Wife was invited to a co-workers Wedding Shower.

[NickD 203]

Guess I could have gone with her, but she went with other co-workers and learned all the other husbands were staying home, so elected to do the same. In previous meetings with this co-worker about to get married, was some pressure to join her church. I knew roughly where it was, about 35 miles from where we live and ten miles off a main road, it was held in a small Baptist church.

Wife said the preacher introduced the couple to be with emphasis on how they lived up to their faith, during their courtship, they never even held hands or kissed. God, that made us feel guilty, because I did hold my wife's hand once in crossing a busy street before we got married.

Wife said the ceremony lasted about 45 minutes, with most of it being pressured to join there little church, kind of laughed and said, glad I stayed home, tend to be outspoken at times, and would say the wrong thing. How would this couple ever know there is magic in that kiss or even holding hands? Each to his own I guess.

Okay, we went a little further than holding hands, but that sealed our relationship.

[*JG* 2]

I can't imagine marrying someone after only holding their hand. But, like you said, to each their own. I wish them well.

I'm with you, though, I HATE those showers unless I am really close to someone. And, even then, I only go for CAKE!!!!!

You know as a man, the women would've probably had to kill you after the shower so you didn't spread out womanly shower secrets!!! Hee hee.

[caybee 21]

I've never been to a wedding shower where a preacher spoke. It's basically just a gift-giving party, traditionally all women, although that has changed some in recent years. Got nothing against preaching, but I'd feel a little taken aback if I expected to attend a shower and encountered what you describe. I also wouldn't care to have a preacher or anyone else broadcast my husband's and my premarital behavior (or presumed behavior) to everyone in attendance, but that's just me. If it's what the couple wants, I wish them all the best.

[Mononoke28 135]

This is the first time I've heard of this kind of wedding shower; it sounds more of a Pampered Chef or Tupperware party where you get to eat what they serve but they also try to sell you their products.

I hate any kind of shower anyway, they're just so you can give them more gifts and that's pretty annoying. Baby showers are the worst, they're "too cute" and even when my sister registered at Babies R Us and Target, 98% of all guests preferred to buy what they thought she needed and she ended up with 10 baby blakets and like 6 towels. It was so stupid.

Nah, I'm not bitter.

Diana

[rocks 494]

God, that made us feel guilty, because I did hold my wife's hand once in crossing a busy street before we got married.

and they never even held hands? wow.

[Dr. Obvious 49]

What in the heck is a wedding shower?

A complete waste of time.

[Sister Fracas 5]

What in the heck is a wedding shower?

A complete waste of time.

not for the lady getting all of the pressies....

[Dr. Obvious 49]

This couple in the OP is probably the bizarre exception to the rule, but most of the people I have met that get married and have:

*Wedding showers

*Bridal showers

*Jack and Jills

Have lived on their own for several years and don't need anything to start their lives as a married couple besides the government issued piece of paper. Like a baby shower for a fifth child, it is nothing but a completely unashamed gift/money grab and I think it is tacky. I've boycotted them except in exceptional circumstances. Bah humbug. ;p

[Sister Fracas 5]

This couple in the OP is probably the bizarre exception to the rule, but most of the people I have met that get married and have:

*Wedding showers

*Bridal showers

*Jack and Jills

Have lived on their own for several years and don't need anything to start their lives as a married couple besides the government issued piece of paper. Like a baby shower for a fifth child, it is nothing but a completely unashamed gift/money grab and I think it is tacky. I've boycotted them except in exceptional circumstances. Bah humbug. ;p

what are jack and jills?

[Dr. Obvious 49]

It is a party for both the bride and the groom. Some charge admission to get in...

[Sister Fracas 5]

It is a party for both the bride and the groom. Some charge admission to get in...

Isn't that called the wedding reception...? LOL

[jundp 191]

God, that made us feel guilty, because I did hold my wife's hand once in crossing a busy street before we got married.

Have lived on their own for several years and don't need anything to start their lives as a married couple besides the government issued piece of paper. Like a baby shower for a fifth child, it is nothing but a completely unashamed gift/money grab and I think it is tacky. I've boycotted them except in exceptional circumstances. Bah humbug. ;p

I don't know, if we have another child now, our youngest is 10 so there's nothing left from the first two babies.

I don't think they're tacky at all if close friends/family are invited. It's when you start inviting the people who you work with but barely know, etc. Although honestly, if you don't invite them, then they get offended

[Dr. Obvious 49]

Why just have a wedding reception when there are more golddigging possiblities available?

The point of the shower was to give the bride things to start the household with. If you have already got all of those things, why do you need a shower?

Edited November 17, 2008 by Wacken

[jundp 191]

We didn't have showers or any of that but rather a Polterabend. Some people brought gifts even though we indicated not to.

I still think baby showers though, unless you have one kid a year or something and clearly have everything, are completely acceptable. Having a baby, imo, is far different from getting married in that your time and energy will be sorely depleted and usually the gifts received at a baby shower are designed to help alleviate some of the stress of having a newborn.

[Dr. Obvious 49]

I never had any showers. We already had all we needed and saw no need for that. People brought us gifts at the Saturday party, but we never expected they would. We didn't care. Seriously, them showing up dressed up and ready to drink was the only thing we wanted out of them.

I never had a baby shower. People still got me things here and there and I was very grateful to them for their generosity. It wasn't necessary to have a formal gift grab.