remeaning days in pinas is being deffecult!!!!!!

[William33 110]

This is yet another VJ thread going "sideways" tonight. Please be civil or this thread is history.

[chunsan 0]

ladyinpink - gurl we have same situation right now. My mom is sick and we just came from hospital for 1 week. She under go citi scan, laboratory test, etc. My mom suffered heart problem and high blood pressure. Also, I'm the youngest and only single in our family. My fiance tell my mom to get well so she can visit us soon if ever. We try to motivate her. I feel sad thinking that pretty soon I'm leaving my family too and to be with my honey. But, don't worry dear, don't feel guilty I'm sure your mom is happy and proud of you. Just take your time with your family, spend your remaining days with your mom. Tell her how much you love her. Wishing you all the luck!!! I will include you, your mom and your family in my prayers. Don't be sad co'z your not alone in this kind of situation. Have faith and entrust everything to God. Things will be alright. God Bless You and your family. Have a safe trip and I'm happy for you finally your going to see you honey. Take care.

[maritoni 3]

TO MJLASVEGAS SHE IS VERY HAPPY WHEN HER MOM DIE!!!!!! OR HAVING A HEART ATTACK!!!!!! RUD!!!! PILIPINA WOMAN GURLS YOU ARE NOT IN THIS WORLD IF YOU DON'T HAVE MOTHER!!!!!! I AM BORN WITH FULL OF LOVE AND ATTENTION OF MY FAMILY

DO SENT CARE HER MOTHER OR HER FAMILY HUH?

hmm, i'm not quite sure what this mean..

Me neither...(shrugged)

[Gumbolette 58]

TO MJLASVEGAS SHE IS VERY HAPPY WHEN HER MOM DIE!!!!!! OR HAVING A HEART ATTACK!!!!!! RUD!!!! PILIPINA WOMAN GURLS YOU ARE NOT IN THIS WORLD IF YOU DON'T HAVE MOTHER!!!!!! I AM BORN WITH FULL OF LOVE AND ATTENTION OF MY FAMILY

DO SENT CARE HER MOTHER OR HER FAMILY HUH?

hmm, i'm not quite sure what this mean..

Me neither...(shrugged)

She must have overlooked the messages.. calm guys. ladyinpink is emotional crisis right now.

[kaye 0]

yeah i know how it feels...me too i'm the only girl in my family and the first one getting married i just convinced my parents that they have no choice because i'm old enough and could make decisions for myself and at the same time asking for their blessing i was able to persuade my parents that at least they can visit me whenever they want coz both of them have a 10 year multiple entry visa and they were kinda okay with us getting married soon but then they said that it is very important for them that me and my soon to be hubby do a church wedding also and not just the civil.

just try to spend more time with your family and comfort them specially your mom tell her that you have more chances of getting a better life in america rather than staying in the philippines.

[Perfect Couple 4]

hi guys,

Been reading this topic and its kinda "hot" in here. relax guys. we are all family here. Make PEACE not WAR. Lets just go ...

To Ladyinpink:

I really feel what you feel,but the difference is i already lost my loved ones. i grew up with my grandparents and now they are all gone. Back to where they belong, with God. Its hard to lose someone who is special to you. but you are lucky enough that your parents are still there and they are with you right now. what you can do is, just spend your remaining days there in PI with your family. Show your love, go out, have fun, instead of crying. Make use of your time there because you'll be here in US soon with your hubby. Anyways, you can go back to Philippines after you get your greencard, its just about 3-4 months after you filed Adjustment of Status. (Filing AOS is after you get married.) And also,You can call your family everyday if you want too. You'll be alright girl.

God bless.

[DanielParul 50]

Hope your mum feels better. I am sure, she's just a little bit worried for you but will be fine when she sees you happy

[tedjen 0]

TO MJLASVEGAS SHE IS VERY HAPPY WHEN HER MOM DIE!!!!!! OR HAVING A HEART ATTACK!!!!!! RUD!!!! PILIPINA WOMAN GURLS YOU ARE NOT IN THIS WORLD IF YOU DON'T HAVE MOTHER!!!!!! I AM BORN WITH FULL OF LOVE AND ATTENTION OF MY FAMILY

DO SENT CARE HER MOTHER OR HER FAMILY HUH?

hmm, i'm not quite sure what this mean..

