He has used me for the last time

[Tilly 0]

As I read duped's story, I felt as though I was reading my own. My husband threatened me and finally, after the third time the police came out, he was arrested for threatening me. Sadly enough, I was so convinced that I couldn't be without him since I was pregnant and felt as though my world was falling apart right before me. He convinced me that I was the one who was wrong and had all the problems that created the problems in our marriage. It got so bad that I felt as though I was being stalked in my own house. I had phones hidden to call 911 just in case. I had even gone to the womens shelter seeking safety. He walked out on our family during my second trimester and I lost everything. All he does now is blame me and doesn't accept any responsibilty for himself or his family. He has told so many lies that he has other people believing him and hating me. Even people on this site. Those who do know me, know that I am far the person he describes. There is so much I could tell you, but, it will just show he really was in my head playing his game with me.

I submitted a letter to withdraw my affidavit of support before he was approved and he was still approved. Now, I don't know what his plan is. He is a very immature, angry and manipulative guy.

Now that my head is clear and on straight, I see all these things. I was totally conned by this man. People asked me all the time if he was using me, and I always said no. HA! Joke is on me.

Now we are headed into a nasty divorce with children involved. We have been seperated longer than we were living together as husband and wife. I have stayed away from VJ for the well being of my family and am back as a new member.

This man has put me through hell, cost me everything I had in my life and left me with nothing.

Now I am struggling with children, trying to rebuild and having no luck. I am completely frustrated and so angry with myself for allowing him to do this to me. I can't beleive how much he changed once he got here. I thought I had found the love of my life.

At least I have VJ where people understand.

I salute those who are sincere with their hearts aren't using people to get here.

[Rings 10]

WOW I am sorry to read this. Hopefully things will turn for the better for you. xoxox

[Old Dominion 26]

As I read duped's story, I felt as though I was reading my own. My husband threatened me and finally, after the third time the police came out, he was arrested for threatening me. Sadly enough, I was so convinced that I couldn't be without him since I was pregnant and felt as though my world was falling apart right before me. He convinced me that I was the one who was wrong and had all the problems that created the problems in our marriage. It got so bad that I felt as though I was being stalked in my own house. I had phones hidden to call 911 just in case. I had even gone to the womens shelter seeking safety. He walked out on our family during my second trimester and I lost everything. All he does now is blame me and doesn't accept any responsibilty for himself or his family. He has told so many lies that he has other people believing him and hating me. Even people on this site. Those who do know me, know that I am far the person he describes. There is so much I could tell you, but, it will just show he really was in my head playing his game with me.

I submitted a letter to withdraw my affidavit of support before he was approved and he was still approved. Now, I don't know what his plan is. He is a very immature, angry and manipulative guy.

Now that my head is clear and on straight, I see all these things. I was totally conned by this man. People asked me all the time if he was using me, and I always said no. HA! Joke is on me.

Now we are headed into a nasty divorce with children involved. We have been seperated longer than we were living together as husband and wife. I have stayed away from VJ for the well being of my family and am back as a new member.

This man has put me through hell, cost me everything I had in my life and left me with nothing.

Now I am struggling with children, trying to rebuild and having no luck. I am completely frustrated and so angry with myself for allowing him to do this to me. I can't beleive how much he changed once he got here. I thought I had found the love of my life.

At least I have VJ where people understand.

I salute those who are sincere with their hearts aren't using people to get here.

Things will get better, just believe in that because it is true. A close friend is going through almost exactly the same experience with her husband of about one year, had to call the police and obtain a restraining order to keep him away from her home. From her, I can understand how tough it must be for you, as she had so much of her emotions invested in their future together....until soon after he arrived on his K-1.

[morocco4ever 63]

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. Use this as a building block to teach you a valuable lesson on how to spot a user, and never let anyone do this to you again. No one deserves this.

[sereia 0]

Sorry you have to go through this pain. I really don't know what to say other than try to talk to an immigration lawyer to see if you have any options what so ever.

