Missing your spouses

[SimoAndYvette 0]

It has been 1 year 15 days since I left him the first time...and 5 months 4 days since my last visit with him.

Like S and S....good days then the bad days. Wish I was in one of the good days right now, but I am not. For the first time ever, my husband allowed me to see the toll this is taking on him also, this past Friday....it is very hard for any man to allow you to see him in a weakened state, and anta habibi is NO different!

We talk every night without fail, and we talk on the phone about every other day. We send e-cards, actual letters in the mail, and on the weekend we have our family time together: I speak with my Moroccan family on the cam and he talks with me and the kids, and my parents if they come over.

We also like to reminisce about our times together....it helps to have those memories!

We do not give up....no matter what!

After this Tuesday's 2nd interview....one way or the other we will be together! Either he is coming here or our son and me are meeting him in Spain or London to live.

It is not natural to be away from your spouse like this! It really isn't! Wives are meant to care for their families to nurture them...how can you when the key person is missing? Men are meant to protect and provide for...how can they when there is no one to do that for??

I keep remembering that we are not given more than we can handle....and in the end we will all be stronger for it! Our marriages will be built on a strong foundation, not sand that can so easily be washed away.

Good Night All!

[Ahmed N Tina 2]

TinaMsea your timeline freaks me out.....I130 sent 06 approved 08???? Yikes girl!

We have been waiting, apart, for 856 days, not that I'm counting. That's 2 years and almost 5 months since I've seen my husband. Like S and S, we each have our good and bad days. It doesn't get any easier the longer it is and we always hold out hope that one day soon we'll finally be together. But neither of us will give up, even if I have to move there.

Don't let it freak you out martini, it doesn't happen very often. We had some red flags (fast marriage and I didn't get to meet the folks) and they decided to test us for a year before touching our case. That's what I'm guessing. Now we're just waiting for them to send his visa to him. Don't worry, I pray all the time that everyone else goes faster and smoother.

[S and S 12]

We have been waiting, apart, for 856 days, not that I'm counting. That's 2 years and almost 5 months since I've seen my husband. Like S and S, we each have our good and bad days. It doesn't get any easier the longer it is and we always hold out hope that one day soon we'll finally be together. But neither of us will give up, even if I have to move there.

Its people like you who keep me inspired. I just want you to know that. This waiting is definitely one of the hardest things I've ever done. I'll keep you in my prayers as I know it must be tough for you after all this time.

Thank you, S and S! I'm glad I can inspire instead of worry folks. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, but it's made us so strong in our relationship. When it's meant to be.....you wait forever if you have to. Thanks for the prayers. You are in mine too.

Totally agreed about the waiting and meant to be. Also, I wouldn't wish this waiting on anyone. I saw one of those shows where they display old torture devices and how they are used. I keep wondering if I would prefer one of those for 5 minutes as apposed to this more than a year of waiting. Oh well, I certainly know far more about my husband than I did a year ago. I try to see the bright side of things as things can always be worse. It just gets hard after awhile.

[nunyab 0]

You know i am all about the quick rip off band aid then the slow pull too. It seems to be harder on my husband these days its like we are taking turns i've been sick lately and he is just at his end he is done and ready to "come home" I am ready to have him so what i've been doing is shopping for clothes for him when he is here, getting the Arabic channel ready to go on tv, cleaning out the closets... anything to do with extra energy and moving forward.

not sure if that will help you but it does me.... and VJ of course

[S and S 12]

You know i am all about the quick rip off band aid then the slow pull too. It seems to be harder on my husband these days its like we are taking turns i've been sick lately and he is just at his end he is done and ready to "come home" I am ready to have him so what i've been doing is shopping for clothes for him when he is here, getting the Arabic channel ready to go on tv, cleaning out the closets... anything to do with extra energy and moving forward.

not sure if that will help you but it does me.... and VJ of course

lol, glad I'm not the only one thinking that way! Getting ready for my husband always cheers me up. Earlier this year I bought him some summer clothes thinking he would be here by then, of course that didn't happen so now I'm debating winter clothes. I kept closet space open for him this whole time and now I'm moving so it never got used. On a bright note the new house will have a lot more room and I can make things even more comfy for him. That cheers me up and moving will keep me busy. My time on VJ is going to be a lot less starting Monday as that is when I get the keys though the big moving will not come until Saturday. During the week I want to move a lot of little things like curtains and pictures on the walls along with kitchen items and clothes I don't need for the week that can be hung in the closet. All of which are probably better to move in the car anyway and will not require as much packing material. Also, this way there is a lot less to deal with once I do the big furniture moving with the Uhaul truck.

I keep debating the arabic channels as I had them once before and it cost me $100 to put up the extra satellite and there was the $35 fee a month for the channels. I want to wait until he is close to coming though I can always watch the channels myself (I'm just being cheap, lol).

[nunyab 0]

oohhhh i got the "dish network" and the arabic channels are just $35 dollars extra not 100 yikes?? but it might be the same and i think it's free to put the statlite up now as i am getting it installed tomorrow

moving always takes a lot good to know and forwarned us.. dont want to worry about you.

is it that house you were talking about earlier?

