Literally sick because of too much expectation

[Aryadne e Kevin 0]

Hi, my friends

As many of you is following, my case is being reviewed at NVC after a Rfe. So, today I called NVC and they said i have to wait at leats 10 more days until a feedback or case completed.

So, as I read in many treads, this final part is the worst! it is trully amazing how that can be so painful... and I am afraid I can´t hang in there very easly... my body is freaking out... I never had problems with my stomach, but for 3 days straigh, my body is weard... so much pain.. headaches... nauseas... and I am not pregnant... I dont have feaver....

I relax only when I stop thinking about this situation.. and when it comes to my mind again... the pain startssss.....

Gosh, I am afraid of it... and I don´t know how to get well...

[ScotsMajik 0]

First of all, try to think calming thoughts. Perhaps some reason will help. Why did they decide to review your case? If you provided reasonable and honest documentation, I'm sure you'll be fine.

[CJ Vasani 0]

over-thinking is a disease and i am a victim myself. this whole journey has changed my personality from a laid back dont-give-a-#### about anything to constant fixation with when my approval is gonna come.

i'll give you the same advise that i wish i was able to adhere to. distract yourself and have confidence in the fact that you will come through this agony sooner rather than later. start planning for your lives together and see if that helps. it's easier said than done.

[*Snowdrop* 604]

It's hard not to worry even when you know it does no good - I try to distract myself by planning the move, the packing, seeing friends.

To help with the sick feelings you could spoil and pamper yourself - go get a massage, have a yoga lesson, a facial.

Every time you feel yourself start to worry take some deep breaths and think of how great it is going to feel once this is all over.

(At least that's my plan!)

[Garu 0]

You are not alone. We all have gone through periods feeling like this. I can't give you techniques to follow to feel better because nothing worked for me. All I can tell you is to hang on; to try to survive each day. I often think of the movie "Cast Away" with Tom Hanks and often feel like he did.

He was stranded alone in a deserted Island for four years and one day the wind brought him a sail. And he built a raft and took a chance into the ocean and just when he was about to die, a big ship rescued him. And a few days later he was back in a World he no longer recognized and he had ice cubes in his drink. And although he lost his old life and his old love, everything worked out at the end. The movie ends with him having found a nice woman that is sure to become his wife and mother of his children (I wish they made a part 2!).

So, I know it's just a movie but we can get comfort from it. He never gave up; he adapted; he survived; he lived day by day; and when the wind brought him a sail, he took a chance and when it looked the worst; the chance paid off and he was saved. And he met his new love because he never gave up on delivering the one package he kept; the one promise he made to himself.

Good luck and God bless you and us all because we sure need it.

Edited November 24, 2008 by Garu

[Aryadne e Kevin 0]

First of all, try to think calming thoughts. Perhaps some reason will help. Why did they decide to review your case? If you provided reasonable and honest documentation, I'm sure you'll be fine.

Hi, guys

Thank you for the nice messages... Vj is really the best of all of it!

well, I did provide NVC with the right documents from Brazil, however, even so, NVC denial marriage, birth certificate and police certificates stating they aren´t proper and correct certified copies, but they were. My lawyer said they made a mistake and requested another review. All of it was because I provided them with authenticated copies and they thought they didnt mean certified copy, but in my country they mean the same...

So, let´s see what happens...

Gosh... I just wanted a date...

Big hug!!!

[ScotsMajik 0]

It's not nice to have to wait. How scary is it that NVC doesn't know that "authenticated" and "certified" means the same thing. Listen, you have a lawyer, and you have a right to review. Let's hope they see the error of their ways.

I'm so frustrated, I'm disgusted.

[Aryadne e Kevin 0]

Hi, everyone!

It was really terrible to see that NVC is able to not care about documents sometimes... In my opinion, there is no chance to get confuse with my docs since I provided also the translations where were stated " the docs provided were translated by CERTIFIED COPIES..."... the expression was stated on the document...

So, if they want the originals, fine, but be clear about it... dont you think.,..!

Hope they will understaand that...

Ary