Yardies at home and farrin (part 10)

[Ellsinlove 2]

Before I seem all rude and forget,

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ISLANDWOMAN!! Hope it's a great one and new YOU year ahead!

oh well i guess from now on i will just not say anything, this feels to much like drama and for what i dont know???i have had enough drama to last me a life time.

Everyone is entitled to express themselves how they will so just keep doing your thing and know that everyone else will keep expressing themselves too. Don't edit yourself and don't let it bother you.

so i will be home this xmas god willing and i was thinking about being alone at night when my husband is doing the night shift. i usually sleep on the couch when my husband is at work so one night i decided to go to bed and i felt i feel like someone or something was holding me down on the bed. i woke up and felt shills down my spine and went back into to living room. i didn't sleep in the room when my husband did his night shift since. boy i will be living there now so i guess i will have to have the bible or a cross with me when i go to bed. or feel brave like king kong and just take a go at it again. i refuse to not go to my bed because of that 1 experience

This happened to me last week. My mom said it is when a witch is riding your back. It is the worse feeling in the world. Bless some oil and anoint those walls in the house. You will be all good!

My mom use to do this all the time. And you know oil never soaks into paint, so it just dries up. I remember years later always looking at the wall where she put the oil and when the light hit the wall a certain way i could still see the image of the oil cross on the wall.

But that dream of being held down and not being able to talk or make a scream always happens to people. I forget where i heard it, but its said to be when your spirit is out of your body.....your spirit travels when you sleep. So if you cant move its cause your body is there with no spirit in it and it needs to get back in there first. I have those alot. They use to be scary for me, now I just focus on getting back to my body...i visualize my body laying in bed and then I slowly am able to move or wake or speak....its very wierd. But I really believe this though...that your spirit can leave your body at many times in your living life...not just when you die. I dont think God gives the spirit power in death, but power in birth, but its up to us to condition or mind and body to understand the spirit so that we can live by it. Afterall the spirt will live on not the body, when when we pass, so I think the spirit has more power and control that we give credit.

Marlita, I posted about this several pages back but try googling 'sleep paralysis'....there's a good section in Wikipedia and lots of informative pages out there. What you describe is what others in studies have learned is coming close to an 'out of body' experience. Scary but kinda cool!

I just miss my best friend.

We know my friend....we know!

[clairern 0]

Somehow im still missing what is being said?? i honestly dont have a damn clue, but i at this point im done trying to figure it out. Never once have i intentionally or knowingly disrespected anyone on this site and if i have i apologize. Yeah i engage in the ish talking as we all do, cause we are bs ing or its all in good fun or so i thought. Obviously not, i enjoyed VJ because it gave me something and someone to relate to....where all this other stuff came up i dont know. All i know is i have more than my share of ####### to deal with this in the past weeks, and now this!!!!

I have encouraged, prayed for, championed and laughed with all of you on here, but today i guess its my turn to catch hell, for whatever reason. I have enjoyed chatting and laughing with you all and value the friendships i have made on here, and those of you whom i have met. FOr those of you, who care to keep in contact, you know how to get in contact with me. For the rest of you, its been real

Peace

One big lang dutty kisssssssteeth. Nuh bodda wid hit. Learn to fight your battles and move on and don't run awys because someone showed you you were wrong to post some of the things you did. Everyone on here has been supportive of you throughtout all the ish you have been through, so do do put your tails between your legs and run away when someone criticizes you. That is what people who care about you do. We do not always have to agree but you have to also take everyones opinion in stride for what it is their opinion. Do not take offense because so of the stuff you post on here has been really out there. Siddung and behave yuhself.

[shrewdgal 0]

Yea, i'm doing like you told me....leaving little notes...haha!

WOO WHEE!!!!

any response yet??

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Has everyone put of their christmas trees?

I'm still looking for black ornaments. I'm trying to do a black silver and red tree this year.

Put my tree up last Wednesday. I only put one up because of my son. I have the tree that is already decorated a little and has lights on it...yeah man, mi lazy.

[shrewdgal 0]

You know to me it sometimes seems that American women are very intimidated by Jamaican women....just in general. I know for myself I was somewhat intimidated or at least quiet around them, but i think it was mainly feeling out of place on my own part....not because the women were doing things to make me feel uncomfortable. I find that JA women have a "rougher" or more serious look to their persona and thats very different from many American women. I think it makes them unapproachable or intimidating to people outside of that culture. But once you get to know them they really are very sweet women for the most part just going through their day to day. Jamaica makes women harder i think and that definitely comes across.

