I hate the weekends!

[tammy2688 1]

I sure hope we can start looking FORWARD to them and not dreading them like this.

[cris11 0]

Weekends are the time when the staff off from USCIS, weekends are the time when I wish I were together with my husband... I wish Monday coming soon..

[WonTanNara 0]

Me too! I sleep until 10am then draaaaaag my butt out of bed to MAKE myself go to my Guinean dance class because it's the only thing keeping me going now. I come home, shower, then look around like... ok now what? I have so many things I could be doing, so many things I used to love doing, and now I have absolutely no motivation to do them because I want my honey here with me! My friends are all giving me a hard time saying 'you're not getting out of the house enough.' I don't wanna! This has been the longest nine months EVER.

I'm also tired of having to explain this. Why did I fall in love with somebody overseas? Can't tell y'all how many times I've been asked that one. Well who the heck can ever control who they fall in love with? Somebody actually said to me today, with a face that made me want to just shake her, "Well I HOPE it works out for you." I wanted to say you suck. Why would you say that? Of course it's going to work out, but one million people are applying for visas every year so we have to wait and wait and wait... Her response was (with that same face) "Well they all can't come here." Yeah actually, if it's family, then can, unless they've had previous problems, we just have to wait, so bite me. I didn't say bite me but I wanted to! Hahaha. The kicker is that her partner is also Guinean, but SHE didn't have to bring him here, he was already here. They didn't have to do the work, and I will say this, the two of them don't appreciate each other. They fight constantly. I hope when our men get here we can all appreciate each other and never forget what we've been through. Never take each other for granted. I know my honey and I will succeed because of what we're going through.

People are so narrowed minded and they just don't get it. Why can't ya fall in love with a good ol' American homeboy? No offense to the truly good American men out there, but guess what, been tryin' that all my life and it hasn't worked out so well. I found my fiance when I wasn't even looking and I'll wait as long as it takes!

Insh-Allah may we all be reunited very soon!

[emt103c 10]

We can do one thing very soon and that is vote on Nov 4th and make sure we dont put those in office that beleive in bigger government. They want to control everything in our lives (your mention of big brother).

I digress, too much politics going on now .

It does seem that behind the scenes there must be some information the embassy has been told to slow the process down, so many AP given recently (or my awareness has made me notice more).

sometimes I think the week end gives me a chance to relax not expecting the phone to ring or looking for emails but in the back of my mind is the fact that the embassy doesnt work. I just hate AP

Currently neither of the candidates give a ####### about immigration. . . . or have even an inkling of a solution. . .

[indianheart 2]

We can do one thing very soon and that is vote on Nov 4th and make sure we dont put those in office that beleive in bigger government. They want to control everything in our lives (your mention of big brother).

I digress, too much politics going on now .

It does seem that behind the scenes there must be some information the embassy has been told to slow the process down, so many AP given recently (or my awareness has made me notice more).

sometimes I think the week end gives me a chance to relax not expecting the phone to ring or looking for emails but in the back of my mind is the fact that the embassy doesnt work. I just hate AP

Currently neither of the candidates give a ####### about immigration. . . . or have even an inkling of a solution. . .

My comment had more to do with big government versus smaller government. I dont like socialized government where we have no choices of our own

[JULIAFERNO 0]

We can do one thing very soon and that is vote on Nov 4th and make sure we dont put those in office that beleive in bigger government. They want to control everything in our lives (your mention of big brother).

I digress, too much politics going on now .

It does seem that behind the scenes there must be some information the embassy has been told to slow the process down, so many AP given recently (or my awareness has made me notice more).

sometimes I think the week end gives me a chance to relax not expecting the phone to ring or looking for emails but in the back of my mind is the fact that the embassy doesnt work. I just hate AP

Currently neither of the candidates give a ####### about immigration. . . . or have even an inkling of a solution. . .

My comment had more to do with big government versus smaller government. I dont like socialized government where we have no choices of our own

Just an FYI - the personal freedoms that have been taken away from us in the past 7 years have been under Republican party rule. Homeland security? Please don't push your politics in this forum. There is an off-topic section for that.

