Is the romance gone?

[morocco4ever 63]

Now see, your getting it!

[notime4haterz 0]

Muslim wife=momma substitute, congratulations on the adoption!!

I think this is kind of a ridiculous statement, but everyone is entitled to their views...If that's how you feel, don't marry a Muslim. Marry a non-Muslim.

As for my husband, he couldn't be better.

He does not do the card/flowers thing either. He doesn't send me messages anymore like before, but that's because there was always something new to learn about each other, getting to know one another before marriage.

However, when we're together, there's nothing that man won't do for me. From getting breakfast ready while I stay in bed, to carrying my shopping bags. Every year he buys me some jewelry when he goes home for a visit. When I get mad for nothing, or have a bad mood or attitude, or a bad day in general and take it out on him, he's understanding and patient. That is worth the world and everything in it to me! LOL!

In his culture they don't celebrate any holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Everyday is a chance to show love, by being a good supporter, a helper, a friend, and a faithful lover. That is what is most important.

[nunyab 0]

Bridget you said " Bangin....." you crack me up and my hsuband is the same ... ie covering your a$$ hehehe if i don't wear something on my feet i'll get electricuted he sooo believes it he'll put socks on my feet.

When we're in public if my hair falls out from my hijab he'll tuck it in silly i know but it makes my heart patter.

to me that's romance... gush

[Henia 11]

Raaja: You crack me up!

Narina: MachAllah your pix are beautiful! Love both your dresses!

I didn't read all the thread, simply donnot have the time ... my son is the new man in my life. We have our rendevouz several times a day My husband has been booted out!

Personally, I just want to say much of the appeal/romance/exictment for us filing for far-away-way honeys is that they are far-a-way ... counting the moments until the next chat, call or visit. Getting hot and heavy in the visits... packing everything we can in those few days, weeks or months. Ye that's exciting. Then we get reunited ... again the romance is hot flaming ... about a year into being together it starts to dull down. You slowly stop wearing nighties to bed ... slip back to your warm pjs ... lighten up on the fro-fro ... he is settling into a new job, friends ... life really. Add bills, everything outside, some kids into the mix Romance dulls ... that's us how it is! Everything won't be the Young and Restless anymore ... BUT that doesn't mean your marriage has failed or it will never have flames again ... you can relight the fire! You really have to work at it. We all can't be Waifa (and who would want to be ) but these men I have noticed love that sort of thing: Their women all dolled up at home for them And don't except your MENA men to reciprocate all you do ... you gotta do 5x more then he does before he gets the picture LOL! NAyway that's all from me ... my 'love' is crying! =) Happy romancing ladies!

[doodlebugg 10]

Depends on what he's wearing (or not) when he's mopping the floor

[~Jackie~ 30]

If ya ever seen a man on his knees LAYING a floor, you'd have them ALL redone

[penn-kd 0]

I am wondering for those of us whom their SO is here if they feel the same. When my hubby and i were seperated, there was all kinds of romance. he used to send cards for holidays and birthdays. i would recieve love letters in the mail. i would even get messages on yahoo when he wasn't suppossed to be around! Since he has been here, I've gotton one card and that was the day after my birthday.

I give him cards for everything. I know the man loves me. Is it just me being petty? I told him once it would be nice if he gave me flower sometime. His response was, "If I give you flowers, that means i'm having an affair"! I was shocked he even said that! I told him men give flowers all the time just because .

Of course it is going to be different. When you were apart you had to try harder to make it work. Everything that they did before was to let you know that you are thought of between the distance. I know my husband loves me heck he married me. Men aren't the greatest at doing those little things but as long as they show they care in other ways.

My husband tells me he loves me every day! Guys show how they feel in different ways....example; fixing/checking your car-they do this to make sure the one they love is going to be safe. Yes as girls we would love the flowers but sometimes you have to look at the little everyday things they do.

