Yardies at home and farrin (part 10)

[sus 70]

Hey Sus - better when you are sleeping than awake, eh??!!

I wasn't fully asleep - how do ya think I know about the sponge bath?

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Jawi, your right the funny thing is i read your first post and skipped all the other pages just to respond, your right if D stated what im stating i would totally have an attitude, crazy i know, but the funny thing is im telling him just what im telling you all, i tell him it has nothing to do with the kids and everything to do with not having control of the situation. i have also told him dont apologize to me about the kids being there, my frustration comes purely from the manipulation on BMs part. the other day she managed to get the boys and take them to wherever she was staying but then she dropped them back off and disappeared again for 2 days or she cant watch them but she will send her 16 year old, not by D up to his house to babysit, well where is he the 16 year old staying ???? see its the ####### like that sets me to bytching. So again, i have no issue with you voicing your feelings cause yeah im wrong as hell, i can admit that , just frustrated as hell .

Crazy question - is it possible for all 3 of you to sit down and discuss?

My friend was in the same situation. Her "boyfriend" kept telling her all these crazy BM stories...well they finally met two weeks ago but it was nothing like he said. The BM didn't even know my friend was going to petition for her kids to come to the US. Just a thought...

exactly !!!

[Islandwoman 0]

You or anyone.

I would rather someone write to me what is in their heart and say it in a way that shows that they care - as Jawi did and does - than to bite their tongue and talk about me behind my back. That's what we are here for - to hold each other up when we are down, celebrate together, and kick each other in the azz when we need it - There's a difference between saying something that might seem harsh but is honest and from the heart and saying something to be spiteful and hurtful -

AMEN!!!

[Lovesponge 0]

I am born Jamaican but been in the US since i was 7 years old. My SO is also in Jamaica, I met him 4/07 and we got engaged 8/08. We are madly, crazy in LOVE but this process is a tough one I guess if we can get through this we can get through anything

Hi Everyone am new to this thread but it looks like fun. I was just reading through todays posts you all had me cracking up. Do you all post all throughout the day while at work?

Welcome. No one gets their work done if you stay on all day.

I work at a bank so am gonna start logging on during the day.

i feel u. this was very hard and at times it affected our relationship.we have been going through it for over 9 months and our interview is next thursday. hopefully everything will go smoothly and i will be home for xmas

Wow 9 months how did you do it? I think i would go crazy. I been home 3 times this year already am broke

[SupportOAFJF 0]

baby fathers deal with baby mothers differently in JA...there is an unwritten

?? Example please....

hmm...let me think..soon come back

[sus 70]

Wow 9 months how did you do it? I think i would go crazy. I been home 3 times this year already am broke

LOL, my next trip makes 5 this year

[SupportOAFJF 0]

welcome Lovesponge

[sus 70]

Hello Ladies!

How's it going? I've been away for awhile. Just busy with work,......and I have a stalker/hacker to my VJ account. So I'll be changing my screen name and maybe creating a whole new account soon. Just cant think of a name.

Anyway, how's everyone doing? Congrats to all those whose cases are in the final stages or on new interviews, or finally done with the process and their SO is home.

Hi Marlita, everyone has been wondering where you were - How is Evan?

[Islandwoman 0]

Jaws mi totally agree...so mi nah seh nuttin more

ok..i changed my mind...Honey this is one of the reasons so many women gets pissed at the "farrin" ooman because it just seems as if u only want to have sex and don't give a rats about whatever else that goes on

I have to laugh at you Kimmy. When I read your post bout not saying nuttin, I said "wow, look at Kimmy." But good point.

[solsoeur 0]

Jaws mi totally agree...so mi nah seh nuttin more

ok..i changed my mind...Honey this is one of the reasons so many women gets pissed at the "farrin" ooman because it just seems as if u only want to have sex and don't give a rats about whatever else that goes on

Well I know nobody talkin to me but here goes... I think I understand where the Ja women are coming from and I could see how they get that notion that farrin woman want to just have sex and don't care about anything but speakin for this "farrin" woman I have not even had sex with my SO. I am not looking for a fling I am looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with however long that happens to be. I can't speak for anyone else but I think that a lot of things get distorted because they are viewed thru the lens of stereotypes on both sides of this equation.

[Shemmy 4]

Jawi, your right the funny thing is i read your first post and skipped all the other pages just to respond, your right if D stated what im stating i would totally have an attitude, crazy i know, but the funny thing is im telling him just what im telling you all, i tell him it has nothing to do with the kids and everything to do with not having control of the situation. i have also told him dont apologize to me about the kids being there, my frustration comes purely from the manipulation on BMs part. the other day she managed to get the boys and take them to wherever she was staying but then she dropped them back off and disappeared again for 2 days or she cant watch them but she will send her 16 year old, not by D up to his house to babysit, well where is he the 16 year old staying ???? see its the ####### like that sets me to bytching. So again, i have no issue with you voicing your feelings cause yeah im wrong as hell, i can admit that , just frustrated as hell .

Crazy question - is it possible for all 3 of you to sit down and discuss?

My friend was in the same situation. Her "boyfriend" kept telling her all these crazy BM stories...well they finally met two weeks ago but it was nothing like he said. The BM didn't even know my friend was going to petition for her kids to come to the US. Just a thought...

exactly !!!

I really dislike when women blame the BMs for everything especially when you don't know or her story...

My daughter's father did the same thing to me...he and his family told his ex-wife all these nasty things about me. When we finally talked (5 years later) none of them were true. She was truly amazed about the stories I told her and why those things happened.

[JaHoney 3]

i must have missed something????

what gave yall the impression i was just going to have sex???? yall know i was just kidding. Surely i could find some much cheaper D*ck...LOL.. in the states.

[solsoeur 0]

Ok this why WE as Jamaican women give the so called "foreigners" attitudes b/c we can see sometimes that the relationship is just about sex and as shallow as a kitty pool

I pick up on this when I am in Ja.

[Lovesponge 0]

Wow 9 months how did you do it? I think i would go crazy. I been home 3 times this year already am broke

LOL, my next trip makes 5 this year

Wow I wish I could, My boo wants to see me for Christmas but I have a 3 year old and I would have to take her with me but them tickets are high. Plus I am fresh out of Vacation time

[jakeswife 0]

Hey Sus - better when you are sleeping than awake, eh??!!

I wasn't fully asleep - how do ya think I know about the sponge bath?

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