Adjustment to the United States

[SupportOAFJF 0]

no my girl..mi no ave no problem..mi just a bring u"ll foolish acts to sight...

glad ur still with ur husband..so am I

WHERE DO YOU SEE THE FOOLISHNESS.....PLEASE EXPLAIN......I WOULD SAY UR WORDS OF WISDOM ARE TO BE IGNORED, CAUSE YOU ARE DOING NOTHING BUT PICKING APART PEOPLE'S STORIES... IT IS PEOPLE LIKE YOU THAT WILL CAUSE OTHERS NOT TO SHARE CUASE OF YOUR CONTINOUS SO CALLED KNOWLEDGE OF WHAT A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE..........

WHEN DID I EVER STATE THAT I WAS GIVING ADVICE ON WHAT THE HECK MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSE TO BE !!

WHY IS THIS WHITE ISSUE STILL COMING UP..DIDN'T HE KNOW HE WAS GETTING INTO A WHITE FAMILY FROM JUMP!!

Please anyone can join in, but your responses must not be of an attack mod.

Just for the record i'm not attacking..ppl are getting defensive..for what..don't know !!

[Mrs. Smith 0]

Okay, so how could you'll have handle this differently if you had to do it all over agian. Now I would say for myself, every family culture have dirrences even here in the US. What was the upside of being married into a white family verus a black family?

THere was nothing that I could have done differently,I am happy with the choices I made........There is a comfortabilty issue on his part being married to a white woman, it took getting used too, when you are not surronded by white people on a daily.........JUS t my opinoin.....

[Mrs. Smith 0]

no my girl..mi no ave no problem..mi just a bring u"ll foolish acts to sight...

glad ur still with ur husband..so am I

WHERE DO YOU SEE THE FOOLISHNESS.....PLEASE EXPLAIN......I WOULD SAY UR WORDS OF WISDOM ARE TO BE IGNORED, CAUSE YOU ARE DOING NOTHING BUT PICKING APART PEOPLE'S STORIES... IT IS PEOPLE LIKE YOU THAT WILL CAUSE OTHERS NOT TO SHARE CUASE OF YOUR CONTINOUS SO CALLED KNOWLEDGE OF WHAT A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE..........

WHEN DID I EVER STATE THAT I WAS GIVING ADVICE ON WHAT THE HECK MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSE TO BE !!

WHY IS THIS WHITE ISSUE STILL COMING UP..DIDN'T HE KNOW HE WAS GETTING INTO A WHITE FAMILY FROM JUMP!!

Please anyone can join in, but your responses must not be of an attack mod.

Just for the record i'm not attacking..ppl are getting defensive..for what..don't know !!

i did not by far saying you were giving advice, if anything, u majke it harder or people to say what they want to say.......

DEFFFENSIVE, i think NOT..........

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Kimmy has stated, that her responds are not of an attack mod, so please everyone accept that she is asking valid questions. Because I do think that this can be a good post, but we must not get defensive at everything that someone post. Is this fair to everyone?

[shrewdgal 0]

no my girl..mi no ave no problem..mi just a bring u"ll foolish acts to sight...

glad ur still with ur husband..so am I

WHERE DO YOU SEE THE FOOLISHNESS.....PLEASE EXPLAIN......I WOULD SAY UR WORDS OF WISDOM ARE TO BE IGNORED, CAUSE YOU ARE DOING NOTHING BUT PICKING APART PEOPLE'S STORIES... IT IS PEOPLE LIKE YOU THAT WILL CAUSE OTHERS NOT TO SHARE CUASE OF YOUR CONTINOUS SO CALLED KNOWLEDGE OF WHAT A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE..........

WHEN DID I EVER STATE THAT I WAS GIVING ADVICE ON WHAT THE HECK MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSE TO BE !!

WHY IS THIS WHITE ISSUE STILL COMING UP..DIDN'T HE KNOW HE WAS GETTING INTO A WHITE FAMILY FROM JUMP!!

Please anyone can join in, but your responses must not be of an attack mod.

Just for the record i'm not attacking..ppl are getting defensive..for what..don't know !!

because apparently it is an adjustment for some. That is ok. My husband knows he married into a white family, but it will still be some adjusting when he gets here I am sure. Just as I knew I married into a Jamaican family, it is still different. Just simple things as even getting my hair braided, his sister was braiding it and had to adjust the way she braided because of the type of my hair.

I think that more than one person dealing with "this white issue" shows that it is a pattern and maybe some people could benefit from it

I dont think that means that it is so much a black/white issue as a cultural issue.

I have lived in both predominately white areas and predominately black areas. There was adjusting for me and I was even born in this country.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Screw this "White" stuff as excuse..IMO..this has nothing to do with it..IMO!!

