What Is The Secret To A Strong & Good Marriage/Relationship?

[Tosh Love 77]

Hi guys. To be candid, this is going to be my third marriage and I do not intend to run away this time. Please give me your feedback on what has worked for you, your parents or friends and what has not worked.

What I have learned so far is that the most important thing is keeping the lines of communication open in any relationship.

[sara..... 371]

Hi guys. To be candid, this is going to be my third marriage and I do not intend to run away this time. Please give me your feedback on what has worked for you, your parents or friends and what has not worked.

What I have learned so far is that the most important thing is keeping the lines of communication open in any relationship.

always give 110 percent because sometimes the other person for reasons that day can not give but 50 percent.....allow the other person to finish talking before interrupting them with an answer to what u thought they were trying to say.....stop and think how u urself would feel about something ur about to say or do to the other one if they were to say or do it to u and never go to bed angry with each other....couples can agree to disagree on things u dont both have to have the same opinion as ur spouse.......never never leave the home angry and with out a i love u and a kiss these are just some of the things that i see working for others.........

sara

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

When he gets out of line, kick his azz.

If he says he'll call the cops, kick his azz and withdraw food.

If he says he'll leave, kick his azz, withdraw both food and sex!

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Don't compare your marriage (or your spouse for that matter) to anyone else's marriage. You married your SO for a reason. He/she may not be like your best girlfriend's spouse, but you chose to love and marry him anyway. Also, know when to take a step back to collect your thoughts, so that hurtful words are not spoken too often (this is SUCH a challenge for me!). Meet your spouse where he/she is at: meaning, you can't make him/her do anything that you want them to, or make them be who you want them to be. Allow your SO to grow and evolve as a person in their own time, because if you try to rush or force it when they are not ready---it will only create tension and resentment in your marriage.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

1st i have to at AJ

Communication is def a big one. Also, figure what works for you, everyone doesn't have a "perfect" fairytale marriage. Remember to let ur husaband be the man, respect each other..always include him on any topics issues that ur involved with it's respectful. And of course speak up if something bothers you, men can't read minds. Do not be disrespected if u don't like something speak about it everytime even if it means a suabble for a min or 2. Compromise compromise. And do what i do sometimes "ok, sure" cause u know they will come running back with their tail btwn their legs

oh yea..don't raise ur voice ( )

[JVKn'CVO 11]

My humble advice, because we've only been married for 1 year

I like that Justin's temper complements mine. That makes our relationship strong and there's a lot of harmony in our house.

Laugh a lot, be goofy.

Make love often

Saludos,

Caro

[PlatyPius 5]

Alcohol. Lots and lots of alcohol.

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Alcohol. Lots and lots of alcohol.

teeheeheehee

[Tosh Love 77]

Thanks guys, keep them coming.

The comments I have heard from previous relationships have been that I don't know how to say sorry, but very quick to expect the same. I also don't seem to totaly commit to my relationships and always teeter, ready to give up at any time. I am working on both of these issues.

[DARUMA07 25]

When he gets out of line, kick his azz.

If he says he'll call the cops, kick his azz and withdraw food.

If he says he'll leave, kick his azz, withdraw both food and sex!

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Alcohol. Lots and lots of alcohol.

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[DARUMA07 25]

Hi guys. To be candid, this is going to be my third marriage and I do not intend to run away this time. Please give me your feedback on what has worked for you, your parents or friends and what has not worked.

What I have learned so far is that the most important thing is keeping the lines of communication open in any relationship.

A marriage is only as good as the Respect you and your husband put into it.. Communication is the key!!!!

[2xHollyx2 3]

Estadia is absolutely right. We do the same and have a wonderful relationship.

Respekt and trust is very important. Don't take things for granted.

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Thanks guys, keep them coming.

The comments I have heard from previous relationships have been that I don't know how to say sorry, but very quick to expect the same. I also don't seem to totaly commit to my relationships and always teeter, ready to give up at any time. I am working on both of these issues.

The therapist in me would want to explore why you are unable to give yourself completely to anyone...what are you afraid of? Losing control? Past experiences (and not just romantic relationships) with loss or lack of security...I really could go on and on, but I won't...until those issues are fully dealt with, then it will continue to be a problem...even in this marriage. Good luck to you!

[britty 1]

get drunk a lot together, laugh every day together, never stop going on "dates", and talk about everything !

[Thai family 0]

Thanks guys, keep them coming.

The comments I have heard from previous relationships have been that I don't know how to say sorry, but very quick to expect the same. I also don't seem to totaly commit to my relationships and always teeter, ready to give up at any time. I am working on both of these issues.

Glad to hear you are working on those two. They were at the top of my list when I read your initial post. There are challenges to any marriage, so the need for a long-term commitment/sacred covenant. Too many people say "I'm not happy. Good-bye". That's pure selfishness. Respect is also high on my list. After nearly thirty years we have learned to enjoy our differences, except when I don't like the way he does things We are planning my parents 60th wedding anniversary celebration. Perhaps you should ask them. They seem to become happier with each passing year.

Thai Mom