[S and S 12]

oohhhh i got the "dish network" and the arabic channels are just $35 dollars extra not 100 yikes?? but it might be the same and i think it's free to put the statlite up now as i am getting it installed tomorrow

moving always takes a lot good to know and forwarned us.. dont want to worry about you.

is it that house you were talking about earlier?

yes, I was talking about dish network. They charged me $100 last time, but this time they said they would do it for free if I sign up for two years service (I keep fighting the contract as I don't want to commit and then be obligated should I need to get rid of the service).

It is the house I was talking about earlier. I'm so excited to move.

[nunyab 0]

Rajaa Reda, you are too cute! Good for you!!!!

Weekends are my favorite cause we get to spend soooo much time together on the cams. He's my favorite person in the whole world!

mine too my best friend, my love, my tomorrows

[nunyab 0]

oohhhh i got the "dish network" and the arabic channels are just $35 dollars extra not 100 yikes?? but it might be the same and i think it's free to put the statlite up now as i am getting it installed tomorrow

moving always takes a lot good to know and forwarned us.. dont want to worry about you.

is it that house you were talking about earlier?

yes, I was talking about dish network. They charged me $100 last time, but this time they said they would do it for free if I sign up for two years service (I keep fighting the contract as I don't want to commit and then be obligated should I need to get rid of the service).

It is the house I was talking about earlier. I'm so excited to move.

wow that's great you got the place!! Cool.. yeah i dont have a contract i told them i didn't want the other stuff and no contract i say keep callign someone but not today. Wait when you're moved in...

ok it's 11 now i gotta sleep

nighty night y'all

[Gumbolette 58]

I just don't understand why it's just so easy for them to issue visas left and right so other Visa Category who doesn't have ties yet. I know all of us doesn't wanted to be apart from our loves ones for so long, regardless of what category it is, I just wish there is more vindication for spouses.

[trinket 30]

That’s because you are actually applying for a Green card.

I am not saying you are doing it, but this is the main purpose of CR-1/IR-1 visa, to give permanent residency aka green card to the spouse of American Citizen.

With k-1 or k-3 visa, case is different; SO of American citizen receives their permanent residency after a while of their arrival to US.

Anyways, to OP, pain subdues as time goes by, sure there are times when you feel all gloomy and all but then one tries to adapt to the situation which they are left with. I am away from my husband for 4 years, yes don't be shocked and I don't blame USCIS or anyone, its been all good with immigration process itself, we had other issues, job related, monetary issues, bad business decision, lol long story. But I am hopeful, my husband will be coming next month, so I am looking forward to it, its weird though, I still don't have butterflies in my stomach this time, may be I will have those just one week before he boards his flight and plus I am just so so caught up making plans and everything.

I am scared also, that is the only red flag we have but its ONE BIG ELEPHANT, will see what happens, I just don't wish to say another big long goodbye to him. He says he will come to India if we get rejected, but that would 6 months in India and 6 months in US (working earning money) for him and I don't want to live a life like that, just wish to settle down for good at any place possible, don't care where it is.

Ok I will stop my sorry story, back to having fun people, enjoy your freedom as much as you can and also try to know each others annoying little habits

[Gumbolette 58]

That’s because you are actually applying for a Green card.

I am not saying you are doing it, but this is the main purpose of CR-1/IR-1 visa, to give permanent residency aka green card to the spouse of American Citizen.

With k-1 or k-3 visa, case is different; SO of American citizen receives their permanent residency after a while of their arrival to US.

Ok I will stop my sorry story, back to having fun people, enjoy your freedom as much as you can and also try to know each others annoying little habits

I got you... we can just always look at the bright side that no matter how long we wait, we have a lot more strikes than others. In another way around, I'm happy for everyone who gets their visas so quick so they can be reunited to their partners.

cheers!

[sasha414 0]

same here, been apart 4 months now and it hurts. as i was even reading all your posts here, i felt a tug in my heart and i could see the outpouring of emotion from everyone who is suffering from the separation. the waiting is not easy but once this is over, it will all be worth it. so everyone here, pls keep the faith, let's hang on!

[CasandraYounes 0]

You know I really look up to you because I don't know how I would do it if I had to wait 2 years. I mean I don't know what I would do, but that is something I would have to do. We have to because you love our significant other. The bad days seem really hard. Don't give up and I hope it gets easier for you. Hang in there, trust me, your time will come....

[CasandraYounes 0]

I have been also getting ready for that being that I graduate with my BSW in December and that is one thing my husband will miss. I have been getting little things here and there, but have been wondering about the Arabic channels and which company to switch to to get them.

You know i am all about the quick rip off band aid then the slow pull too. It seems to be harder on my husband these days its like we are taking turns i've been sick lately and he is just at his end he is done and ready to "come home" I am ready to have him so what i've been doing is shopping for clothes for him when he is here, getting the Arabic channel ready to go on tv, cleaning out the closets... anything to do with extra energy and moving forward.

not sure if that will help you but it does me.... and VJ of course