As a person that came here for my SO you have to be very thoughtful of there feelings. For me I left my county, family, friends and sometimes that takes time to get use to. I don't know about what he said but maybe that is what flowers mean in his country. Best of luck!

[nunyab 0]

JJ.. You said "laying a floor" LMAO.........

[~Jackie~ 30]

Correction: 'Installing' a floor Get your mind out of my gutter

[Nutty 2]

All of you still have some affectionate gestures from your husbands.....

It may not be flowers and candy...but at least there are small gestures...

My husband barely communicates with me. He is always on the computer. I see what he reads since he sits in the living room with a laptop (so it isn't porn).

He never hugs me. Never kisses me.

I am in tears!

It has come to the point, I can't sleep next to him because it feels worse to sleep next to a man who doesn't give you the time of day.

I sleep on the couch now.

Edited November 13, 2008 by Nutty

[~Jackie~ 30]

No hugs? No kisses and you are on the couch? I feel bad for you. These are the tender moments that couples need. I hope you can respark what you must have once had in the past.

jJ

[doodlebugg 10]

All of you still have some affectionate gestures from your husbands.....

It may not be flowers and candy...but at least there are small gestures...

My husband barely communicates with me. He is always on the computer. I see what he reads since he sits in the living room with a laptop (so it isn't porn).

He never hugs me. Never kisses me.

I am in tears!

It has come to the point, I can't sleep next to him because it feels worse to sleep next to a man who doesn't give you the time of day.

I sleep on the couch now.

Was he different before he got here, ie more affectionate?

[Nutty 2]

All of you still have some affectionate gestures from your husbands.....

It may not be flowers and candy...but at least there are small gestures...

My husband barely communicates with me. He is always on the computer. I see what he reads since he sits in the living room with a laptop (so it isn't porn).

He never hugs me. Never kisses me.

I am in tears!

It has come to the point, I can't sleep next to him because it feels worse to sleep next to a man who doesn't give you the time of day.

I sleep on the couch now.

Was he different before he got here, ie more affectionate?

YES!

[amal 4]

All of you still have some affectionate gestures from your husbands.....

It may not be flowers and candy...but at least there are small gestures...

My husband barely communicates with me. He is always on the computer. I see what he reads since he sits in the living room with a laptop (so it isn't porn).

He never hugs me. Never kisses me.

I am in tears!

It has come to the point, I can't sleep next to him because it feels worse to sleep next to a man who doesn't give you the time of day.

I sleep on the couch now.

My husband is CONSTANTLY on the computer. When I say constantly..I mean...he wakes up and turns it on. might turn it off to take it to his shop where he works on it the whole time he's there. then he stays on it until around 1am when he falls asleep with it sitting in his lap. He actually starts getting grumpy if he's away from it for more than 30 minutes. I FEEL UR PAIN THERE GIRL.

Bad thing is..I met him ONLINE. He owned an internet cafe and it was nothing for us to spend 16 hours a day together online. I never thought that that was literally all he EVER did. shame on me.

It gets frustrating. I get griped at if this isn't clean or no supper is cooked..but where is he while i'm bustin rump? yup, on the computer. I've learned to "deal" with that because when he actually does come out from behind it, he's a wonderful person to me. I've given him his fair share too though coz with the cookbook, i have no time for him anymore now he says..always working on the book ..can't you do something else??? It's like..umm wow..sucks doesn't it...

As far as the flame thing..it's there. Small things he does. He opens doors for me. He aaaaaalways wants me to rub his back and tells me that nobody else in the world can do as good as I do. He tells me when he likes an outfit I'm wearing. He tried a piece of pasta for me (for those of u who know us...that's a huge deal). He doesn't gripe when I slip and buy a pack of cigarettes, even though he really doesn't like it when I smoke. There are more things but these are some of the big ones.

I have only read the first page (i'm at work) so I haven't seen if things have changed or not. But I really hope things get gooooooood soooooooooooon!

amal

[sereia 0]

Reading some of the posts here makes me cringe...you deserve more!