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[chavelle 6]

My dear Sweet sweet Coria,

I refrained from writting anymore because i was getting worked up, worrying more than was necessary and being drained for several reasons, A lot of us had warned you to begin preparing for sad news as it obviously wasnt going in the right direction after he gave you a date!

Its very hard for you yes i understand, especially since this is a festive season, how on earth did he pick now of all the times in the world? Why let it linger till Jan 02? Whats going on behind closed doors there?

My fruustration.....

Do you take time to read our responses or just scan through them? Its hard i agree but you ll never get better advice and encouragement like you have found here as these caring, nice, calming, thoughtful, experienced men and women, old and young have taken time out to write to you, not just a few words but lengthy messages, some have shown experience some have used parables.

Coria, you are young, you have been patient, you have cried enough, its time to say good riddance to bad rubbish, take nice, long warm showers and scented baths, drink some apple ciders! Wear some lovely soothing lipstick straighten your hair and put some blushes on, look in the mirror and say .... he didnt deserve me and i will NOT be miserable for you all my life....

Alot of us have tried to advice, encourage and guide you in preparing for the worse, accepting it and moving on... leaving him in your past! I know its hard to explain but sincerely we have had worse experieces! We survived, i Did....

My fiancee got my bridesmaid and best friend pregnant 7 months to our wedding,all for a few minutes of groin gratification! its a long story, i lost my fiancee and best friend in one day, everything i had worked for, and i heard of it all through a lousy txt message, meanwhile it had been circulating round me while i was busy shopping for the wedding, silly me..... but i'm still here, laughing in his sorry face, so my dear, i've been there, others have seen worse, we listened, learned and survived!I cant say more than i have, neither can i match words with some fine comments you have had, please Coria, re-read, take it in and accept the situation... then and only then would healing process begin..

I wish you good luck Coria, soon love would find you again and this time you ll be careful and question everything deeper.

Well said!!!

Edited November 29, 2008 by chavelle

[DARUMA07 25]

My dear Sweet sweet Coria,

I refrained from writting anymore because i was getting worked up, worrying more than was necessary and being drained for several reasons, A lot of us had warned you to begin preparing for sad news as it obviously wasnt going in the right direction after he gave you a date!

Its very hard for you yes i understand, especially since this is a festive season, how on earth did he pick now of all the times in the world? Why let it linger till Jan 02? Whats going on behind closed doors there?

My fruustration.....

Do you take time to read our responses or just scan through them? Its hard i agree but you ll never get better advice and encouragement like you have found here as these caring, nice, calming, thoughtful, experienced men and women, old and young have taken time out to write to you, not just a few words but lengthy messages, some have shown experience some have used parables.

Coria, you are young, you have been patient, you have cried enough, its time to say good riddance to bad rubbish, take nice, long warm showers and scented baths, drink some apple ciders! Wear some lovely soothing lipstick straighten your hair and put some blushes on, look in the mirror and say .... he didnt deserve me and i will NOT be miserable for you all my life....

Alot of us have tried to advice, encourage and guide you in preparing for the worse, accepting it and moving on... leaving him in your past! I know its hard to explain but sincerely we have had worse experieces! We survived, i Did....

My fiancee got my bridesmaid and best friend pregnant 7 months to our wedding,all for a few minutes of groin gratification! its a long story, i lost my fiancee and best friend in one day, everything i had worked for, and i heard of it all through a lousy txt message, meanwhile it had been circulating round me while i was busy shopping for the wedding, silly me..... but i'm still here, laughing in his sorry face, so my dear, i've been there, others have seen worse, we listened, learned and survived!I cant say more than i have, neither can i match words with some fine comments you have had, please Coria, re-read, take it in and accept the situation... then and only then would healing process begin..

I wish you good luck Coria, soon love would find you again and this time you ll be careful and question everything deeper.

Well said!!!

