Does Age really matter????

[bassel15 0]

Okay I have a question for all of you DOES AGE REALLY MATTER???? I dont think it does if you really love the person....but yet I have that nagging question in the back of my mind....im only 3 years older then my husband and that doesnt really bother me....so you all share how much older you are if you dare lol i mean im just curious if it bothers you....then keep it to yourself but do share your feelings on being older then your spouse....i know that you all must have wondered at sometime....

[morocco4ever 63]

Three years is not biggie. But then again who cares what anyone else thinks? The only people that I worried about was the immigration. Are you concerned that these 3 years will cause you problems? Personally I wouldn't consider that to be a red flag in your case.

I can't help but wonder if this is going to turn into a flame thread.

[sereia 0]

I can't help but wonder if this is going to turn into a flame thread.

I was thinking the same thing!

P.S. I think most ladies around here are at least somewhat older than their spouse. Some work out, some don't. There are SO MANY factors that go into whether a relationship can work......only you know if you believe you have enough in common with your spouse, maturity levels, what you expect from a relationship, etc.

So does age really matter? That's up to you! I don't think three years is all that much. But then again I've met guys my own age who were sooooooo immature. It really goes well beyond the actual number.

Edited October 28, 2008 by sereia

[bassel15 0]

okay what do you mean? did i dare ask something stupid????

[sereia 0]

okay what do you mean? did i dare ask something stupid????

No you didn't, but its a touchy subject for many ladies here and usually when the age subject comes up a fight begins.

[nunyab 0]

heheheeh haven't had a flame thread in a while....

ok so yeah i am older than my husband and not no 3 yrs eaither.. but i look young for my age and he looks older he acts older than i do lol and it just seems to work for us. He even comments that even though my numbers are larger he considers me younger lmao!!!

whatever, I don't really care my ex husband was 17 yrs older than me so ...... noone thought it weird here in the u,s. why should me marrying someone younger (not that big an age gap) matter?

FLAME ON!!!!!!

[caybee 21]

P.S. I think most ladies around here are at least somewhat older than their spouse. Some work out, some don't. There are SO MANY factors that go into whether a relationship can work......only you know if you believe you have enough in common with your spouse, maturity levels, what you expect from a relationship, etc.

So does age really matter? That's up to you! I don't think three years is all that much. But then again I've met guys my own age who were sooooooo immature. It really goes well beyond the actual number.

Well said. I have a few years on my husband. He's been here for a year and a half, and we're going stronger than ever. In my opinion, there are much more important factors at work, and, again just in my opinion, three years ain't nothin'.

[morocco4ever 63]

okay what do you mean? did i dare ask something stupid????

Nah......It's a natural question. And there are a varying amount of opinions here. We just happen to be a bunch of very opinionated women here, to say the least.

Sereia is correct. It depends on what you have in common, not necessarily the age. Granted a large age difference usually brings about less in common, but it can work. I am quite a bit older than my husband, and it is working fine for us. My ex, on the other hand, was 3 years older than me and to this day he is an immature a$$.

Still waiting for the fireworks.....

[Ban Hammer 13,283]

I can't help but wonder if this is going to turn into a flame thread.

[sweet_peach 0]

Please dont be worried about 3 years. Thats nothing.

I am 7 years older than my SO. It doesnt bother us at all. When I look at him I dont think "oh your younger than me". I look at him and think "this is the love of my life and I wouldnt change a thing".

Good luck and dont worry about age.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

This is a hot buttoned question for certain. Evidence has proven that a considerable age difference has played a bigger factor in fraud cases. A much older woman is often times courted by a much younger mena male. Then married and go through the visa process. When the male comes over here and has their green card they divorce their much older wife. The rate of divorce has caused some countries to crack down and make new laws and increased restrictions by consulates making for longer waiting periods for everyone because they are trying to weed out the frauds. Again this has not been the case for everyone as there are several example on VJ of successful relationships of this sort where the woman is much older and the man much younger. However, off the top of my head I can think of six cases on VJ in the mena region that have fallen under these unfortunate circumstance in the time that I have been here to observe.

[Martiniolive 0]

Three years is not biggie. But then again who cares what anyone else thinks? The only people that I worried about was the immigration. Are you concerned that these 3 years will cause you problems? Personally I wouldn't consider that to be a red flag in your case.

I can't help but wonder if this is going to turn into a flame thread.

Yes M4E it is going to but we are due LOL

[Mommy2ZaidnSalma 11]

If i had a dollar for everytime this question has been asked......

[Martiniolive 0]

Charles!

I can't help but wonder if this is going to turn into a flame thread.

[morocco4ever 63]

This is a hot buttoned question for certain. Evidence has proven that a considerable age difference has played a bigger factor in fraud cases. A much older woman is often times courted by a much younger mena male. Then married and go through the visa process. When the male comes over here and has their green card they divorce their much older wife. The rate of divorce has caused some countries to crack down and make new laws and increased restrictions by consulates making for longer waiting periods for everyone because they are trying to weed out the frauds. Again this has not been the case for everyone as there are several example on VJ of successful relationships of this sort where the woman is much older and the man much younger. However, off the top of my head I can think of six cases on VJ in the mena region that have fallen under these unfortunate circumstance in the time that I have been here to observe.

Is the divorce rate because of clear cut fraud, or just the fact that they just didn't make it? It is so hard to tell, but yeah, the fraud ####### is making life miserable for the true relationships.

I guess I don't keep up on the statistics here, but I am curious as to the 6 you have mentioned.

Three years is not biggie. But then again who cares what anyone else thinks? The only people that I worried about was the immigration. Are you concerned that these 3 years will cause you problems? Personally I wouldn't consider that to be a red flag in your case.

I can't help but wonder if this is going to turn into a flame thread.

Yes M4E it is going to but we are due LOL

We have been missing some drama here lately haven't we.