Yardies at home and farrin (part 9)

[sus 70]

One of my sister's friends had several au pairs - they were in some program where they changed every 9 months or so (stay at home rich mom, lol) - Her girls were fluent in Spanish, German, French, and English by the time they were 5 - pretty cool benefit of the program.

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One of my sister's friends had several au pairs - they were in some program where they changed every 9 months or so (stay at home rich mom, lol) - Her girls were fluent in Spanish, German, French, and English by the time they were 5 - pretty cool benefit of the program.

UR RIGHT AND WHEN U LOOK AT DAYCARE FOR REAL IT DOES WORK OUT A LITTLE LESS..BUT U AFFI AVE A PLACE FOR THEM AND SUCH

[*JG* 2]

JG....my mom was tellin me about glistening waters. i really wanna check it out. its a lagoon so the water shouldnt be too deep (mi fraid fi drown)

Lawny....thanks for the review. i'm not looking for a 5 star place..just somewhere to relax for a few days. i hope there's a conference so they can move us to a cottage

Sus...location isnt really a factor. just need a decently priced place. lance and i will be celebrating out bday month

my cousin hired an au pair..this girl from columbia. she has the money to pay so i guess more power to her. but she likes having someone there to help and the girl teaches her kids spanish which is a benefit living here in FL

It is shallow enough to sit in for the most part. And, the rasta guide should be able to save you!

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It is shallow enough to sit in for the most part. And, the rasta guide should be able to save you!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Hmmmmm didnt expect people to have such a big problem with me. i am not suppose to be online at work but i was so upset i had to post. How dare u people tell me that he is using me or not tru?????? Just cause we don’t know each other long doesn’t mean we are getting played. u people don’t even know Winston or me so how do u think u even have a clue about us??????? i saw the p;oll in here about how people meet & a lot are like us. So what is the big deal?????? i really didnt expect people to be so mean. Not that i owe u people anything but just so u know it was me that talked about marriage and all that he just asked about our future. I did meet his whole family. He took me to his house a couple times. my sister came to & met everyone and everyone liked us so much. His mom and sister talked to me for so long and helped me learn to cook a dish. They were so welcoming and loved me from the first day. They are so excited Winston met a nice woman to be with. The mom talks to me on the phone and tells me how much she likes me and how great it will be to be a part of the family and she will help me with the wedding and everything. Offered to plan things and have me just send somr money to cover cost and she would arrange things for when i come back so i can enjoy the wedding. She has never seen Winston so in love so happy. She cant wait to see us get married. When i was there i really felt like i was one of them. Helped by grocery and clean house and laundry and everythings. I even stayed one night there but bc they didnt have electricity cause of a bill, Winston was really worried about me so i went back to the hotel and he stayed by my side the whole time. If he didnt love me i dont think he would have spent so much time with me and stayed w/ me so long.

As for some of u people that sent a message to my messenger thing saying i was fool and crazy and not living in reality that was not nice or friendly. I really didnt expect this from u people i thought i was going to be supported but i quess not

i'M SORRY if i seem harsh and such but all I'm saying is u have to keep ur eyes open for everything..u didn't mention if this was ur 1st time going to JA...

OK..a no mi send har no PM..so oonuh don't even tink it

[Yaads 0]

Geesh what is up with VJ...i can barely get anything to load

[dillon 6]

Hmmmmm didnt expect people to have such a big problem with me. i am not suppose to be online at work but i was so upset i had to post. How dare u people tell me that he is using me or not tru?????? Just cause we don’t know each other long doesn’t mean we are getting played. u people don’t even know Winston or me so how do u think u even have a clue about us??????? i saw the p;oll in here about how people meet & a lot are like us. So what is the big deal?????? i really didnt expect people to be so mean. Not that i owe u people anything but just so u know it was me that talked about marriage and all that he just asked about our future. I did meet his whole family. He took me to his house a couple times. my sister came to & met everyone and everyone liked us so much. His mom and sister talked to me for so long and helped me learn to cook a dish. They were so welcoming and loved me from the first day. They are so excited Winston met a nice woman to be with. The mom talks to me on the phone and tells me how much she likes me and how great it will be to be a part of the family and she will help me with the wedding and everything. Offered to plan things and have me just send somr money to cover cost and she would arrange things for when i come back so i can enjoy the wedding. She has never seen Winston so in love so happy. She cant wait to see us get married. When i was there i really felt like i was one of them. Helped by grocery and clean house and laundry and everythings. I even stayed one night there but bc they didnt have electricity cause of a bill, Winston was really worried about me so i went back to the hotel and he stayed by my side the whole time. If he didnt love me i dont think he would have spent so much time with me and stayed w/ me so long.

