what's wrong with getting married during the first trip?

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

There are many success stories of those who get married on a first run as well!

[Sofiyya 1,687]

We married quickly on my first trip after 3 years of online and phone chat, and had a very smooth trip through immigration. They seemed intent on approving us, even though I'm 21 years older than hubby is. At his interview, they didn't look at a single piece of evidence and asked only a few questions. He got his visa the next day. That's our story; every case is different. Insha'allah, all goes well for you both!

[Sofiyya 1,687]

We married quickly on my first trip after 3 years of online and phone chat, and had a very smooth trip through immigration. They seemed intent on approving us, even though I'm 21 years older than hubby is. At his interview, they didn't look at a single piece of evidence and asked only a few questions. He got his visa the next day. That's our story; every case is different. Insha'allah, all goes well for you both!

[Sofiyya 1,687]

We married quickly on my first trip after 3 years of online and phone chat, and had a very smooth trip through immigration. They seemed intent on approving us, even though I'm 21 years older than hubby is. At his interview, they didn't look at a single piece of evidence and asked only a few questions. He got his visa the next day. That's our story; every case is different. Insha'allah, all goes well for you both!

[Imua 0]

sorry If I am stepping on any toes in here but I just wanted to comment on this subject...

before my hubby and I first met in person we decided that we would just meet as friends and see how things would progress from there but I knew the instant I saw him in the airport that I was going to be with him for the rest of my life... sometimes you just know...

I will never forget the first time we were alone together and talked about our hopes and dreams and our first kiss - I knew I wanted to be with this man for the rest of my life - married for the first time at 40 and he was so worth the wait!

OT but I the baby birdie pic in your siggie.

Edited October 27, 2008 by Pattu Rani

[polarbear 0]

I'm kinda envious of those who knew at first sight I do believe I only opened the door a crack when he came a knocking but then when he knocked on my window I stood there for 1 hr in winter talking to him (btw - no figurative speech there for those who know my story, so don't go getting ideas )

My hubby and I got to know eachother the traditional way (well, sort of) and I saw him every day working in my building. I have NO experience even talking to him online (he's kinda computer eliterate and we used phone cards only). I have no advice to give on that score. I simply think you should have the engagement party, the wedding party, the honeymoon, and eat your cake too Don't miss out on anything.

[Mommy2ZaidnSalma 11]

I can say that I too knew that Sofyan was "the one" the first time I went to Jordan ...We married othe second time I went though. I didnt think it was right to get married and then up and leave so I waited til I knew we could spend many months together as husband and wife

[Y's_habibitk 2]

I believe many of us have beautiful and amazing stories Whether we have known our hubbies/wives for 1 year or 5 years.

I just don't appreciate people who insult those giving them advice. I never had an issue or comment about anyone getting married first out of the gate..sometimes ya just know. But insult my culture or country (or culture/country of those I love) and I get pizzed ... and I will not apologize for that.

I dont think you should apologize I agree.

[morocco4ever 63]

I had known my husband (online) for almost a year when I flew out and married him. I had spent a lot of time online with him, and knew him pretty well. I knew that it would take some time to get the approval for marriage, which would give me a chance to see if he was the same person online as he was offline. It turns out that he was, and we have been married for 4 years now. So it worked for us. So can it work? Yes. Does it always work? No.

Now from an immigration stand point. I think it was PB that stated that you have to look at this as a legal matter. I have to agree. It ticks me off that it has to be viewed that way, but who are we to fight immigration? So it is best to play the game their way.

Just some background information. We met online in November of 2003. My first trip out there was when we married October of 04. He had his interview in August of 05. He was denied a visa, and the petition was sent back to the USCIS with the recommendation of a revokation of our petition. The USCIS sent us a Notice of Intent to Revoke stating the following reasons:

1-Had just met in person, and got married

2-Had a small ceremony

3-No relatives and friends were at the wedding (This one was untrue)

I don't believe that these are the real reasons that we were denied, but it gave them a valid reason to deny the visa.