I second that! ... Anyway, Coria, keep your head up and believe me , there is someone out there for you. We wish you the very best!!!!

[coria1988 0]

My dear Sweet sweet Coria,

I refrained from writting anymore because i was getting worked up, worrying more than was necessary and being drained for several reasons, A lot of us had warned you to begin preparing for sad news as it obviously wasnt going in the right direction after he gave you a date!

Its very hard for you yes i understand, especially since this is a festive season, how on earth did he pick now of all the times in the world? Why let it linger till Jan 02? Whats going on behind closed doors there?

My fruustration.....

Do you take time to read our responses or just scan through them? Its hard i agree but you ll never get better advice and encouragement like you have found here as these caring, nice, calming, thoughtful, experienced men and women, old and young have taken time out to write to you, not just a few words but lengthy messages, some have shown experience some have used parables.

Coria, you are young, you have been patient, you have cried enough, its time to say good riddance to bad rubbish, take nice, long warm showers and scented baths, drink some apple ciders! Wear some lovely soothing lipstick straighten your hair and put some blushes on, look in the mirror and say .... he didnt deserve me and i will NOT be miserable for you all my life....

Alot of us have tried to advice, encourage and guide you in preparing for the worse, accepting it and moving on... leaving him in your past! I know its hard to explain but sincerely we have had worse experieces! We survived, i Did....

My fiancee got my bridesmaid and best friend pregnant 7 months to our wedding,all for a few minutes of groin gratification! its a long story, i lost my fiancee and best friend in one day, everything i had worked for, and i heard of it all through a lousy txt message, meanwhile it had been circulating round me while i was busy shopping for the wedding, silly me..... but i'm still here, laughing in his sorry face, so my dear, i've been there, others have seen worse, we listened, learned and survived!

I cant say more than i have, neither can i match words with some fine comments you have had, please Coria, re-read, take it in and accept the situation... then and only then would healing process begin..

I wish you good luck Coria, soon love would find you again and this time you ll be careful and question everything deeper.

I did read what you write but I can't process it within one day and can break up because of the advice the first time I read it. It really helped me alot to get through the days the advices given me here. And I did think about them.

I also have already thought about breaking up with him myself, I did. But I just could not. I thought I have to wait a bit more and more because I love him. I did want to prepare for the worst at the end and I thought that I was ready for him to break up with me but I was not. Maybe another reason is because it came all of a sudden. First he gives me January 2 and then he tells me on November 27. I really thought I was ready for him to break up with me and I took your advice but it is not that easy and you guys know that for sure. I will move on and it will be hard but I am already looking for a job etc.

Thank you all for the support you have given me!!!

[Brian-Charisma 0]

I did read what you write but I can't process it within one day and can break up because of the advice the first time I read it. It really helped me alot to get through the days the advices given me here. And I did think about them.

I also have already thought about breaking up with him myself, I did. But I just could not. I thought I have to wait a bit more and more because I love him. I did want to prepare for the worst at the end and I thought that I was ready for him to break up with me but I was not. Maybe another reason is because it came all of a sudden. First he gives me January 2 and then he tells me on November 27. I really thought I was ready for him to break up with me and I took your advice but it is not that easy and you guys know that for sure. I will move on and it will be hard but I am already looking for a job etc.

Thank you all for the support you have given me!!!

hi Coria!! i never stopped reading this thread and just finished now.......i am so sorry!!!

i also had the hard times when me and my husband are apart and many problem arises.....but we survive!

i feel so upset with the man who did this to u......

wishing u and will pray for ur happiness!!!

take care and hope u will still keep in touch in here!!!

BE STRONG!!!

[Beautiful_years 0]

My dear Sweet sweet Coria,

I refrained from writting anymore because i was getting worked up, worrying more than was necessary and being drained for several reasons, A lot of us had warned you to begin preparing for sad news as it obviously wasnt going in the right direction after he gave you a date!

