Yardies at home and farrin (part 9)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Lawd Gaad JAEyes; come back. I don't know who sent you a message or what they said, but do what you feel is best. As you will read, we come in here with plenty of things that's on our mind, sometimes it's not even IMMIGRATION related, we just talk. We're a great support system, we fight, bax dung, fuss and kick dung one another. We also cry with each other. You feel what I'm saying.

Yard talk...so, no feel no way a so we tan.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Dillon..even though it didn't work b/c of personalities do u still think sometimes.."dyam, he got a GC from me, I feel used"

Eyes..i really feel for u.. it's quite sad actually..

[Yaads 0]

i'M SORRY if i seem harsh and such but all I'm saying is u have to keep ur eyes open for everything..u didn't mention if this was ur 1st time going to JA...

OK..a no mi send har no PM..so oonuh don't even tink it

Ok...

I don't think that was harsh at all. JAEyes...seriously...read over what you wrote. Doesn't some of that strike you as a little odd? You are going to send someone you met just last month for a brief time money to plan your wedding?! They all love you and can't wait for you to be in the family?! Not saying it isn't possible but these people BARELY KNOW YOU! For goodness sake...step back and start thinking rationally here. What do they like about you? They can't have gotten to know you very well in those few days you were with them. Not saying you aren't a likeable person but doesn't it strike you odd that they love you so much and they barely know you?

As others have said...not saying that your relationship isn't real and that you don't love each other and all that good stuff but why the rush? If you are soulmates like you say then won't he still be your soulmate a year from now...two years...five years?!? Why the rush? Why not take a couple more visits and make sure you really know each other before making a committment like marriage?

Mi nah send no PM eidda - mi a sey wha mi haffi sey right here.

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Kimmy!!!! Ur VJ is jacked up over there.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Mi rass...Kimmy musah post bout 20 times...dwl

[Yaads 0]

Kimmy!!!! Ur VJ is jacked up over there.

For real! How much time yuh haffi tell us Kims? 6+

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I wish my husband's (only ONE Jomo) family was so welcoming at first!!!! I didn't go back to visit until a year later. After that visit, they realized how real this was. His family and my family too were skeptical of us. But...now we are one big family.

[dillon 6]

Dillon..even though it didn't work b/c of personalities do u still think sometimes.."dyam, he got a GC from me, I feel used"

Eyes..i really feel for u.. it's quite sad actually..

No not at all...we were breaking up right before we had to remove conditions and I actually filed it for him with no regrets. I am not bitter about it at all...I learned from it and it made me a stronger person. I have said and will say it for the rest of my life..I would do it all over again. What I am bitter about is that he is not there for his daughter and has no contact with her due, his choice...not from mine.

But I do believe in Karma and he has been getting his for like the last 6 years. LOL! His life is a mess.

And Kimmy...how many times are you going to ask me the question, you posted it like 5 times. LOL!

Edited November 11, 2008 by dillon

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Wasn't me...It wasn't me....Shaggy...it wasn't me

I didn't send no PM either.

[*JG* 2]

JG..can u just see that now..one for u and one for me...dem sayin mek it seem like there is no world w/o dem..JAeyes..open dem eyes girl..and knock ur sis in her head too....

Mrslady.....u said u met ur SO in June of this yr? Do u feel like it's too soon are u now questioning ur intent ?

Mrslady..go check out ummmwhats her name..Texasbound's profile

Never that! I just was curious about how other people felt about knowing someone for a short time. Yes just June of this year........I am sure there are others on here that have had a shorter relationship, such as mine, and just don't fess up to it. Steve is a great man, I love him, he loves me, and we haven't filed yet. I am learning his ways and moods, just as he is mine. I ask questions of him and myself all the time. I have prayed on it for months. We have prayed on it together too......Here I am defending myself again.......I know where people are coming from I get it I do! My eyes are open and they are open WIDE sister girl. I am not questioning anything about my feelings ever. I do sometimes get caught up in the talk about visa love and step back and re-evaluate what is happening. I have to, we all have to if we have met a man that we did not grow up knowing like have.

The key here is that you have known him 5 months thus far. And, the K-1 process will take you 6-9 months from January filing. Then, you have 6 months to use the visa and 3 to marry after he sets foot in the US. Roughly 22 months from meeting till you would HAVE to marry. That's a lot of time to get to know someone and to back out if you feel the need.

