Calling MENA....need your prayers and encouragement

[SimoAndYvette 0]

Well...it is me again! Seems I to need to be here more and more these days.

As some of you know, Simo had his interview on the 9th. It did not go well, and the woman was horrendous (pretty much status quo these days). He received the form stating additional process was needed.

Well....he got a call today, and it went like this:

Caller: Are you Said El Moujahid?

Said: Yes I am

Caller: Can you come to the consulate on Oct. 21st at 2:00?

Said: Yes I am able....do I need to bring anything?

Caller: No

That is all! Nothing else! Tonight when we were talking, he told me about the call by saying, "I think I have bad news...but am not sure". He told me about the call...and then went silent. He told me for the first time his heart hurts...and that this woman may keep us apart.

Our son (he is adopting him..already carries his last name), asked "why does daddy look so sad mommy?" I told him in very general terms that he needs to go for another interview. His next response was "Is daddy coming home now?" I told him not yet....he went to bed crying and the remainder of my talk with Simo was soo sad.

You would think our visa would be pretty straight forward...it has taken a very long time to process, almost a year, but we did not receive any RFE's, when they finally did touch each form, it went through. Our problem is this......

Last year my youngest daughter (then...19) and my son (then ...5), went to Morocco for 2 months. For months before this, all of our Moroccan family and me and the kids would talk online everyday. A couple months prior to us actually leaving for Morocco, it was evident that my daughter and my husband's brother liked each other. Well when we got there, Simo and I immediately started on the wedding plans and obtaining a marriage certificate. As all of you who were married there know....it is a go go go go situation...we basically were not at home for 2 weeks. During this time, Toree and Rachid and my sister-in-laws were spending all their time together. Towards the end....Rachid came to me and told me he was in love with Toree and he knew it was different, but would I mind. ANYONE who would see these two together, would know without a shadow of a doubt that they were in love. Rachid thinks the sun rises because Toree gets up in the morning. How could I object to this??? Toree was going to stay there, but after much research realized it would be very difficult for her to continue with college. Simo and I discussed with them that we thought they should file for a K1 visa and live in the states. In the meantime, life goes on...we are all sooooo happy, and then we have to leave. This was the day I felt my heart being ripped from my chest and left in Nador, where we boarded a ferry for Spain, to come back to the U.S.

On 10/28 the USCIS received my I130 application (processed finally on 01/23), and then in the first week of February, Toree filed the I129F for Rachid. In the application, we told them how they met....and that an application was on file for Simo. We truly NEVER once thought anything about it. It was simple...strange...but simple: Toree and Rachid met and fell in love, because Simo and I did! No alterior motives....nothing. I was gone....she was in this country, with no one to talk to but Rachid and their sisters! They already liked one another, and realized there how much! We were tracking the progress of both petitions, and then Toree went out in July to see Rachid; while she was there they got the Packet 3 (before ours), and Rachid had 9 days between receiving it and going for his interview. They rushed to get everything together and Toree came home, and Rachid left for Casa. The woman who interviewed him never once looked at one piece of evidence that he took: not 1 picture, not 1 letter, not 1 call history...nothing! She asked him over and over again about Simo and me. She then stated they could not find his medical report and would call him when they did.

Shortly after, Simo receives his Packet 3....for an interview on 10/09. After 3 1/2 weeks of no news, and no medical report, Rachid goes back to Casa to have another exam. While he is there, the consulate calls and says he needs to be there the NEXT day at 2:00. Simo gathers Rachids binder, pics and paperwork, jumps on the next train and takes it to him. In the next interview, again she only asks about Simo and me. In both interviews, she NEVER asked 1 question ...nothing at all about Rachid and Toree. There were a couple times when she asked a question that he determined could have a couple different answers....he asked for an interpretor and she said no...English only. He asked why, and she said because she said so (asked the immigration attorney toree is hiring about this....totally illegal). He was told then that it was denied and being sent back to the USCIS, because he did not adequately prove their relationship. SERIOUSLY???? How could he when she refused to look at any evidence or ask one question about THIS relationship!

So now we fast forward to Oct. 9...Simo's interview. She asked him if he was aware he married a very poor woman, and how was I going to support him. He stated he was an Infrastructure Manager and Data Processing Technician and was sure he would find work in this field; that as a husband and wife we would work together (keep in mind I am a Director of Property Management, and in addition to a salary also receive my home, utilities and phone for free....she told him that did not count; yet the USCIS guidelines specify that it does). She then kept asking him why he "liked" me...he responded over and over that he did not like me he loved me. She then took all our pics, letter, emails, IM's and said he could leave and they would be in contact with him.

Then today he gets this call....... In all of this...he has remained so positive. He would remind me that we are meant to be together...and that it is God's will (Insh'allah). But tonight, I have never seen him like this. I reminded him of our times together in Morocco, to try to pull him out of it; how do I do that, when I feel like screaming inside??

I know this is a bizarre case.....some of you are probably picking your jaws up off the keyboard right now....but it just is what it is.

Anyway....I fully intend to be a complete nervous wreck Monday night....sleep? Yeah! What is that again....have a very vague memory of it!

