Intent to Divorce After AOS is submitted

[Fireman 0]

Hello Everyone. My wife's friend came here on a Fiancee visa and near the end of that three month period, he decided to marry his fiancee. She has endured a great deal from this man and now after three months of marriage, he has informed her that he has decided he will divorce her and "make" her go back to Russia. His excuse is that his brother has been single again and has been having a great time as a bachelor again. Somehow they have decided it would be so much better if the husband was single again. We know this lady very well. She takes care of his grandchild daily. She cooks, she cleans, she does everything while she waits for her AOS to be completed and her work permit and green card be approved. Now it seems that this man will try to do his best to force her to return to Russia. She has given up everything in her former life to come here. My wife knows her very well and the situation she has had to deal with. Can anyone offer some advice on this matter? I understand that if she had her green card, she could file for a waiver as she definitely entered this marriage in good faith.

Any advice or thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated. My wife and I have been together now for 8 years and I feel very lucky to have such a great lady. She is very close to her friend and I hope we can help her find a solution other than having to be deported through no fault of her own.

Much appreciation for any expertise in this area. Thanks.

Fireman

[tallcoolone 102]

Nothing wrong with him wanting to be single again, and now he has running mate in his brother. Sounds like he's about to have a lot of fun.....

[thomasj 0]

Nothing wrong with him wanting to be single again, and now he has running mate in his brother. Sounds like he's about to have a lot of fun.....

I don't think that this is a very helpful answer, or sensitive to the people involved in the situation. Probably best to leave comments like that elsewhere.

[beans 7]

Nothing wrong with him wanting to be single again, and now he has running mate in his brother. Sounds like he's about to have a lot of fun.....

I don't think that this is a very helpful answer, or sensitive to the people involved in the situation. Probably best to leave comments like that elsewhere.

Agreed, I don't have any answers. But wish her good luck with this trying situation.

[wifetobe 2]

Tallcool one ain't so cool either, infact he or she is a muppet. This person has posted shabby insinuating comments in the past. Nob.

OP, I would seek an immigration lawyer who might be able to give you free advice on her situation. I'm very sorry to hear about her situation. The best of luck!

[payxibka 10,047]

Hello Everyone. My wife's friend came here on a Fiancee visa and near the end of that three month period, he decided to marry his fiancee. She has endured a great deal from this man and now after three months of marriage, he has informed her that he has decided he will divorce her and "make" her go back to Russia. His excuse is that his brother has been single again and has been having a great time as a bachelor again. Somehow they have decided it would be so much better if the husband was single again. We know this lady very well. She takes care of his grandchild daily. She cooks, she cleans, she does everything while she waits for her AOS to be completed and her work permit and green card be approved. Now it seems that this man will try to do his best to force her to return to Russia. She has given up everything in her former life to come here. My wife knows her very well and the situation she has had to deal with. Can anyone offer some advice on this matter? I understand that if she had her green card, she could file for a waiver as she definitely entered this marriage in good faith.

Any advice or thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated. My wife and I have been together now for 8 years and I feel very lucky to have such a great lady. She is very close to her friend and I hope we can help her find a solution other than having to be deported through no fault of her own.

Much appreciation for any expertise in this area. Thanks.

Fireman

Considering there is a 50/50 chance of greencard without interview, as long as the USC does not contact the USCIS and rescind the I-864 she still has a chance to get the conditional card.... If I am not mistaken, if the USC rescinds the I-864 before the I-485 is adjudicated then there is little she can do other than to seek competant legal help to determine any other options (which may be few)....

Edited October 17, 2008 by payxibka

[russian_armenian 4]

The only option is probably is WAVA. She has to understand the grounds for WAVA (emotional abuse, physical, financial). I dont know how to prove WAVA, she needs to ask people about WAVA. I know some people created WAVA case out of nothing. My frined was a victim of this (when wife would start an argument and then call 911 and tell that her life was treathened; she got a record for immigration). If she is depressed she might go to see doctor, etc. You have to search WAVA forums to see if she has a ground and how to prove it.

PS: and she might not tell even her girlfriend that she was abused. My girlfriend was heavily bitten up for 2 years (with broken bones and all that bruises), but never mentioned anything till her husband put her on plane back home. She was crying on plane and told passangers on plane that husband send her back to Russia and that she feels that she does not have any rights because her conditional GC is expiring and she will lose status, etc. In short, passangers on plane made her not to continue flight (she had to take a connecting flight in NY). She went back and stayed with other girlfriend who called police. Husband was sentensed for 2 years. But the story is she never told anybody about abuse but always told that she has a great husband because she felt that her "status" (not related to immigration) depends on how friends respect husband.