Its very hard for you yes i understand, especially since this is a festive season, how on earth did he pick now of all the times in the world? Why let it linger till Jan 02? Whats going on behind closed doors there?

My fruustration.....

Do you take time to read our responses or just scan through them? Its hard i agree but you ll never get better advice and encouragement like you have found here as these caring, nice, calming, thoughtful, experienced men and women, old and young have taken time out to write to you, not just a few words but lengthy messages, some have shown experience some have used parables.

Coria, you are young, you have been patient, you have cried enough, its time to say good riddance to bad rubbish, take nice, long warm showers and scented baths, drink some apple ciders! Wear some lovely soothing lipstick straighten your hair and put some blushes on, look in the mirror and say .... he didnt deserve me and i will NOT be miserable for you all my life....

Alot of us have tried to advice, encourage and guide you in preparing for the worse, accepting it and moving on... leaving him in your past! I know its hard to explain but sincerely we have had worse experieces! We survived, i Did....

My fiancee got my bridesmaid and best friend pregnant 7 months to our wedding,all for a few minutes of groin gratification! its a long story, i lost my fiancee and best friend in one day, everything i had worked for, and i heard of it all through a lousy txt message, meanwhile it had been circulating round me while i was busy shopping for the wedding, silly me..... but i'm still here, laughing in his sorry face, so my dear, i've been there, others have seen worse, we listened, learned and survived!

I cant say more than i have, neither can i match words with some fine comments you have had, please Coria, re-read, take it in and accept the situation... then and only then would healing process begin..

I wish you good luck Coria, soon love would find you again and this time you ll be careful and question everything deeper.

I did read what you write but I can't process it within one day and can break up because of the advice the first time I read it. It really helped me alot to get through the days the advices given me here. And I did think about them.

I also have already thought about breaking up with him myself, I did. But I just could not. I thought I have to wait a bit more and more because I love him. I did want to prepare for the worst at the end and I thought that I was ready for him to break up with me but I was not. Maybe another reason is because it came all of a sudden. First he gives me January 2 and then he tells me on November 27. I really thought I was ready for him to break up with me and I took your advice but it is not that easy and you guys know that for sure. I will move on and it will be hard but I am already looking for a job etc.

Thank you all for the support you have given me!!!

Hey sweet Coria,

I know its hard, but dont worry it will pass, it ll be worth your while, you ll be happier, trust me, no one can process all these in one day, but let it gradually sink in, it ll make sense to you soon.

[Cham 3]

My dear Sweet sweet Coria,

I refrained from writting anymore because i was getting worked up, worrying more than was necessary and being drained for several reasons, A lot of us had warned you to begin preparing for sad news as it obviously wasnt going in the right direction after he gave you a date!

Its very hard for you yes i understand, especially since this is a festive season, how on earth did he pick now of all the times in the world? Why let it linger till Jan 02? Whats going on behind closed doors there?

My fruustration.....

Do you take time to read our responses or just scan through them? Its hard i agree but you ll never get better advice and encouragement like you have found here as these caring, nice, calming, thoughtful, experienced men and women, old and young have taken time out to write to you, not just a few words but lengthy messages, some have shown experience some have used parables.

Coria, you are young, you have been patient, you have cried enough, its time to say good riddance to bad rubbish, take nice, long warm showers and scented baths, drink some apple ciders! Wear some lovely soothing lipstick straighten your hair and put some blushes on, look in the mirror and say .... he didnt deserve me and i will NOT be miserable for you all my life....

Alot of us have tried to advice, encourage and guide you in preparing for the worse, accepting it and moving on... leaving him in your past! I know its hard to explain but sincerely we have had worse experieces! We survived, i Did....

My fiancee got my bridesmaid and best friend pregnant 7 months to our wedding,all for a few minutes of groin gratification! its a long story, i lost my fiancee and best friend in one day, everything i had worked for, and i heard of it all through a lousy txt message, meanwhile it had been circulating round me while i was busy shopping for the wedding, silly me..... but i'm still here, laughing in his sorry face, so my dear, i've been there, others have seen worse, we listened, learned and survived!

