Questions on getting married

[Completely 3]

I am just so bored so forgive me if I will ask this question:

How do you know if she/he is the right one for you ?

I will start myself:

I knew that he was the right one for me because I did not have any doubts at all.. I felt like I am completely happy when I am with him and flowing in the river as to come what may... I never regret any decision I made just to be with my husband.. Him and my son is the best thing that ever happened to my life, made me happy and fulfilled.

How about you folks?

Edited October 23, 2008 by Completely

[akdiver 3]

How do you know if she/he is the right one for you ?

If you have to ask, then he/she is not the right one for you.

[Completely 3]

How do you know if she/he is the right one for you ?

If you have to ask, then he/she is not the right one for you.

Well this question does not really apply to me.. and If this questions does not pertains to you either, dont respond.

I am asking in general..

Edited October 23, 2008 by Completely

[IAMX 3,055]

There's generally a good idea that you two belong together. First one is, you get along together, second is, you communicate, third is, the relationship itself just comes together naturally, and, while not necessary, a plus is positive feedback from others. Friends/family, that is.

I am 100% sure though, in general, if you're filing for a K1/K3, you sure as #### better know what you want, first and foremost, and that you can provide what your partner desires as well.

Edited October 23, 2008 by SRVT

[akdiver 3]

I am asking in general.

And I am answering in general.

If you didn't want responses, you shouldn't have posted.

[MrsCat 6]

he showed me his bank account. that's when I knew

[kk_mine 0]

I can't say at the very start of the relationship I did not have doubts. Esp. where he is from (scams, fraud etc). My doubts came from family and friends. Then it made me wonder. But we talked about those things openly. I KNOW b/c we just went together. We have so much in common, he gets along with my only living parent which is my mom, the way he talks to me, treats me, we communicate very well, and there were things that took place to let me know God had a hand in he and I being together! I love him Very much!!! He has made my days a lot brighter! I can't imagine my life without him!

Edited October 23, 2008 by kk_mine

[babykim 0]

will for me,i know that his right for me wen wer together,coz we have so much fun,and im happy being with him and i feel it in my heart that this guy is the right one for me.and im so much comfortable being with him..and no doubts being with him and he complete my life....

[rebeccajo 14]

How do you know if she/he is the right one for you ?

If you have to ask, then he/she is not the right one for you.

That's needlessly flippant. One could say that kind of answer is as 'unthoughtful' as the question is accused of being.

Of course you have to ask yourself if a person is 'right' for you. If you don't think about the things that are niggling you or giving you pause, then you're deluding yourself to what's ahead in the long haul. Love is felt in a moment's rush - marriage is a lifetime. Having the pragmatism of mind to really ask yourself if that persons flaws are something you can tolerate is NOT questioning the love you feel. It's smart.

[Sprailenes 47]

he showed me his bank account. that's when I knew

[NickD 203]

Some general guideline besides a strong platonic and biological attraction, is, if there are things you want to change about that person, may not be the right one. Some believe in a church wedding, a Holy Spirit will come down and fix things, that doesn't happen. If you are comparing your mate with someone else or looking, that is also not a good sign. Ha, if it is that bank account, really no good to you if you spend it, and certainly not good to you, if you can't spend it.

You are really concerned about the feelings of the person, and doing things for that person is a joy, not work. You covet your own spouse, not the neighbors. Major factor is complete trust in that person, without complete trust, you do not have a good relationship.

What is the bottom line? Time, need to spend time together as well as time apart, ha, use to say in the military, absence makes the heart grow founder, but a microsecond too long, and the heart will yonder.

Wife and I took two years before tying the knot, both had bad previous marriages and both had marriage IQ's of around 1.28. Marriage is easy, divorce is not, reading the divorce laws of your state should be part of the marriage ceremony as well as the legal liability. Regarding the USCIS that most of us faced, isn't signing the I-864 enough for them? Still wanted to dig deep into your love life. Exactly who is taking the liability for a marriage, hint, it sure isn't the USCIS.

Wife and I went through hell to be together, but it made us stronger, could have gone the opposite direction just as well.

[Completely 3]

How do you know if she/he is the right one for you ?

If you have to ask, then he/she is not the right one for you.

That's needlessly flippant. One could say that kind of answer is as 'unthoughtful' as the question is accused of being.

Of course you have to ask yourself if a person is 'right' for you. If you don't think about the things that are niggling you or giving you pause, then you're deluding yourself to what's ahead in the long haul. Love is felt in a moment's rush - marriage is a lifetime. Having the pragmatism of mind to really ask yourself if that persons flaws are something you can tolerate is NOT questioning the love you feel. It's smart.

You have a good point!

I have asked this question because some people tend to rush things to marriage, without even thinking if he or she is the right person for him/her...

To be exact, I met my husband in person, he courted me, we became friends, then lovers, when he proposed I never have any doubt at all.. I had 5 years relationship with someone before i went overseas and met my husband.

When I was with my ex, I was always hesitated to say yes everytime he will asked me to marry him, I always have doubts, if we will going to work out or not as we both dont have any good communications at all.. I did not even know what we became together for 5 years....(we did not live together..) Even when we broke up before leaving my country, I met several people as well, trying to find someone whom I can communicate well and will never have a doubt at all but to realize later on and I always questioned myself, the following:

Am in inlove with him? or just an infatuation

Is he really telling me the truth?

