Yardies at home and farrin (part 10)

[Marlita 0]

Hello Ladies!

How's it going? I've been away for awhile. Just busy with work,......and I have a stalker/hacker to my VJ account. So I'll be changing my screen name and maybe creating a whole new account soon. Just cant think of a name.

Anyway, how's everyone doing? Congrats to all those whose cases are in the final stages or on new interviews, or finally done with the process and their SO is home.

Hi Marlita, everyone has been wondering where you were - How is Evan?

I've been lurking, an apparently my stalker has too! B) Plus I have been mad crazy busy at work so I tried my hardest to stay away. I'm still really busy but just kinda giving up now, too much work not enough time, economy suck, stressed about having a job come next year. So I'm slowly gearing into going back to school for a MFA, I want to get into writing and journalism, or film production....we'll see.

Evan is fine. just doing a little work and looking for another job.

[solsoeur 0]

i must have missed something????

what gave yall the impression i was just going to have sex???? yall know i was just kidding. Surely i could find some much cheaper D*ck...LOL.. in the states.

I know I could if d#ck is what I wanted.

[Islandwoman 0]

She is Mummy's boyfriend's Mother in law - he's a widower, but his mother in law still lives with him and he takes care of her.

I had to read that twice to catch that, but what a nice guy he is!! That's the way I am - once you are part of my family, that doesn't change. On ex sister-in-law is still just like my sister (cuz I don't have a real one).

[Lovesponge 0]

welcome Lovesponge

Thank You

[JaHoney 3]

i guess i will keep my humor to myself

[sus 70]

Hey Sus - better when you are sleeping than awake, eh??!!

I wasn't fully asleep - how do ya think I know about the sponge bath?

sus this picture might be offensive.

Jakeswife - that pic is a well known thing in the US - See No evil, speak no evil, hear no evil - Not meant to be offensive -

[jakeswife 0]

I am born Jamaican but been in the US since i was 7 years old. My SO is also in Jamaica, I met him 4/07 and we got engaged 8/08. We are madly, crazy in LOVE but this process is a tough one I guess if we can get through this we can get through anything

Hi Everyone am new to this thread but it looks like fun. I was just reading through todays posts you all had me cracking up. Do you all post all throughout the day while at work?

Welcome. No one gets their work done if you stay on all day.

I work at a bank so am gonna start logging on during the day.

i feel u. this was very hard and at times it affected our relationship.we have been going through it for over 9 months and our interview is next thursday. hopefully everything will go smoothly and i will be home for xmas

Wow 9 months how did you do it? I think i would go crazy. I been home 3 times this year already am broke

well my hubby wass able to travel to see me every 6weeks. this is the first time he stayed away for so long. i haven't seen him in 2 months so u know when he gets here all hell will be breaking loose.

[Marlita 0]

Jaws mi totally agree...so mi nah seh nuttin more

ok..i changed my mind...Honey this is one of the reasons so many women gets pissed at the "farrin" ooman because it just seems as if u only want to have sex and don't give a rats about whatever else that goes on

Well I know nobody talkin to me but here goes... I think I understand where the Ja women are coming from and I could see how they get that notion that farrin woman want to just have sex and don't care about anything but speakin for this "farrin" woman I have not even had sex with my SO. I am not looking for a fling I am looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with however long that happens to be. I can't speak for anyone else but I think that a lot of things get distorted because they are viewed thru the lens of stereotypes on both sides of this equation.

Your right Sol, things to get "stereotyped" but lets face it sometimes ITS THE TRUTH!! People....a stereotype is only relative. If you are performing like said "stereotype" then IT IS NO LONGER A STEREOTYPE for you!!! I don't know anyones whole story on here or how they act in JA, but come on now.....ask yourself.....am i not acting like the stereotype?

Yes....No? What is it that JA men say about foreign women....are you that girl? What is it that JA women hate about foreign women.....are you that girl? Now if you're not then keep it moving and know that they "stereotype" is just that. Otherwise lets quit calling it stereotype when its truth!

[sus 70]

Jakeswife, here is the legend behind the statue - It's actually Japanese, I never knew that -

http://mygardengifts.wordpress.com/2008/11...overbial-adage/

[Lovesponge 0]

Jawi, your right the funny thing is i read your first post and skipped all the other pages just to respond, your right if D stated what im stating i would totally have an attitude, crazy i know, but the funny thing is im telling him just what im telling you all, i tell him it has nothing to do with the kids and everything to do with not having control of the situation. i have also told him dont apologize to me about the kids being there, my frustration comes purely from the manipulation on BMs part. the other day she managed to get the boys and take them to wherever she was staying but then she dropped them back off and disappeared again for 2 days or she cant watch them but she will send her 16 year old, not by D up to his house to babysit, well where is he the 16 year old staying ???? see its the ####### like that sets me to bytching. So again, i have no issue with you voicing your feelings cause yeah im wrong as hell, i can admit that , just frustrated as hell .

Crazy question - is it possible for all 3 of you to sit down and discuss?

My friend was in the same situation. Her "boyfriend" kept telling her all these crazy BM stories...well they finally met two weeks ago but it was nothing like he said. The BM didn't even know my friend was going to petition for her kids to come to the US. Just a thought...

exactly !!!

I really dislike when women blame the BMs for everything especially when you don't know or her story...

My daughter's father did the same thing to me...he and his family told his ex-wife all these nasty things about me. When we finally talked (5 years later) none of them were true. She was truly amazed about the stories I told her and why those things happened.

I agree I am a BM too, and my daughters father is a deadbeat but he is always trying to make me look bad. He especially hates the fact that am engaged and my fiancee is in JA. All I hear is "he is just using you" from him and my parents(whats up with that why cant we just be happy and in love) Do you guys have this problem?

[Marlita 0]

Jakeswife, here is the legend behind the statue - It's actually Japanese, I never knew that -

http://mygardengifts.wordpress.com/2008/11...overbial-adage/

Why is it offensive? i dont get it?

[sus 70]

Marlita, what is an MFA? How bizarre that you picked up a stalker now after all this time - some people have no life!

[Marlita 0]

Marlita, what is an MFA? How bizarre that you picked up a stalker now after all this time - some people have no life!

Master of Fine Arts.

Yes....some people!

[sus 70]

I agree I am a BM too, and my daughters father is a deadbeat but he is always trying to make me look bad. He especially hates the fact that am engaged and my fiancee is in JA. All I hear is "he is just using you" from him and my parents(whats up with that why cant we just be happy and in love) Do you guys have this problem?

Join the club - Jomo's girl puts it best that the ultimate defeat to that statement is time -

[jawi876 2]

i must have missed something????

what gave yall the impression i was just going to have sex???? yall know i was just kidding. Surely i could find some much cheaper D*ck...LOL.. in the states.

I was speaking about your post today to Sus stating that there is not much you can do with 3 kids around. Honestly, a lot of your posts have offended me with all the talk about bow cat, sitting in his face, etc. but I just said to each his own. However, when you said that your reason for being upset was because of the change in living arrangements...I assumed.

Please accept my apologies for assuming.