USCIS, you win...sort of...and a question about canceling the K-1

[zhongyuan34 0]

Dear USCIS,

Ok, you win. I just can't handle it. The not knowing. The waiting. The desperate desire for touches... (What am I, a leper??) All I wanted to do was get my girl to the States, marry her, and become a good, football-watching, beer-drinking taxpayer. But I can't stand it anymore. I'm moving back to China, for a life of expatriotism. At least we'll be in control of our destinies, and not you.

I know you don't care: this is like writing a nasty letter to the ocean. But you should. Are you not comprised of individuals, individuals with beating hearts and maybe even -- gasp!! -- love lives? I wonder what would happen if every USCIS case officer had a foreign fiance(e), or a relative with one...hmmmm....somehow I think things would move along a lot faster...

I understand there is a backlog. I understand there are real threats of terrorism. But what's with the utter lack of transparency? Why, when there is a branch office right down the road, can I not even schedule a meeting with a representative of my government to discuss my case? Why that...kind of reminds me...of....China! I am so confused... I thought you were a government "of, by and for the people." Anyway...a fond adieu...and I wish the best of luck to all those compatriots out there -- stronger, braver and more patient than I -- that are in your hands.

Love,z

P.S. My real question for you guys out there: Since I plan to go back to China, get married, and do this thing the other way, do I need to formally cancel the K-1? Or is it enough just to ignore it? At some point, I'm concerned that the consulate in China will have two different petitions for the same couple.

[Donna-marie 0]

All this waiting around still exists when u get married and file the k3 visa you have already applied for the K1 why give it up to wait around for a different visa. The way i understand it takes even longer for the other visa though i am not exactly sure, my friend applied for a k3 visa and it took over a year for them to be together.

Before cancelling your k1 research the wait times etc for your new application good luck on your journey.

[pushbrk 13,121]

Dear USCIS,

Ok, you win. I just can't handle it. The not knowing. The waiting. The desperate desire for touches... (What am I, a leper??) All I wanted to do was get my girl to the States, marry her, and become a good, football-watching, beer-drinking taxpayer. But I can't stand it anymore. I'm moving back to China, for a life of expatriotism. At least we'll be in control of our destinies, and not you.

I know you don't care: this is like writing a nasty letter to the ocean. But you should. Are you not comprised of individuals, individuals with beating hearts and maybe even -- gasp!! -- love lives? I wonder what would happen if every USCIS case officer had a foreign fiance(e), or a relative with one...hmmmm....somehow I think things would move along a lot faster...

I understand there is a backlog. I understand there are real threats of terrorism. But what's with the utter lack of transparency? Why, when there is a branch office right down the road, can I not even schedule a meeting with a representative of my government to discuss my case? Why that...kind of reminds me...of....China! I am so confused... I thought you were a government "of, by and for the people." Anyway...a fond adieu...and I wish the best of luck to all those compatriots out there -- stronger, braver and more patient than I -- that are in your hands.

Love,z

P.S. My real question for you guys out there: Since I plan to go back to China, get married, and do this thing the other way, do I need to formally cancel the K-1? Or is it enough just to ignore it? At some point, I'm concerned that the consulate in China will have two different petitions for the same couple.

Write the service center referencing the case number and both names, asking them to "withdraw" the I-129F petition. Enjoy your time in China.

[zhongyuan34 0]

Donna-marie, for the most obvious reason of all: We wait TOGETHER instead of 10,000 miles apart not knowing when we'll get to be together!!!! Isn't that obvious from my post?! Pshbrk, thanks for your usual clear-headed and knowledgeable response.

[Old Dominion 26]

Dear USCIS,

Ok, you win. I just can't handle it. The not knowing. The waiting. The desperate desire for touches... (What am I, a leper??) All I wanted to do was get my girl to the States, marry her, and become a good, football-watching, beer-drinking taxpayer. But I can't stand it anymore. I'm moving back to China, for a life of expatriotism. At least we'll be in control of our destinies, and not you.

I know you don't care: this is like writing a nasty letter to the ocean. But you should. Are you not comprised of individuals, individuals with beating hearts and maybe even -- gasp!! -- love lives? I wonder what would happen if every USCIS case officer had a foreign fiance(e), or a relative with one...hmmmm....somehow I think things would move along a lot faster...

I understand there is a backlog. I understand there are real threats of terrorism. But what's with the utter lack of transparency? Why, when there is a branch office right down the road, can I not even schedule a meeting with a representative of my government to discuss my case? Why that...kind of reminds me...of....China! I am so confused... I thought you were a government "of, by and for the people." Anyway...a fond adieu...and I wish the best of luck to all those compatriots out there -- stronger, braver and more patient than I -- that are in your hands.

Love,z

P.S. My real question for you guys out there: Since I plan to go back to China, get married, and do this thing the other way, do I need to formally cancel the K-1? Or is it enough just to ignore it? At some point, I'm concerned that the consulate in China will have two different petitions for the same couple.

You give no information on how long ago you filed the 129f. In any event, if you follow up on your plan, all it takes is a simple letter to the USCIS (with enough information like your SSN to identify you) to withdraw the petition and politely explain why. It may take as many as three months to get a formal reply, but it will ensure that the question doesn't arise when you try to get her to the U.S. via marriage. We do have a frustrating immigration system in which every action by the USCIS can become a political football, so they are very very careful to dot all the i's and cross all the t's.