The bottom line is this. Perhaps if you marry on the first trip you will get the visa easy. Perhaps you will be denied. It is up to you how to handle it. If you take your time and get engaged, then make a second trip for the marriage it will increase your chances of having the visa approved on the first interview. If you choose to get married the first trip then it will increase your chance for a denial.

The total time it took us to get the visa, from the initial petition, was 2 years, and this would have been considered quick for a denial.

You can do as you please, you don't owe it to any of us to do it one way or the other. But on the other hand if things don't go well at least we all know that we gave you the best advice that we could.

[Nothing1234 2]

I believe many of us have beautiful and amazing stories Whether we have known our hubbies/wives for 1 year or 5 years.

I just don't appreciate people who insult those giving them advice. I never had an issue or comment about anyone getting married first out of the gate..sometimes ya just know. But insult my culture or country (or culture/country of those I love) and I get pizzed ... and I will not apologize for that.

I dont think you should apologize I agree.

[Imua 0]

I had known my husband (online) for almost a year when I flew out and married him. I had spent a lot of time online with him, and knew him pretty well. I knew that it would take some time to get the approval for marriage, which would give me a chance to see if he was the same person online as he was offline. It turns out that he was, and we have been married for 4 years now. So it worked for us. So can it work? Yes. Does it always work? No.

Now from an immigration stand point. I think it was PB that stated that you have to look at this as a legal matter. I have to agree. It ticks me off that it has to be viewed that way, but who are we to fight immigration? So it is best to play the game their way.

Just some background information. We met online in November of 2003. My first trip out there was when we married October of 04. He had his interview in August of 05. He was denied a visa, and the petition was sent back to the USCIS with the recommendation of a revokation of our petition. The USCIS sent us a Notice of Intent to Revoke stating the following reasons:

1-Had just met in person, and got married

2-Had a small ceremony

3-No relatives and friends were at the wedding (This one was untrue)

I don't believe that these are the real reasons that we were denied, but it gave them a valid reason to deny the visa.

The bottom line is this. Perhaps if you marry on the first trip you will get the visa easy. Perhaps you will be denied. It is up to you how to handle it. If you take your time and get engaged, then make a second trip for the marriage it will increase your chances of having the visa approved on the first interview. If you choose to get married the first trip then it will increase your chance for a denial.

The total time it took us to get the visa, from the initial petition, was 2 years, and this would have been considered quick for a denial.

You can do as you please, you don't owe it to any of us to do it one way or the other. But on the other hand if things don't go well at least we all know that we gave you the best advice that we could.

Wow, they actually used the fact that you had a small ceremony against you???? So everyone is supposed to blow a ton of money or if you don't have a lot of money to begin with (as in our case) then it's fraud????? Boyoboyoboy, I should have pulled the Bridezilla act then and demanded a huge reception at the Yak & Yeti not to mention a big diamond from my hubby - I only have a silver ring so he is only out for the GC...sheesh....

We have 2 out of 3 on your list - we technically met in '06, called and emailed a few times but don't have any evidence before marriage(were not thinking it would go so far) so it's going to look as if we married right after we met, and we had a small ceremony, though his family was there and we have photos. I am scared... we are at NVC now and getting our stuff together, will be paying the IV Fee bill on Thursday. I will be having cataract surgery soon(on my one good eye) and am telling myself I won't worry about this visa mess until I get through surgery - my appointment with my Optho to set the date is on Friday... I can only deal with one crisis at a time...

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

I had known my husband (online) for almost a year when I flew out and married him. I had spent a lot of time online with him, and knew him pretty well. I knew that it would take some time to get the approval for marriage, which would give me a chance to see if he was the same person online as he was offline. It turns out that he was, and we have been married for 4 years now. So it worked for us. So can it work? Yes. Does it always work? No.

Now from an immigration stand point. I think it was PB that stated that you have to look at this as a legal matter. I have to agree. It ticks me off that it has to be viewed that way, but who are we to fight immigration? So it is best to play the game their way.

