Yardies at home and farrin (part 9)

[*JG* 2]

Jonesie tanks...but dem would have too much rass questions..all if mi a Indian bout mi a prearrange marriage..

And i gree wid some a wah u a seh bout meeting but wi done hear too many stories fi dis here one be real..bet yuh she doan even know mi a chat har..know nuttin bout JA and bout she a go marry..dyam fool

hey Yaads..bye Yaads,,Forbes how are u ? look like a mi alone tonight

Wow Kimmy.......I understand what you are saying and the thought crossed my mind too........hhnnnn, how does anyone know? Are there any stories that have resulted in successful marriages on here of ones who met and married after a "short" time? How long does it really need to be to be real??? Just curious on people's standpoint on this.

If he starts talking about marriage after one visit, I would turn and run away.

I don't think there is a time limit; but you do have to get to know him, really know him. Lots of communication and not just drunken talk. Spend time with him outside the party scenes. See where and how he lives, his friends, his family, his community. You have to know how he and you handle stress together, fighting, issues that come up.

This process is so long and stressful. Adjustment is even worse. You can't go into this not knowing someone. It really hurts you in the end.

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JG..can u just see that now..one for u and one for me...dem sayin mek it seem like there is no world w/o dem..JAeyes..open dem eyes girl..and knock ur sis in her head too....

Mrslady.....u said u met ur SO in June of this yr? Do u feel like it's too soon are u now questioning ur intent ?

Mrslady..go check out ummmwhats her name..Texasbound's profile

[*JG* 2]

JAEng, your boys are so gorgeous! You should really put them into modelling - Those eyes!

As for knowing relationships - I have a friend who did a K1 with a JA Man after a short time - they have been married 4 years and just had their second child. Not that it's easy or they didn't have issues - But they are making it, it is possible.

Yes. I've seen it too. And, someone taught me that just cause I have indisputable "red flags" in my mind, sometimes they aren't correct. I still stand by them.

It's possible; but improbable. The odds are seriously stacked against you that way.

[*JG* 2]

There are couples on this board who may have seen each other over a span of three trips (each trip lasting about 3-5 days, so for argument's sake lets say they spent a total of 15 days together before paperwork was filed) and say JAEyes files, but she spent an entire two weeks (14 days) with the man - seriously, what's the difference? The fact that one couple saw each other three separate times and someone else saw her loved one once?

Yes she should tread lightly but if she feels this is it, then taking one or two more trips down isn't gonna make much of a difference if her mind is already made.

For the years I've been on VJ, I've seen posts like these. This isn't the first (and by far it won't be the last) time a person from ANY country says something like this.

JAEyes whatever you decide, just be careful.

very true....i think like you said she is just careful in what she decides!

I agree about the whole time thing...wether it is all in one trip or over a few trips.......my thought is that you just get a better feel of who a person is after some time has passed because you experience them over time, on the phone and in person. I know that most of our time on my first trip was spent entertaining each other, not really talking. I think my opinion about visiting a time or 2 more is based on that idea, be it right or wrong. Although, if her mind is made up then any extra visits are a moot point!

Where is Jomo? She will definitely have a good response to this question.

Ha ha............that cracked me up. You know me too well.

I now have a HEART

Like the Tin Man in the Wizard of Oz!

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KK..is coming out of her shell?

[sus 70]

KK..is coming out of her shell?

She mussa drink di magic Lawny/Sunray/SJB juice......

[^KK^ 3]

JAeyes...My vote is for taking your time. Most people here have taken more than on visit to Jamaica. Just relax ya self gyal.

I know of a real situation. My husband associate (long story why i won't say friend..they don't talk anymore), which I know from my many trips to jamaica. I took him like my brother. I hadn't seen him in like 2 years and would ask Ryan about him and he would say he don't see him anymore. Anyways, so he got married to a US citizen after meeting her on the beach in 3 months. She came one trip and they got married on the next on. So long story short...we found out once Ryan came up that he lives in Maryland and very close to us. So we go visit...he is so show off...so he want to show Ryan ..ow im a liv... While at their apartment,she goes on to tell me the story on how bad he is treating her. It was so sad. She even said the pastor told her at their wedding Jamaica..that HE (the husband) would be the destroyer of the marriage. He was cheating with another lady from his job and he had only been here like 5 months. He stole her new sneakers from her luggaage when she was coming back to the US from the wedding. Then when he was coming up, he talked about how he need $100 US for a luggage. She should me this tiny luggage ..I broke down on the floor laughing. No way that thing cost $100. He is still cheating..taking her car and hanging out all night. And she admitted...that she should've just taken her time. It wouldn't have hurt to just take it slow. The true colors would've shown..anyway.

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KK..is coming out of her shell?

She mussa drink di magic Lawny/Sunray/SJB juice......

hahaa..di one lawny a bruk har out

[Marie876 0]

Mornin everyone!

