Need To Withdraw Affidavit

[TheZilla 0]

Hello,

I know I've already asked questions about the affidavit of support but I still have no idea what to do, or whom to contact. I need help desperately.

My husband and I were married for a year and two months, and a month ago he took off with no warning to live with another woman. He cut me off almost completely, ran up overdrafts on our joint bank account (he paid it off and closed it, but my credit score was affected) and I didn't even know where he was until he sent divorce papers. He is wanting to file under "irreconcilable differences", but he didn't send me all of the paperwork and he wants me to send my paperwork back to him so he can file it himself (I'm afraid if I do it, he could alter information on the forms I fill out). He never tried to work the marriage out at all, he told me he wanted a future with me a few days before he took off.

The problem is that he is a college student and he is currently unemployed. He barely has any money, probably only enough to get him through a couple of months. I am not sure what kind of job he'll be able to get or if he can get one at all in this economy. My personal finances have taken a hit that has left me close to bankruptcy. I need the little money I have to be able to get by, and I am afraid he will indeed apply for tested benefits if he can't make his ends meet. I have no idea if he would be approved for them or not, but I am so afraid my financial situation will be compromised even more.

I read on another forum that I could write letters to withdraw my affidavit of support but it said to write to USCIS and my local office, but gave no information as to how I would address those letters (I.E. what department). I feel confused now, because at first I thought he did enter this marriage in good faith, but now I am honestly not sure. I want to believe he did so badly, but his behavior suggests so strongly that he really might have taken me for a ride. The entirety of our marriage was spent getting him settled, getting him a car, a phone, the ability to open bank accounts, building his credit, and getting him into college. He was only in college for a few weeks, and then he took off.

I've told all the people around me everything, and so many seem to think he took advantage of me and never really intended to work on a real marriage, that more than anything he wanted to get a chance to live and go to school in America (His mother is from Colombia, lives in Tenerife, and has a boyfriend who is a millionaire and she wants a green card herself so he will marry her, right after my husband got his conditional green card she was calling asking when he could apply for her to get one as well). I feel so confused, at this point I don't even care if he stays here, I just want to cut ties with him completely so that my own finances are assured. I'm so afraid of what he might do.

I honestly don't know what to do. I wonder now if he did take me for a ride but I feel helpless. I feel like a sucker and a fool. I am so afraid he will just keep on taking advantage, so far he's treated me like we never had a relationship in the first place, as if he got what he wanted and is now finished with me. He's been pressuring me to get the divorce as soon as possible.

He never tried to work anything out, he never told me anything and acted like everything was just fine up until he took off. I want to believe that it was real love and it just didn't work out, I want to believe that, but now I just don't know. The main thing is wanting to protect myself but I don't know how. This is the only place I have to go to for help in this situation. I don't know who else to turn to and I'm desperate to rescind my sponsorship because more than anything, even if he didn't take me for a ride to get here, he just doesn't care about how any of his actions effect me. I'm afraid he will go after benefits and that I will have to pay for it.

If any of you know how I can withdraw my sponsorship, where to write, who to contact directly, or any of it, please let me know. I don't mean to keep asking so many questions but right now things are so bad with me that it's been hard to figure out what to do.

[ellmvl 1]

Hello,

I know I've already asked questions about the affidavit of support but I still have no idea what to do, or whom to contact. I need help desperately.

My husband and I were married for a year and two months, and a month ago he took off with no warning to live with another woman. He cut me off almost completely, ran up overdrafts on our joint bank account (he paid it off and closed it, but my credit score was affected) and I didn't even know where he was until he sent divorce papers. He is wanting to file under "irreconcilable differences", but he didn't send me all of the paperwork and he wants me to send my paperwork back to him so he can file it himself (I'm afraid if I do it, he could alter information on the forms I fill out). He never tried to work the marriage out at all, he told me he wanted a future with me a few days before he took off.