If he is refused, my son and I will be meeting him in Spain, in January....where we will do what we need to, until we can ALL come back to the states...Said, Yvette and Christian El Moujahid.

Thank you in advance for your prayers!

Crying has become such a huge part of my everyday life now.......

Yvette

[sereia 0]

Wow. I'm just going to say one thing... I don't think it was smart to have your daughter apply for your brother-in-law while your husband's visa was still pending. Why couldn't they wait until your husband got his visa? I'm no expert, but if I were the officer reviewing either of your cases, a bell would ring when I reviewed them. This is just my honest opinion so take it for what its worth.

Either way I hope you get the situation sorted out.

[sara535 15]

did he leave his passport with them at the time of the interview?

[SimoAndYvette 0]

At the time.....we just did not think about it! Hindsight..of course, we talked about that tonight! At first it was not an issue, she was going to stay there. Also, at the time, we did not think about that...truly! It was me filing to get my husband here....and Toree filing to get Rachid here; in our minds, two separate things....and we were never trying to hide it.

I can see why it seems weird....but we believed if they reviewed the evidence they would see the validity! We were seriously wrong and OH SO naive in this whole process.

Wow. I'm just going to say one thing... I don't think it was smart to have your daughter apply for your brother-in-law while your husband's visa was still pending. Why couldn't they wait until your husband got his visa? I'm no expert, but if I were the officer reviewing either of your cases, a bell would ring when I reviewed them. This is just my honest opinion so take it for what its worth.

Either way I hope you get the situation sorted out.

No....she only asked for our evidence of relationship: pics, itineraries, letters, emails, etc...

That is all.....

did he leave his passport with them at the time of the interview?

[sereia 0]

Well all you can do now is hope that they understand how it happened. But from what you've written it sure sounds like they don't believe you!

[SimoAndYvette 0]

Ever since Rachid's interview....that is unfortunately how I feel, as well.

If only we could be better equipped and informed when you start this "Journey"!

I am seriously going to be sick Monday night.

Well all you can do now is hope that they understand how it happened. But from what you've written it sure sounds like they don't believe you!

[HLM 1]

I know how u feel and the pain u re going thru! not that i ve been thru my interview yet but the pain of separation and absolute helplessness!! pray and never ever lose hope u never know whats going to happen and dont forget that God is most Powerful!!! i will be praying for u! HUGS

[nunyab 0]

Yvette,

you know i am just a phone call away.... i expect a call monday night we can just sit together if you like or i can call you whatever works.

I know your situation and i know you are both strong people. Simo has been so strong for you but he needs you now to be the strong one (which i know you are).

You and your family have been in my duah's since the first interview...and you will continue to be.

FYI, also planning a trip to spain in Jan hummmmmmmm perhaps you and me and little "simo?"??????

[SimoAndYvette 0]

Oh Rajaa....

You have NO idea how much better our talks always make me feel!

As you know, I am a planner.....and have had this back-up plan in my mind; so YES, that is a very big possibility at this time; we can just meet in NY or D.C., and fly out together. Hopefully that is not the case (Insh'allah).

I have already prepared my family, but have NO idea how to leave my daughter Amber! This is really not fair...more than Simo and I are affected by whatever decision is given on Tuesday.

YES!!!! I will definitely need to talk Monday, we can have bi-state slumber party over the phone or computer (LOL).

As always Rajaa.....Shoukran!

Love You! Yvette

Yvette,

you know i am just a phone call away.... i expect a call monday night we can just sit together if you like or i can call you whatever works.

I know your situation and i know you are both strong people. Simo has been so strong for you but he needs you now to be the strong one (which i know you are).

You and your family have been in my duah's since the first interview...and you will continue to be.

FYI, also planning a trip to spain in Jan hummmmmmmm perhaps you and me and little "simo?"??????

[brnidokiegurl 0]

i believe hindsite also, hurrying one on top of the other but nothing can be done now. I never understand there myself, these men go in tell the truth and get bombarded. Everyone works to do things step by step and correct and they dont even take the time to consider, they only consider (their opinion) and this is what is gathered by reading a few lines on a few papers. On this one i really have no thought on what they will do or say but hope best for you guys. I would or could see the problem being more with the daughter/brother application looking prearranged due to knowing you guys. Where you guys met married for your life not considering theirs in advance or planned ahead for them to be together but how to convience casa

[Nagishkaw 510]

Have him take EVERYTHING with him that he took for the first interview...and then some. You never know what they may ask for out of the blue, and this way he will be prepared.

God be with you both.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Have him take EVERYTHING with him that he took for the first interview...and then some. You never know what they may ask for out of the blue, and this way he will be prepared.

God be with you both.

yes by all means still go prepared and may hve to speak up if the subject comes up to say hey this is my marriage over here please examine it based on us not this other case, which we have no control over what they choose to do. Also have you got a rep to speak for you, if the interview is that close you may not have time to talk with one now.

[SaadBell 0]

So sorry to hear about your situation, I am sure it will all work out.

[b_assif 1]

Im so sorry to hear that you are going through this, you are all in my prayers.

[S and S 12]

I wish the best for you and your SO in this next appointment. Hopefully it will not be as bad as it sounds.