Hello Everyone. My wife's friend came here on a Fiancee visa and near the end of that three month period, he decided to marry his fiancee. She has endured a great deal from this man and now after three months of marriage, he has informed her that he has decided he will divorce her and "make" her go back to Russia. His excuse is that his brother has been single again and has been having a great time as a bachelor again. Somehow they have decided it would be so much better if the husband was single again. We know this lady very well. She takes care of his grandchild daily. She cooks, she cleans, she does everything while she waits for her AOS to be completed and her work permit and green card be approved. Now it seems that this man will try to do his best to force her to return to Russia. She has given up everything in her former life to come here. My wife knows her very well and the situation she has had to deal with. Can anyone offer some advice on this matter? I understand that if she had her green card, she could file for a waiver as she definitely entered this marriage in good faith.

Any advice or thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated. My wife and I have been together now for 8 years and I feel very lucky to have such a great lady. She is very close to her friend and I hope we can help her find a solution other than having to be deported through no fault of her own.

Much appreciation for any expertise in this area. Thanks.

Fireman

[morocco4ever 63]

I know some people created WAVA case out of nothing.

Wouldn't that be considered fraud?

I'm sorry that your friend is going through this. The man sounds like a jerk.

[Boiler 45,764]

It is fraud.

Happens all the time.

[Fireman 0]

I appreciate the comments that tried to be helpful very much. Again, thanks. This lady certainly does not deserve to be treated this way. Her husaband appears to be an extremely selfish and self-centered individual. This isn't the case of the girl being a problem. She was an accountant and wants to work. She even accepted a job at Walgreen just to be contributing and not sit at home all day with nothing to do. Her husband just bought himself a rolex, but assured her that she would have to pay her share of the mortgage, utilities and so on. And of course he drives a mercedes but was very unhappy when the bank said that any money loaned for a car would have to be in his name since the lady has no credit history in the USA. The rest of us understand that there is a lot of sacrifices a woman has to make to come here. She leaves her friends, her family, and her life as she knows it. To be treated so poorly speaks so much of the character of this man. I hope someone might have some helpful ideas on this matter. Thanks again.

Fireman

[David Allen 3]

I appreciate the comments that tried to be helpful very much. Again, thanks. This lady certainly does not deserve to be treated this way. Her husaband appears to be an extremely selfish and self-centered individual. This isn't the case of the girl being a problem. She was an accountant and wants to work. She even accepted a job at Walgreen just to be contributing and not sit at home all day with nothing to do. Her husband just bought himself a rolex, but assured her that she would have to pay her share of the mortgage, utilities and so on. And of course he drives a mercedes but was very unhappy when the bank said that any money loaned for a car would have to be in his name since the lady has no credit history in the USA. The rest of us understand that there is a lot of sacrifices a woman has to make to come here. She leaves her friends, her family, and her life as she knows it. To be treated so poorly speaks so much of the character of this man. I hope someone might have some helpful ideas on this matter. Thanks again.

Fireman

I would advise her to get a good lawyer. She can probably get 50% of what that jerk owns as well.

[carpe diem 2]

I appreciate the comments that tried to be helpful very much. Again, thanks. This lady certainly does not deserve to be treated this way. Her husaband appears to be an extremely selfish and self-centered individual. This isn't the case of the girl being a problem. She was an accountant and wants to work. She even accepted a job at Walgreen just to be contributing and not sit at home all day with nothing to do. Her husband just bought himself a rolex, but assured her that she would have to pay her share of the mortgage, utilities and so on. And of course he drives a mercedes but was very unhappy when the bank said that any money loaned for a car would have to be in his name since the lady has no credit history in the USA. The rest of us understand that there is a lot of sacrifices a woman has to make to come here. She leaves her friends, her family, and her life as she knows it. To be treated so poorly speaks so much of the character of this man. I hope someone might have some helpful ideas on this matter. Thanks again.

Fireman

I don't normally get into these discussions but if it has been such a great sacrifice for the woman to leave "her friends, her family, and her life as she knows it," and she has built no strong personal or professional ties to the US in the short time she has been here, why is she intent on staying?

Mind you I'm not in the camp of those who think any foreigner whose marriage goes south should leave but I just don't get it. I personally gave up a lot to be here with my significant other and when I traveled to the US, comforted myself with the thought that if our relationship failed I could just move back, pick up my life pretty much where I started, and would have just lost some time and money (I went back to school to get a degree that would help me here in the long run). I can see how that balance shifts as you become more invested in your life here, but on the basis of your description, that just doesn't seem to be the case yet for the woman you're writing about. If she thinks she's better off here than in Russia in the long run, I personally have no problem with that (and I think a desire to live in the US is not, in and of itself, inconsistent with a bona fide marriage) but in that case be honest and don't present it as a great sacrifice for her to come here.

[Boiler 45,764]

Probably not.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

She has endured a great deal from this man .....

Care to share exactly what is meant by this? If she has been subjected to abuse then perhaps there might be a way.

[ronjie 0]

Tallcool one ain't so cool either, infact he or she is a muppet This person has posted shabby insinuating comments in the past. Nob

OP, I would seek an immigration lawyer who might be able to give you free advice on her situation. I'm very sorry to hear about her situation. The best of luck!

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although what he said was not sympathetic,... 2 wrongs don't make a right !!!