I cant say more than i have, neither can i match words with some fine comments you have had, please Coria, re-read, take it in and accept the situation... then and only then would healing process begin..

I wish you good luck Coria, soon love would find you again and this time you ll be careful and question everything deeper.

Girl I can relate My ex husband was having sex with my sons Girlfriend RIGHT under our noses...

BUT had it not happened I would have never met Kai.

Coria

You know how I feel and We been talking in PMs Trust me babygirl. That man was not the one for you. It is strange that 3 years ago I was begging my ex and crying why why why and now I look back that God had a plan for me. It is weird that when we pray we want God to answer our prayers, but remember Some of Gods greatest gifts are unanswered prayers....and had that not happened; like I stated before, I would not have met my Kai.

It will happen to you my love and one day someone fabulous will sweep you off your feet and treat YOU the way YOU deserve.

I know it hurts sweetie and its okay to be mad or sad or even happy and laughing. YOU WILL BE OKAY...I promise.

You will one day look back at this and think..OH GOD what the hell was I thinking and see the signs folks here pointed out. It is hard to see it when you love so deeply...I know I been there to.

Just remember we love you and we would not say what we did had we not cared. No one is mad at you love we just got fustrated and wanted to say "Coria GIRL WAKE UP!! LOL

It will get better and remember SOME OF GODS GREATEST GIFTS ARE UNANSWERED PRAYERS!

BIG HUGS!!

meri

[Chelle62 0]

(((((((((( Coria )))))))))) sending you big hugs... You will be ok , but yes take the time you need to heal. Dont worry about him or anyone else right now.. take time for you. One day at a time. Go for a nice walk, take a long hot bath with bubbles and candles. Look in the mirror and see how beautiful you are and tell yourself that its his loss because he lost a beautiful woman and when the next man comes along and he shows you the way a woman should be treated you will look back and say Thankyou.

You are loved here by all and you will be ok.. Its hard but you are strong , hold onto who you are

Chelle

[Beautiful_years 0]

My dear Sweet sweet Coria,

I refrained from writting anymore because i was getting worked up, worrying more than was necessary and being drained for several reasons, A lot of us had warned you to begin preparing for sad news as it obviously wasnt going in the right direction after he gave you a date!

Its very hard for you yes i understand, especially since this is a festive season, how on earth did he pick now of all the times in the world? Why let it linger till Jan 02? Whats going on behind closed doors there?

My fruustration.....

Do you take time to read our responses or just scan through them? Its hard i agree but you ll never get better advice and encouragement like you have found here as these caring, nice, calming, thoughtful, experienced men and women, old and young have taken time out to write to you, not just a few words but lengthy messages, some have shown experience some have used parables.

Coria, you are young, you have been patient, you have cried enough, its time to say good riddance to bad rubbish, take nice, long warm showers and scented baths, drink some apple ciders! Wear some lovely soothing lipstick straighten your hair and put some blushes on, look in the mirror and say .... he didnt deserve me and i will NOT be miserable for you all my life....

Alot of us have tried to advice, encourage and guide you in preparing for the worse, accepting it and moving on... leaving him in your past! I know its hard to explain but sincerely we have had worse experieces! We survived, i Did....

My fiancee got my bridesmaid and best friend pregnant 7 months to our wedding,all for a few minutes of groin gratification! its a long story, i lost my fiancee and best friend in one day, everything i had worked for, and i heard of it all through a lousy txt message, meanwhile it had been circulating round me while i was busy shopping for the wedding, silly me..... but i'm still here, laughing in his sorry face, so my dear, i've been there, others have seen worse, we listened, learned and survived!

I cant say more than i have, neither can i match words with some fine comments you have had, please Coria, re-read, take it in and accept the situation... then and only then would healing process begin..

