it though but just so you know we can get through this. Let's stay positive.

SMILE

[WaitingforRakesh 0]

I wouldn't worry about it right now. You would still have more employment opportunities in the US if you decide to find a different job. Have Faith!

[Island1902 0]

First of all thanks for all the reply. I truly appreciate all the response. I understand about his need of being together and yes I agree that in marriage we have to sacrifice and for better and worst.

So let me ask let say I have job offer for 50K just my self and he is not earning any would it be enough? It will be tough on me too actually because currently I am making above 75K with only 4.5% tax here its just hard to let that go and go for the uncertainty situation

He keep saying that I will be fine and there will be jobs for me and give me positive outlook I truly appreciate that however looking at the news everyday on liid off on financial services co really is a fact for me to digest on this decision amking process.

I believe in savings for every paycheck that i have. If i work and I dont save I will feel depress and insecure.

I am thinking for the best of us.

Maybe I will just start finding a job hoping for the best..

Again thanks for all the support!!

[Jonah VD 0]

Like you said you dont owe anything, then 50K is sufficient for both of you. I am sure he will do his best to find a job.

Dont worry.

[Island1902 0]

Like you said you dont owe anything, then 50K is sufficient for both of you. I am sure he will do his best to find a job.

Dont worry.

Thanks Jonah! I will try my best to go through this...thanks!! I wish you all the best too!!!