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[chavelle 6]

Hey sewwtie,

I am glad to hear that you are ok!I agree that you did nothing to cause this.

I was talking to a lady earlier today and she told me that she,too,was dumped

four weeks before her wedding.The guy just stopped calling her,no explanation at all.She told me that she sensed that something was going on because they usually converse on a daily basis.she decided to call him and he did not answer for a couple of days.She called again and he answered the phone.He told her that it was over.A week earlier,she was supposed to go to the movies with him;she got dressed and he did not show.She contacted him and he told her that he needed to go somewhere with his brother.Her story brought tears to my eyes earlier.

Keep in touch sweetie.We love you!!!

[coria1988 0]

Yeah, I think if I am honest to myself I felt that something was not the same no more.

Just some minutes ago I told my aunt about it. She did not know we broke up.

She just said that he was not worth it if he does that #### and that she already thought that there is something wrong with him in October when I was there crying because he did not want me over there due to him possibly being deployed. It hurts that he is gone, but what hurts more is, is probably to know that he has already stopped loving me before and that he does not care about me no more. That he treats me like I am ####### and not the woman he wanted to marry. The fact that I protected him from every stupid comments my friends made about him and got angry at my friends because I did not want to hear anything bad about him. I feel like he took it for granted...

Yeah, maybe I am better off without him...

[Chelle62 0]

Yeah, I think if I am honest to myself I felt that something was not the same no more.

Just some minutes ago I told my aunt about it. She did not know we broke up.

She just said that he was not worth it if he does that #### and that she already thought that there is something wrong with him in October when I was there crying because he did not want me over there due to him possibly being deployed. It hurts that he is gone, but what hurts more is, is probably to know that he has already stopped loving me before and that he does not care about me no more. That he treats me like I am ####### and not the woman he wanted to marry. The fact that I protected him from every stupid comments my friends made about him and got angry at my friends because I did not want to hear anything bad about him. I feel like he took it for granted...

Yeah, maybe I am better off without him...

You go girl.. anger is part of the healing process and it sounds like you are there now. keep moving forward and dont give him the control of your emotions. You are in control now and you will be ok. Smile, laugh and have a good time and let him go cause your aunt is right he isnt worth it

[kawawa 0]

hi coria, i just read your story, First i wont say sorry for you, i feel sorry for that guy who dump you.

your sweet, young and beautiful, i totally understand what you are dealing right now, and i tell you, TIME is the best answer for that,

time will heal you, you'll see someday youll realize, everything happen for a reason.

wish i can hug for real

[chavelle 6]

Yeah, I think if I am honest to myself I felt that something was not the same no more.

Just some minutes ago I told my aunt about it. She did not know we broke up.

She just said that he was not worth it if he does that #### and that she already thought that there is something wrong with him in October when I was there crying because he did not want me over there due to him possibly being deployed. It hurts that he is gone, but what hurts more is, is probably to know that he has already stopped loving me before and that he does not care about me no more. That he treats me like I am ####### and not the woman he wanted to marry. The fact that I protected him from every stupid comments my friends made about him and got angry at my friends because I did not want to hear anything bad about him. I feel like he took it for granted...

Yeah, maybe I am better off without him...

You go girl

[melusine 5]

Hello Coria,

It's the first time I am writing in this thread and I read all what you said from start to finish.

It's kinda bad to say that but I am happy for you that it didn't worked out. Believe me, Love is one thing... But a marriage is not just about love, it's about respect, dedication, compromise, understanding. If the guy reacts psycho because you don't follow HIS plan... it's a really bad sign.... (there is no care or respect in that kind of answer) It sound like whatever his nice words were at a certain time became somehow the one of some kind of dictator.... This is who he is now....imagine how it would have turn 10 or 20 years down the road....(ugly bad)

Now is time to focus and respect yourself, to have fun with your friends and to start the new year fresh with a million of other projects, whatever work, school.... ...You will hate to hear that but ..... you are young and really, get some time for yourself to enjoy every minute of it !

I wish you a great XMas and New Year !

Edited December 5, 2008 by melusine

[coria1988 0]

I am so ###### mad right now.

He is pissing me the #### off.

How can he be such a jerk now?

And I felt like he lied...I mean he told me that he did not talk to his family....

But he has been talking so much #### about them a normal person would never say if they loved or liked someone.

So one day I just started thinking ####### about them too although I have never met them....I know that was wrong but always when I said that they might not mean it etc. he said they did and what the ####### they did wrong etc.

And now he talks to them again? Now when he left me...I mean that's cool, but why does he talk to them now again after all that #### he talked about them? Why did he say all this ####### about his family? And why does he only love them because it was his duty to do so? WHY? I can't understand this...

How comes he wants to know how they are doing all of a sudden when he made them seem horrible to me?!

That is just so weird...I dont get it...

[chavelle 6]

I am so ###### mad right now.

He is pissing me the #### off.

How can he be such a jerk now?

And I felt like he lied...I mean he told me that he did not talk to his family....

But he has been talking so much #### about them a normal person would never say if they loved or liked someone.