As for some of u people that sent a message to my messenger thing saying i was fool and crazy and not living in reality that was not nice or friendly. I really didnt expect this from u people i thought i was going to be supported but i quess not

I don't think any of us told you not to get married but to just slow it down. We aren't on here being mean to you but just being honest because some of us have been through this before. I for one have and in my case it wasn't the fairy tale ending. Am I sorry that I went down that path NO...I don't regret one choice I made.

I met and fell in love with my EX my first trip to Jamaica....talked on the phone NON-STOP for 6 months and then went back down and got married. We didn't have any problems at the embassy and he got approved and came up to the US. There were a lot of red flags that I saw in the 10 months waiting for the interview that I personally ignored. To this day I don't believe he USED me for a green card, what I do believe is we didn't know each other as well as we could have, got pregnant to quick and the adjustment to being in the states is a big one. So I have been through what you are considering and I think that if I would have taken it slower, the outcome of my situation could be different. Take what we say into consideration..don't get defensive because we really are trying to help you keep your eyes open.

[JaHoney 3]

( looking up above at post) shaking my head... and going back to work

[*JG* 2]

Hmmmmm didnt expect people to have such a big problem with me. i am not suppose to be online at work but i was so upset i had to post. How dare u people tell me that he is using me or not tru?????? Just cause we don't know each other long doesn't mean we are getting played. u people don't even know Winston or me so how do u think u even have a clue about us??????? i saw the p;oll in here about how people meet & a lot are like us. So what is the big deal?????? i really didnt expect people to be so mean. Not that i owe u people anything but just so u know it was me that talked about marriage and all that he just asked about our future. I did meet his whole family. He took me to his house a couple times. my sister came to & met everyone and everyone liked us so much. His mom and sister talked to me for so long and helped me learn to cook a dish. They were so welcoming and loved me from the first day. They are so excited Winston met a nice woman to be with. The mom talks to me on the phone and tells me how much she likes me and how great it will be to be a part of the family and she will help me with the wedding and everything. Offered to plan things and have me just send somr money to cover cost and she would arrange things for when i come back so i can enjoy the wedding. She has never seen Winston so in love so happy. She cant wait to see us get married. When i was there i really felt like i was one of them. Helped by grocery and clean house and laundry and everythings. I even stayed one night there but bc they didnt have electricity cause of a bill, Winston was really worried about me so i went back to the hotel and he stayed by my side the whole time. If he didnt love me i dont think he would have spent so much time with me and stayed w/ me so long.

As for some of u people that sent a message to my messenger thing saying i was fool and crazy and not living in reality that was not nice or friendly. I really didnt expect this from u people i thought i was going to be supported but i quess not

No one is trying to be mean. We seriously are just suggesting you slow it all down and think it through, get to know him better. I for one, never said it couldn't work....I have faith in love. I think you are rushing things. What is the need for all the rushing? Seriously?

What you are describing could mean exactly what you say. Or it could mean they all have you fooled. I've seen both. Please, please slow down and get to know him better.....longer. Please.

[^KK^ 3]

oh Lord...We really do love you JAeyes....I don't think people are being mean on purpose. I wish you the best in whatever you decided. And I know one thing...the ladies on here sho know everything (better than a lawyer) about the visa process.

[Yaads 0]

watcha mi ave 6 HEARTS !!!!

Yuh chat tuh much!

Regarding the Au Pair thing. I don't think I would do it. If I could afford to pay an au pair I think I would just stay home and take care of them myself. I do see a lot of benefits to them though just not my thing.