Just some background information. We met online in November of 2003. My first trip out there was when we married October of 04. He had his interview in August of 05. He was denied a visa, and the petition was sent back to the USCIS with the recommendation of a revokation of our petition. The USCIS sent us a Notice of Intent to Revoke stating the following reasons:

1-Had just met in person, and got married

2-Had a small ceremony

3-No relatives and friends were at the wedding (This one was untrue)

I don't believe that these are the real reasons that we were denied, but it gave them a valid reason to deny the visa.

The bottom line is this. Perhaps if you marry on the first trip you will get the visa easy. Perhaps you will be denied. It is up to you how to handle it. If you take your time and get engaged, then make a second trip for the marriage it will increase your chances of having the visa approved on the first interview. If you choose to get married the first trip then it will increase your chance for a denial.

The total time it took us to get the visa, from the initial petition, was 2 years, and this would have been considered quick for a denial.

You can do as you please, you don't owe it to any of us to do it one way or the other. But on the other hand if things don't go well at least we all know that we gave you the best advice that we could.

Wow, they actually used the fact that you had a small ceremony against you???? So everyone is supposed to blow a ton of money or if you don't have a lot of money to begin with (as in our case) then it's fraud????? Boyoboyoboy, I should have pulled the Bridezilla act then and demanded a huge reception at the Yak & Yeti not to mention a big diamond from my hubby - I only have a silver ring so he is only out for the GC...sheesh....

We have 2 out of 3 on your list - we technically met in '06, called and emailed a few times but don't have any evidence before marriage(were not thinking it would go so far) so it's going to look as if we married right after we met, and we had a small ceremony, though his family was there and we have photos. I am scared... we are at NVC now and getting our stuff together, will be paying the IV Fee bill on Thursday. I will be having cataract surgery soon(on my one good eye) and am telling myself I won't worry about this visa mess until I get through surgery - my appointment with my Optho to set the date is on Friday... I can only deal with one crisis at a time...

Well since you've been married you've gone to see him several times so I think that's going to help you guys.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

We married quickly on my first trip after 3 years of online and phone chat, and had a very smooth trip through immigration. They seemed intent on approving us, even though I'm 21 years older than hubby is. At his interview, they didn't look at a single piece of evidence and asked only a few questions. He got his visa the next day. That's our story; every case is different. Insha'allah, all goes well for you both!

How was the wedding? Was it Islamic? Had you been born a Muslim or a Muslim for several years before marrying your Husband? Aren't you half Arab or whole Arab? I suspect there are other factors they looked at that increased your chances of getting the visa.

[Imua 0]

I had known my husband (online) for almost a year when I flew out and married him. I had spent a lot of time online with him, and knew him pretty well. I knew that it would take some time to get the approval for marriage, which would give me a chance to see if he was the same person online as he was offline. It turns out that he was, and we have been married for 4 years now. So it worked for us. So can it work? Yes. Does it always work? No.

Now from an immigration stand point. I think it was PB that stated that you have to look at this as a legal matter. I have to agree. It ticks me off that it has to be viewed that way, but who are we to fight immigration? So it is best to play the game their way.

Just some background information. We met online in November of 2003. My first trip out there was when we married October of 04. He had his interview in August of 05. He was denied a visa, and the petition was sent back to the USCIS with the recommendation of a revokation of our petition. The USCIS sent us a Notice of Intent to Revoke stating the following reasons:

1-Had just met in person, and got married

2-Had a small ceremony

3-No relatives and friends were at the wedding (This one was untrue)

I don't believe that these are the real reasons that we were denied, but it gave them a valid reason to deny the visa.

The bottom line is this. Perhaps if you marry on the first trip you will get the visa easy. Perhaps you will be denied. It is up to you how to handle it. If you take your time and get engaged, then make a second trip for the marriage it will increase your chances of having the visa approved on the first interview. If you choose to get married the first trip then it will increase your chance for a denial.

The total time it took us to get the visa, from the initial petition, was 2 years, and this would have been considered quick for a denial.

You can do as you please, you don't owe it to any of us to do it one way or the other. But on the other hand if things don't go well at least we all know that we gave you the best advice that we could.