Edited October 12, 2008 by JULIAFERNO

[tammy2688 1]

Me too! I sleep until 10am then draaaaaag my butt out of bed to MAKE myself go to my Guinean dance class because it's the only thing keeping me going now. I come home, shower, then look around like... ok now what? I have so many things I could be doing, so many things I used to love doing, and now I have absolutely no motivation to do them because I want my honey here with me! My friends are all giving me a hard time saying 'you're not getting out of the house enough.' I don't wanna! This has been the longest nine months EVER.

I'm also tired of having to explain this. Why did I fall in love with somebody overseas? Can't tell y'all how many times I've been asked that one. Well who the heck can ever control who they fall in love with? Somebody actually said to me today, with a face that made me want to just shake her, "Well I HOPE it works out for you." I wanted to say you suck. Why would you say that? Of course it's going to work out, but one million people are applying for visas every year so we have to wait and wait and wait... Her response was (with that same face) "Well they all can't come here." Yeah actually, if it's family, then can, unless they've had previous problems, we just have to wait, so bite me. I didn't say bite me but I wanted to! Hahaha. The kicker is that her partner is also Guinean, but SHE didn't have to bring him here, he was already here. They didn't have to do the work, and I will say this, the two of them don't appreciate each other. They fight constantly. I hope when our men get here we can all appreciate each other and never forget what we've been through. Never take each other for granted. I know my honey and I will succeed because of what we're going through.

People are so narrowed minded and they just don't get it. Why can't ya fall in love with a good ol' American homeboy? No offense to the truly good American men out there, but guess what, been tryin' that all my life and it hasn't worked out so well. I found my fiance when I wasn't even looking and I'll wait as long as it takes!

Insh-Allah may we all be reunited very soon!

GIRLLLL don't even give ear to those bliotches I'm telling you no one can even FATHOM love the way we found it. It's like totally out of their heads how it could possibly happen. I had a girl ask me similar things I since then I don't bother to delve into conversations with other people about this except for you guys.

Love you, yes Insha-Allah soon.

[ellieandwill 0]

Me too! I sleep until 10am then draaaaaag my butt out of bed to MAKE myself go to my Guinean dance class because it's the only thing keeping me going now. I come home, shower, then look around like... ok now what? I have so many things I could be doing, so many things I used to love doing, and now I have absolutely no motivation to do them because I want my honey here with me! My friends are all giving me a hard time saying 'you're not getting out of the house enough.' I don't wanna! This has been the longest nine months EVER.

I'm also tired of having to explain this. Why did I fall in love with somebody overseas? Can't tell y'all how many times I've been asked that one. Well who the heck can ever control who they fall in love with? Somebody actually said to me today, with a face that made me want to just shake her, "Well I HOPE it works out for you." I wanted to say you suck. Why would you say that? Of course it's going to work out, but one million people are applying for visas every year so we have to wait and wait and wait... Her response was (with that same face) "Well they all can't come here." Yeah actually, if it's family, then can, unless they've had previous problems, we just have to wait, so bite me. I didn't say bite me but I wanted to! Hahaha. The kicker is that her partner is also Guinean, but SHE didn't have to bring him here, he was already here. They didn't have to do the work, and I will say this, the two of them don't appreciate each other. They fight constantly. I hope when our men get here we can all appreciate each other and never forget what we've been through. Never take each other for granted. I know my honey and I will succeed because of what we're going through.

People are so narrowed minded and they just don't get it. Why can't ya fall in love with a good ol' American homeboy? No offense to the truly good American men out there, but guess what, been tryin' that all my life and it hasn't worked out so well. I found my fiance when I wasn't even looking and I'll wait as long as it takes!

Insh-Allah may we all be reunited very soon!

GIRLLLL don't even give ear to those bliotches I'm telling you no one can even FATHOM love the way we found it. It's like totally out of their heads how it could possibly happen. I had a girl ask me similar things I since then I don't bother to delve into conversations with other people about this except for you guys.

