Does Age really matter????

[Sandrila 1]

OH a Cougar LOL well if you are a cougar you are aparently a very hot cougar

SOME STRANGE REASON I ATTRACT YOUNGER MEN LOL

I actually am about 8 years older than my husband...does that make me a COUGAR

caybee...never a chaser

[caybee 21]

OH a Cougar LOL well if you are a cougar you are aparently a very hot cougar

SOME STRANGE REASON I ATTRACT YOUNGER MEN LOL

I actually am about 8 years older than my husband...does that make me a COUGAR

caybee...never a chaser

I was joking You are not a cougar, not the way I interpret it. And you don't look a day older than your husband.

FTR, I hate that word in that context -- sounds so predatory.

[Sandrila 1]

Well after the wedding night, whats a virgin have that a well seasoned veteran can't top Did I say that out loud???????

OK - don't want to offend, but if I do it is the nature of the topic.

I think older woman/younger man marriage can work well, as long as the couple accepts that there will be certain barriers within their relationship. And really, all relationships will have barriers and naturally, SH!T does happen.

To bring this issue on to an immigration website is the fact that age differences -significant ones - are typically viewed as red flags for visa fraud; this goes for both men and women petitioning for significant others. One other thing that I believe gives the MENA USEMs pause when approving visas is that many MENA men typically want to marry a virgin. Thus, the idea that he is marrying a 40+-year old woman with 3 kids might raise a few eyebrows. I'm not saying love doesn't exist, I just believe that these couples will have a few more obstacles (USCIS/DOS) placed in front of them.

Just food for thought.

OH!! SNAP

Edited October 30, 2008 by sandrila

[Sandrila 1]

OH a Cougar LOL well if you are a cougar you are aparently a very hot cougar

SOME STRANGE REASON I ATTRACT YOUNGER MEN LOL

I actually am about 8 years older than my husband...does that make me a COUGAR

caybee...never a chaser

I was joking You are not a cougar, not the way I interpret it. And you don't look a day older than your husband.

FTR, I hate that word in that context -- sounds so predatory.

thanks CAY for your compliment....however I AIN'T gettin any younger

[Sandrila 1]

wow, i think im one of the few who are younger than my husband (by 4 years).

i actually ready somewhere that older women and younger men are well suited for each other because men and women reach their sexual peaks at different times in life

i think this is a good assumption

[Nutty 2]

In my first marriage, my husband was 21 and I was 30. We loved each other, but my first husband was all about hanging out at the local pool hall (5 nights a week) and a pool tournement on the weekend. He just wanted to have the "young bachelor life." When we lived overseas, in India, this was never an issue, since there weren't pool halls to hang out in. I found out here.

We are divorced now. He's is older, wiser and admits he screwed up. We're friends.

Sexual peaks may be in the numbers...but domestic unhappiness can put a damper on any "peaking" going on.

[Imua 0]

In my first marriage, my husband was 21 and I was 30. We loved each other, but my first husband was all about hanging out at the local pool hall (5 nights a week) and a pool tournement on the weekend. He just wanted to have the "young bachelor life." When we lived overseas, in India, this was never an issue, since there weren't pool halls to hang out in. I found out here.

We are divorced now. He's is older, wiser and admits he screwed up. We're friends.

Sexual peaks may be in the numbers...but domestic unhappiness can put a damper on any "peaking" going on.

No snooker/pool halls in India??? My ex started getting into that before we broke up(along with more smoking and the occasional beer which he would try to get me to buy for him... ) - there is a snooker hall in Boudha and when I went in with my ex there were some monks there.

[Staashi 371]

Well after the wedding night, whats a virgin have that a well seasoned veteran can't top Did I say that out loud???????[/color]

OK - don't want to offend, but if I do it is the nature of the topic.

I think older woman/younger man marriage can work well, as long as the couple accepts that there will be certain barriers within their relationship. And really, all relationships will have barriers and naturally, SH!T does happen.

