Yardies at home and farrin (part 9)

[mrsladyd 0]

Classy--look at you go! 17 lb, keep up the good work!

Thanks girl! Although I beleive I probably gained every single pound back after the past 3 days. I do not want to step on that scale Wednesday!!!

I have lost 31 lb since the end of June and thought a few weeks back that I had gained some back...low and behold I had lost 2 more! Don't fret about it, if you did gain, you can lose it agian.

[classychic77 0]

CLASSYCHIC, I LIVE IN PALATINE

Really?! Awesome. I have no idea where they live, lol. But I do know that is where I will stay when we come. My son is very close to my 2 little cousins that live there and I promised him today when they left Michigan we could go visit then during summer vacation.

[classychic77 0]

Classy--look at you go! 17 lb, keep up the good work!

Thanks girl! Although I beleive I probably gained every single pound back after the past 3 days. I do not want to step on that scale Wednesday!!!

I have lost 31 lb since the end of June and thought a few weeks back that I had gained some back...low and behold I had lost 2 more! Don't fret about it, if you did gain, you can lose it agian.

Thats great! Well I drank ALOT this weekend and ate mostly carbs so...... the diet is starting over Tuesday morning. (We have one more day of festivities for my grandma.) I just saw you are Diabetic are you following any specific diet? I have PCOS and Insulin Resistance so I have been following the Insulin Resistance diet and I am on Metformin.

[MSNELLY 0]

WELL WHEN EVER YOU DECIDE YOU ARE COMING HIT ME UP OK

[classychic77 0]

WELL WHEN EVER YOU DECIDE YOU ARE COMING HIT ME UP OK

Definitly Good night

[Marlita 0]

I bet u guys wouldn't believe me that many ppl even my sisters call me white b/c of the way i speak..dummies..i get confused with my supervisor (white) does that mean a damn thing..how u speak doesn't make u black or white just a freakin person

I had this White guy at work say this about Obama. Saying he's not a "real" Black man cause he speak too "white". IGNORANCE!! And its not the first time people have made that comment about Blacks. Its like they are suprised to see a Black person holding it down just like every other American. I hate that!

[solsoeur 0]

Hey ladies question for yah..

To my Black Americans and Black Jamaicans..did it matter to you when you found out some of the ladies on here is/has married a Black Jamaican man?

Girl I'm from Cali I have seen it all. No it didn't bother me. I did wonder if things in Ja were like things here tho. My sister used to have a white boyfriend and I tell you the things that happened when they were in public were eye opening and this rude behavior from people you grew up with! We were from a small town.

[solsoeur 0]

MrsPalmer- you are one wise woman! Your input is always appreciated by me! You put a real spin on all the things you reply to. Thanks

Thanks MrsLady...but I just don't understand why anyone would have such a big problem with it. I mean the question could also be turned around into what issues Black Americans have with marrying ANYONE outside of their own culture, and particularly from cultures that are considered "less" or more deprived than others. Some people that I know, and in my own family had issues with me marrying "a Jamaican"---like Jamaicans are lepors, or whoremonging, thieving trolls or something. It all plays in to what others people's stereotypes of people are and I have just never played into that. I honestly believe that if you find someone who is good to you, makes you happy, is honest, and is willing to do whatever he/she can to take care of you, love, honor, and respect you--then by all means PLEASE be with them--or else I WILL! I ain't passing up no good thang when I see it! Mama taught me better than that! Bottom line is you can't let others influence your decision to be happy, regardless of race, culture, creed, gender, whatever. If you do, you'll live a miserable life making everyone else happy, but YOU!

Mrs. P you hit the nail on the head! It is for this reason that I have not told anyone in my family much about Garth. The only one who knows anything is my sister and she will say very little because my BIL is AFrican. Oh my family had plenty to say about him(BIL). I will admit I was skeptical also but now he is accepted. He is a good person and I just love his family. His mother came to visit when my nephew was a baby and took care of him for 3 months. His sister is a sweetheart also. In my ingnorant families defense they give everyone a hard time black, white, african, jamaican. It is what they do but they always come around eventually if you are a good person. I will be honest considering the trouble I have had with men. I am just looking for a man who will treat me right and show me respect etc I could care less where he happens to come from.