So one day I just started thinking ####### about them too although I have never met them....I know that was wrong but always when I said that they might not mean it etc. he said they did and what the ####### they did wrong etc.

And now he talks to them again? Now when he left me...I mean that's cool, but why does he talk to them now again after all that #### he talked about them? Why did he say all this ####### about his family? And why does he only love them because it was his duty to do so? WHY? I can't understand this...

How comes he wants to know how they are doing all of a sudden when he made them seem horrible to me?!

That is just so weird...I dont get it...

Sweetie,

I think that he had something to hide,therefore, lying about not speaking to them and how horrible they are ;was just a plot to keep you away from them.He is a lying jerk.I am sure that his poor family would be shocked if they were to hear all of this.You are sooooooooooo lucky to be free of this scumbag!!!

[JayJay 4]

Oh Coria,

You might have ended up like I ended up if you'd have married this guy. I ended up totally physically and mentally broken from the marriage and then had to find the strength to pull myself out of it. I did, and am now with a great, great guy. But you know, if I could have sidestepped all the grief and just found someone lovely to begin with, I would have been so much better off in the end - much sooner, too!

This is a normal part of grieving for a broken relationship - you're going to be angry with him. That's totally fine and normal. I'd say, try to divert yourself as much as you can because he's no going to change, and he really doesn't want to be understood, that's for sure. He's going to just start to be nastier and nastier to you. You're worth more than that. Just because someone like him doesn't love you, doesn't mean you're worth less. You're worth tons and tons - when you meet someone who will give you the respect and the love you deserve, you'll know.

*HUGS* XX

[Cham 3]

Yeah, I think if I am honest to myself I felt that something was not the same no more.

Just some minutes ago I told my aunt about it. She did not know we broke up.

She just said that he was not worth it if he does that #### and that she already thought that there is something wrong with him in October when I was there crying because he did not want me over there due to him possibly being deployed. It hurts that he is gone, but what hurts more is, is probably to know that he has already stopped loving me before and that he does not care about me no more. That he treats me like I am ####### and not the woman he wanted to marry. The fact that I protected him from every stupid comments my friends made about him and got angry at my friends because I did not want to hear anything bad about him. I feel like he took it for granted...

Yeah, maybe I am better off without him...

GOOD FOR YOU GIRL!!

I am so proud of you!

You know you can be angry ALL you want. He DID take you for granted but remember things happen for a reason...one day someone fab will come along and will not do this to you. Your ex will have karma knock him upside the head for putting you through misery..

HUGS!!!

[macutelit 0]

things happen for a reason....time will heal everything....

[Ban Hammer 13,491]

I am so ###### mad right now.

He is pissing me the #### off.

How can he be such a jerk now?

And I felt like he lied...I mean he told me that he did not talk to his family....

But he has been talking so much #### about them a normal person would never say if they loved or liked someone.

So one day I just started thinking ####### about them too although I have never met them....I know that was wrong but always when I said that they might not mean it etc. he said they did and what the ####### they did wrong etc.

And now he talks to them again? Now when he left me...I mean that's cool, but why does he talk to them now again after all that #### he talked about them? Why did he say all this ####### about his family? And why does he only love them because it was his duty to do so? WHY? I can't understand this...

How comes he wants to know how they are doing all of a sudden when he made them seem horrible to me?!

That is just so weird...I dont get it...

maybe he's just a pathological liar? from what i've seen you post about him, you can certainly do better.

[beejay 125]

I am so ###### mad right now.

He is pissing me the #### off.

How can he be such a jerk now?

And I felt like he lied...I mean he told me that he did not talk to his family....

But he has been talking so much #### about them a normal person would never say if they loved or liked someone.

So one day I just started thinking ####### about them too although I have never met them....I know that was wrong but always when I said that they might not mean it etc. he said they did and what the ####### they did wrong etc.

And now he talks to them again? Now when he left me...I mean that's cool, but why does he talk to them now again after all that #### he talked about them? Why did he say all this ####### about his family? And why does he only love them because it was his duty to do so? WHY? I can't understand this...

How comes he wants to know how they are doing all of a sudden when he made them seem horrible to me?!

That is just so weird...I dont get it...

This is the part where you take a deep breath and say: Not my problem anymore.

Still wishing you all the best

-b

[DanielParul 50]

He's just a bad person who lied to you about himself and his family to get your attention and is probably lying his **** off to his family now to get theirs. Any person who talks $hit about his family too much (even if they did him wrong) and wants you to hate them is not a nice person. He will talk the same way about everybody else. Life with him would have become painful eventually. You are a strong person and stay that way. Good riddance! Now you can look forward to happy times again.

[DARUMA07 25]

He's just a bad person who lied to you about himself and his family to get your attention and is probably lying his **** off to his family now to get theirs. Any person who talks $hit about his family too much (even if they did him wrong) and wants you to hate them is not a nice person. He will talk the same way about everybody else. Life with him would have become painful eventually. You are a strong person and stay that way. Good riddance! Now you can look forward to happy times again.

Agreed!!!!......