[ohmy 0]

What doesn't kill you will make you stronger! Anyone who is siding with him and against you, shouldn't matter so much!

You are taking care of your children and if no one else is helping you, they can keep their comments. Just be strong and pray for the best.

I wish you all the best fellow VJer

[sasha414 0]

i am so sorry things didnt end well for you. right now you need to be strong for your children and yourself. always believe that one day you will look back at all of these and realize that it has made you a much better and stronger person. good luck, keep praying and trust that God will never abandon you.

[*JG* 2]

I'm so sorry. You are strong for making that (those) decision(s) and following through for the good of you and your children. Remember that when times get tough for you.

I wish you the best of luck in your future.

[JVKn'CVO 11]

I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope things get better

Saludos,

Caro

[bhajishah 4]

Least the badsard wont be around to teach your young bad habits!!

[Cham 3]

As I read duped's story, I felt as though I was reading my own. My husband threatened me and finally, after the third time the police came out, he was arrested for threatening me. Sadly enough, I was so convinced that I couldn't be without him since I was pregnant and felt as though my world was falling apart right before me. He convinced me that I was the one who was wrong and had all the problems that created the problems in our marriage. It got so bad that I felt as though I was being stalked in my own house. I had phones hidden to call 911 just in case. I had even gone to the womens shelter seeking safety. He walked out on our family during my second trimester and I lost everything. All he does now is blame me and doesn't accept any responsibilty for himself or his family. He has told so many lies that he has other people believing him and hating me. Even people on this site. Those who do know me, know that I am far the person he describes. There is so much I could tell you, but, it will just show he really was in my head playing his game with me.

I submitted a letter to withdraw my affidavit of support before he was approved and he was still approved. Now, I don't know what his plan is. He is a very immature, angry and manipulative guy.

Now that my head is clear and on straight, I see all these things. I was totally conned by this man. People asked me all the time if he was using me, and I always said no. HA! Joke is on me.

Now we are headed into a nasty divorce with children involved. We have been seperated longer than we were living together as husband and wife. I have stayed away from VJ for the well being of my family and am back as a new member.

This man has put me through hell, cost me everything I had in my life and left me with nothing.

Now I am struggling with children, trying to rebuild and having no luck. I am completely frustrated and so angry with myself for allowing him to do this to me. I can't beleive how much he changed once he got here. I thought I had found the love of my life.

At least I have VJ where people understand.

I salute those who are sincere with their hearts aren't using people to get here.

Sweetie I was married to a man who was mentally physically and sexually abusive for over 10 years.

He would make me eat food that had rotted, beat me if one glass was in the sink..take sex from me you name it. He moved the kids and I into a house that had bars on the windows. One day when he had dropped me off at work and the kids at HIS moms house (never at my family so they would not find out if i saw them it was with him and him ONLY) I came home and he had a double lock door so he could only have the key.

One day a woman from YWCA who was my neighbor overheard him beating me and called the police.

THAT was the beginning of a new day. I had left so many times before but I knew IF he came home he would kill me and or the kids.

The YWCA was my life line..I would be dead without them.

I would get into some therapy sweetie and soon..not only for yourself BUT for your children. You were ABUSED and this will carry onto your next relationship as well as affect the children and how you raise them ( trust me sweetie..I been there.)

You are in my thoughts and just know YOU are not alone!!

PS to anyone out there..IS there NOT a way for her to get his visa or greencard removed???? Then sent back? I would think this is illegal:((

HUGS!!

Meri

[Beautiful_years 0]

My prayer goes out to you. Be strong and learn from this also concentrate on your children, even though times are hard and broken relationship hurts, the love of your child/ren would help you move on too.

[2manypapers 0]

I am so deeply sorry about your situation with your Husband.

Sending you and your children prayers for peace. I hope that you have some good news soon as you are trying to rebuild your life.

Protect yourself as much as possible.

2manypapers

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

Good thing you got out when you did. Time heals all wounds. May sound harsh but its true. You'll be a stronger mother & show your kids that you didn't sit and let the abuse continue.

What goes around comes around, he'll get his someday.