The problem is that he is a college student and he is currently unemployed. He barely has any money, probably only enough to get him through a couple of months. I am not sure what kind of job he'll be able to get or if he can get one at all in this economy. My personal finances have taken a hit that has left me close to bankruptcy. I need the little money I have to be able to get by, and I am afraid he will indeed apply for tested benefits if he can't make his ends meet. I have no idea if he would be approved for them or not, but I am so afraid my financial situation will be compromised even more.

I read on another forum that I could write letters to withdraw my affidavit of support but it said to write to USCIS and my local office, but gave no information as to how I would address those letters (I.E. what department). I feel confused now, because at first I thought he did enter this marriage in good faith, but now I am honestly not sure. I want to believe he did so badly, but his behavior suggests so strongly that he really might have taken me for a ride. The entirety of our marriage was spent getting him settled, getting him a car, a phone, the ability to open bank accounts, building his credit, and getting him into college. He was only in college for a few weeks, and then he took off.

I've told all the people around me everything, and so many seem to think he took advantage of me and never really intended to work on a real marriage, that more than anything he wanted to get a chance to live and go to school in America (His mother is from Colombia, lives in Tenerife, and has a boyfriend who is a millionaire and she wants a green card herself so he will marry her, right after my husband got his conditional green card she was calling asking when he could apply for her to get one as well). I feel so confused, at this point I don't even care if he stays here, I just want to cut ties with him completely so that my own finances are assured. I'm so afraid of what he might do.

I honestly don't know what to do. I wonder now if he did take me for a ride but I feel helpless. I feel like a sucker and a fool. I am so afraid he will just keep on taking advantage, so far he's treated me like we never had a relationship in the first place, as if he got what he wanted and is now finished with me. He's been pressuring me to get the divorce as soon as possible.

He never tried to work anything out, he never told me anything and acted like everything was just fine up until he took off. I want to believe that it was real love and it just didn't work out, I want to believe that, but now I just don't know. The main thing is wanting to protect myself but I don't know how. This is the only place I have to go to for help in this situation. I don't know who else to turn to and I'm desperate to rescind my sponsorship because more than anything, even if he didn't take me for a ride to get here, he just doesn't care about how any of his actions effect me. I'm afraid he will go after benefits and that I will have to pay for it.

If any of you know how I can withdraw my sponsorship, where to write, who to contact directly, or any of it, please let me know. I don't mean to keep asking so many questions but right now things are so bad with me that it's been hard to figure out what to do.

I truly understand what you are going through right now. I honestly don't know the answer to your questions but suggest to try to consult a lawyer for this since the affidavit of support that you signed was notarize. Aside from the USCIS, a lawyer has the knowledge about the agreement that you are into. Or, try to call the USCIS and asked them if there is a chance that you can withdraw your affidavit of support...and what are the steps.

The best advice that i could give you to you is to PRAY and you'll be guided from above...everything will be OK. Smile

Edited October 20, 2008 by dorky&pooper

[TayRivers 4]

If AOS has been approved and the Greencard recieved the you can not withdraw the affidavit of support. Sadly divorce is not one of the reasons for the affidavit to end. they are:-

The immigrant becomes a Citizen

The immigrant aquires 40 Social Security Credits (10 years of work)

The immigrant leave the USA for Good

The immigrant dies

The sponsor dies.

Until one of those conditions is met the sponsor is still responsible under the affidavit of support.

[pushbrk 12,898]

If AOS has been approved and the Greencard recieved the you can not withdraw the affidavit of support. Sadly divorce is not one of the reasons for the affidavit to end. they are:-

The immigrant becomes a Citizen

The immigrant aquires 40 Social Security Credits (10 years of work)

The immigrant leave the USA for Good

The immigrant dies

The sponsor dies.

Until one of those conditions is met the sponsor is still responsible under the affidavit of support.

I concur.

Note: While it doesn't matter to this case, a previous poster indicated the affidavit was notarized. The I-864 actually is not but again it doesn't matter. It's binding anyway.

