No wedding

[Brad and Vika 129]

Maybe I missed something here. As a veteran, I wonder if he wants to delay in case something happens to him on his deployment. A valid concern for any military man, and if so, he is delaying out of concern for the OP. Just my two cents. Sorry if I missed the deployment location (if it is safe).

What is OP? And what do you mean with "Just my two cents. Sorry if I missed the deployment location.?

Can anybody tell me what would be best to file?

- K3-visa

- CR-1/IR-1 or

- Direct consular filing???

Sorry coria, OP means you, the original poster. The saying "my two cents" means just my humble opinion. I was thinking the deployment might mean to Iraq or somewhere he might feel is dangerous, and wants to wait to make sure he comes back to you safely before getting married. If you marry in Germany, a K-3 is the way to go I think.

Edited October 20, 2008 by Brad and Vika

[coria1988 0]

Maybe I missed something here. As a veteran, I wonder if he wants to delay in case something happens to him on his deployment. A valid concern for any military man, and if so, he is delaying out of concern for the OP. Just my two cents. Sorry if I missed the deployment location (if it is safe).

What is OP? And what do you mean with "Just my two cents. Sorry if I missed the deployment location.?

Can anybody tell me what would be best to file?

- K3-visa

- CR-1/IR-1 or

- Direct consular filing???

Sorry coria, OP means you, the original poster. The saying "my two cents" means just my humble opinion. I was thinking the deployment might mean to Iraq or somewhere he might feel is dangerous, and wants to wait to make sure he comes back to you safely before getting married. If you marry in Germany, a K-3 is the way to go I think.

Oh okay! ....

Thanks.

[Brad and Vika 129]

Maybe I missed something here. As a veteran, I wonder if he wants to delay in case something happens to him on his deployment. A valid concern for any military man, and if so, he is delaying out of concern for the OP. Just my two cents. Sorry if I missed the deployment location (if it is safe).

What is OP? And what do you mean with "Just my two cents. Sorry if I missed the deployment location.?

Can anybody tell me what would be best to file?

- K3-visa

- CR-1/IR-1 or

- Direct consular filing???

Sorry coria, OP means you, the original poster. The saying "my two cents" means just my humble opinion. I was thinking the deployment might mean to Iraq or somewhere he might feel is dangerous, and wants to wait to make sure he comes back to you safely before getting married. If you marry in Germany, a K-3 is the way to go I think.

Oh okay! ....

Thanks.

You are most welcome. Best of luck!

[rin and john 71]

Maybe I missed something here. As a veteran, I wonder if he wants to delay in case something happens to him on his deployment. A valid concern for any military man, and if so, he is delaying out of concern for the OP. Just my two cents. Sorry if I missed the deployment location (if it is safe).

I don't really understand this reasoning. If I was in the military and about to deploy and had someone I deeply loved, I would want to be married before deploying. Simply to make sure they received the benefits "in case something happens". The difficulty of separation is the same whether engaged or married. The "what ifs" change drastically.

Also, If he was given deployment orders, he could get a military expedite, get the K1, get married, and she could file for AOS (perhaps even expedited). After which, if he is somewhere safe, she could join him. If he deployed before the K1 was issued, then so be it, it expires and they go to plan B.

[Brad and Vika 129]

Maybe I missed something here. As a veteran, I wonder if he wants to delay in case something happens to him on his deployment. A valid concern for any military man, and if so, he is delaying out of concern for the OP. Just my two cents. Sorry if I missed the deployment location (if it is safe).

I don't really understand this reasoning. If I was in the military and about to deploy and had someone I deeply loved, I would want to be married before deploying. Simply to make sure they received the benefits "in case something happens". The difficulty of separation is the same whether engaged or married. The "what ifs" change drastically.

Also, If he was given deployment orders, he could get a military expedite, get the K1, get married, and she could file for AOS (perhaps even expedited). After which, if he is somewhere safe, she could join him. If he deployed before the K1 was issued, then so be it, it expires and they go to plan B.

If you have never been under arms, you probably won't understand. My reasoning was not at all along the lines of benefits. Although military people do disagree about this, there is a school of thought that says making your loved one a "war widow" is cruel, and asking your SO for that kind of commitment when you don't know how long you will be gone, if you will return, or what shape you will be in when you get back is not at all honorable. None of this is the point however. I was trying to present some reason for his need to delay other than the negative reasons in some of the responses. We can't know the USCs reasoning, but he may very much want to marry right away, but uncertainty about his immediate future compels him to wait for reasons that are good and honorable.

[Ban Hammer 13,551]

Naja, d. h. er ja am Anfang auch gesagt, dass es ihm schwerer fallen würde wenn wir verheiratet sind. Aber ich verstehe den Grund dafür nicht. Ich habe ihm aber den Vorschlag gemacht hier in Dtl. dann im Dezember zu heiraten wenn er zu Besuch kommt wenn er das möchte und er fand das auch keine schlechte Idee. Auf jeden Fall möchte er nicht, dass wir in den USA heiraten, solange noch nicht feststeht, ob er gehen muss oder nicht. Er möchte nicht, dass ich alleine dann in den USA wäre und nicht sofort nach Dtl. gehen könnte wenn ich das möchte (ich kenne ja keinen dort ).

Btw...ist dein Freund auch in der Army?

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