JAEyes...if I met a man and he started to talk about marriage within 2 weeks like JG said I would be running away no matter WHERE he came from. Marriage is a LIFELONG commitment. Take some time to get to know him and his family girl

The Yaardie crew is full of some beautiful children!

Edited November 11, 2008 by Marie87

[Shemmy 4]

KK..is coming out of her shell?

She mussa drink di magic Lawny/Sunray/SJB juice......

[*JG* 2]

JG..can u just see that now..one for u and one for me...dem sayin mek it seem like there is no world w/o dem..JAeyes..open dem eyes girl..and knock ur sis in her head too....

Mrslady.....u said u met ur SO in June of this yr? Do u feel like it's too soon are u now questioning ur intent ?

Mrslady..go check out ummmwhats her name..Texasbound's profile

These men know how to play the game and they are caught up in it. No shame at this point. Marriage in December is foolish talk.

I wish I could think of all the others to point them too.

JAeyes......please slow down and really get to know this man. Visit him a few more times. Please. For your own sake, please heed our advice on this one. I've been on here over 3 years.....I have seen so many horror stories. If I can stop one person from becoming the next one, I would be happy.

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KK..stories like that I have heard and i know there are ppl out there that do not want to tell cause they are ashamed...but u know what like i've been preaching this is reality..marriage in December.kiss mi rass teeth...

u can picha dem..mi wi tek da one deh and u tek dah one here..!!

[^KK^ 3]

KK..is coming out of her shell?

She mussa drink di magic Lawny/Sunray/SJB juice......

LOL....I'm keeping my promise. I saw them at JALOVE babyshower and said I have to keep logging into VJ. I'm definitely out of my shell..

[sus 70]

JG..can u just see that now..one for u and one for me...dem sayin mek it seem like there is no world w/o dem..JAeyes..open dem eyes girl..and knock ur sis in her head too....

Mrslady.....u said u met ur SO in June of this yr? Do u feel like it's too soon are u now questioning ur intent ?

Mrslady..go check out ummmwhats her name..Texasbound's profile

These men know how to play the game and they are caught up in it. No shame at this point. Marriage in December is foolish talk.

I wish I could think of all the others to point them too.

JAeyes......please slow down and really get to know this man. Visit him a few more times. Please. For your own sake, please heed our advice on this one. I've been on here over 3 years.....I have seen so many horror stories. If I can stop one person from becoming the next one, I would be happy.

I was a horror story - Not that I was used for a visa, and not by a JA man - but I fell in love and moved to fast with a man who turned out to be a cheat. I feel the same way about stopping one person from being the next - I have seen it too many times - If sharing my pain can give someone else insight, than it's worth it to me -

Some stories I have seen relating to JA men -

A guy who came here on a work visa - overstayed, convinced a 18 year old to marry him, cheated on her left and right - but got her to file for his green card then dumped her.

A man who came up on a K1 with one woman - Had two other women who I have met, whether through the net or in person, who he told he loved, used them for money - He has been here a few years and married to the one woman - but still calls the other two and tries to tell them he's leaving her, etc....

Read the forum on problems here - Read Westmoreland's story - There are good and honest people out there, and love happens where love happens - But there are plenty of people out there who pray on other's emotions.

[Shemmy 4]

JAeyes...My vote is for taking your time. Most people here have taken more than on visit to Jamaica. Just relax ya self gyal.

I know of a real situation. My husband associate (long story why i won't say friend..they don't talk anymore), which I know from my many trips to jamaica. I took him like my brother. I hadn't seen him in like 2 years and would ask Ryan about him and he would say he don't see him anymore. Anyways, so he got married to a US citizen after meeting her on the beach in 3 months. She came one trip and they got married on the next on. So long story short...we found out once Ryan came up that he lives in Maryland and very close to us. So we go visit...he is so show off...so he want to show Ryan ..ow im a liv... While at their apartment,she goes on to tell me the story on how bad he is treating her. It was so sad. She even said the pastor told her at their wedding Jamaica..that HE (the husband) would be the destroyer of the marriage. He was cheating with another lady from his job and he had only been here like 5 months. He stole her new sneakers from her luggaage when she was coming back to the US from the wedding. Then when he was coming up, he talked about how he need $100 US for a luggage. She should me this tiny luggage ..I broke down on the floor laughing. No way that thing cost $100. He is still cheating..taking her car and hanging out all night. And she admitted...that she should've just taken her time. It wouldn't have hurt to just take it slow. The true colors would've shown..anyway.

I have so many stories...don't know where to start. We ran into one of Damien's childhood friends on Valentine Day in 05. He was with his wife and infant daughter. The husband got here 3 months before Damien so we stayed in contact regarding the visa process. They invited us over for dinner one night and they fought the entire night It bascially boiled down to she got pregnant on her second visit to JA (don't understand unprotected sex) so she filed for the K1. Well after the interview, he found out she had 3 other kids and a baby momma he was living with. She was so angry cuz he left out a few details.