Passed medical but might have ruined my interview results :(

[Hunnybaby 1]

My fiance included my daughter on his petition and we got approval, decided to just follow to join. I just passed my medical exams but had to admit that my precious Angelie is not my own, that I never gave birth, never been married with the fear that if I told them I gave birth, they would know through my physical examination that it's a lie. She is my cousin's daughter, given to us when she was only a month old w/o any documents. I didnt even think the responsibilities I am taking when I decided to have her registered under my name w/o a father on her Birth Certificate. Since then we never had contacts with her real mother whom we're really not that close to them, not until last year when my uncle who brought Angel to us died. When my family went to his burial, I let Angel to go with them to meet her real family, her real mom and other sisters. They were very happy that Angel is lucky to have us as her family since we can give everything she needs, educations, good health, etc.... Btw, she is 6 yrs old now.

Now, I'm really worried coz the embassy would know the real deal with my so called documented daughter

I'm hoping that the consul that will interview me has a BIG heart and would understand my situation... Am I being paranoid about this?

My fiance adviced me that if the consul will ask if He knows about this, he told me to say NO... what the heck! We had argument about it, told him it's ridiculous, he said, it's kidnapping.... coz she isnt really mine, but mine... isnt it so confusing? That he'll try to bring my so called daughter to the US....grrrrrrrrrr.... still worried about it... but I decided to tell the truth during the interview if i will be asked about it....

Any suggestions? or opinions?

Thanks a lot for reading, please pray also that the interview will turn out FINE and POSITIVE

[felb 0]

that's a really complicated situation you got yourself into. it'll be hard to tell how it would affect your interview since you sort of lied. but since you're decided to tell the truth if asked, you'll just have to accept the consequences. but i'll do pray for you.

[Hunnybaby 1]

I didn't lie

I just told the truth to the doctor when I was asked if I gave birth already..... but yeah, I kinda lie when I have her registered as mine....

Thanks anyway...

that's a really complicated situation you got yourself into. it'll be hard to tell how it would affect your interview since you sort of lied. but since you're decided to tell the truth if asked, you'll just have to accept the consequences. but i'll do pray for you.

[RadzNSteve 0]

tell the truth because if they catch you in a lie then all will be disapproved, just tell what really happened and hope for the best. I understand if you had her since she was a month old she is yours im not sure how this will effect things but I know what will happen if you dont tell the truth on it. Best of luck to you.

[nbfsb 1]

you should legally adopt her so you won't have future problems if you would bring her abroad. and better tell the truth then be sorry in the end when they found out you lied. I hope everything will be settled in time.

[PingLocalHostess 1]

You didnt adopt the baby? You just registered her as yours? I know your intentions are noble BUT in a legal sense, she is NOT yours. And you know the birth mother too... that would even complicate things. If you are to bring an underage child out of the country, it would require parental consent... consent from her REAL mother or father. Or consent from a "guardian," but you arent her legal guardian coz the court didnt appoint you as such. You have legal issues, you have to deal with that first. Consult a lawyer on how you can expedite the process.

Im not 100% sure on this but i strongly suggest on your interview, bring a letter from your fiance that states HE KNOWS everything. Only to prove that he is WELL AWARE of the situation.

AND lying (not saying you did) or withholding information to USEM is NOT a good idea. Im pretty sure in the future, you dont wanna be wondering what might have been.

Edited November 12, 2008 by PingLocalHostess

[nickoftime 0]

Here's something for you to ponder...

When I had my interview, I was asked by the CO how many children I had and I said two although my eldest was not registered in my name but to my parents. The CO asked me if it was an informal adoption and I said yes. She said that it was simulation of birth and I said it was but since it was my father who did the registration, I cannot be charged of any crime. And since my father is dead, no one can be hold accountable for such an act. The CO did not say anything anymore.

I think that that there will be no problem if you would say that what happened was an informal adoption. But that's with respect to your application. The problem may crop up when your child follows and a visa is applied for her.

Good luck!

[diadromous mermaid 36]

I'd consult a lawyer in the Philippines to figure out how you can adopt your "daughter". The fact that she has your name, I would imagine, is of less significance than her real relationship to you. Right now as your cousin's daughter, even if you became a US citizen yourself, she'd not be eligible as a beneficiary to any petition you could file on her behalf. Her relationship to you is not direct enough.

As for the visa, pending information you acquire from counsel familiar with adoption in the PI, I would suspect you have little option but to delay the immigration until you are her legal guardian.