Love you, yes Insha-Allah soon.

hi, i totally agree with you, how can any other person understand this unless you go through it yourself, i have waited all of my adult life for this man i am 48 years old and with him is the most wonderful thing ever. love has no rules no countries, no religion it is just two people , LOVE and GODS will for them to be together, good luck on your journey and hope you are with your love one very soon

ellie

[tammy2688 1]

Me too! I sleep until 10am then draaaaaag my butt out of bed to MAKE myself go to my Guinean dance class because it's the only thing keeping me going now. I come home, shower, then look around like... ok now what? I have so many things I could be doing, so many things I used to love doing, and now I have absolutely no motivation to do them because I want my honey here with me! My friends are all giving me a hard time saying 'you're not getting out of the house enough.' I don't wanna! This has been the longest nine months EVER.

I'm also tired of having to explain this. Why did I fall in love with somebody overseas? Can't tell y'all how many times I've been asked that one. Well who the heck can ever control who they fall in love with? Somebody actually said to me today, with a face that made me want to just shake her, "Well I HOPE it works out for you." I wanted to say you suck. Why would you say that? Of course it's going to work out, but one million people are applying for visas every year so we have to wait and wait and wait... Her response was (with that same face) "Well they all can't come here." Yeah actually, if it's family, then can, unless they've had previous problems, we just have to wait, so bite me. I didn't say bite me but I wanted to! Hahaha. The kicker is that her partner is also Guinean, but SHE didn't have to bring him here, he was already here. They didn't have to do the work, and I will say this, the two of them don't appreciate each other. They fight constantly. I hope when our men get here we can all appreciate each other and never forget what we've been through. Never take each other for granted. I know my honey and I will succeed because of what we're going through.

People are so narrowed minded and they just don't get it. Why can't ya fall in love with a good ol' American homeboy? No offense to the truly good American men out there, but guess what, been tryin' that all my life and it hasn't worked out so well. I found my fiance when I wasn't even looking and I'll wait as long as it takes!

Insh-Allah may we all be reunited very soon!

GIRLLLL don't even give ear to those bliotches I'm telling you no one can even FATHOM love the way we found it. It's like totally out of their heads how it could possibly happen. I had a girl ask me similar things I since then I don't bother to delve into conversations with other people about this except for you guys.

Love you, yes Insha-Allah soon.

hi, i totally agree with you, how can any other person understand this unless you go through it yourself, i have waited all of my adult life for this man i am 48 years old and with him is the most wonderful thing ever. love has no rules no countries, no religion it is just two people , LOVE and GODS will for them to be together, good luck on your journey and hope you are with your love one very soon

ellie

Beautiful Ellie!

[WonTanNara 0]

Me too! I sleep until 10am then draaaaaag my butt out of bed to MAKE myself go to my Guinean dance class because it's the only thing keeping me going now. I come home, shower, then look around like... ok now what? I have so many things I could be doing, so many things I used to love doing, and now I have absolutely no motivation to do them because I want my honey here with me! My friends are all giving me a hard time saying 'you're not getting out of the house enough.' I don't wanna! This has been the longest nine months EVER.

I'm also tired of having to explain this. Why did I fall in love with somebody overseas? Can't tell y'all how many times I've been asked that one. Well who the heck can ever control who they fall in love with? Somebody actually said to me today, with a face that made me want to just shake her, "Well I HOPE it works out for you." I wanted to say you suck. Why would you say that? Of course it's going to work out, but one million people are applying for visas every year so we have to wait and wait and wait... Her response was (with that same face) "Well they all can't come here." Yeah actually, if it's family, then can, unless they've had previous problems, we just have to wait, so bite me. I didn't say bite me but I wanted to! Hahaha. The kicker is that her partner is also Guinean, but SHE didn't have to bring him here, he was already here. They didn't have to do the work, and I will say this, the two of them don't appreciate each other. They fight constantly. I hope when our men get here we can all appreciate each other and never forget what we've been through. Never take each other for granted. I know my honey and I will succeed because of what we're going through.

People are so narrowed minded and they just don't get it. Why can't ya fall in love with a good ol' American homeboy? No offense to the truly good American men out there, but guess what, been tryin' that all my life and it hasn't worked out so well. I found my fiance when I wasn't even looking and I'll wait as long as it takes!

Insh-Allah may we all be reunited very soon!

GIRLLLL don't even give ear to those bliotches I'm telling you no one can even FATHOM love the way we found it. It's like totally out of their heads how it could possibly happen. I had a girl ask me similar things I since then I don't bother to delve into conversations with other people about this except for you guys.