[solsoeur 0]

It is a black white question for whoever asked. mi know for a fact many of the posters won't answer this honestly and some will get offend...and why? it's like i feel a change when one of the girls who is White reveal themselves or some get jumped on by saying a simple statement. i just hate it when some White women act more superior than their Black men of any race as if they are God's gift to the world. But, I have come to the conclusion that it's often not the womens fault but the fault of the man who make it seem as though they have discovered gold when they meet/marry/courting a White woman. A woman is a woman no matter the color of her skin. And don't get it twisted this is the same for out White Jamaican women.

I did and I will continue to. It's something I have personally faced for the last 4 years or so. Mostly, from a few select women and men on another web site I am on. I have concluded they are just damn fools, so I've learned not to let it bother me as it did years ago. And, like I said, all their hateful gloom and doom comments have not come to pass, so time is my friend. Anyone who judges my relationship on the color of our skin isn't worth the time to type a response.

I don't quite understand the gold comment, Kimmy. But, again, I guess I just haven't seen anyone I considered acting like that.

Regardless of if we are black, white, red, green, or yellow, we are all in the same crapshoot. There is no guarentees in any relationship, and in our cases, a LDR to living together, will face the test of time. It matters little about more then the individual circumstances of each of our relationships and how well we are able to weather any storms and grow old together.

check my next statement and see if it's clearer. I have witnessed a superiority complex from white women who married a black man and black women who married a white man.

I understand what you are saying Kimmy. I have seen it also. I just ignore it. I see it in real life more not so much on here tho. I just chose to ignore it. Ignorance is ignorance regardless of what packaging it is dressed in.

[JaHoney 3]

Hey SOl, hey 1luv...good morning

you just know i should have my ### in bed but NNNNAAAAWWWWW, my 15 year old gotta wake everyone in the whole dag house!!!! i work late today and dont have to go until 11, so im pissed.

[1luv 1]

good morning Ladies.

Kimmy, I want to comment on ur subject, but I better leave it alone.

Anyhoo, Kimmy/Lawny u guys are the only two names I can think of right now. But what ingredient do I need to make gravy I mean good Jamaican gravy. When I make it it dont taste right.

[JaHoney 3]

tomorrow is election day...WHOO HOOO and i cant wait... ready for this thing to be over with.

is anyone sending boxes to there SO's for christmas? i

im just coming up with randomness since im awake and cant go back to sleep!

Sunny you going to work today or did you take the day off?

kimmy, yeah i figured out what you were talking about after i read thru all the post, im with 1luv, im gonna leave that one alone,

[solsoeur 0]

Hey ladies I just got home from work and let's stir up this conversation . I grew up in the South where Prejudice still remains and unchecked most of the time. As a young black southern girl I was taught that black and white don't mix. My Mom use to say if U married a white man U can come to Christmas dinner but he can't. I went to an all black elementry school and 1 year in High School, so to be really honest I was never exposed to other cultures. I saw white people on TV or when I went with my grand mother to help clean white peoples houses. When I turned 14 our house burned down and my father moved us into an all white neighborhood. Talking about culture shock!!!!!! I went from an all black school to being the 5th black person in a all white school. Our hood was so bad that the first night we were there they put toilet paper in all our front yard trees. When ever we were playing in the front yard we were told niggers U don't belong in this neighborhood go back to Africa.

Needless to say my opinion of white people were not good. I hated to see a black man with a white women. I hated going to an all white school untill my 10th grade year when I met three very decent teacher all of them white. They taught me that all people have good and bad in all the races, even my race. My eyes were opened but I still had to deal with my MOM because I had this huge crush on what!!!!! A white boy . He would walk me home but I told him I couldn't let my Mom see him. Well one day she did and lord have mercy she called me in the house and told me she was going to fine me hanging in a tree. I sat my mother down and asked her what would she prefer me dating someone that totally respected me ,opened doors and cared about my feelings or a guy that was only out to get in my pants whether they were black whit e or chineses? She conceeded to meet Lance is that a white boys name or what??? She was so inpressed with him, but her opinion still didn't change but she never questioned my choice in boyfriends.

