Difficult being married. Not adjusting well.

[bahia 0]

Yea, I have a similar problem. Me and the wife had been married for 2 years and we visit her family every winter in Brazil. She gets her 10 year green card and shortly after she decides she going to stay in Brazil and raise our 2 1/2 year old son. and tells me I can either move here to her town or go home alone. I file a Hauge Convention application for the return of our son and we have a hearing six weeks latter and its just a bunch of bullshit, stall tactics etc. So I get a Ex -Parte order giving me sole custody from my local court house and during a visit with our son, I return for the United States. Mean while after I leave, her local court house gives her a competing custody order, Well this causes big problems and I now have Kidnapping charges in Brazil. After going thru 6 different countries and 25 days on the lam to return back to the U.S. All I can say is, if either a husband or wife suspects or knows they have a troubled marriage don't travel abroad with your kids. Save yourself a lot of grief, make sure your marriage is intact or you could very well lose everything including your sanity.

[babybunny 2]

ohhhhhh dayumm..

I am soo sorry.. ((((((( hugggggggggg))))))))))))))

I dont know what to say but, my heartbreaks for you.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I'm very sorry to read about your situation. It sounds as if the trust has left the relationship and once that is gone, I'm not sure what can be done to recover it.

Good luck to you.

I agree with Tracy. Unless you and your wife were both willing to go through some intense marriage counseling, I don't see how the marriage can work. Also, without the support of her family (mother) towards this marriage, that only adds to the strain. How well did you get along with her mom when she was staying with you two? How does her family feel about you? The marriage? Family bonds are stronger than anything, especially in latino familes. I have a brother who just went through a divorce - his wife is from Equador. He was never fully accepted by his mother-in-law and that was always a strain in their marriage. I'm sorry for you and especially for the children.

[Ban Hammer 13,469]

Yea, I have a similar problem. Me and the wife had been married for 2 years and we visit her family every winter in Brazil. She gets her 10 year green card and shortly after she decides she going to stay in Brazil and raise our 2 1/2 year old son. and tells me I can either move here to her town or go home alone. I file a Hauge Convention application for the return of our son and we have a hearing six weeks latter and its just a bunch of bullshit, stall tactics etc. So I get a Ex -Parte order giving me sole custody from my local court house and during a visit with our son, I return for the United States. Mean while after I leave, her local court house gives her a competing custody order, Well this causes big problems and I now have Kidnapping charges in Brazil. After going thru 6 different countries and 25 days on the lam to return back to the U.S. All I can say is, if either a husband or wife suspects or knows they have a troubled marriage don't travel abroad with your kids. Save yourself a lot of grief, make sure your marriage is intact or you could very well lose everything including your sanity.

i find it most interesting that you have been a member of vj for about 9 months and have no timeline, no photos, and have posted only this message in that time.........