Adjustment to the United States

[*JG* 2]

Hey Kelly, thanks for sharing that..

I have several friends in the same situation the "smoking" is a big issue. One of them her husband has not been able to get a job because he has failed all the urine drug screen and all he says to her is "if he was in Jamaica, you jus fling a few dollahs"...well, you not in Jamaica.

Andre didn't get the first job he applied for here cause he failed the drug test. I was pissed.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

u know i can't help it..what is the purpose of this again..cause this is NOT normal things ppl go threw when adjusting...what do u'll think..duppy know who fi freighten or wah? #######..this ish posting in here is pissing me off..WE R NOT SUPPOSE TO GO THRU THIS BULLSHYT LADIES..COME ON..

i'm sorry but a just how mi feel

Wow...I wonder what it really is..cause i'm not judging anyone..but i don't feel i need to talk..b/c it seems i have no issues compared to some...my heart goes out to all u guys..that r having a HORRIBLE time..

I agree...this is terrible.

One thing I would to say is that when you post...please post about YOUR experience...try not to say THEY or what others will go through. Everyone experience is different. All Jamaican men should not be painted with the same brush.

absolutely !!

Hey Kelly, thanks for sharing that..

I have several friends in the same situation the "smoking" is a big issue. One of them her husband has not been able to get a job because he has failed all the urine drug screen and all he says to her is "if he was in Jamaica, you jus fling a few dollahs"...well, you not in Jamaica.

Andre didn't get the first job he applied for here cause he failed the drug test. I was pissed.

I would be too it's only natural

[luvtravlin 0]

Wow...I wonder what it really is..cause i'm not judging anyone..but i don't feel i need to talk..b/c it seems i have no issues compared to some...my heart goes out to all u guys..that r having a HORRIBLE time..

I agree...this is terrible.

One thing I would to say is that when you post...please post about YOUR experience...try not to say THEY or what others will go through. Everyone experience is different. All Jamaican men should not be painted with the same brush.

No, I'll say "they" because I mean Craig, Mike, and the many other JA men that I know. As I've stated numerous times over the past 4 yrs, I know that all Jamaican men are not like "that", but there's MANY that are. Just because there's only a handful that "I" know that are decent men.... just like when I talk about "men" be it American men....I say "they"....

Of course everyone's experience is different and if someone wants to keep saying..... oh not my man, we all already know that there are a few on here that have great relationships, so why keep taking it the wrong way ?? Ugh...

[*JG* 2]

Wow...I wonder what it really is..cause i'm not judging anyone..but i don't feel i need to talk..b/c it seems i have no issues compared to some...my heart goes out to all u guys..that r having a HORRIBLE time..

I agree...this is terrible.

One thing I would to say is that when you post...please post about YOUR experience...try not to say THEY or what others will go through. Everyone experience is different. All Jamaican men should not be painted with the same brush.

True. But she is talking about several relationships of which she is personally knowledgable about. I think she has the right here. She has many good points.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

I KNOW MY MAN NO INCLUDED INNA DIS ..AND MI AFFI TALK CAUSE HE'S A JAMAICAN ME..U TALK ABOUT UR OWN RELATIONSHIP..AND LET EVERYONE ELSE TALK ABOUT THEIRS..I KNOW ALOT ALOT OF DECENT JAMAICAN, AMERICAN MEN...

YES I KNOW UR NOT TALKING ABOUT KASHI SPECIFICALLY BUT HE'S STILL A JAMAICAN

yes she has good points that happened to her..

I don't know if i believe how much love was in ur relationship Nanny/Luvtralin...how did love just go out the window over nite..

Edited February 9, 2009 by Hotlegz

[Shemmy 4]

Wow...I wonder what it really is..cause i'm not judging anyone..but i don't feel i need to talk..b/c it seems i have no issues compared to some...my heart goes out to all u guys..that r having a HORRIBLE time..

I agree...this is terrible.

One thing I would to say is that when you post...please post about YOUR experience...try not to say THEY or what others will go through. Everyone experience is different. All Jamaican men should not be painted with the same brush.

No, I'll say "they" because I mean Craig, Mike, and the many other JA men that I know. As I've stated numerous times over the past 4 yrs, I know that all Jamaican men are not like "that", but there's MANY that are. Just because there's only a handful that "I" know that are decent men.... just like when I talk about "men" be it American men....I say "they"....

Of course everyone's experience is different and if someone wants to keep saying..... oh not my man, we all already know that there are a few on here that have great relationships, so why keep taking it the wrong way ?? Ugh...

Kelly, no one is taking it the wrong way. Just trying to keep things fair...it was an issue before. Bottom line is...people were offended.

[Shemmy 4]

Wow...I wonder what it really is..cause i'm not judging anyone..but i don't feel i need to talk..b/c it seems i have no issues compared to some...my heart goes out to all u guys..that r having a HORRIBLE time..

I agree...this is terrible.

One thing I would to say is that when you post...please post about YOUR experience...try not to say THEY or what others will go through. Everyone experience is different. All Jamaican men should not be painted with the same brush.

True. But she is talking about several relationships of which she is personally knowledgable about. I think she has the right here. She has many good points.

I agree, she does does have good points.

It was just a suggestion. Doesn't matter to me cuz none of these apply to me.

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dbl post

Edited February 9, 2009 by Hotlegz

[SupportOAFJF 0]

u know what..never mind my statement..i forget this thing comes up all the time..excuse me u'll

[Shemmy 4]

And unfortunately the "attitude" WILL NEVER EVER GO AWAY !!!! When he gets here and doesn't get his "way", doesn't have a job for months and months, doesn't have money in his own pocket (and I'm not supposed to be the ATM, especially if he's working), there's going to be major attitude. It's always all about them and NOT his wife and/or HER children!!!!