Wow, they actually used the fact that you had a small ceremony against you???? So everyone is supposed to blow a ton of money or if you don't have a lot of money to begin with (as in our case) then it's fraud????? Boyoboyoboy, I should have pulled the Bridezilla act then and demanded a huge reception at the Yak & Yeti not to mention a big diamond from my hubby - I only have a silver ring so he is only out for the GC...sheesh....

We have 2 out of 3 on your list - we technically met in '06, called and emailed a few times but don't have any evidence before marriage(were not thinking it would go so far) so it's going to look as if we married right after we met, and we had a small ceremony, though his family was there and we have photos. I am scared... we are at NVC now and getting our stuff together, will be paying the IV Fee bill on Thursday. I will be having cataract surgery soon(on my one good eye) and am telling myself I won't worry about this visa mess until I get through surgery - my appointment with my Optho to set the date is on Friday... I can only deal with one crisis at a time...

Well since you've been married you've gone to see him several times so I think that's going to help you guys.

I hope you're right, Olivia... I am thinking we should have his family write a letter documenting that they have known me since '06, maybe that would help to make up for the lack of evidence before marriage??

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

I had known my husband (online) for almost a year when I flew out and married him. I had spent a lot of time online with him, and knew him pretty well. I knew that it would take some time to get the approval for marriage, which would give me a chance to see if he was the same person online as he was offline. It turns out that he was, and we have been married for 4 years now. So it worked for us. So can it work? Yes. Does it always work? No.

Now from an immigration stand point. I think it was PB that stated that you have to look at this as a legal matter. I have to agree. It ticks me off that it has to be viewed that way, but who are we to fight immigration? So it is best to play the game their way.

Just some background information. We met online in November of 2003. My first trip out there was when we married October of 04. He had his interview in August of 05. He was denied a visa, and the petition was sent back to the USCIS with the recommendation of a revokation of our petition. The USCIS sent us a Notice of Intent to Revoke stating the following reasons:

1-Had just met in person, and got married

2-Had a small ceremony

3-No relatives and friends were at the wedding (This one was untrue)

I don't believe that these are the real reasons that we were denied, but it gave them a valid reason to deny the visa.

The bottom line is this. Perhaps if you marry on the first trip you will get the visa easy. Perhaps you will be denied. It is up to you how to handle it. If you take your time and get engaged, then make a second trip for the marriage it will increase your chances of having the visa approved on the first interview. If you choose to get married the first trip then it will increase your chance for a denial.

The total time it took us to get the visa, from the initial petition, was 2 years, and this would have been considered quick for a denial.

You can do as you please, you don't owe it to any of us to do it one way or the other. But on the other hand if things don't go well at least we all know that we gave you the best advice that we could.

Wow, they actually used the fact that you had a small ceremony against you???? So everyone is supposed to blow a ton of money or if you don't have a lot of money to begin with (as in our case) then it's fraud????? Boyoboyoboy, I should have pulled the Bridezilla act then and demanded a huge reception at the Yak & Yeti not to mention a big diamond from my hubby - I only have a silver ring so he is only out for the GC...sheesh....

We have 2 out of 3 on your list - we technically met in '06, called and emailed a few times but don't have any evidence before marriage(were not thinking it would go so far) so it's going to look as if we married right after we met, and we had a small ceremony, though his family was there and we have photos. I am scared... we are at NVC now and getting our stuff together, will be paying the IV Fee bill on Thursday. I will be having cataract surgery soon(on my one good eye) and am telling myself I won't worry about this visa mess until I get through surgery - my appointment with my Optho to set the date is on Friday... I can only deal with one crisis at a time...

Well since you've been married you've gone to see him several times so I think that's going to help you guys.

I hope you're right, Olivia... I am thinking we should have his family write a letter documenting that they have known me since '06, maybe that would help to make up for the lack of evidence before marriage??

Yes I read that in the guides you can get these kinds of letter from friends and family stating they've known it was a bonifided relationship since whatever date and have it notarized.