Love you, yes Insha-Allah soon.

hi, i totally agree with you, how can any other person understand this unless you go through it yourself, i have waited all of my adult life for this man i am 48 years old and with him is the most wonderful thing ever. love has no rules no countries, no religion it is just two people , LOVE and GODS will for them to be together, good luck on your journey and hope you are with your love one very soon

ellie

Beautiful Ellie!

And Beautiful Tammy too!

[tammy2688 1]

This about sums up our weekends:

WanTanNara, right back at ya!

[JULIAFERNO 0]

This is such a roller coaster ride. I am feeling really depressed today.

My fiance is asking me what we are going to do if he still doesn't have his visa after 1 year in AP. I told him let's not talk about that unless we have been in AP for at least 6 months. I just can't deal with that right now.

This is the longest we have gone without seeing each other in person. 6.5 months. I just need to hug him.

P.S. Indianheart - I am sorry for snapping at you...I have been on edge lately and didn't mean to sound so rude.

Let's hope the week ahead is a bit easier to get through than the last.

[WonTanNara 0]

This is such a roller coaster ride. I am feeling really depressed today.

My fiance is asking me what we are going to do if he still doesn't have his visa after 1 year in AP. I told him let's not talk about that unless we have been in AP for at least 6 months. I just can't deal with that right now.

This is the longest we have gone without seeing each other in person. 6.5 months. I just need to hug him.

P.S. Indianheart - I am sorry for snapping at you...I have been on edge lately and didn't mean to sound so rude.

Let's hope the week ahead is a bit easier to get through than the last.

I need to hug mine too! My fiance asked me the same thing and I felt so helpless. I said I'm so sorry but the only thing we can do is wait. I haven't found an attorney who believes a writ of mandamus will help a beneficiary who is outside of the country. October 29th is our six month mark and we are praying every day. If he's not here by the middle of November I'm buying a ticket to go back to Africa for a month in December. I think you're right Julia, just hold on and see what happens after six months. No sense worrying about "what if" now. You might have an advantage and get through more quickly because summer months are the busiest time for DOS/USCIS. Courage.

[tammy2688 1]

I really don't think you guys will have a 1 year wait so I advise you not to even think about that. Normal cases take about 4-8 months so you are well in that time range right now, don't think about what-ifs. I on the other hand thought at 6 months it would be 16 months and doesn't seem so ridiculus now and that's because that embassy is jam packed or whatever the causes they like to give while being hyporites and giving visas to others who have waited a lot less in that embassy.

You guys will be fine, it will just take a few more months, 1-2 at most and you will get the visas.

Julia- I too have had a nightmare of a weekend. I don't even know how to become normal again. My husband is not doing well at all and his family is giving him problems, though not related to visa. I haven't let myself think about those sweet things like hugs and kisses, though they haunt me at night.

I really hope that we will rise above like the Phoenix and be able to tell success stories.

Love,

Tam

[WonTanNara 0]

I really don't think you guys will have a 1 year wait so I advise you not to even think about that. Normal cases take about 4-8 months so you are well in that time range right now, don't think about what-ifs. I on the other hand thought at 6 months it would be 16 months and doesn't seem so ridiculus now and that's because that embassy is jam packed or whatever the causes they like to give while being hyporites and giving visas to others who have waited a lot less in that embassy.

You guys will be fine, it will just take a few more months, 1-2 at most and you will get the visas.

Julia- I too have had a nightmare of a weekend. I don't even know how to become normal again. My husband is not doing well at all and his family is giving him problems, though not related to visa. I haven't let myself think about those sweet things like hugs and kisses, though they haunt me at night.

I really hope that we will rise above like the Phoenix and be able to tell success stories.

Love,

Tam

Gotta stay positive ladies. We WILL rise above and tell our success stories. The power of the mind is incredible. I tell myself these things every day... envision seeing him in NYC at the airport, see us together in our house eating dinner together, imagine us going to dance class together and see him drumming for you. Sometimes when I'm driving in my car i pretend he's sitting there beside me. SEE IT. Believe it. It will happen.

Here is something that is helping me take better care of my body... do any of you ladies want to have babies? Take care of your body for the health of your future child.

Hey guess what, we just made it through another weekend! We are one weekend closer to being together. Courage!