It would also be pretty difficult to make a fraud claim stick since about a year ago the two parties swore under oath, the relationship was bona fide and showed evidence to support their mutual claim.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

If AOS has been approved, you cannot withdraw the Affidavit of Support. If you are concerned about any future ramifications of your husband's activities, then do one of two things. Divorce him, so that you and he are not entangled financially. 2. Make certain that you place no stone in his path as far as the ability to gain employment is concerned. This way, he will work and earn his own income and not be reliant upon you for support. Furthermore, it's just as well he has a new girlfriend....she'll be the one providing his shelter and food, too!

Hello,

I know I've already asked questions about the affidavit of support but I still have no idea what to do, or whom to contact. I need help desperately.

My husband and I were married for a year and two months, and a month ago he took off with no warning to live with another woman. He cut me off almost completely, ran up overdrafts on our joint bank account (he paid it off and closed it, but my credit score was affected) and I didn't even know where he was until he sent divorce papers. He is wanting to file under "irreconcilable differences", but he didn't send me all of the paperwork and he wants me to send my paperwork back to him so he can file it himself (I'm afraid if I do it, he could alter information on the forms I fill out). He never tried to work the marriage out at all, he told me he wanted a future with me a few days before he took off.

The problem is that he is a college student and he is currently unemployed. He barely has any money, probably only enough to get him through a couple of months. I am not sure what kind of job he'll be able to get or if he can get one at all in this economy. My personal finances have taken a hit that has left me close to bankruptcy. I need the little money I have to be able to get by, and I am afraid he will indeed apply for tested benefits if he can't make his ends meet. I have no idea if he would be approved for them or not, but I am so afraid my financial situation will be compromised even more.

I read on another forum that I could write letters to withdraw my affidavit of support but it said to write to USCIS and my local office, but gave no information as to how I would address those letters (I.E. what department). I feel confused now, because at first I thought he did enter this marriage in good faith, but now I am honestly not sure. I want to believe he did so badly, but his behavior suggests so strongly that he really might have taken me for a ride. The entirety of our marriage was spent getting him settled, getting him a car, a phone, the ability to open bank accounts, building his credit, and getting him into college. He was only in college for a few weeks, and then he took off.

I've told all the people around me everything, and so many seem to think he took advantage of me and never really intended to work on a real marriage, that more than anything he wanted to get a chance to live and go to school in America (His mother is from Colombia, lives in Tenerife, and has a boyfriend who is a millionaire and she wants a green card herself so he will marry her, right after my husband got his conditional green card she was calling asking when he could apply for her to get one as well). I feel so confused, at this point I don't even care if he stays here, I just want to cut ties with him completely so that my own finances are assured. I'm so afraid of what he might do.

I honestly don't know what to do. I wonder now if he did take me for a ride but I feel helpless. I feel like a sucker and a fool. I am so afraid he will just keep on taking advantage, so far he's treated me like we never had a relationship in the first place, as if he got what he wanted and is now finished with me. He's been pressuring me to get the divorce as soon as possible.

He never tried to work anything out, he never told me anything and acted like everything was just fine up until he took off. I want to believe that it was real love and it just didn't work out, I want to believe that, but now I just don't know. The main thing is wanting to protect myself but I don't know how. This is the only place I have to go to for help in this situation. I don't know who else to turn to and I'm desperate to rescind my sponsorship because more than anything, even if he didn't take me for a ride to get here, he just doesn't care about how any of his actions effect me. I'm afraid he will go after benefits and that I will have to pay for it.

If any of you know how I can withdraw my sponsorship, where to write, who to contact directly, or any of it, please let me know. I don't mean to keep asking so many questions but right now things are so bad with me that it's been hard to figure out what to do.

Edited October 20, 2008 by diadromous mermaid

[justashooter 430]

sorry to hear you got taken. sweep the trash out of your house, close the door, and let the wind blow it away.