Me neither...(shrugged)

Hi, I think she was referring to the one posted the off topic not MJ3LASVEGAS... it looks that she's talking to MJ3LASVEGAS about that person

[ronjie 0]

TO MJLASVEGAS SHE IS VERY HAPPY WHEN HER MOM DIE!!!!!! OR HAVING A HEART ATTACK!!!!!! RUD!!!! PILIPINA WOMAN GURLS YOU ARE NOT IN THIS WORLD IF YOU DON'T HAVE MOTHER!!!!!! I AM BORN WITH FULL OF LOVE AND ATTENTION OF MY FAMILY

DO SENT CARE HER MOTHER OR HER FAMILY HUH?

hmm, i'm not quite sure what this mean..

Me neither...(shrugged)

hey rickmj, post a timeline, or are you just a troll !!

[maritoni 3]

Hey Ronjie,Thank you for reminding me....i just met my fiancee a few weeks ago in hongkong and we are still constructing the documents we need in order before we file....Satisfied? (supposed not to explain myself to anyone i believe)

Cheers

[Perfect Couple 4]

Thank you..

[maritoni 3]

Thank you..

lovely couple Jack&anais

[nickoftime 0]

i receive my visa it really wonderful!!!!

very happy but behind my happiness

other side of my family is very sad!!!!!

specially my mom!!!!!

i am really concerned the condensation of my be loving mom

she almost hurt attack and now she is under medication on high

blood and heart problem she is crying lady every time i see my

mom!!!!! it breaking my heart and my whole family is very sad every corner

in my house is sad and crying very hard to see my whole family is very sad

i am the youngest of my family sweetheart to every body

the only single of my family never expect that i was full in love other side of the planet

i feel very guilty!!!!! because of condensation of my mom now

my mom she is happy and understand but i think in her heart she cant accept that

her little girl now become a lady and ready to start my own life and my own family

my fiancee he promise my mom in one yrs she well be coming to usa to see me and my new family

but i really don't know if my mom she well make it she is 76 yrs now

my whole life i never be part of my family very hard!!!!

my feeling is mixed emotion happy to be my honey but other side of my heart is sad

what if i lost mom?????? because of me? loving some one that living in other side of the planet

but i fallow my heart i love my honey so much

he is my everything in my life that make me happy the rest of my life

my body in the Philippines but my heart and mind my honey bring my heart when is back home in usa

i feel guilty????

do you think guy i am selfish????

do you think i am self center???????

i just fallow my heart

any comments and ic welcome

so i have other side point of view

in this matter

Leaving your country, your family, your friends and everything that is in your comfort zone is not at all happy. It's painful to the one leaving and painful to the ones that would be left. But you should have been ready for this the moment you accepted a foreigner's proposal to marry. Your family should have also accepted this eventuality of you leaving them one day. Maybe you and your family should talk about this more. Focus on the positive instead of the negative. And maybe you should also talk to your fiancee on how you both could help in taking care of your mother. She's under medication and the best help that you both could give is to ensure that she has the money for her meds as well as to pay for someone who could look after her. I'm sure that with her present condition, you would feel guilty leaving her. But life offers no guarantee at all so really it is your call.

Cheer up, lady!

[RonnieKris 26]

i receive my visa it really wonderful!!!!

very happy but behind my happiness

other side of my family is very sad!!!!!

specially my mom!!!!!

i am really concerned the condensation of my be loving mom

she almost hurt attack and now she is under medication on high

blood and heart problem she is crying lady every time i see my

mom!!!!! it breaking my heart and my whole family is very sad every corner

in my house is sad and crying very hard to see my whole family is very sad

i am the youngest of my family sweetheart to every body

the only single of my family never expect that i was full in love other side of the planet

i feel very guilty!!!!! because of condensation of my mom now

my mom she is happy and understand but i think in her heart she cant accept that

her little girl now become a lady and ready to start my own life and my own family

my fiancee he promise my mom in one yrs she well be coming to usa to see me and my new family

but i really don't know if my mom she well make it she is 76 yrs now

my whole life i never be part of my family very hard!!!!

