Tragic Marriage Proposal

[DARUMA07 25]

I think this was a very unfortunate accident. I don't even suspect the Fiance' at all. He was trying to be Romantic and to give his girl something special for her to remember. From what I saw on Fox News, the man was fighting back his tears and emotions.

We all react and take Death differently. There is no guidelines on how to deal with death. When all this soaks in with him, the real emotions will come out. I have lost 2 wives to cancer and there was no set way on how I was going to react to their deaths. People mourn in the way that is comfortable to them.

I really feel for the Filipina and her family in the Philippines, but I also feel for the Fiance'. His dreams are shattered too. Lets not forget that!!!!

[njaxfl 0]

My husband was reading news from Yahoo tonight while I was preparing dinner. It was about a woman swept to the sea during a proposal in Oregon. The most shocking to us is that the woman is a Filipina and just arrived from the Philippines carrying K1 visa. Read the news on this link:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20081204/ap_on_.../proposal_death

Life is a big joke...lets pray for her soul to be in peace!

[vichygurl 1]

This is sad. I just couldn't believe this is real but oh yeah..I hope they could find her body.

I think a lesson learned! There are lots of places to propose in a romantic way definitely not in a notorious dangerous sea shore.

Praying for her soul.

Vida Taylor

Edited December 6, 2008 by blukiss24

[yankee 0]

I think this was a very unfortunate accident. I don't even suspect the Fiance' at all. He was trying to be Romantic and to give his girl something special for her to remember. From what I saw on Fox News, the man was fighting back his tears and emotions.

We all react and take Death differently. There is no guidelines on how to deal with death. When all this soaks in with him, the real emotions will come out. I have lost 2 wives to cancer and there was no set way on how I was going to react to their deaths. People mourn in the way that is comfortable to them.

I really feel for the Filipina and her family in the Philippines, but I also feel for the Fiance'. His dreams are shattered too. Lets not forget that!!!!

I second the motion on this!!! We just pray for these people for their lost. I guess the guy wants to do something unique as what other people do to thier loveones to make it special but it wasn't his control that things gonna happen. people might say he is stupid but sometimes we do stupidity in the name of Love.

let's include this family on our prayers and may god give them stregnth to handle this trial esp the mom in the Phils.

[Passing.star 0]

I just copy this link. yes I feel sorry for both of them and I wish that her body will be found so to give closure to her family.

[pinktulips2012 1]

I just checked the news again and this time there is a video news about the story (I think some have already seen this video). The fiance is interviewed and there's a picture of the Pinay fiancee. They were supposed to marry tomorrow (December 6). This is truly a very sad story.

http://cosmos.bcst.yahoo.com/up/player/pop...36&src=news

I wonder if someone from VJ knows this girl.

so sad kawawa naman.

[rheanick 42]

My husband was reading news from Yahoo tonight while I was preparing dinner. It was about a woman swept to the sea during a proposal in Oregon. The most shocking to us is that the woman is a Filipina and just arrived from the Philippines carrying K1 visa. Read the news on this link:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20081204/ap_on_.../proposal_death

I pray for strength for her family and fiance. I pray for a miracle that she survived, found and rescued.

[sunandmoon 450]

a very tragic event. so sad for her fiance and her family in the Philippines. hopefully her body will be found so can be returned to her family in the Philippines. there's a little more detail in this news story.

SALEM, Ore. – Scott Napper had scouted out Proposal Rock before and knew just the right spot on the Neskowin Beach landmark to ask Leafil Alforque to marry him.

But on Saturday the Silverton man found himself running out of time to pop the question.

The 45-year-old man and 22-year-old woman were technically already engaged since he had to fill out the government paperwork allowing her to travel to Oregon last Wednesday from her home in the Philippines.

In fact, they had already set their wedding date for Dec. 6 – the two-year anniversary of when they met online.

But Napper wanted to make a real proposal. And so he found himself Saturday on the beach in an area of the coast between Lincoln City and Tillamook guiding her toward Proposal Rock, where he hoped to take her to a secluded spot overlooking the ocean.

Napper said he had been watching the tide and waiting for the right time to approach the landmark. And as they neared, the water started rushing over their ankles. But suddenly, within 15 feet of the rock, a sneaker wave of more than 2 feet hit them, he said.

