Yardies at home and farrin (part 9)

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I have seen some questionable relationships on this very site...not my place to judge...but it is hard to stay politically correct. Why would you be ready to marry a man but be afraid to discuss what you need or desire in an intimate relationship with your man? If I step on toes...you may want to move them. Also, you should never determine what steps to make in your relationship by following some cookie cutter plan for marrying a Jamaican man.

I love this whole paragrapgh BUT this right here

Lawny u wouldn't believe wah time mi done..would Tahlia fall asleep she was sooo fussy yesterday unsual..after 9pm mi just a hang up clothes

BTW u are hilarious wah mek mi an yuh a fight u affi change di color

[shrewdgal 0]

Shrew,

What you typed sounded like the letter my parents wrote to the DC school board back in 1979. She says she observed Auri speaking another language and it was not English. Have you ever tried to explain something to someone who was just not getting it? I guess she'll get it next week.

yes. i have. my husband pops to mind..

but yes, i understand. bottom line is i dont think they can make your child be a part of a program you do not give written permission for

noone even laughed at the PUM PUM nickname

whats that?

M. and i know a guy that is like 17 or maybe even older and his mom calls him "pum pum"

[JaHoney 3]

morning ladies, wha gwaan

another busy day for me, driving all over the damn county.

Be blessed

Honey

[shrewdgal 0]

get this... we know someone who's mom started out calling him a nick name..and now he is 16ish and she STILL calls him that... imagine.. you can hear her call for him all over.... and she called him

PUM PUM

when M. told me i didnt believe him at all..then I heard it for myself..

dont you know we STILL laugh over that.

So wait?!? A poor boy being called pum pum?!? That is so wrong.

hey- i sound like I know what I am talking about there, huh? hahaha.

I mean- I do..but I was impressed. hahaha

LMAO That was impressive!

hhahahahaha. THANKS!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Then, when he talks to you...his rate of speech slows down, and he speaks "Queens English". If you spend any time around his friends/family, he will speak in very fast raw patwah. Do you understand it? Or, are you standing around like a deer caught in headlights, nodding every now and then, probably grinning like an idiot because you want to be accepted by these "important" people to your "new man".

[Shemmy 4]

Good morning sitahs! Luv; how is the pregnancy going...I hope you taking it easy.

Mayna -- it's damn cold outside...do you get Inuguration Day off?

Cho weh everi badi deh...look like mi yawn and run weh everi badi wid mi mawnin mout

Yes, I'm trying to get tickets to everything. How's Marcel?

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Good morning sitahs! Luv; how is the pregnancy going...I hope you taking it easy.

Mayna -- it's damn cold outside...do you get Inuguration Day off?

Cho weh everi badi deh...look like mi yawn and run weh everi badi wid mi mawnin mout

Yes, I'm trying to get tickets to everything. How's Marcel?

Marcel is okay. Gone to another interview this morning. Figured out the bus schedule for himself my dear. The job he interviewed for yesterday is the one he really wants, but they say he may have to be a permanent resident first since it's a government facility eventhough he has his EAD.

Kimmy -- I knew you would be up late. I use to had wash Auri's baby clothes, but I did it little at a time.

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LAWNY MI NO EVEN DONE PURE BLANKETS MI AVE LEF NOW

[shrewdgal 0]

alright yall im out, no one is chatting so i figure i might as well go pack

WTH Honey?! yuh always talk bout nuh baddy a chat! Yuh nuh see it?

[1luv 1]

I'm late...but I had to chime in. JAEyes...you just happened to bring up a topic that many have skirted around or whispered about in PM. I wrote (actually can't find a way to end) a "fictional" story about these whirlwind romances in Jamaica.

There is NO WAY in HE!L you should even be considering marriage after a two week vacation, and only a month and a half of actual interaction with a STRANGER! I don't care what you say...you don't KNOW anything about him, except that he may have some good sex. He made you feel special, loved, like a woman...ray tay tay...xyz. All BS!

I so SICK and tired of these LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT marriages. I would have been married 20 times over if I listened to all the promises of love and undying devotion that I hear in Jamaica. I have been told that I never have to stay in a hotel again...that I will stay with "My Man" when I come back to Jamaica. I have been asked to come and meet mother, father, brother, friend, pastor. Why in the HE!L would I need to meet them, and I don't know you?

Then, when he talks to you...his rate of speech slows down, and he speaks "Queens English". If you spend any time around his friends/family, he will speak in very fast raw patwah. Do you understand it? Or, are you standing around like a deer caught in headlights, nodding every now and then, probably grinning like an idiot because you want to be accepted by these "important" people to your "new man".

I have seen some questionable relationships on this very site...not my place to judge...but it is hard to stay politically correct. Why would you be ready to marry a man but be afraid to discuss what you need or desire in an intimate relationship with your man? If I step on toes...you may want to move them. Also, you should never determine what steps to make in your relationship by following some cookie cutter plan for marrying a Jamaican man.

The questions from Sus should be taken seriously. I'm not even going to say slow down...because you won't listen if your mind/heart is already made up.

Hold up...hold up. Why in the world would you come a BB full of strangers to ask if you are making the right choice anyway? There is no way we "real strangers" can tell you that your relationship is real.

