HELP ! ! ! VJ FAMILY.

[agsoba83 0]

AGSOBA83......this 4 u.

If you care to know, I have visited us on my own many times..ok

2. I had a secured job whichI a have resigned as result of being with him.

am admitting my stooping low as my fault..

but you still cant just nail me people make mistakes.

he filed aos for me......lol......thats why I won do wetin...NO NO

E no dey shake man... no be today.

and please incase If you follow for the OMO's, wey dey paint themselves wetin they no be, cos una

dey YANKEE.. comot your hand there. So that you dont hurt people.

You sef.. You be really 9jaa , u no see as u dey sound ???

Only wetin I dey ask of now.. If I fit reverse my original visiting V. I go dey happy.

Well shaa ..thanks for ur contribution too.

SURE : I just realize that I have to be responsible for my happiness.

Thanks to you all

Xty-

i did not mean this to be a back and forth between you and i or meant it as a derogatory statement, i was just expressing what i know dey happen. U no talk 4 your post sey u dont dey come yankee several time b4 u meet the bobo, so i if i say i hope no be say bcos of papers you marry am, i just they express a credible opinion. It is true sey many naija's dey come home they show demselves for wetin dem no be, but you know, pple suppose look well well. I don see this dey happen several times wey be say woman dey marry men wey dem know know at all and for everyday na fight and abuse. i don see many examples and everytime i dey tell my people for naija say make them bcareful which man come from yankee come marry, because u never know which kind person the bobo be for this country and becos d bobo dey yankee no mean say na better person.

So once again, no offence meant from original post.

AGSOBA83....

No shaking BROS........ One Love my people

I don come, I don come.. so make we see how far e go be.

I for no mind go back ooo but for where I go start . You know levels now.

All the same.. I will keep your posted.

xty:

My wife called me to interprete the broken english you guys were using and fortunately or unfortunately i found the conversations so interesting and pitiful so i feel i should chip in lil advice to you.

Look my sister,I understand the kind of mistake wey you do but you no go just sit down there dey think whether to go back to naija abi na to stay here.As you said you resigned from your job in nigeria,you go find am hard to start all over again and your level for naija will go down been that you'll be staying without a job.but if you think that you can get that kind of handsome job back i don't mind advicing you to go back but if you know say you no fit get the job back,abeg stay here and have patience.as a woman you fit change that man.you fit make him know a lot he never knew since you said he no get something for up.Instead of coming in here making dem yankee people think say we dey marry dem for green card abeg make you seek advice from fellow naija people wey live near you cos it's better.i know say what you are going thru seems unbearable to you but you have to consider the other side of it cos somebody fit print this and use it against you because you sounded like you marry the bobo for paper.

like you said in your last qoute,you don come, you don come.so be a real woman and face it.

i wish you good luck.

iyke

thanks Iyke for breaking it down. i don live here long enough to understand how she dey feel, and na common thing for many naija wey come here, because everything na begin again moreso when person wey you come meet no be better person. i don see many of them. what i realize is that marriage in itself is a lot of hard work, regardles wether the spouse na usc of naija origin or just general usc. as a dey watch people comment here, you go no say no be easy thing to have two people from different cultures. everything na patience, as they say, patience is a virtue, and as yoruba people dey say, surulere.

So xty, like u said, you don come, you don come, you just got to make the best of it. good naija communities abound for this country, if to say na church or mosque u dey go, find one and meet people.

all the best xty. if you think you need someone to hala at about this place, you fit pm me.

[Itewari 0]

Hi..... this is my first posting nice to belong here.

I met my hubby during my last visit on 2004, I stayed 3 weeks then and went back.

We used to talk on the phone and he sounds so nice.

I choose to visit him during my vacation 2005. He was able to convince me to stay,

since he is USC that its going to be easy for me to get my papers and start my life here.

I reigned from my job by post and stayed with him, we got married.. Nov 2005.

He has filled in for me ( AOS.... with my B1 visa)

Now am so frustrated, empty in side and out, his social life is ZERO, he got nothing upstairs.

am always in tears and agony..... , afriad I might break down soon.

My question???

Is there anything I can do to reverse my visa to B1/B2 ......... just to be visiting.

Please ! my vj family am really in pains here...no happiness here.

Thanks in advance for all ur contirbution.

[Itewari 0]

u go just take heart o.sometimes pple are not what we think they are.It is so easy to act up to get what u want but very difficult to keep it.Okay may be u got a picture b4 but now there's an entirely different one,but dont let it slow u down because u are born to achieve.so look at the new person and see what u can do with him and lets see how far this will carry u but u have to be willing.some naijes just loose it all when they get here and cant see the sincerity with which u've come but think its bcos u want citizenship,too bad for them bcos happiness may never be achieved that way.Now i dont know what he's doing to u but whatever it is,he's suppose to be by u during this setling process so u can have a successful transition.i see a typical naija telling u to pack ur bags and go home,na so e easy.I understand ur pains but please make something and a very good one at dat out of nothing.find things dt interest u and do vigorously(but no new male friends now especially the ones ur hubby doesnt know abt),remember u r tryn to make it work so dont bring douts in.Goodluck