Nervous About NVC Process

[Amor1 0]

Yesterday, my husband called the embassy (or that #) and was told that his packet has been sent (acc to rep there--two weeks ago), so he's encouraged even though it's not in his hands yet. I guess we shared that up until now--OPTIMISM. Unlike him, I'm still nervous about everything--like I'll make a mistake on a form or put down a wrong number. It's a humbling process. One day you think that reading and completing a form is easy; the next it's the most daunting, time-consuming thing you can imagine.

I try to stay upbeat with my husband b/c I don't want him to worry about me. Thanksgiving was difficult, but I didn't want to cry while listening to his voice. Even though I cooked for our family and tried to be strong (The kids do deserve a happy vacation & a small break from school.), I did everything late (didn't finish cooking until Thurs @ 4:00 pm). Plus, I got sick with a cold two days b/f and sniffled through my holiday weekend and break away from work. Of course, my husband knew; he could hear it all in my voice each day. "Are you sick? May be you're working too hard. Take care of yourself." I could hear his worried tone. My trying to appear "just fine" wasn't working.

It was the stress of the process, I believe, that really took my energy. I'm thankful that we're at this stage, but I just don't know how to stop obssessing over every little detail. In fact, I'm reading info online about each part, just to make sure that nothing's missing.

Shouldn't the NVC stage be the calm one, the soothing period? With friendly personal emails from vjers, I'm adjusting to and stepping gently through, but my best face now is still . Thanks for letting me share.

--Amor1

[andreea 0]

I think the best think to do is look at the full half of the glass. U r out of USCIS, where the real waiting was. waiting is stressfull, makes u go through different emotions, from having faith one day to being completely hopless the next one and so on. once u get at NVC, r family is very close to the day of being reunited. if u know u and yr husband are doing this in good will, u have been together through all this process, u must have faith everything will go just fine. keep going forward with faith, and dont think of the bumps in the road, those r only lil shakers on the way (as a RFE or some days without news from NVC could be, but hopefuly not). u r close to the finish line, heads up, it will very soon be over. my advice to u would be do not panic, dont get nervous, because only in that case u can do mistakes that would cost u few more weeks of waiting. best thing to do is get yrself together, pay attention to every line in the forms, the most unpleasant part of the process is already in the past. if u had the determination and courage to start this process from the beginning, could pick the best choice for getting together in terms of what visa to apply for, had the patience to wait for the NOA2, then NVC shouldnt scare u. all of us knew is going to be a long nerves and time consuming process when we filed our I130. with patience and faith, it will be over and ull be reunited as a family soon. and when u r not sure about somth, just ask yr friends here. is why we r all here. to get support and encouragement from others in same boat with us. and sail together towards the shore. best of luck to u, and dont worry, u will all be together before first spring sunny days.

[Ling Ling 22]

Have a look at the LingChe NVC guide.

It will tell you what to prepare, and what to expect.

Good Luck

[Amor1 0]

Thanx for sending this message. You're exactly right. We have been strong enough so far, and I've been doing fine w/ the other forms. I'm going to bed early tonight & I'll stop worrying. Again, thanks!

I think the best think to do is look at the full half of the glass. U r out of USCIS, where the real waiting was. waiting is stressfull, makes u go through different emotions, from having faith one day to being completely hopless the next one and so on. once u get at NVC, r family is very close to the day of being reunited. if u know u and yr husband are doing this in good will, u have been together through all this process, u must have faith everything will go just fine. keep going forward with faith, and dont think of the bumps in the road, those r only lil shakers on the way (as a RFE or some days without news from NVC could be, but hopefuly not). u r close to the finish line, heads up, it will very soon be over. my advice to u would be do not panic, dont get nervous, because only in that case u can do mistakes that would cost u few more weeks of waiting. best thing to do is get yrself together, pay attention to every line in the forms, the most unpleasant part of the process is already in the past. if u had the determination and courage to start this process from the beginning, could pick the best choice for getting together in terms of what visa to apply for, had the patience to wait for the NOA2, then NVC shouldnt scare u. all of us knew is going to be a long nerves and time consuming process when we filed our I130. with patience and faith, it will be over and ull be reunited as a family soon. and when u r not sure about somth, just ask yr friends here. is why we r all here. to get support and encouragement from others in same boat with us. and sail together towards the shore. best of luck to u, and dont worry, u will all be together before first spring sunny days.

[Amor1 0]

Thanx for sending this message. You're exactly right. We have been strong enough so far, and I've been doing fine w/ the other forms. I'm going to bed early tonight & I'll stop worrying. Again, thanks!

I think the best think to do is look at the full half of the glass. U r out of USCIS, where the real waiting was. waiting is stressfull, makes u go through different emotions, from having faith one day to being completely hopless the next one and so on. once u get at NVC, r family is very close to the day of being reunited. if u know u and yr husband are doing this in good will, u have been together through all this process, u must have faith everything will go just fine. keep going forward with faith, and dont think of the bumps in the road, those r only lil shakers on the way (as a RFE or some days without news from NVC could be, but hopefuly not). u r close to the finish line, heads up, it will very soon be over. my advice to u would be do not panic, dont get nervous, because only in that case u can do mistakes that would cost u few more weeks of waiting. best thing to do is get yrself together, pay attention to every line in the forms, the most unpleasant part of the process is already in the past. if u had the determination and courage to start this process from the beginning, could pick the best choice for getting together in terms of what visa to apply for, had the patience to wait for the NOA2, then NVC shouldnt scare u. all of us knew is going to be a long nerves and time consuming process when we filed our I130. with patience and faith, it will be over and ull be reunited as a family soon. and when u r not sure about somth, just ask yr friends here. is why we r all here. to get support and encouragement from others in same boat with us. and sail together towards the shore. best of luck to u, and dont worry, u will all be together before first spring sunny days.