mena men and smoking

[brnidokiegurl 0]

tell him u will quit when he does

[notime4haterz 0]

I've been told by many people (not just my husband) that women who smoke are looked at like they are sluts. Do Arab women smoke? Uh, heck yeah! But they all hide it. But yeah, you're in America and it's not like people are gonna think you're a ####### if you smoke here, LOL so hopefully he'll chill out and not give you such a hard time about it...maybe try telling him that in the US it's not considered bad, ill mannered, or devious for women to smoke (more than it is for men, that is).

[S and S 12]

My husband doesn't like me smoking either. He keeps asking me to quit (though he chain smokes). I have cut back and hope to quit once he is here and settled in. My problem is I enjoy it so much that its hard. Both my parents smoked too. My mother smoked during her pregnancy with me and my brother. We were both born on time and weighed 7 and 8 pounds. I always wonder about those statistics as I meet more mothers who did everything right and had problems than the smoking mothers. Regardless, I think it is still better to quit for pregnancy. I was told I cried all the time after I was born for weeks and I suspect it could have been nicotine withrdraws though I'm not sure how you prove that. Probably why I started smoking so young and have such a difficult time with quiting. I don't want that for my children. For now, I don't allow smoking in the house and I'm down to half as many cigerettes a day as I used to smoke for years. At least I'm seeing progress.

[nunyab 0]

I was told the same thing only hookers smoke What ever!!! so my husband's smoking place is outside i have a little area already made for him... problem is it's getting reeeeeeaaallly cold out. he better decide to stop or he'll have to get used to very chilly weather really quick

[brnidokiegurl 0]

exactly we had the same talk about the (porch) or yard where he can smoke (but of course he is going to quit) right, and it is veryyyyyyyyyyy cold and windy here so i told him hope you are slowing now in practice to quit (again yea right)

[chaishai 1]

I think this thread is funny because everyone wants to tell her to fight for her rights and equality etc but noone wants to tell her to smoke!

[S and S 12]

I think this thread is funny because everyone wants to tell her to fight for her rights and equality etc but noone wants to tell her to smoke!

I'm a smoker so I never tell anyone to quit. I know how much it can calm you down and relax you. I like smoking so for me the only reason I would actually quit is for my future children. Otherwise, I donate to cancer research each year to invest in good cures and treatments. I am sure many people do something on here that isn't good for them and could one day kill them or get them really sick, but we each have to make those choices.

[doodlebugg 10]

It definitely calms me down and chills me right out BUT I just wish it wasn't so bad for you. There's got to be a substitute. I have smoked off and on since I was 16 starting in the girl's bathroom in high school. The last time I quit was in 2002 so it's been a good 6 years for me without even one cigarette. I think that's the longest stretch I've had so far. The other time was when I was married to my ex. I picked up smoking the day he told me he was leaving. I used to take wellbutrin and that totally made me stop because it made the cigarettes taste yucky but I've been off of that for a while now.

Smoking is bad but it's just funny to me how that's the ONLY thing he's really all double-standardish about, you know? Everything else he's very openminded about so it struck me as unusual.

[S and S 12]

It definitely calms me down and chills me right out BUT I just wish it wasn't so bad for you. There's got to be a substitute. I have smoked off and on since I was 16 starting in the girl's bathroom in high school. The last time I quit was in 2002 so it's been a good 6 years for me without even one cigarette. I think that's the longest stretch I've had so far. The other time was when I was married to my ex. I picked up smoking the day he told me he was leaving. I used to take wellbutrin and that totally made me stop because it made the cigarettes taste yucky but I've been off of that for a while now.

Smoking is bad but it's just funny to me how that's the ONLY thing he's really all double-standardish about, you know? Everything else he's very openminded about so it struck me as unusual.

You do way better than me. I think I managed to quit once for six months, but that was like 10 years ago. I'm so addicted, but I didn't smoke around my in-laws for the few days I was there. In fact I didn't smoke at all and I had the worst withdraws. As soon as I was at the Amman airport and behind security I bought the cheap cigerettes from duty free and began to smoke again. It is horrible and I agree the smell is not pleasant. I just enjoy it too much.

No idea why your husband feels that way with only smoking. Men are strange creatures Just look at Charles!

[nunyab 0]

exactly we had the same talk about the (porch) or yard where he can smoke (but of course he is going to quit) right, and it is veryyyyyyyyyyy cold and windy here so i told him hope you are slowing now in practice to quit (again yea right)

lol.. i said the same thing

to each is there own if she wants to smoke that's her choice i am not going to tell her one way or another

[doodlebugg 10]

I was told the same thing only hookers smoke What ever!!! so my husband's smoking place is outside i have a little area already made for him... problem is it's getting reeeeeeaaallly cold out. he better decide to stop or he'll have to get used to very chilly weather really quick

exactly we had the same talk about the (porch) or yard where he can smoke (but of course he is going to quit) right, and it is veryyyyyyyyyyy cold and windy here so i told him hope you are slowing now in practice to quit (again yea right)

I will comment on this because I think it's kind of important to the whole transition phase. If you have a room in a basement or attic that has ventilation I would highly suggest cozying it up with a chair/radio and calling that his smoking room for the winter. I understand the need to keep the smoke out of the house but think of it this way for a second:

You have lived in a country that has a very very different culture than the one your fiance/wife lives in and you are uprooting everything you've ever known to be with him/her. You are scared because of many things....fear of being discriminated against in every aspect of your life because of where you're from, fear that everyone speaks English and yours isn't THAT great to begin with, fear of unknown, fear of being cold, etc. You suffer through the visa process which is a total ego downer if you're being extra scrutinized because your name happens to trigger off many alerts, you get on that plane saying goodbye to your family no knowing when you'll have enough $$ to see them again and set on your way to a looong flight to see your wife. She greets you and it's emotional and wonderful and then, when you get home you're told to go out on the porch and freeze for the first time in your life if you want to smoke....and you NEED that cigarette because you're in super stress mode. I think I'd be ok for the first week or so since euphoria and that pink cloud is making it all ok but after that I'd be a little ticked off, you know? I would suggest not pushing the issue for the first year. This is a HUGE life change and he is going to need to focus on a lot of other things and he really doesn't need added stress at this time of his life.

That's just my two cents.

[caybee 21]

I think this thread is funny because everyone wants to tell her to fight for her rights and equality etc but noone wants to tell her to smoke!

I'm a smoker so I never tell anyone to quit. I know how much it can calm you down and relax you. I like smoking so for me the only reason I would actually quit is for my future children. Otherwise, I donate to cancer research each year to invest in good cures and treatments. I am sure many people do something on here that isn't good for them and could one day kill them or get them really sick, but we each have to make those choices.

This is a good point. As long as I'm overweight, I don't really have room to talk. So to speak.

[morocco4ever 63]

I am sure many people do something on here that isn't good for them and could one day kill them or get them really sick, but we each have to make those choices.

I drive to work everyday, that should qualify.

[sweet_peach 0]

Arbic men are not the only ones like this. I use to work in an office that handled transactions with Korea. Once I had to go there and men there had the same outlook as your husband when it comes to women and smokeing.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

actually ahmed was the one that said he needed to quit for his health of course that is really up to him i would tolerate it in the house just not the bedroom, dont want to sleep under that air and he is the first one to ask about going into the yard or the porch (but he has no idea how cold it can be here) ha its really strange his brothers neither one smoke and he wont smoke in front of his parents he tells me what a bad habit it is