To bring this issue on to an immigration website is the fact that age differences -significant ones - are typically viewed as red flags for visa fraud; this goes for both men and women petitioning for significant others. One other thing that I believe gives the MENA USEMs pause when approving visas is that many MENA men typically want to marry a virgin. Thus, the idea that he is marrying a 40+-year old woman with 3 kids might raise a few eyebrows. I'm not saying love doesn't exist, I just believe that these couples will have a few more obstacles (USCIS/DOS) placed in front of them.

Just food for thought.

OH!! SNAP

I think it is the idea to some of the MENA guys that a "well-seasoned" veteran is just that - well seasoned - not fresh as she's been around the block with a few guys. Some of my MENA guy friends used to say that they could never marry a non-virgin as she was not pure. It seemed to be a very big deal to them. Furthermore, if it wasn't such a big deal in many MENA countries, young girls wouldn't be victims of mercy killings over challenges to their virginity from instances of rape, incest, or boyfriends.

I realize that some countries like Morocco and Jordan might be a little more progressive, but in some other MENA countries this is still a major issue. Also, older women marrying younger men does happen in MENA countries, but they are often older spinster virgins or young widows who have lost a husband.

[Nutty 2]

In my first marriage, my husband was 21 and I was 30. We loved each other, but my first husband was all about hanging out at the local pool hall (5 nights a week) and a pool tournement on the weekend. He just wanted to have the "young bachelor life." When we lived overseas, in India, this was never an issue, since there weren't pool halls to hang out in. I found out here.

We are divorced now. He's is older, wiser and admits he screwed up. We're friends.

Sexual peaks may be in the numbers...but domestic unhappiness can put a damper on any "peaking" going on.

No snooker/pool halls in India??? My ex started getting into that before we broke up(along with more smoking and the occasional beer which he would try to get me to buy for him... ) - there is a snooker hall in Boudha and when I went in with my ex there were some monks there.

Not in McLeod Ganj, Dharamsala in 1997. Not much going on in that town, other than hanging out in restuarants. But when I went to the backwoods on Yunnan, China (which is Tibetan in ethnicity) I saw snooker tables lining the streets.

[sereia 0]

Well after the wedding night, whats a virgin have that a well seasoned veteran can't top Did I say that out loud???????[/color]

OK - don't want to offend, but if I do it is the nature of the topic.

I think older woman/younger man marriage can work well, as long as the couple accepts that there will be certain barriers within their relationship. And really, all relationships will have barriers and naturally, SH!T does happen.

To bring this issue on to an immigration website is the fact that age differences -significant ones - are typically viewed as red flags for visa fraud; this goes for both men and women petitioning for significant others. One other thing that I believe gives the MENA USEMs pause when approving visas is that many MENA men typically want to marry a virgin. Thus, the idea that he is marrying a 40+-year old woman with 3 kids might raise a few eyebrows. I'm not saying love doesn't exist, I just believe that these couples will have a few more obstacles (USCIS/DOS) placed in front of them.

Just food for thought.

OH!! SNAP

I think it is the idea to some of the MENA guys that a "well-seasoned" veteran is just that - well seasoned - not fresh as she's been around the block with a few guys. Some of my MENA guy friends used to say that they could never marry a non-virgin as she was not pure. It seemed to be a very big deal to them. Furthermore, if it wasn't such a big deal in many MENA countries, young girls wouldn't be victims of mercy killings over challenges to their virginity from instances of rape, incest, or boyfriends.

I realize that some countries like Morocco and Jordan might be a little more progressive, but in some other MENA countries this is still a major issue. Also, older women marrying younger men does happen in MENA countries, but they are often older spinster virgins or young widows who have lost a husband.

[Martiniolive 0]

"Spinster Virgins" OUTCH! Hey is there a spinster code of ethics? Or a club? what is the age requirements of the average spinster? Who created that category anyways? If you are really strikingly gorgeous and a virgin and a spinster...does that put you in a special category of ELITE spinster hood? Spinster princess

Well after the wedding night, whats a virgin have that a well seasoned veteran can't top Did I say that out loud???????[/color]

OK - don't want to offend, but if I do it is the nature of the topic.

