Discussing money

[Marilyn. 340]

It appears that to some, that those who don't talk about their money are perceived to be superior to those who do.

I find financial conversations work best with trusted friends, family members and professionals. Not with message board members who people happen to already dislike.

Disliking people on a message board who you have never met is a major indicator of stupidity.

so going with that, is liking someone on a message board that you never met a major indicator of stupidity too??

Edited November 27, 2008 by *Marilyn*

[PlatyPius 5]

It appears that to some, that those who don't talk about their money are perceived to be superior to those who do.

I find financial conversations work best with trusted friends, family members and professionals. Not with message board members who people happen to already dislike.

Disliking people on a message board who you have never met is a major indicator of stupidity.

So is trying to impress them with your alleged wealth, alleged intelligence, and alleged education.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

It appears that to some, that those who don't talk about their money are perceived to be superior to those who do.

I find financial conversations work best with trusted friends, family members and professionals. Not with message board members who people happen to already dislike.

Disliking people on a message board who you have never met is a major indicator of stupidity.

So is trying to impress them with your alleged wealth, alleged intelligence, and alleged education.

Impressing them with how little wealth, intelligence and education you have is far more effective.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

It appears that to some, that those who don't talk about their money are perceived to be superior to those who do.

I find financial conversations work best with trusted friends, family members and professionals. Not with message board members who people happen to already dislike.

Disliking people on a message board who you have never met is a major indicator of stupidity.

You think so? People on message boards write things and people read those things and react to them, forming opinions. What's stupid about that? It's not personal, certain message-board personalities are disliked by many. You, I, Platy, mawilson, charles - a few prominent examples.

Nothing stupid about it.

[William33 110]

So, why are we here then?

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

So, why are we here then?

I'm here because I enjoy the different personalities and styles that exist in OT.

[PlatyPius 5]

So, why are we here then?

Because we're stupid.

Just ask the princess.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

So, why are we here then?

I'm here because I enjoy the different personalities and styles that exist in OT.

I'm pretty much the same way, but I still think it's stupid to dislike people you know only from a message board.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Aficionado, was any of this any help? I didn't see anyone bragging, but the perception of it is real. The taboo allows one to be resigned to having little or no money, to be judgemental and cyncial toward those who do, but doesn't allow for those who have plenty to express happiness or comfort about it. You have to wonder who this dicotomy serves.

I dont have ANY problems with someone being happy or content in having plenty of money.

I also would appreciate hearing some advise on how they pulled themselves from "just making it" to "rolling in the dough".

What I dont appreciate is someone having said they have a family trust fund telling people that they dont have money because they choose not to. Maybe you didnt mean to come across that way, but it sounded snobby.

Everyone has a choice to improve their financial situation..I agree. This could mean building a business for some and for others it could mean just saving enough for emergencies. Lisa

editted-- THIS is why people dont talk openly about money LOL

I see a contradiction in the two bolded statements. I believe that unless you have some sort of involuntary impediment, retardation, addiction, mental issues, it is very possible to gain financial freedom in this country. It is a choice, the same kind of choice that one makes about any priority they set in life. There is nothing snobby about being positive about anyone's ability to do well in life.

I think you missed my point in the next sentence. I dont think someone has to have a disability to be living paycheck to paycheck. I dont think it means that they dont have any drive either.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

So, why are we here then?

I'm here because I enjoy the different personalities and styles that exist in OT.

I'm pretty much the same way, but I still think it's stupid to dislike people you know only from a message board.

No one dislikes the person, they dislike the message-board-persona of the person.

And when people get financial advice from you on VJ (if you ever do offer any, I'm not saying you have and am not aware that you have), it's from your message-board-persona.... which some already dislike.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Aficionado, was any of this any help? I didn't see anyone bragging, but the perception of it is real. The taboo allows one to be resigned to having little or no money, to be judgemental and cyncial toward those who do, but doesn't allow for those who have plenty to express happiness or comfort about it. You have to wonder who this dicotomy serves.

I dont have ANY problems with someone being happy or content in having plenty of money.

I also would appreciate hearing some advise on how they pulled themselves from "just making it" to "rolling in the dough".

What I dont appreciate is someone having said they have a family trust fund telling people that they dont have money because they choose not to. Maybe you didnt mean to come across that way, but it sounded snobby.

Everyone has a choice to improve their financial situation..I agree. This could mean building a business for some and for others it could mean just saving enough for emergencies. Lisa

editted-- THIS is why people dont talk openly about money LOL

I see a contradiction in the two bolded statements. I believe that unless you have some sort of involuntary impediment, retardation, addiction, mental issues, it is very possible to gain financial freedom in this country. It is a choice, the same kind of choice that one makes about any priority they set in life. There is nothing snobby about being positive about anyone's ability to do well in life.

I think you missed my point in the next sentence. I dont think someone has to have a disability to be living paycheck to paycheck. I dont think it means that they dont have any drive either.

I agree with that, too, but only of that doesn't remain a permanent deal. At some point, the drive has to kick in.

[Marilyn. 340]

So, why are we here then?

I'm here because I enjoy the different personalities and styles that exist in OT.

I'm pretty much the same way, but I still think it's stupid to dislike people you know only from a message board.

again I ask, is it it stupid to like people you know only from a message board?

[Sofiyya 1,687]

So, why are we here then?

I'm here because I enjoy the different personalities and styles that exist in OT.

I'm pretty much the same way, but I still think it's stupid to dislike people you know only from a message board.

No one dislikes the person, they dislike the message-board-persona of the person.

And when people get financial advice from you on VJ (if you ever do offer any, I'm not saying you have and am not aware that you have), it's from your message-board-persona.... which some already dislike.

I can agree with that. That's why I don't hold grudges. I'll admit to being bemused by my ability to do so little and have such a great impact, tho.

[William33 110]

I love VJ. I do get entertainment, some salient advice on cooking, product purchases, computer issues and so forth. Financial advice is best left to those you fully trust.

Edit to add: Of course we can get Immigration advice... A little plug for the site's overall purpose...

Edited November 27, 2008 by William33

[Marilyn. 340]

Aficionado, was any of this any help? I didn't see anyone bragging, but the perception of it is real. The taboo allows one to be resigned to having little or no money, to be judgemental and cyncial toward those who do, but doesn't allow for those who have plenty to express happiness or comfort about it. You have to wonder who this dicotomy serves.

I dont have ANY problems with someone being happy or content in having plenty of money.

I also would appreciate hearing some advise on how they pulled themselves from "just making it" to "rolling in the dough".

What I dont appreciate is someone having said they have a family trust fund telling people that they dont have money because they choose not to. Maybe you didnt mean to come across that way, but it sounded snobby.

Everyone has a choice to improve their financial situation..I agree. This could mean building a business for some and for others it could mean just saving enough for emergencies. Lisa

editted-- THIS is why people dont talk openly about money LOL

I see a contradiction in the two bolded statements. I believe that unless you have some sort of involuntary impediment, retardation, addiction, mental issues, it is very possible to gain financial freedom in this country. It is a choice, the same kind of choice that one makes about any priority they set in life. There is nothing snobby about being positive about anyone's ability to do well in life.

I think you missed my point in the next sentence. I dont think someone has to have a disability to be living paycheck to paycheck. I dont think it means that they dont have any drive either.

I agree with that, too, but only of that doesn't remain a permanent deal. At some point, the drive has to kick in.

what if the person is content to live paycheck to paycheck?.. is there some law saying that we all have to be rich and rolling in money?