[*JG* 2]

Hmmmmm didnt expect people to have such a big problem with me. i am not suppose to be online at work but i was so upset i had to post. How dare u people tell me that he is using me or not tru?????? Just cause we don't know each other long doesn't mean we are getting played. u people don't even know Winston or me so how do u think u even have a clue about us??????? i saw the p;oll in here about how people meet & a lot are like us. So what is the big deal?????? i really didnt expect people to be so mean. Not that i owe u people anything but just so u know it was me that talked about marriage and all that he just asked about our future. I did meet his whole family. He took me to his house a couple times. my sister came to & met everyone and everyone liked us so much. His mom and sister talked to me for so long and helped me learn to cook a dish. They were so welcoming and loved me from the first day. They are so excited Winston met a nice woman to be with. The mom talks to me on the phone and tells me how much she likes me and how great it will be to be a part of the family and she will help me with the wedding and everything. Offered to plan things and have me just send somr money to cover cost and she would arrange things for when i come back so i can enjoy the wedding. She has never seen Winston so in love so happy. She cant wait to see us get married. When i was there i really felt like i was one of them. Helped by grocery and clean house and laundry and everythings. I even stayed one night there but bc they didnt have electricity cause of a bill, Winston was really worried about me so i went back to the hotel and he stayed by my side the whole time. If he didnt love me i dont think he would have spent so much time with me and stayed w/ me so long.

As for some of u people that sent a message to my messenger thing saying i was fool and crazy and not living in reality that was not nice or friendly. I really didnt expect this from u people i thought i was going to be supported but i quess not

i'M SORRY if i seem harsh and such but all I'm saying is u have to keep ur eyes open for everything..u didn't mention if this was ur 1st time going to JA...

OK..a no mi send har no PM..so oonuh don't even tink it

I didn't send a PM either. This is something I think a lot of newbies may come on here and ask. I have no need for secrets on the subject.

Was it your first time there?

How old are you?

How old is he?

Are the two guys friends? Or relatives?

[Yaads 0]

One of my sister's friends had several au pairs - they were in some program where they changed every 9 months or so (stay at home rich mom, lol) - Her girls were fluent in Spanish, German, French, and English by the time they were 5 - pretty cool benefit of the program.

That would be a wonderful benefit!

[PortlandAngel 0]

Ok..dis here one is fi JAeyes..

1st of all chica how old are you? if you don't mind me asking. What in the world would posses u to want to marry someone u know on vacation in 2 wks? does it strike u odd that u AND ur sister both found "love" in the same place? did u go looking for someone or did they find you? He is using you for a green card my girl..yes mi believe inna love at 1st sight but lets be real with ourselves...have u even been to JA before? yuh undastan wah mi a write seh? if not u have a serious problem. u need to proove ur relationship to the embassy..do u know if they have criminal histories...girl don't be fooled by the blue waters and di glass bottom boat..HE IS USING YOU !!

A dat mi seh too - nuff ppl come a Jamaica and are amazed by di blue wata, white sand, "exotic accents" an meet a man/woman and BAM! dem inna love but naah unnastan wat di JA man/woman chat inna dem ears

Yes mi believe inna love at first site but no one has to act on those feelings immediately. Tek time fi know your partner - no rush wid "true" love. If you fraid di man/woman aggo lef, then check your true feelings about the "relationship.

This board is a perfect example - out of the 300+ yardie/farrin relationships, less than 20% of the couples are still together. Take American/American weddings - the divorce rate after the first year is 50%, now add an overseas spouse to the equation, the numbers for divorce are even higher. Not standing in judgement of anyone's relationship but keep it real - if you wouldn't marry an American man/woman after two weeks why the hell you ready to marry a Jamaican after two weeks holiday? Pappyshow...

Mi naah come pon VJ fi make friend (friend mi naah beg) but mi know seh mi aggo be the #1 henemy soon from my posts about this two week love affair

A so ie go...

I agree.

I've personally met lots of couples who did not make it. Or stay together miserable as hell. So many horror stories out there.

True, there are some successful stories..including mine. I used to say that Damien changed when he got here when in reality we didn't know each other. Things could have gone either way.

Jonesie - take the pole dance class. It will be so much fun. I take striptease once a month...good exercise.

you are one of the few from when we all joined a few years back that is involved in a happy marriage.

You take the class?! I gotta call you to ask you some questions!

Jonesie, I went to S-factor to the intro class it was fun but its was way to expensive for me to continue, my girlfriend took if for about a year her triceps are on point. She loved it and even started teaching some of the beginner classes.

[dillon 6]

watcha mi ave 6 HEARTS !!!!

Yuh chat tuh much!

Regarding the Au Pair thing. I don't think I would do it. If I could afford to pay an au pair I think I would just stay home and take care of them myself. I do see a lot of benefits to them though just not my thing.

They aren't as expensive as you think...especially if you have more then one child and you break down the costs of having more then one in daycare.

Daycare for 1 just 1 can run you $1000 a month.