Some women have even gone as far as to try and classify why their relationship is different. "Well...I know I only knew him for 4 days...but I didn't meet him on the beach or in a resort. He was actually a handcart vendor selling peanuts. So...our love is most definitely real."

I have only seen a very select few that are actually willing to put in the work and wait the long haul for their true love. Big up for that sisters! You all know who you are.

Only time will tell you if you have something real. Even then, marriages and relationships in general are hard as He!L to keep. Over 50% of all US/US marriages end in divorce. Those are staggering odds. Then, you add in bringing a man from a different country that you barely understand...wow.

Best of luck though.

Well said my Girl

[shrewdgal 0]

Darn I didn't miss a thing. I rushed around for no reason

OK I am out for a bit...I have to do the mail run cause our other assistant isn't here today

I just saw a certain person logged on Hope I don't miss something fun

who/ Shawn? he's always a hoot.

I was talking that eyes girl...no action from her tonight I guess.

You mean you actually bathe?

Only when I stay at hotels I like the towels

thats sad. everyone was trying to stop her from making a mistake, right? not offend and embarass her

I think we all see the danger and obliviousness in that situation..but we have said our peice, right? now its up to her to discern the truths, consequences, and be shrewd..... we cant carry her there..but we also dont have to hurt her so that she runs and makes some type of defensive decision, right?

Just because we know we are right in having that opinion (we have all seen situations like that) doesnt mean everyone else knows we are right...yet... hahahahaha

That was not directed specifically at you Yaads.

OK Yall....I was hoping to send the petition off last Friday but it looks like it won't happen until this Friday. I'm trying to think of what to include. Tell me if I have everything (BTW, i'm doing the I-130):

$355

I-130

G325-A (for me & him)

Copy of Marriage Certificate

Passport photos of me & him (should 2 suffice?)

Witness Affidavits

Wedding photos

Is that it? Or am I missing something?

nope

thats about it.... copy of his passport page and yours too? I added it in there but dont remember if it was required. i think so

haha yaads,

i think she is just feeling defensive about it all. It is her business, just hope she works the relationship the best way it can. I remember when I first started talking about my relationship on another forum, and got some folks talking all this crazy stereotypical stuff about JA men using women and all the such. I didnt get upset, but I thought the woman was bitter, haha. Still think she is. I had NEVER heard of all the stories of visa fraud or sex tourism, or what happens in JA stays in JA madness. But I did start to take heed to some comments and stories that were not directly pointed to me but just in general. I think its good to be armed with this knowledge whether you think it applies to you or not. I also talk to my husband about EVERY LAST THING i see on these websites, so he knows what I know.

you know i love ya

FAR...it's about 40 miles. with little traffic I can make it in less than an hour.

wow !!

me tooo......

yaads mi couldn't sleep wid nobody mi no know unless wi stuck out somewhere a dead

ahahahah i could sleep with them but not sure they would fare well with me. I chat even inna mi sleep!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

thats sad. everyone was trying to stop her from making a mistake, right? not offend and embarass her

I think we all see the danger and obliviousness in that situation..but we have said our peice, right? now its up to her to discern the truths, consequences, and be shrewd..... we cant carry her there..but we also dont have to hurt her so that she runs and makes some type of defensive decision, right?

Just because we know we are right in having that opinion (we have all seen situations like that) doesnt mean everyone else knows we are right...yet... hahahahaha

That was not directed specifically at you Yaads.

DID I MISS SOMETHING ??

[shrewdgal 0]

I'm late...but I had to chime in. JAEyes...you just happened to bring up a topic that many have skirted around or whispered about in PM. I wrote (actually can't find a way to end) a "fictional" story about these whirlwind romances in Jamaica.

The questions from Sus should be taken seriously. I'm not even going to say slow down...because you won't listen if your mind/heart is already made up.

Only time will tell you if you have something real. Even then, marriages and relationships in general are hard as He!L to keep. Over 50% of all US/US marriages end in divorce. Those are staggering odds. Then, you add in bringing a man from a different country that you barely understand...wow.

thats sad. everyone was trying to stop her from making a mistake, right? not offend and embarass her

I think we all see the danger and obliviousness in that situation..but we have said our peice, right? now its up to her to discern the truths, consequences, and be shrewd..... we cant carry her there..but we also dont have to hurt her so that she runs and makes some type of defensive decision, right?

Just because we know we are right in having that opinion (we have all seen situations like that) doesnt mean everyone else knows we are right...yet... hahahahaha

That was not directed specifically at you Yaads.

DID I MISS SOMETHING ??

hahahah no...it was just a reply to something she said..and I didnt want her to think that I was talking TO her

you know

Im really trying to work on the editing Kimmy

Jaws mi love yuh..dats why u a di story writer....very very well said...

agreed!

[PortlandAngel 0]

Its Hump Day!!! Good Morning All!

[shrewdgal 0]

Marcel is okay. Gone to another interview this morning. Figured out the bus schedule for himself my dear. The job he interviewed for yesterday is the one he really wants, but they say he may have to be a permanent resident first since it's a government facility eventhough he has his EAD.

God is still in control though I will pray he gets the perfect one!