I think older woman/younger man marriage can work well, as long as the couple accepts that there will be certain barriers within their relationship. And really, all relationships will have barriers and naturally, SH!T does happen.

To bring this issue on to an immigration website is the fact that age differences -significant ones - are typically viewed as red flags for visa fraud; this goes for both men and women petitioning for significant others. One other thing that I believe gives the MENA USEMs pause when approving visas is that many MENA men typically want to marry a virgin. Thus, the idea that he is marrying a 40+-year old woman with 3 kids might raise a few eyebrows. I'm not saying love doesn't exist, I just believe that these couples will have a few more obstacles (USCIS/DOS) placed in front of them.

Just food for thought.

OH!! SNAP

I think it is the idea to some of the MENA guys that a "well-seasoned" veteran is just that - well seasoned - not fresh as she's been around the block with a few guys. Some of my MENA guy friends used to say that they could never marry a non-virgin as she was not pure. It seemed to be a very big deal to them. Furthermore, if it wasn't such a big deal in many MENA countries, young girls wouldn't be victims of mercy killings over challenges to their virginity from instances of rape, incest, or boyfriends.

I realize that some countries like Morocco and Jordan might be a little more progressive, but in some other MENA countries this is still a major issue. Also, older women marrying younger men does happen in MENA countries, but they are often older spinster virgins or young widows who have lost a husband.

[Der Bücherwurm 1]

Sexual peaks may be in the numbers...but domestic unhappiness can put a damper on any "peaking" going on.

:rofl:

[nunyab 0]

well stashi has a point.. my husband doesn't even want to talk about the fact i may have had a "past"... the most he can say is "you were married we're done talking about it" lol.

hehehehehe and i will never tell him more

[MrsAmera 41]

You're lucky he doesn't care to know. My husband knows i had a past (so did he) and he likes to drag it up. Makes me feel awful and I can honestly say looking back I did things I wish I wouldn't have. I remind him he married me regardless of my past and it was not something I ever hid from him. (btw he's older than me so age isn't the issue). It's just what's normal in their culture (i.e. virgin bride) and as someone pointed out it wasn't too long ago this was the norm in the US as well.

[morocco4ever 63]

"Spinster Virgins" OUTCH! Hey is there a spinster code of ethics? Or a club? what is the age requirements of the average spinster? Who created that category anyways? If you are really strikingly gorgeous and a virgin and a spinster...does that put you in a special category of ELITE spinster hood? Spinster princess

Well after the wedding night, whats a virgin have that a well seasoned veteran can't top Did I say that out loud???????[/color]

OK - don't want to offend, but if I do it is the nature of the topic.

I think older woman/younger man marriage can work well, as long as the couple accepts that there will be certain barriers within their relationship. And really, all relationships will have barriers and naturally, SH!T does happen.

To bring this issue on to an immigration website is the fact that age differences -significant ones - are typically viewed as red flags for visa fraud; this goes for both men and women petitioning for significant others. One other thing that I believe gives the MENA USEMs pause when approving visas is that many MENA men typically want to marry a virgin. Thus, the idea that he is marrying a 40+-year old woman with 3 kids might raise a few eyebrows. I'm not saying love doesn't exist, I just believe that these couples will have a few more obstacles (USCIS/DOS) placed in front of them.

Just food for thought.

OH!! SNAP

I think it is the idea to some of the MENA guys that a "well-seasoned" veteran is just that - well seasoned - not fresh as she's been around the block with a few guys. Some of my MENA guy friends used to say that they could never marry a non-virgin as she was not pure. It seemed to be a very big deal to them. Furthermore, if it wasn't such a big deal in many MENA countries, young girls wouldn't be victims of mercy killings over challenges to their virginity from instances of rape, incest, or boyfriends.

I realize that some countries like Morocco and Jordan might be a little more progressive, but in some other MENA countries this is still a major issue. Also, older women marrying younger men does happen in MENA countries, but they are often older spinster virgins or young widows who have lost a husband.

Elite spinsterhood.....