How do your parents/family take it?

[EWRI6884 0]

Well luckily, my Fiancee's Parents are happy when she is happy. I havent gotten to meet her parents face to face and only on cam but, I have met her sisters and brothers and they apparently have carried the word that I'm NOT that bad...

I will say however, that I (USC) come from an "Old Fashioned" thinking family (Dad) and it seemed (at least to me) much harder telling my parents I was getting married again to a foriegner when I hadn't even told them I was seeing anyone. Now I am 40 years old and shouldn't feel this way but I felt like a 12 year old kid asking for permission when all I wanted was their acceptance.

I have been with my Fiancee for over two years now and I never told my parents about her as I have lived in a different state than my parents and most my family for the past 22 years. So I decided to go home to TELL MY PARENTS as a phone call or email wasn't the way I wanted to tell them. I much rather do it in person. Well it took me about 3-4 days after arriving to figure out how best to broach the topic. Hell, even my 10 year old Niece (God Daughter) who is very smart and quick witted was giving me a hard time...Did you tell Papa yet??? and she was snickering the whole time...hahahahaa Everyone knew BUT my Parents. It was quite funny AND sad that I felt like that.

Well I finally decided I would tell them by just showing them pictures hoping they would ask questions and would understand. Well much to my surprise, it went over smoothly (At least in front of me), he was even asking questions and not in a condescending manner either, now Im sure they were thinking, why the hell does he need to go to another country to find a partner, because thats how alot of my friends who have not met her think.. I get the... Hey Man, why do you need to get a girl from over there when you can get one here in the US thats successful already. My reply to them as it would be to ANYONE is, I was NOT out looking for a girl to marry and I didnt just pick a point on the globe to find my spouse, in fact, having another spouse was the FARTHEST thing from my mind at that time. I am well traveled and unfortunately been with my fair share of women, BUT, when you find someone that you love and really connect with on all levels and has become my best friend, you cant DENY it, or at least I cant. What's even more comforting is that I KNOW that once my friends and family meet my fiancee, I am 100% positive they will UNDERSTAND why I am with her, just as my friends that have already met her understand.

TO CHAM: I pray that his family will eventually understand why their son has decided to leave not only his family, but his country to follow his heart. I am not sure if you have met his parents in person before but, I think as one poster mentioned above, meeting his family in person helps ease their pain and gives them an understanding to who he is with by introducing them to a REAL person and not a picture or cam box on a computer that most older people have a hard time understanding, if you know what I mean. I showed my Dad a 3 minute video of my Fiancee playing guitar while singing and during the video she was joking around and having fun, what he saw was that she has a sense of humor and is not just some evil woman. So again, best of luck to you!

Bottom line is: Each one of us has our OWN lives to live, we cant please everyone although we would like to... Our loved ones just want whats BEST for each of us no matter how it may appear on the outside, but if its true love and happiness, in time they will eventually come around to realize why we are with who we are.

Good Luck to ALL of You!!!

[Wis-Can 0]

I am hoping that by the time I actually make the move my family will be accepting of it. I know they tell me they just want me to be happy, but it doesn't stop the occasional dig....the "oh are you still going to make the biggest mistake of your life"....and "there are plenty of men in Canada". Its not that they don't like him, they just don't want me that far away. I was married before, short marriage and they are scared that it will happen again and they won't be there for me. I don't have the heart to say, "you weren't really there for me before". It was "you go married for better or for worse and you have to stick it out!" Not a chance in hell, ...we only get to go through life once, and its a short ride! I have been fortunate enough to meet a wonderful man who wants to share his life with me, who wants to be with me and I have no doubts this time around. I know eventually they will come around and see what I see in my honey. He's spending Christmas here so we will make the 3 1/2 hr drive to spend a few days with them, that will help. Good luck to all!

[Scott & LC 3]

It's amazing to read so many different scenarios but so close to heart at once... i guess it really takes time for parents/family to understand why we do the things we do sometimes... and this is totally one of them, to go sooo far away for that particular someone, when you can just find someone over here. but the thing is, that someone isn't just anyone. he/she is the one.

i've talked to my parents again and they seem to be taking it better now knowing that I'm taking my time on it... not rushing through things. hopefully i'll be able to talk to them face to face when i'm back at home and see how it goes

*hugs* for everyone

[Laura+Tom 2]

My parents are very happy for me as they know that I will have a better life in the US than the UK. I'm 24, have a decent paying job but I can't even afford to rent my own place at the moment. I can barely afford to run my car sometimes.

I think my parent's kind of knew that I would end up moving to the US when Tom and I got serious with our relationship. They love him to pieces and know that he will take care of me. My Dad actually told me he can't wait for my wedding as he says he get to wear his best uniform and be the proud father of the bride.

It's not like they'll never see me again as it's so easy to hope on a plane nowadays what with flights getting cheaper. They are looking forward to coming to visit us every year!