I wish you good luck Coria, soon love would find you again and this time you ll be careful and question everything deeper.

Girl I can relate My ex husband was having sex with my sons Girlfriend RIGHT under our noses...

BUT had it not happened I would have never met Kai.

Coria

You know how I feel and We been talking in PMs Trust me babygirl. That man was not the one for you. It is strange that 3 years ago I was begging my ex and crying why why why and now I look back that God had a plan for me. It is weird that when we pray we want God to answer our prayers, but remember Some of Gods greatest gifts are unanswered prayers....and had that not happened; like I stated before, I would not have met my Kai.

It will happen to you my love and one day someone fabulous will sweep you off your feet and treat YOU the way YOU deserve.

I know it hurts sweetie and its okay to be mad or sad or even happy and laughing. YOU WILL BE OKAY...I promise.

You will one day look back at this and think..OH GOD what the hell was I thinking and see the signs folks here pointed out. It is hard to see it when you love so deeply...I know I been there to.

Just remember we love you and we would not say what we did had we not cared. No one is mad at you love we just got fustrated and wanted to say "Coria GIRL WAKE UP!! LOL

It will get better and remember SOME OF GODS GREATEST GIFTS ARE UNANSWERED PRAYERS!

BIG HUGS!!

meri

I copy you on this one, i'm sure i know how u felt with ur Ex and how grateful we are for better 2nd chances at love, happiness is a journey....

Now Coria, glad you re okay, so move on

What are you doing today? Any special plans?

One thing that lifts the spirit for me always is GOD.... then shopping ang shopping and then some more!

True coria, we are not mad at you..... we just wanted you to wake up and seee...!

Meanwhile, any guy who stops u and asks for a date today should be booted out!!!! hahaha, that was on the lighter side, i know it ll feel good to be the one saying "sorry i'm not interested"

Take care of yourself Coria, we Care!

[chavelle 6]

Hey Coria sweetie,

How are you doing? We have not heard from you for a few days now.I hope that you are doing a little better.

Please keep us informed of your progress. Just remember that we care about a lot about you.

Chavelle.

[chavelle 6]

Hey Coria sweetie,

How are you doing? We have not heard from you for a few days now.I hope that you are doing a little better.

Please keep us informed of your progress. Just remember that we care about a lot about you.

Chavelle.

OOPS! I made some errors but could not edit it at all.

[JenT 0]

Hi Coria,

I am so sorry that your relationship was not what you had dreamed of... there are many people here who have suffered broken dreams, so I hope you won't leave VJ. You'll continue to find a lot of support here.

Try to focus on what you learned about yourself after all of this and what you really need in a lifelong partner. He's out there somewhere, waiting for you. Just don't settle or compromise on what's really important to you.

Jen

[SterlingGirl 1]

Someday soon - and how soon is up to you - you'll wake up excited instead of sad, because you'll realize that there is a great wide world outside full of people, one of whom will treat you with respect, kindness, and love.

[chavelle 6]

Has anyone heard from Coria? Just hope that she is ok.Thanks in advance.

[coria1988 0]

Hey,

Thank you all

Yes, I am ok

There is no chance he will get back with me...just friendship.

I really have no clue what I did wrong ...

So, once again, thank you all so much for your support!

I really appreciate it!

[Chelle62 0]

Hey,

Thank you all

Yes, I am ok

There is no chance he will get back with me...just friendship.

I really have no clue what I did wrong ...

So, once again, thank you all so much for your support!

I really appreciate it!

I dont think you did anything wrong , we always blame ourselves when things like this happened. When my marriage broke up I blamed myself and I was the one that walked out. He cheated on me, he was abusive but still I always asked what did I do so bad to cause this. Now that its over and I am with a man who does treat me good I realize that I didnt do it. he was the blame, he chose to do the things he did. So stop blaming yurself

huggsss

chelle