Gone in a flash

He spread his legs for balance and leaned into the force of the wave. Seconds later, he turned and saw the 4 foot 11 inch woman reaching out for him. She didn't yell or scream, but her mouth was open.

She was already 25 to 30 feet away.

"I just couldn't get to her," he said. "She was just gone in a flash."

By the time he peeled off his coat, which was weighing him down, he could no longer see her.

As he called her name, the surf got rougher. Another man tried in vain to help in the search. Napper found one of her shoes.

He kept searching. Eventually, he was told to come back. His heart jumped when he saw a woman in a red coat on the beach, thinking it was his Leafil. But as he got closer, he realized it was just a stranger.

A few minutes after he came back to shore, someone spotted her other shoe.

"There was just nothing anybody could do," Napper said.

Rough seas hinder rescue

There were 20-foot seas that afternoon and no visibility due to fog. The Coast Guard was unable to respond from its Depoe Bay station due to the dangerous water, and a Coast Guard helicopter crew from Astoria had to turn back after repeatedly being struck by birds.

A second helicopter crew finally reached the area but had to turn back after 15 minutes due to the rough weather.

They found no sign of her.

Napper said authorities told him the water was 53 degrees that day; no one could survive those conditions for long.

And so, eventually, he had to come back to his empty Silverton home without her.

When he called her family, they thought the couple was pulling a joke on them at first.

"I wish to God it was a joke," Napper said.

Memories of her

He anguished over whether to return the cream-colored strapless wedding dress he had bought for her at Macy's the day before she disappeared. No one – not even him – got to see her in it.

"I knew if I just left it in the closet, it would be there forever, and I would just be living it forever," Napper said.

Napper, a professional trumpet player and substitute teacher, soon told more and more friends about his heartache.

Each time he talked about her, it got a little easier.

She was romantic and kind and wanted her own children like he did. In the Philippines, she cooked and cleaned and kept things running in the household, which included three boys and three girls, Napper said. She worked for hours at a time to help the youngest eat; the 3-year-old girl suffers from epilepsy, he said.

"She was so selfless," Napper said.

A 21st century courtship

They met on an online dating Web site – www.person.com – on Dec. 5, 2006 – (it was Dec. 6 in her timezone.)

They corresponded for 13 months before he went to visit her in January 2008 for three weeks. He tried to get her into the U.S. on a travel visa but that was rejected. And so he went ahead and started a fiancee visa, he said, which took much of this year to get processed.

In the meantime, Leafil told him she couldn't live without him and called herself Mrs. Napper.

"She kept one of my shirts and wore that thing to bed every night for months because it had my scent on it," he said.

Neither had been married before. She wanted to tie the knot before Christmas, so he figured they should do it on their anniversary. He planned a small ceremony at Silver Falls State Park by the North Falls.

Gone but not forgotten

Leafil was only in the U.S. for four days before she was swept out to sea. Tillamook County Sheriff Todd Anderson said Wednesday she is presumed drowned.

"The hardest thing for me right now is the fact that she's out there right now," Napper said.

He is hoping her remains are recovered. Authorities give him no assurances that will happen.

In the meantime, Napper has tried to move on, keeping his appointments and commitments and caring for his aging mother who lives in Salem and suffers from Parkinson's.

But the grief still weighs heavily on him.

This Saturday he plans to head to Silver Falls State Park alone. He'll stand in the very spot where they were supposed to get married. And he'll think of her.

"I might even put my ring on," Napper said.

http://www.katu.com/news/35519369.html

[o0pink0o 3]

my husband and i got sad after reading this news . sana makita na ang body nung girl.

[jonmhei 0]

i felt sorry for him and her family... sobrng naiyak tlga ako

[nunyab 0]

When i saw this i instantly thought of all of us here on VJ.... I am happy they did get to be together even if it was too short.

[Giskat09 2]

gosh, thats how big the wave is?? we are near in Oregon.. i wont walk there!!

[nbfsb 1]

[belovedbyme 0]

I am so sad hearing this news. I hope her body will be found. It made me cry. My prayers to the family.

[marea 0]

New video http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=T95A5ToGNn0&...feature=related