My fiance included my daughter on his petition and we got approval, decided to just follow to join. I just passed my medical exams but had to admit that my precious Angelie is not my own, that I never gave birth, never been married with the fear that if I told them I gave birth, they would know through my physical examination that it's a lie. She is my cousin's daughter, given to us when she was only a month old w/o any documents. I didnt even think the responsibilities I am taking when I decided to have her registered under my name w/o a father on her Birth Certificate. Since then we never had contacts with her real mother whom we're really not that close to them, not until last year when my uncle who brought Angel to us died. When my family went to his burial, I let Angel to go with them to meet her real family, her real mom and other sisters. They were very happy that Angel is lucky to have us as her family since we can give everything she needs, educations, good health, etc.... Btw, she is 6 yrs old now.

Now, I'm really worried coz the embassy would know the real deal with my so called documented daughter

I'm hoping that the consul that will interview me has a BIG heart and would understand my situation... Am I being paranoid about this?

My fiance adviced me that if the consul will ask if He knows about this, he told me to say NO... what the heck! We had argument about it, told him it's ridiculous, he said, it's kidnapping.... coz she isnt really mine, but mine... isnt it so confusing? That he'll try to bring my so called daughter to the US....grrrrrrrrrr.... still worried about it... but I decided to tell the truth during the interview if i will be asked about it....

Any suggestions? or opinions?

Thanks a lot for reading, please pray also that the interview will turn out FINE and POSITIVE

[IzelNAl 0]

Hunnybaby,

Izel is in the same situation as you. Her brother left his daughter with Izel at a very young age and has not been seen since. Crystal is now 5 years old. Izel also has a son that is 2 years old and the 2 kids are very close like brother and sister.

Izel wanted to do the same thing you did and register Crystals birth showing Izel as the mother and no father but I told her that was dishonest and she could get caught for kidnapping and many other crimes. We decided to wait until we are married and then we (I) will adopt Crystal and bring her to the US.

There is a full procedure for this on the USCIS web site. I did a little home work on it but am so swamped at work now that I do not have more time.

What ever you decide to do, just be sure to always be honest. There could be many consequences to your actions that could ruin your life.

BTW, if you do find out any more about the US Immigration and adoption procedure or about the informal adoption procedure that someone else mentioned, please let us know.

Good luck. I am sure that it will all work out in the end.

Al

[mikeuday19 0]

just be honest girl, im sorry you're in a situation like this, its quite complicated, i wish i knew what to tell you,

but still, good luck on your interview,

i always include you in my prayers...

[Hunnybaby 1]

Hi NickofTime,

Thanks for sharing yours. I know it's a simulation of birth. I will definitely tell the truth since I already told the truth during my medical appointment and it was noted on my papers there.

To all who shared their opinions and ideas, I really appreciate every words you've given me. Kinda having ideas how will I handle this during the interview.

As what others say, just have a little Faith...

I will share to all of you what will happen on my interview.

To AL,

Yes, my fiance told me that adoption is really the only option, I'm just wondering how would it be, she is using the Birth Cert. I registered, her school records, she even have a passport now.

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr...... lots of worries....

Thanks Guys!

Here's something for you to ponder...

When I had my interview, I was asked by the CO how many children I had and I said two although my eldest was not registered in my name but to my parents. The CO asked me if it was an informal adoption and I said yes. She said that it was simulation of birth and I said it was but since it was my father who did the registration, I cannot be charged of any crime. And since my father is dead, no one can be hold accountable for such an act. The CO did not say anything anymore.

I think that that there will be no problem if you would say that what happened was an informal adoption. But that's with respect to your application. The problem may crop up when your child follows and a visa is applied for her.

Good luck!

[Gumbolette 58]

Hi Hunnybunny...

I can suggest that you can go to the city hall and go to the Public attorney's office. There are lawyers there that can shed you some light without pay. Hear what they can say about your case you might as well get some ideas from them.

Hope things get smooth soon.

[Hunnybaby 1]

Hi my_panacea = Greg,

I just spoke with our company's attorney, he gave me an advice to tell the truth and was told that he knew someone who were interviewed at Canadian Embassy ( totally different Embassy ) said, kinda like the same situation, coz parents' were petitioning their children and one of their child had a baby and they have registered the baby as their own, Ofcse with the age distance from the youngest, the consul denied that child thinking she/he's the baby of their own child.

Well, as for now, I don't think there's way to fix this but to tell the truth like what I did during my medical. Just hoping that my fiance's petition to me would not be affected.

worrying still....

Hi Hunnybunny...

I can suggest that you can go to the city hall and go to the Public attorney's office. There are lawyers there that can shed you some light without pay. Hear what they can say about your case you might as well get some ideas from them.

Hope things get smooth soon.