[nannygirl82 0]

Roxie....i think if i had to to it again i would have seeked some councling services for us as a couple and for him. I think I might have also pushed him more to go to school to get his GED and not have waited. Because at least he could have been going there until he got his green card. Maybe also gotten a membership at the YMCA for another place for us to go or for him to go and work out or play b-ball. I really don't know if that would have changed anything.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

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[Mrs. Smith 0]

Screw this "White" stuff as excuse..IMO..this has nothing to do with it..IMO!!

wow, I am out of here, HOTLEGZ, I hope ur life with ur husband has no flaws and is just great..........Wish u all the best....... U have got to be the rudest person I have ever come across in all the time I have been on this website..... I hope u are proud of yourself............

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Okay, so how could you'll have handle this differently if you had to do it all over agian. Now I would say for myself, every family culture have dirrences even here in the US. What was the upside of being married into a white family verus a black family?

THere was nothing that I could have done differently,I am happy with the choices I made........There is a comfortabilty issue on his part being married to a white woman, it took getting used too, when you are not surronded by white people on a daily.........JUS t my opinoin.....

Can I ask you a question how would you have acted if you had to live in a all black community, and their culture was a little different than yours. What would you have expected from him. Just flip the script for a minute. Is he adjusting to this situation any better as time has gone on?

[shrewdgal 0]

Screw this "White" stuff as excuse..IMO..this has nothing to do with it..IMO!!

We have never really dealt with the black/white issue as something that needs to be adjusted to (minus the hair, haha) but I can see why some people would have to.

us it as an excuse for what?

[Mrs. Smith 0]

Okay, so how could you'll have handle this differently if you had to do it all over agian. Now I would say for myself, every family culture have dirrences even here in the US. What was the upside of being married into a white family verus a black family?

THere was nothing that I could have done differently,I am happy with the choices I made........There is a comfortabilty issue on his part being married to a white woman, it took getting used too, when you are not surronded by white people on a daily.........JUS t my opinoin.....

Can I ask you a question how would you have acted if you had to live in a all black community, and their culture was a little different than yours. What would you have expected from him. Just flip the script for a minute. Is he adjusting to this situation any better as time has gone on?

I live in a melting pot of many different cultures.... I can adjust to any situation I am in..................That is who I am....

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Screw this "White" stuff as excuse..IMO..this has nothing to do with it..IMO!!

wow, I am out of here, HOTLEGZ, I hope ur life with ur husband has no flaws and is just great..........Wish u all the best....... U have got to be the rudest person I have ever come across in all the time I have been on this website..... I hope u are proud of yourself............

Thnx for the well wishs..nope it has not been all peachy but it sure has heck not gotten anywhere near foolishness...thats for sure...

again thanks for the compliments...

if we all live i nthese melting pots of cultures and races..why does this White thing come up..come on that is not what it is..HE KNEW U WERE WHITE..AND HAD WHITE FAMILY...

Screw this "White" stuff as excuse..IMO..this has nothing to do with it..IMO!!

We have never really dealt with the black/white issue as something that needs to be adjusted to (minus the hair, haha) but I can see why some people would have to.

us it as an excuse for what?

was i not clear? excuse of what is wrong with their relationship...how come this wasn't the issue when they got married..

[shrewdgal 0]

Screw this "White" stuff as excuse..IMO..this has nothing to do with it..IMO!!

wow, I am out of here, HOTLEGZ, I hope ur life with ur husband has no flaws and is just great..........Wish u all the best....... U have got to be the rudest person I have ever come across in all the time I have been on this website..... I hope u are proud of yourself............

Thnx for the well wishs..nope it has not been all peachy but it sure has heck not gotten anywhere near foolishness...thats for sure...

again thanks for the compliments...

if we all live i nthese melting pots of cultures and races..why does this White thing come up..come on that is not what it is..HE KNEW U WERE WHITE..AND HAD WHITE FAMILY...

Screw this "White" stuff as excuse..IMO..this has nothing to do with it..IMO!!

We have never really dealt with the black/white issue as something that needs to be adjusted to (minus the hair, haha) but I can see why some people would have to.

us it as an excuse for what?

was i not clear? excuse of what is wrong with their relationship...how come this wasn't the issue when they got married..

oooh. now I get you.

I dont know....??

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Mrs. Smith, that maybe so, but it seems to have been a big adjustment issue for your husband. He may have been comfortable with your neighbors, but how comfortable was is he with family. Whether you want to accept this or not, family really matters to him.

We all must remember our husbands are not us, to say I would have adjusted without any problems is not fair to them, he may had just a harder thing in adjusting to this than you. Just step back a little and look at how you could have done one small thing different and it may have made this out come a little different.