my feeling is mixed emotion happy to be my honey but other side of my heart is sad

what if i lost mom?????? because of me? loving some one that living in other side of the planet

but i fallow my heart i love my honey so much

he is my everything in my life that make me happy the rest of my life

my body in the Philippines but my heart and mind my honey bring my heart when is back home in usa

i feel guilty????

do you think guy i am selfish????

do you think i am self center???????

i just fallow my heart

any comments and ic welcome

so i have other side point of view

in this matter

I und every detail ladyinpink is trying to tell us,it touches me.I too have a mother who were deeply sad when me and my 2 children who grow up with the care of my mother had to leave to be with my husband here in America.A person like ladyinpink is one of the most honest and real true Filipina i've known here on VJ...

Wag na u sad LADYpink, ako nga i left Phils.Oct 29 and Di ko man lang sila pinuntahan kasi nasa Province cla. So ayun walang mixed emotion na nangyari.. hehehehe. I am excited to leave though. But i know happy naman sila for me and i am sure ganun din ung mom mo. Pray ka lng lage na mging happy ka with ur hubby here in US.

Mahirap pala tlga pg malayo ky NANAY/mom/mama or ERMAT..

I miss you Nanay Dolly..

kris

[DARUMA07 25]

i receive my visa it really wonderful!!!!

very happy but behind my happiness

other side of my family is very sad!!!!!

specially my mom!!!!!

i am really concerned the condensation of my be loving mom

she almost hurt attack and now she is under medication on high

blood and heart problem she is crying lady every time i see my

mom!!!!! it breaking my heart and my whole family is very sad every corner

in my house is sad and crying very hard to see my whole family is very sad

i am the youngest of my family sweetheart to every body

the only single of my family never expect that i was full in love other side of the planet

i feel very guilty!!!!! because of condensation of my mom now

my mom she is happy and understand but i think in her heart she cant accept that

her little girl now become a lady and ready to start my own life and my own family

my fiancee he promise my mom in one yrs she well be coming to usa to see me and my new family

but i really don't know if my mom she well make it she is 76 yrs now

my whole life i never be part of my family very hard!!!!

my feeling is mixed emotion happy to be my honey but other side of my heart is sad

what if i lost mom?????? because of me? loving some one that living in other side of the planet

but i fallow my heart i love my honey so much

he is my everything in my life that make me happy the rest of my life

my body in the Philippines but my heart and mind my honey bring my heart when is back home in usa

i feel guilty????

do you think guy i am selfish????

do you think i am self center???????

i just fallow my heart

any comments and ic welcome

so i have other side point of view

in this matter

Let me say that your mother will be ok! She will have these emotions that she is having right now. That is what a mother is suppose to do. Behind all the tears, she is very Happy for you!

This is Danny writing this and I would like to share a story with you about my wife Ruchie and her mother. Ruchie is over in the Philippines right now. Sadly, she buried her mother yesterday. Her mother was stricken with Pancreatic Cancer and was gone within 2 months after learning that she had it.

Her mother wanted her daughter to find a man that would love and take care of her and her son Mathew. That was her mothers dream! Her mother knew that there would be 8600 miles beteen them, but the love for her daughter and grandson made that distance very short. I can remember the first time I met Ruchies mother. She was very proud and Happy that Ruchie found someone who would love her and would accept her son as his own. I promised her mother that I would love and take care of them. I will keep that promise until the day that I die.

It was hard on Ruchie to leave the Philippines to come here, but Ruchie knew that she had to start a life for herself and Mathew. She kept in close contact with her family and shared with them about her life with me and life in the USA....

None of us know what tomorrow brings! We just have to live for today.. Cherish the love you have toward your mother and family, but don't feel guilty about leaving them. You and your fiance are starting your own life and journey. Your family will understand that and they know that the love they have toward you out weighs any sadness of you leaving them. Your family will always be in your heart. No matter what!

Cherish these last few days you have in the Philippines and remember that distance will not fade the Love that you and your family have. You will miss them, but you will be ok! Your fiance will take care of you and he will make sure you have that contact with your family. Good luck to you and may your Journey be as special as mine and Ruchies.