I am very tired and exhaused!!!

[M+S 0]

Hello VJ

well i start to feel very nervous and I don't even know will be my interviw now i am wiating ofr my package 4 and interview letter ..I feel like I am about to have th emost difficlut exam in my life ..I feel depressed i need my husband with me and I miss him terribly alot of time I feel I just can't breathe and look in our photos and cry ..I cry everyday ..I am tired I can hardly sleep or eat i am tired that I have to go through this just to have very simple right which is to be with my husband ..

I feel very responsible ..and stresed ebcause if I screwed the embassy interview I will not be able to be with my hsuabnd and i don't wanna let him down..I need Vj support I need to know that it's gonna be ok .whenever I read in Vj that someone had a problem I freak out !.

Is it only me or this is how everyone feels ? I don't know if Iam being negative..This is what Mark says he keep saying also "for god sake salwa if we didn't get the visa who would!!" Bu people in Cairo embassy is very very annoying and Egypt is full of Egyptian men marrying American women for Visas when I was notarizing my marriage peprs 10 days ago in the ACS in the Embassy there was American woman who married to 2 Egyptian men and the first as soonas he had teh visa left her and said" thanks for the visa" and he had an affair with her sister and the second made her live in Egypt till they married and then he took her in a very far city in the desert and forced her to sign immigartion papers for him and she tried to escape 5 times but he chased her and he was always able to get her back he prevented her from calling or emailing her familiy and that day I saw her she escaped and someone who she met in the street borrowed her the money to be able to get to Cairo and that day she stayed infront of teh embassy from 12 AM till 8 AM when the embasys opens !!!

After all this I really would be very careful to give any Egyptians any Visa and now I really undertsnad why the CO woman was very mean to me in my visitor visa interview .In my counry it's very rare for Egyptian woman to marry American or even western men because families here because Egypt is very conservative country and women freedom is not the same as men ..I really don't know if this would help that I am a female .

I feel very bad after I saw that American lady and what happended to her "IT'S HORRIBLE ".

I keep thinking of the worst possisblities like me get denied or having AR I really feel very impatient I am so scared of the AR thing I don't I think I surive like this being away from my husband I feel like iam not married!!! i wanna be in my home and feel I am a wife ..this whole process is very confusing ..and I feel so psychologically exhaused!

Thank you

[Ladylethal 12]

Hang in there and good luck! It will go fine!

[CanGal 1]

Hey Salwa, I'm so sorry that your having a difficult time. I don't know much about the route you are taking but your feelings are totally understandable. This entire process and just dealing with government in itself can be and is very exhausting on so many levels. Mentally, Physically, maybe even Spiritually.

But try not to stress yourself out. As you are coming through Eygpt, all I would be is very well prepared. If you really are a legit couple, they will sense that, it should all just come naturally. Always be upfront and honest and I really think you should be fine. I don't know if your interview will be easy or hard but either way just be prepared for anything. If you do that then you really should have nothing to worry about. It's better to be over prepared than Underprepared.

As for being away from your husband, I can't imagine how hard that must be. I took the K-1 route so I can't say I've had the same experience but I do know that all of us here on VJ, if we take one route or another to be with our loved ones, we all understand what it's like to feel exhausted by all of this. Some have to wait longer than others and so on and so forth but we all have a gist idea of what it's like to be nerved up, exhausted, fed up, and just out right irritated with it at times.

I just want to say hang in there Your day will come and you will be reunited with your honey .... I hope you will be alright

My best regards,

CanGal

[Jaylen Brit 0]

All this self-torture won't help ya know Salwa.. all it does is depress you, and once you have the visa you will kick yourself for not using the time to appreciate the place you're leaving.

I know its easy to 'what if..' but you can 'what if..' forever and get nowhere - and it will have ABSOLUTELY no influence on what WILL happen. Apart from when you get your interview you'll be such a nervous wreck you won't be able to string 2 words together.

You have to chill sweetie..or you will make yourself ILL.

You *are* being negative, I understand it comes from fear but check yourself - terrified or ambivialent - your personal thoughts can have no bearing on what the CO at the embassy will do.

Listen to Mark and use him for support and encouragement.

*hugs*

I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

Salwa, I went through this over the weekend. I broke down while talking to my husband which is something I have not done often in our year and a half wait. Told him about all of the stories I was reading on VJ, and how worried I had become. His advice, and it has been working for me, don't read what you don't need to know it will only upset you, don't spend hours on end reading through things that do not apply. As he said to me, and I am sure it is the same for you, "We have no reason to not get a visa", so stop your worrying.

I went from reading every sad post, to reading Marilyn's funny jokes, and looking through her game threads and try to only open threads that I could possibly give a hand on, and definetly avoid the topics that led me to feeling down in the first place. Give it a try!

You are so close to your journey ending, and I think that somehow causes more worry when it isn't justified. As tough as it is, try to put a smile on, set a date within reason when you know you will be "home", and look forward to that. My husband and I just like everyone else have no idea when we will have a visa in hand, or what exact date he will be here, but we set a date of August 17, and are counting down the days it helps so much.

As the old saying goes, "What you don't know wont hurt you".

Sending big hugs your way,

Bethanie

[M+S 0]

Thank you every one for your support ..mark and I did the same he put a day and I put a day and we will see which one's day will be the one he think we will be together in US by the 6th of July and I think it will be the 20th of July and we just hope

I wanna thank everyone who supported me I really when I posted that I didn't expect anyone to even reply me back..

It's just has been very stressful ,worrying about tooo many things .Airline tickets ,saving every penny for tickets and fees and thinking of his days off ..you have no idea how I was feeling before Mark's last trip to cairo here last month I was doing nothing but looking online for a chaep ticket that we can afford and in a date he can come at esp that his job doesn't give him much space ..i was like a crazy woman when ever I find a ticket online I just keep emailing him and calling at work in any time even if i know he has a meeting and tell him " OH MarkI found a cheap ticket in that webite plz try to book" and of cours elots of times there was tickets with good prices and we never had the money for it!!!! so I broke down and I get sick at that time I was crying all the time ..

and Now I am not ready to go through this again..I miss him terribly I miss his laughter ,his smile I miss his smell I miss his silence I miss the Peace I have when I know he is here next to me ..my soul feels so restless without the man of my life with me ..He is everything for me My best friend, my child , my beloved and my husband ..so it's really HARD

I am happy that I got the chnace to talk about my feelings to someone who would know what I am talking about and who is going through the same thing..

I really feel better letting all this worries and stress out ...

I feel better now ...Thank you very much Salwa

[MrsBruce5 0]

Hi Salwa,

I have been in your shoes, and it is a terrible feeling...but you need to know that it will pass and you will be OK.

It used to freak me out too, when I would hear an awful story or read a post with a tale of horror...but, do remember that is only a small percentage...the majority are stories filled with success and happiness.

Derive comfort from the fact that this separation is temporary, and in a short matter of time, it will be history.

You have a life of happiness ahead of you. Embrace it !

You will do fine on your interview.

Have faith and trust that you will be fine.

((((HUG))))

[hafiz 1]

good luck