After I began to let my guard down around these women and I began to feel more confident being and acting or even looking a little different than many people in JA I began to really understand where they were coming from. I think many of them do see "farrin" women coming over and living what they may assume as "lavish". Hotel stays, partys, bars, clubs, beaches, pools, relaxing. Which should be fine....that farrin woman is on vacation after all. But when it comes to her coming and dipping into the JA man and acting a what they may consider "wild" with these men, and the men just loving it cause of course he's a man it bothers them. The women start developing an image that may be a stereotype but now its their reality.

Dont know if this makes sense. I'm just not focused today at work cause I have so much to do and have no idea how to even start....ever have one of those days? So I'm on VJ talking all kinds of craziness to try an stimulate my brain/. haha

Marlita - In some ways I agree with you - but I think it goes both ways - There is an intimidation factor on both sides, and a prejudice on both sides - Very often people don't let their guard down and take the time to get to know people -

I know that for myself - when I was 21 and first went to a step show with my girlfriends - I was very uncomfortable at first - and some women were nasty to me - Why was I uncomfortable? Because there were thousands of people there and I stuck out like Casper the friendly ghost! It wasn't anything to do with being intimidated by the other women, etc... it had to do with feeling out of place - and women were nasty to me that I was there to "steal their men" = Please! I was there because my best friend's bf stepped, and they asked me to come - nothing more. After a while, I was comfortable - because my friends treated me just like they always had - I was the one who had felt different, not them -

It isn't so much about American women being intimidated, Jamaican women being intimidated, etc.. the way that I see it - It's about prejudice, plain and simple - People prejudge people based on the actions of others - Some women go to JA and run wild - some JA women hate on tourists - But until people stop tarring each other with the brush of the one who came before - It's not gonna change.

I treat people for who they are, not what they are - I don't care if you are white, black, or purple - if I respect you, I respect you - If your a byatch - you are one regardless of what's on the outside -

nicely said!

[Marlita 0]

Has everyone put of their christmas trees?

I'm still looking for black ornaments. I'm trying to do a black silver and red tree this year.

Walmart had nice Black ornaments. I thought that was so odd...black ornaments. do you have a white tree. I put them next to the green tree and they disappeared cuase they were so dark.

we got ornaments last weekend. Copper, and plum. Goes well with the coppers in the house already. We get the tree this weekend. Monday night we decorated a wreath and placed it on the door, and put out the lit deer, and then we have to put the canycanes outside and the lights too.

[shrewdgal 0]

Hey guys!

All you women of faith and prayer warriors, please keep me in your thoughts.

It is so hard for me to read threads and everyone else that applied at the same time as me have their SO home a long time ago..or they are getting ready for them to come home this month. I am so happy for everyone, but sometimes I get really discouraged!

How is everyone today?

Sorry to hear you are having a tough day, Shrewdie, but hold strong, your day will come soon! Santa MUST bring you that Christmas present!!

I HAVE been a very good girl hahaha

[Shemmy 4]

Happy Birthday, Island! I meant to do this this am, but forgot, sorry!

Happy Birthday. Hope you enjoy. So many Saggis on here.

[^KK^ 3]

CRAZY WORLD.....

Aunt faces charges in shackled teen mystery

http://www.cnn.com/2008/CRIME/12/03/shackled.teen/index.html

[shrewdgal 0]

Has everyone put of their christmas trees?

I'm still looking for black ornaments. I'm trying to do a black silver and red tree this year.

I saw some really cool frosted ones at somewhere really low key - walmart maybe?

[SupportOAFJF 0]

happy B-day Island

[Marie876 0]

Hey everyone!

I finally caught up. School and work has kept me so busy and finals are coming up soon

The charity discussion sounds good for after the holidays. Right now too much deh pon mi brain

nuffa oonuh figet seh there are some real Jamaicans on here..yes mi seh it..real Jamaicans...u know wah i guess mi need fi tek a break from posting ova yah so to...

Ur right Kimmy, a lotta ppl have forgotten. I've taken offense to a lotta things that have been posted by non-Jamaicans but don't even bother to reply. I just sit and shake my head. When it comes to certain topics and ideals, some people don't look at both sides of the equation. A so it go

[clairern 0]

nuffa oonuh figet seh there are some real Jamaicans on here..yes mi seh it..real Jamaicans...u know wah i guess mi need fi tek a break from posting ova yah so to...

Nuh badda wid eih

[Marie876 0]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ISLAND!!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

nuffa oonuh figet seh there are some real Jamaicans on here..yes mi seh it..real Jamaicans...u know wah i guess mi need fi tek a break from posting ova yah so to...

Nuh badda wid eih

di way mi addicted u tink mi can stay away