Hmmm....maybe I read this wrong.

[luvtravlin 0]

I KNOW MY MAN NO INCLUDED INNA DIS ..AND MI AFFI TALK CAUSE HE'S A JAMAICAN ME..U TALK ABOUT UR OWN RELATIONSHIP..AND LET EVERYONE ELSE TALK ABOUT THEIRS..I KNOW ALOT ALOT OF DECENT JAMAICAN, AMERICAN MEN...

YES I KNOW UR NOT TALKING ABOUT KASHI SPECIFICALLY BUT HE'S STILL A JAMAICAN

yes she has good points that happened to her..

I don't know if i believe how much love was in ur relationship Nanny/Luvtralin...how did love just go out the window over nite..

That's why I wrote FEW ....I never suggested your man "being Jamaican" is included. Dear Lord...

You don't know me, so do not say that "love" wasn't there for my relationship and I'm only speaking about "MY" relationship, because it was. I'm not 20 yrs old with just meeting my man for the 1st time. So "I" know what love is truly all about, but............from the influences that Craig was put in his head every flippin day, CHANGED that love, dramatically. I loved the heck out of him until 10 months ago, but I'm done. I do care about him and what happens to him because I am a caring and kind person, but I don't have to love him anymore !!!

Um, you do know people that have fallen out of love, don't you ??? Doesn't matter if you're married 1 week, 1 month or 20 years it does happen.

I think it's funny how you guys wanna know how the adjustment is .....but then come down on me when I have to say the REAL DEAL in MOST of these relationships. These are the relationships of the couples that are here in the US, not the ones going through the process. Like I think you mentioned something in the other thread about not knowing of any "inter racial" relationships, so you can never know what it's like be in my shoes, Shauna's, Suzy's, etc etc...... it IS different. The way the women look at us, disrespect us, kiss their teeth, it's just ludicrous nuts !!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

I KNOW MY MAN NO INCLUDED INNA DIS ..AND MI AFFI TALK CAUSE HE'S A JAMAICAN ME..U TALK ABOUT UR OWN RELATIONSHIP..AND LET EVERYONE ELSE TALK ABOUT THEIRS..I KNOW ALOT ALOT OF DECENT JAMAICAN, AMERICAN MEN...

YES I KNOW UR NOT TALKING ABOUT KASHI SPECIFICALLY BUT HE'S STILL A JAMAICAN

yes she has good points that happened to her..

I don't know if i believe how much love was in ur relationship Nanny/Luvtralin...how did love just go out the window over nite..

That's why I wrote FEW ....I never suggested your man "being Jamaican" is included. Dear Lord...

You don't know me, so do not say that "love" wasn't there for my relationship and I'm only speaking about "MY" relationship, because it was. I'm not 20 yrs old with just meeting my man for the 1st time. So "I" know what love is truly all about, but............from the influences that Craig was put in his head every flippin day, CHANGED that love, dramatically. I loved the heck out of him until 10 months ago, but I'm done. I do care about him and what happens to him because I am a caring and kind person, but I don't have to love him anymore !!!

Um, you do know people that have fallen out of love, don't you ??? Doesn't matter if you're married 1 week, 1 month or 20 years it does happen.

I think it's funny how you guys wanna know how the adjustment is .....but then come down on me when I have to say the REAL DEAL in MOST of these relationships. These are the relationships of the couples that are here in the US, not the ones going through the process. Like I think you mentioned something in the other thread about not knowing of any "inter racial" relationships, so you can never know what it's like be in my shoes, Shauna's, Suzy's, etc etc...... it IS different. The way the women look at us, disrespect us, kiss their teeth, it's just ludicrous nuts !!

Don;t get all ur panties in a bunch when ppl reply to ur posts

If u put ur LIFE story out there..u leave every and anyone to judge and assume..and for ur informations i'm not 20yr that met my husband once..

I shared my issue with adjustment..u talking as if this is what OTHERS have to look forward to as if these are facts..they're ur facts U ALLOWED this stuff to happen to u..and like I said I QUESTION WHAT LOVE WAS THERE ON HIS PART...

and like i mentioned in my post about interracial relationships..i said i have no one in my family that is...and if u had kept reading i also said..this has NOTHING to with black/white...

And no i don't know anyone who has fallen out of love..they all still love each other

When did i say u don't know what LOVE is? does he?

THE WAY WHAT WOMEN LOOK AT U? WHY DO U CARE OO SO MUCH HOW ANOTHER DAMN WOMAN LOOKS AT U..UNLESS UR GUILTY OF SOMETHING...

[SupportOAFJF 0]

if u wanna sit around and let ppl disrespect u..then that's ur problem

[jamerican 2]

I think this is going somewhere it needs not be..... I come to this thread/topic so I can have some insight to what MIGHT be stumbling blocks to my SO if or when he comes here......Nowhere does this need to grow into who loved who and what may have caused the outcome....neither does it need to be a ALL JAMAICAN MEN will do this...or even MOST...or even ALL THE ONES I KNOW..... Lets keep this helpful and not hurtful please

[Shemmy 4]

I think this is going somewhere it needs not be..... I come to this thread/topic so I can have some insight to what MIGHT be stumbling blocks to my SO if or when he comes here......Nowhere does this need to grow into who loved who and what may have caused the outcome....neither does it need to be a ALL JAMAICAN MEN will do this...or even MOST...or even ALL THE ONES I KNOW..... Lets keep this helpful and not hurtful please

I agree This should be a valuable thread to others especially newbies.

Good seeing you around Jamerican.