[Hell0W0rld 10]

how long have you been waiting?

[*JG* 2]

I know you want to be with her. Not sure the K-3 is going to be any faster for you.

Like someone else said, you didn't say how long you have been waiting. Are you deep enough in the process that I could say just hang in there and you would rethink?

However it goes for you, I'm sorry, and I hope it works out for you in the end. Godspeed to the end.

[Kevin&Leilei 1]

Good luck! I'd be doing the same if I could speak Chinese and I knew I could find decent work there.

[Leedah 22]

I DEFINITELY don't think you should cancel your K1.

Why not just go back to China for about 3 months (if you can) with your sweetheart and wait it out together???

Simply get a street address type mail box. Have your mail sent to you their in China. (USCIS wont forward mail, but a 3rd party will).

Trust me, if you go the K3 or regular I-130 to CR-1 route, you WILL wait longer than the K1 . For some reason the K1 is usually faster than other routes, however that changes from time to time depending on the service center your at.

Again, don't chunk your petition. Your just throwing away your "place in line". Refiling again as a married couple doesn't make your wait faster and you'll be more pissed off than you already are. PLUS this would most likely put a SERIOUS strain on your marriage....and that's something no couple needs...especially a new couple just starting out together.

Hope my advice helped you.

Good luck on whatever you decide.

Leedah

Self-Proclaimed Bystander

[Kevin&Leilei 1]

All this waiting around still exists when u get married and file the k3 visa you have already applied for the K1 why give it up to wait around for a different visa. The way i understand it takes even longer for the other visa though i am not exactly sure, my friend applied for a k3 visa and it took over a year for them to be together.

Before cancelling your k1 research the wait times etc for your new application good luck on your journey.

I know you want to be with her. Not sure the K-3 is going to be any faster for you.

Like someone else said, you didn't say how long you have been waiting. Are you deep enough in the process that I could say just hang in there and you would rethink?

However it goes for you, I'm sorry, and I hope it works out for you in the end. Godspeed to the end.

I DEFINITELY don't think you should cancel your K1.

Why not just go back to China for about 3 months (if you can) with your sweetheart and wait it out together???

Simply get a street address type mail box. Have your mail sent to you their in China. (USCIS wont forward mail, but a 3rd party will).

Trust me, if you go the K3 or regular I-130 to CR-1 route, you WILL wait longer than the K1 . For some reason the K1 is usually faster than other routes, however that changes from time to time depending on the service center your at.

Again, don't chunk your petition. Your just throwing away your "place in line". Refiling again as a married couple doesn't make your wait faster and you'll be more pissed off than you already are. PLUS this would most likely put a SERIOUS strain on your marriage....and that's something no couple needs...especially a new couple just starting out together.

Hope my advice helped you.

Good luck on whatever you decide.

Leedah

Self-Proclaimed Bystander

He's not talking about going the K-3 route, he's talking about moving permanently to China.

[Donna-marie 0]

No it wasnt obvious to me, and it doesnt look like it was obvious to others either, was just trying to offer my opinion on giving up the k1, never pretended to be an expert on any of this. Was just trying to offer words of encouragement.

Would it not hurt your application regarding A of support if your SO is not in the country?

[rebeccajo 14]

Level-headed people make a decision about where they will spend their lifetime based upon where they feel their lives will be most productive; where they will be happiest; where their children will receive the best education; where they feel they will have the most opportunities; where family is; where thy enjoy the climate the most; where the social infrastructure most appeals to them, etc.

Making a decision to relocate based upon present separations only is a dangerous mistake.

Edited to add that based upon the OP's join date and previous commentary, he appears to have filed in early September.

Edited November 12, 2008 by rebeccajo

[Wis-Can 0]

I don't see a timeline on your profile, how long have you been waiting?

[Sinergy 3]

filing out your timeline, would help us help you.

Edited November 12, 2008 by Sinergy

[Cham 3]

Donna-marie, for the most obvious reason of all: We wait TOGETHER instead of 10,000 miles apart not knowing when we'll get to be together!!!! Isn't that obvious from my post?! Pshbrk, thanks for your usual clear-headed and knowledgeable response.

I find your response RUDE how was SHE suppose to know..honestly I swear SIGH

So what honestly..I have Not seen my SO for 1.5 years but I am not going to be stupid enough to withdraw my K1 petition JUST because I miss him. If I want to be with him I am sticking to the legal route.

JUST because YOU get married does not guarantee you will get a visa for it. EVEN IN CHINA. Now you are on file and IF you cancel and get married they will know it was fraud; IN TURN will get you jail time.

I realize YOU MISS YOUR SO but we all do, WE are all in the same boat!

THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE FROM ANOTHER COUNTRY!

If you filed the k1 visa it will be 6 months to 9 months... BUT if you go get married it will 9 times out of 10 BE LONGER

THINK ABOUT IT

If she is WORTH it then she is WORTH THE WAIT and IF your love is THAT strong then this wait for the visa WILL BE WORTH IT. If the love is strong YOU both will with stand this wait. It will go by fast..stay busy. WE all have to go through it if we choose to love someone who is not a US citizen

up to you otherwise do what push said and go

Edited November 12, 2008 by Cham