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[prince+angel 3]

Hi everyone! I hope all had a nice weekend.

We didnt have power this weekend due to ice storm hitting the Northeast pretty hard. Spent some of the weekend waiting for what we thought was routine surgery turn into an immediate Hospice admission for my Aunt. Shocking and very unexpectedly.

I did have a chance to read some posts this past weekend in between laughs, hugs and cries with family & friends. In particular, I found a thread from this weekend in MENA - wish I could remember which one it was - cause it was so very sweet & kind as each of you reached out to eachother about the challenges you face or have faced with loved ones.

Given my families present situation & devastating news, coupled with it being this time of year - it got me thinking, not that anyone of us is ever prepared for such news, I wanna tell you all please be sure you have your house in order. When I say your house I dont mean your physical home. I'm talking about your relationships with spouses, children, moms, dad, sisters, brothers, friends and so on because its those relationships that are truly what home is.

Take the extra time to gaze in your the love of your lifes eyes, hold ur child a little tighter when they babble on & on about their day at school, go see that friend you keep promising to make time for, make ammends with family members who seem to never to do the right thing and above all check in with yourself & your God everyday to be sure if today were your day to go - your home is secure.

I dont want to dampen anyones mood nor am I looking for sympathy. Just sharing how "shoulda, coulda, woulda's" could lead to painful reflection when time is running out.

Once last thing, send those "Just Because" flowers while they are with us to see them ~ dont wait til the end is near or here, enjoy them together now.

[Nagishkaw 510]

Nice post!

[amal 4]

Very true, Very true. I wish everybody could add those few rules to their lives. I'm sorry for what has happened in your family. I hope that whatever path is chosen for your loved one, that it be a smooth transition. In the meantime, I'm here if you need a shoulder.

amal

[sara535 15]

I totally agree with what you wrote and what a nice post . I too am sorry for your family's unexpected tragedy, I'll be thinking of you in the coming weeks.

To add to what you said, in a purely practical vein, if you can at all afford it, everyone should try to have life insurance. My mom died of cancer 6 years ago (quickly and without a long struggle THANKS GOD) without any life insuance and my sister and I are still paying off bills and taxes here and there. My sister had to take a second mortgage out on her house at the time. Bills and debts do not just disappear when someone dies and its been really hard on us to deal with it on top of just dealing with the death of our mother. Life insurance is one of those things that I think a lot of people always plan or intend to take care of but often dont.

[HLM 1]

Im so sorry for the hard time u n ur family r going thru! Im here for u anytime!! i know exactly what u mean even tho i never experienced it first hand but i have seen so many ppl regret the wasted time gone over anger or hate to someone they know after they get the news of their death!

[prince+angel 3]

Thank you all for such kind replies and thoughts

They help more than you can know ... Angel

[Sandrila 1]

Nice advice Angel

You have inspired me

This is for you, I know it has been a long journey

[Aymsgirl 0]

Angel,

Thank you for your post. I was thinking the same thing this morning in an email to my husband. How we need to stop the stupidity and live life, hug our kids more, tell each other we love each other more and hold what is precious to us close.

Whatever you are going through I pray the best for you and your loved ones. Take care and thanks again.