In this school my best friends were 1 Korean and 2 latinos and 2 caucasians no blacks. They ran in and out of my MOMs home untill I graduated. So now it really doesn't bother me at all to see a black man with any race of women. What bothers the he!! out of me is when the black man talks bad about his black queens!!! Like because he prefers a different race that our race of women are bad. His Mom was black. I also hate when a white woman acts like she has accomplished somthing big because she has a black man and downs the sisters. Because no matter what color we are, we are all sisters. I fell in love with a Jamaican man and if he had of been a white Jamaican man I still fell in love with the person not the race.

My 2 cents

Girl you speak the truth! I hate that also. I have heard it my entire life and it is just ignorant and in my opinion self hate. I have dated white men but I will never talk about hating black men. Yeah black men make me mad a lot of them but I still love my brothers. (even when they act like they don't love the sisters) To hate your race is to hate yourself. I live in the south now but grew up in Cali and I will honestly admit I never saw so many race issues until I moved here. I mean as far as no one mixing and socializing etc. I had all kinds of friends growing up in all races as a matter of fact until I got in Junior High I didn't have black friends because there were hardly any blacks in my town until that time. I think it is vital that children learn to coexsist with people who don't necessarily look like them. This is something I have been thinking about since moving to ATL. My kids don't have any different race friends and that bothers me. I thought I would like it considering how I grew up but I don't. I now see the value in being exposed to different cultures. I know that when I was in Cali a lot of black women don't like to see the black men with white women and it is only because the black men act like the black women are less than women. Also black women in Cali and other places I have lived don't like how some white women act when they get with a black man. A lot of them try to act as if being with a black man made them black. IMO. I have heard on more than one occassion a white woman call her biracial child the N word! Now some people will say it is a double standard if we can call each other the N word and she can't. I will say loud and clear this is a NO NO!!!!....DON'T YOU KNOW THAT WOMAN ALMOST GOT JUMPED BY EVERY BLACK PERSON WITHIN EARSHOT!!!! Things like that are touchy subjects with a lot of people. These are just my experiences and what i have discussed with other black women in the past.

[solsoeur 0]

Morant see it's different in JA when i was frowing up i knew no color except "browning" hehee everyone was just Jamaican chiney, syrian, indians, japanese, white..until i got to the US.

do you notice u said the race Morant, do you know most ppl classify all blacks together no matter their country, do you know that some do not even know that we have white ppl in JA i mean born and breed..German ancestors...i have so such best friend

Most AMERICAN people Kimmy that is an American problem. That is because America is so race divided and anyone who says it isn't is kidding themselves. As a Black American I will tell you it takes living in another country to see this. When I lived in Japan the Japaneese people didn't see me as black they saw me as American! But in my country I am Black first American 2nd! It is so stupid when you go to another country and fill out a form they don't have race black, white, other etc. They have French, Italian, American etc. American has an identity crisis that is why all blacks(or those who appear to be black) are black in America regardless of where they came from.

[JaHoney 3]

Morning Sol, so tell me this does it bother you when you get stared at in JA? i tell dwayne i might as well have two heads, though im brown like the next person on the street, i might as well be green. It bothers me and moreso this last trip, because even when we were out with dwaynes daughter, people were just staring, if me and him go out to eat it cant be just two people out together, i feel as if people are looking at me like farrin women with JA man, and 95% percent of the time i dont talk, until we are seated and away from the crowd.. hell when i went to digicel to get a phone card, the women behind the counter tried to rip me off of 1000 JA< like im too stoopid to figure out i got change coming, taxi drivers trying to charge 20 dollars to take me from fishermans point to the clock, when i know dyam well it should cost 1 or 2 JA dollars, i mean i been in JA enough trips that im getting better at not getting screwed over but dyam, i dont know if i told yall when my friends went out looking for fruit they asked someone where was the grocery store, they wanted fruit, well someone on the street from the day before remembered me saying i wanted guineps and mangoes, but mind you i wasnt with them this time, so anyway they found themselves with a tour guide who took them to the market, they told someone they wanted pineapple and mangos, in stead of telling people to back the phock up and just look for it themselves, naw they looking like some dayum tourist and guess what, when they got the mangoe and pineapples, they tried to charge them 20 american dollars for it!!!! that is the thing in JA that makes me mad!!!! why, why, why? i figured when i got to JA, for once i wouldnt have to deal with the ####### i deal with in the states but over there i do only in a different way.

Okay just my random vent...LOL