[angel_eyes1976 0]

My fiance included my daughter on his petition and we got approval, decided to just follow to join. I just passed my medical exams but had to admit that my precious Angelie is not my own, that I never gave birth, never been married with the fear that if I told them I gave birth, they would know through my physical examination that it's a lie. She is my cousin's daughter, given to us when she was only a month old w/o any documents. I didnt even think the responsibilities I am taking when I decided to have her registered under my name w/o a father on her Birth Certificate. Since then we never had contacts with her real mother whom we're really not that close to them, not until last year when my uncle who brought Angel to us died. When my family went to his burial, I let Angel to go with them to meet her real family, her real mom and other sisters. They were very happy that Angel is lucky to have us as her family since we can give everything she needs, educations, good health, etc.... Btw, she is 6 yrs old now.

Now, I'm really worried coz the embassy would know the real deal with my so called documented daughter

I'm hoping that the consul that will interview me has a BIG heart and would understand my situation... Am I being paranoid about this?

My fiance adviced me that if the consul will ask if He knows about this, he told me to say NO... what the heck! We had argument about it, told him it's ridiculous, he said, it's kidnapping.... coz she isnt really mine, but mine... isnt it so confusing? That he'll try to bring my so called daughter to the US....grrrrrrrrrr.... still worried about it... but I decided to tell the truth during the interview if i will be asked about it....

Any suggestions? or opinions?

Thanks a lot for reading, please pray also that the interview will turn out FINE and POSITIVE

best option for you is to tell the truth... if you won't and US embassy finds out (I know they have ways of finding out), you could be charged with human smuggling and carries I think a lifetime ban... it could ruin your chances of ever going to the US...

in the philippines, simulation of birth, no matter how honorable the intentions are, also carries a punishment... i think a fine of P50,000 - P100,000 or imprisonment up to 12 years or both... but being in the philippines, there are ways to get around it... i suggest you consult a lawyer who has experience on cases like these.... i have consulted a lawyer before and he told me it can cost P200,000 maybe more just to adopt the minor child and erase the simulation of birth record... that is if you have intentions of adopting the child and bringing her to the US...

to adopt the child, USCIS has their own requirements too.... you must adopt the child before the child's 16th birthday... you must live with that child for at least two years after legal custody has been granted to you (count 2 years after the court adoption decree)... they have other requirements but these two are the ones that come to mind... only after you've satisfied it, then that's when you can petition for that adopted child

[angel_eyes1976 0]

My fiance included my daughter on his petition and we got approval, decided to just follow to join. I just passed my medical exams but had to admit that my precious Angelie is not my own, that I never gave birth, never been married with the fear that if I told them I gave birth, they would know through my physical examination that it's a lie. She is my cousin's daughter, given to us when she was only a month old w/o any documents. I didnt even think the responsibilities I am taking when I decided to have her registered under my name w/o a father on her Birth Certificate. Since then we never had contacts with her real mother whom we're really not that close to them, not until last year when my uncle who brought Angel to us died. When my family went to his burial, I let Angel to go with them to meet her real family, her real mom and other sisters. They were very happy that Angel is lucky to have us as her family since we can give everything she needs, educations, good health, etc.... Btw, she is 6 yrs old now.

Now, I'm really worried coz the embassy would know the real deal with my so called documented daughter

I'm hoping that the consul that will interview me has a BIG heart and would understand my situation... Am I being paranoid about this?

My fiance adviced me that if the consul will ask if He knows about this, he told me to say NO... what the heck! We had argument about it, told him it's ridiculous, he said, it's kidnapping.... coz she isnt really mine, but mine... isnt it so confusing? That he'll try to bring my so called daughter to the US....grrrrrrrrrr.... still worried about it... but I decided to tell the truth during the interview if i will be asked about it....

Any suggestions? or opinions?

Thanks a lot for reading, please pray also that the interview will turn out FINE and POSITIVE

best option for you is to tell the truth... if you won't and US embassy finds out (I know they have ways of finding out), you could be charged with human smuggling and carries I think a lifetime ban... it could ruin your chances of ever going to the US...

in the philippines, simulation of birth, no matter how honorable the intentions are, also carries a punishment... i think a fine of P50,000 - P100,000 or imprisonment up to 12 years or both... but being in the philippines, there are ways to get around it... i suggest you consult a lawyer who has experience on cases like these.... i have consulted a lawyer before and he told me it can cost P200,000 maybe more just to adopt the minor child and erase the simulation of birth record... that is if you have intentions of adopting the child and bringing her to the US...

to adopt the child, USCIS has their own requirements too.... you must adopt the child before the child's 16th birthday... you must live with that child for at least two years after legal custody has been granted to you (count 2 years after the court adoption decree)... they have other requirements but these two are the ones that come to mind... only after you've satisfied it, then that's when you can petition for that adopted child

also, if there is a way to cancel that child's petition before your interview then that would be better... i don't know if it can be done though... it's just a thought...