Does he really love me?

Is he really single?

Are we compatible to each other?

The questions above always come up to my mind everytime I meet someone before... But when I met my husband.. I felt like I've known him for a long time, whenever we talk we never notice the time.. I never had a doubts at all and think any of those questions above..All I know is I love him and he made me complete inside and out.

Marriage is a longtime commitment, it is like a job that we have to work things out..

Edited October 23, 2008 by Completely

[almaty 19]

he showed me his bank account. that's when I knew

best answer

[NickD 203]

How do you know if she/he is the right one for you ?

If you have to ask, then he/she is not the right one for you.

That's needlessly flippant. One could say that kind of answer is as 'unthoughtful' as the question is accused of being.

Of course you have to ask yourself if a person is 'right' for you. If you don't think about the things that are niggling you or giving you pause, then you're deluding yourself to what's ahead in the long haul. Love is felt in a moment's rush - marriage is a lifetime. Having the pragmatism of mind to really ask yourself if that persons flaws are something you can tolerate is NOT questioning the love you feel. It's smart.

You have a good point!

I have asked this question because some people tend to rush things to marriage, without even thinking if he or she is the right person for him/her...

To be exact, I met my husband in person, he courted me, we became friends, then lovers, when he proposed I never have any doubt at all.. I had 5 years relationship with someone before i went overseas and met my husband.

When I was with my ex, I was always hesitated to say yes everytime he will asked me to marry him, I always have doubts, if we will going to work out or not as we both dont have any good communications at all.. I did not even know what we became together for 5 years....(we did not live together..) Even when we broke up before leaving my country, I met several people as well, trying to find someone whom I can communicate well and will never have a doubt at all but to realize later on and I always questioned myself, the following:

Am in inlove with him? or just an infatuation

Is he really telling me the truth?

Does he really love me?

Is he really single?

Are we compatible to each other?

The questions above always come up to my mind everytime I meet someone before... But when I met my husband.. I felt like I've known him for a long time, whenever we talk we never notice the time.. I never had a doubts at all and think any of those questions above..All I know is I love him and he made me complete inside and out.

Marriage is a longtime commitment, it is like a job that we have to work things out..

First off, we were very close, no fanfare, no expensive dinner, no ring, no planning, just popped without even thinking, I would like to marry you, she said, I would like to marry you too. Okay, let's make it official, will you marry me, she said yes. Not sure why the man has to ask first, must be tradition or something like that. Took another six months just to get her a ring, we shopped together, and ironically we both chose the same ring, had to wait another week for the right size. That wasn't formal either, slipped it on her finger and asked her again if she would marry me, again she said yes. Then immigration.

[Completely 3]

How do you know if she/he is the right one for you ?

If you have to ask, then he/she is not the right one for you.

That's needlessly flippant. One could say that kind of answer is as 'unthoughtful' as the question is accused of being.

Of course you have to ask yourself if a person is 'right' for you. If you don't think about the things that are niggling you or giving you pause, then you're deluding yourself to what's ahead in the long haul. Love is felt in a moment's rush - marriage is a lifetime. Having the pragmatism of mind to really ask yourself if that persons flaws are something you can tolerate is NOT questioning the love you feel. It's smart.

You have a good point!

I have asked this question because some people tend to rush things to marriage, without even thinking if he or she is the right person for him/her...

To be exact, I met my husband in person, he courted me, we became friends, then lovers, when he proposed I never have any doubt at all.. I had 5 years relationship with someone before i went overseas and met my husband.

When I was with my ex, I was always hesitated to say yes everytime he will asked me to marry him, I always have doubts, if we will going to work out or not as we both dont have any good communications at all.. I did not even know what we became together for 5 years....(we did not live together..) Even when we broke up before leaving my country, I met several people as well, trying to find someone whom I can communicate well and will never have a doubt at all but to realize later on and I always questioned myself, the following:

Am in inlove with him? or just an infatuation

Is he really telling me the truth?

Does he really love me?

Is he really single?

Are we compatible to each other?

The questions above always come up to my mind everytime I meet someone before... But when I met my husband.. I felt like I've known him for a long time, whenever we talk we never notice the time.. I never had a doubts at all and think any of those questions above..All I know is I love him and he made me complete inside and out.

Marriage is a longtime commitment, it is like a job that we have to work things out..

First off, we were very close, no fanfare, no expensive dinner, no ring, no planning, just popped without even thinking, I would like to marry you, she said, I would like to marry you too. Okay, let's make it official, will you marry me, she said yes. Not sure why the man has to ask first, must be tradition or something like that. Took another six months just to get her a ring, we shopped together, and ironically we both chose the same ring, had to wait another week for the right size. That wasn't formal either, slipped it on her finger and asked her again if she would marry me, again she said yes. Then immigration.

I am having a goose bump reading your story Nick..

Me and my husband took 1 year and half before we got married, no fancy stuff, just thought we were just friend, till he went on vacation and he proposed to me.. Our relationship was platonic at first, the out of the blue we realized we loved each other. We will be celebrating our 3 years of marriage next week...