Meeting in October, marrying in December is not enough time.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

JG..can u just see that now..one for u and one for me...dem sayin mek it seem like there is no world w/o dem..JAeyes..open dem eyes girl..and knock ur sis in her head too....

Mrslady.....u said u met ur SO in June of this yr? Do u feel like it's too soon are u now questioning ur intent ?

Mrslady..go check out ummmwhats her name..Texasbound's profile

Never that! I just was curious about how other people felt about knowing someone for a short time. Yes just June of this year........I am sure there are others on here that have had a shorter relationship, such as mine, and just don't fess up to it. Steve is a great man, I love him, he loves me, and we haven't filed yet. I am learning his ways and moods, just as he is mine. I ask questions of him and myself all the time. I have prayed on it for months. We have prayed on it together too......Here I am defending myself again.......I know where people are coming from I get it I do! My eyes are open and they are open WIDE sister girl. I am not questioning anything about my feelings ever. I do sometimes get caught up in the talk about visa love and step back and re-evaluate what is happening. I have to, we all have to if we have met a man that we did not grow up knowing like have.

PLEASE ! don't call me anything other than my name that gets to me...i take offense..i'm glad ur happy and ur eyes are wide open..and ur not being used!

[Yaads 0]

No not at all...we were breaking up right before we had to remove conditions and I actually filed it for him with no regrets. I am not bitter about it at all...I learned from it and it made me a stronger person. I have said and will say it for the rest of my life..I would do it all over again. What I am bitter about is that he is not there for his daughter and has no contact with her due, his choice...not from mine.

But I do believe in Karma and he has been getting his for like the last 6 years. LOL! His life is a mess.

Sorry you had to go through a breakup like that but I am glad that it made you stronger and not bitter. How sad that he chooses not to be with his daughter

Karma...gets them everytime I tell ya!

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Hmmmmm didnt expect people to have such a big problem with me. i am not suppose to be online at work but i was so upset i had to post. How dare u people tell me that he is using me or not tru?????? Just cause we don't know each other long doesn't mean we are getting played. u people don't even know Winston or me so how do u think u even have a clue about us??????? i saw the p;oll in here about how people meet & a lot are like us. So what is the big deal?????? i really didnt expect people to be so mean. Not that i owe u people anything but just so u know it was me that talked about marriage and all that he just asked about our future. I did meet his whole family. He took me to his house a couple times. my sister came to & met everyone and everyone liked us so much. His mom and sister talked to me for so long and helped me learn to cook a dish. They were so welcoming and loved me from the first day. They are so excited Winston met a nice woman to be with. The mom talks to me on the phone and tells me how much she likes me and how great it will be to be a part of the family and she will help me with the wedding and everything. Offered to plan things and have me just send somr money to cover cost and she would arrange things for when i come back so i can enjoy the wedding. She has never seen Winston so in love so happy. She cant wait to see us get married. When i was there i really felt like i was one of them. Helped by grocery and clean house and laundry and everythings. I even stayed one night there but bc they didnt have electricity cause of a bill, Winston was really worried about me so i went back to the hotel and he stayed by my side the whole time. If he didnt love me i dont think he would have spent so much time with me and stayed w/ me so long.

As for some of u people that sent a message to my messenger thing saying i was fool and crazy and not living in reality that was not nice or friendly. I really didnt expect this from u people i thought i was going to be supported but i quess not

So, he was worried about you being alone because he didn't have any current at his house because he didn't pay the bill? Baby girl, I don't know how old you are or how old he is, but like we've been telling you...take a BIG step back. In the end, you'll figure it out. Either you can take the advice we've given you or your can find your way, it's up to you.

[*JG* 2]

I wish my husband's (only ONE Jomo) family was so welcoming at first!!!! I didn't go back to visit until a year later. After that visit, they realized how real this was. His family and my family too were skeptical of us. But...now we are one big family.

Mine was. But, I saw through that the first time she went wacko and tried to hurt the children.

I can't stand her much. No fakeness from me though. I get along. No further.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

oonuh lef mi and mi post...though VJ is acting up

Dillon..I'm very very happy that u did what u felt best in ur heart...things just don't work sometimes and u just have to move on...much respect to u for airing that...